Why Your Goals Die By Week 2 | Webinar

Hello everyone. Welcome back to another Hello everyone. Welcome back to another Hello everyone. Welcome back to another episode of Integrative View Radio. So, we're here to [  ] on your goals for So, we're here to [  ] on your goals for So, we're here to [  ] on your goals for the new year. the new year. the new year. Not your life, just your goals. Not your life, just your goals. Not your life, just your goals. Just your 2026 goals. So, So, So, which is an interesting theme because we which is an interesting theme because we which is an interesting theme because we just recorded about [  ] and now just recorded about [  ] and now just recorded about [  ] and now we're [  ] It's we're [  ] It's we're [  ] It's now the [  ] now the [  ] now the [  ] You put it together. You put it together. You put it together. Yeah. You know, here we are. Yeah. You know, here we are. Yeah. You know, here we are. Well, I will say, you know, at least in Well, I will say, you know, at least in Well, I will say, you know, at least in my social media algorithm, uh it it's my social media algorithm, uh it it's my social media algorithm, uh it it's been a little bit more of a refreshing been a little bit more of a refreshing been a little bit more of a refreshing uh like avenue people are taking to to the like avenue people are taking to to the like avenue people are taking to to the new year. Instead of it, you know, being new year. Instead of it, you know, being new year. Instead of it, you know, being positive affirmations and positive affirmations and positive affirmations and New Year's resolutions, it's it's been a New Year's resolutions, it's it's been a New Year's resolutions, it's it's been a little bit more about, you know, learn little bit more about, you know, learn little bit more about, you know, learn from or how are you going to make it or how are you going to make it or how are you going to make it different? Uh, you could still hear me, different? Uh, you could still hear me, different? Uh, you could still hear me, right? right? right? I can hear you now. You cut out for a I can hear you now. You cut out for a I can hear you now. You cut out for a second. second. second. Okay. Okay. Okay. So recapping So recapping So recapping just saying that just saying that just saying that there are people that are talking more there are people that are talking more there are people that are talking more about what didn't work for you in in the about what didn't work for you in in the about what didn't work for you in in the previous year or previous years and how previous year or previous years and how previous year or previous years and how are you changing that? How are you are you changing that? How are you are you changing that? How are you putting up boundaries or how are you putting up boundaries or how are you putting up boundaries or how are you shifting that that energy? And and I shifting that that energy? And and I shifting that that energy? And and I appreciate that because essentially why appreciate that because essentially why appreciate that because essentially why we're here to [  ] on your goals is we're here to [  ] on your goals is we're here to [  ] on your goals is because many of us at certain points because many of us at certain points because many of us at certain points have set goals that either lost traction have set goals that either lost traction have set goals that either lost traction in as little as a week to maybe a few in as little as a week to maybe a few in as little as a week to maybe a few weeks or goals that have just never come weeks or goals that have just never come weeks or goals that have just never come to fruition regardless if it's a new to fruition regardless if it's a new to fruition regardless if it's a new year resolution, new year goal or not. year resolution, new year goal or not. year resolution, new year goal or not. And we're here to talk about why the And we're here to talk about why the And we're here to talk about why the [  ] does that happen? You know, why do [  ] does that happen? You know, why do [  ] does that happen? You know, why do we set goals and burn out? Why do we set we set goals and burn out? Why do we set we set goals and burn out? Why do we set goals and never achieve them? goals and never achieve them? goals and never achieve them? What's what's the root cause? What's what's the root cause? What's what's the root cause? So, I'm going to give mine. Are you So, I'm going to give mine. Are you So, I'm going to give mine. Are you ready to give yours? ready to give yours? ready to give yours? Go, go, go. Bye. Go, go, go. Bye. Go, go, go. Bye. My main point that I want to bring to My main point that I want to bring to My main point that I want to bring to the table is the table is the table is what is your goal, vision, resolution? what is your goal, vision, resolution? what is your goal, vision, resolution? What is it rooted in? And what I mean by What is it rooted in? And what I mean by What is it rooted in? And what I mean by that is especially in our industry, that is especially in our industry, that is especially in our industry, we've heard, I want to be healthier. we've heard, I want to be healthier. we've heard, I want to be healthier. But when we started to ask better But when we started to ask better But when we started to ask better questions, that person really just questions, that person really just questions, that person really just wanted to be thinner. They didn't want wanted to be thinner. They didn't want wanted to be thinner. They didn't want to have the physical aesthetic that they to have the physical aesthetic that they to have the physical aesthetic that they did. They didn't really want to become did. They didn't really want to become did. They didn't really want to become healthier. They really just wanted to healthier. They really just wanted to healthier. They really just wanted to become thinner and look different in the become thinner and look different in the become thinner and look different in the mirror. So that's two very different mirror. So that's two very different mirror. So that's two very different things. If you want to become healthier things. If you want to become healthier things. If you want to become healthier and you also have a vision of what your and you also have a vision of what your and you also have a vision of what your life looks like as that healthiest life looks like as that healthiest life looks like as that healthiest version of yourself and there's version of yourself and there's version of yourself and there's something that is deeply aligned to your something that is deeply aligned to your something that is deeply aligned to your values. I want to be healthy because I values. I want to be healthy because I values. I want to be healthy because I want to grow and build a multi-million want to grow and build a multi-million want to grow and build a multi-million dollar company that impacts the world dollar company that impacts the world dollar company that impacts the world and changes how this is done or solves and changes how this is done or solves and changes how this is done or solves this problem. I want to be healthier this problem. I want to be healthier this problem. I want to be healthier because family is one of my highest because family is one of my highest because family is one of my highest values and I want I have a grandkid values and I want I have a grandkid values and I want I have a grandkid coming into my life and I want to be coming into my life and I want to be coming into my life and I want to be able to able to able to pick them up, throw them in the air, go pick them up, throw them in the air, go pick them up, throw them in the air, go to the park with them, run marathons to the park with them, run marathons to the park with them, run marathons with them, whatever you have, not only a with them, whatever you have, not only a with them, whatever you have, not only a goal, but you have a vision. Then you goal, but you have a vision. Then you goal, but you have a vision. Then you have a vision beyond the vision have a vision beyond the vision have a vision beyond the vision that's all aligned that's all aligned that's all aligned to what's most important to you. to what's most important to you. to what's most important to you. Yeah. I just wrote down and this is Yeah. I just wrote down and this is Yeah. I just wrote down and this is something that I do going through values something that I do going through values something that I do going through values with clients is you know people think I with clients is you know people think I with clients is you know people think I like health is a value and I'm like like health is a value and I'm like like health is a value and I'm like of all the people that work we work with of all the people that work we work with of all the people that work we work with I don't think any of them actually have I don't think any of them actually have I don't think any of them actually have health as value. health as value. health as value. Probably not. Could be but probably not. because so far everybody that I've because so far everybody that I've because so far everybody that I've worked with it hasn't been. Somebody out worked with it hasn't been. Somebody out worked with it hasn't been. Somebody out there it is, but not for the people I've there it is, but not for the people I've there it is, but not for the people I've worked with. And if that's your value, worked with. And if that's your value, worked with. And if that's your value, you probably don't need me. You need me you probably don't need me. You need me you probably don't need me. You need me because it's not your value. because it's not your value. because it's not your value. But, you know, it it's it's the same But, you know, it it's it's the same But, you know, it it's it's the same thing but different than what you're thing but different than what you're thing but different than what you're saying. And it's like, you know, the saying. And it's like, you know, the saying. And it's like, you know, the vision beyond the vision. vision beyond the vision. vision beyond the vision. Health is just a tool. It's the tool to Health is just a tool. It's the tool to Health is just a tool. It's the tool to give you help you get what you value. If give you help you get what you value. If give you help you get what you value. If you focus on the tool and trying to you focus on the tool and trying to you focus on the tool and trying to achieve the tool, guess what? You'll achieve the tool, guess what? You'll achieve the tool, guess what? You'll never get what you really want because never get what you really want because never get what you really want because that wasn't the focus. If you focus on that wasn't the focus. If you focus on that wasn't the focus. If you focus on what you really, really want and if what you really, really want and if what you really, really want and if that's authentic and truly aligned, then that's authentic and truly aligned, then that's authentic and truly aligned, then health is going to be a byproduct health is going to be a byproduct health is going to be a byproduct because you're naturally going to show because you're naturally going to show because you're naturally going to show up as a better version of yourself up as a better version of yourself up as a better version of yourself because this is so important. Health by because this is so important. Health by because this is so important. Health by itself, guess what? Not that important itself, guess what? Not that important itself, guess what? Not that important to a lot of people. to a lot of people. to a lot of people. But they'll choose, But they'll choose, But they'll choose, you know, actions of waking up, you know, actions of waking up, you know, actions of waking up, exercising, eating quality foods, not exercising, eating quality foods, not exercising, eating quality foods, not overly drinking, not overly eating, overly drinking, not overly eating, overly drinking, not overly eating, moderation, etc. Because if they don't, moderation, etc. Because if they don't, moderation, etc. Because if they don't, that's going to interfere brain fog, that's going to interfere brain fog, that's going to interfere brain fog, fatigue, etc. fatigue, etc. fatigue, etc. with what they truly want in their life. with what they truly want in their life. with what they truly want in their life. Whether that's building a business, Whether that's building a business, Whether that's building a business, whether that's showing up and being whether that's showing up and being whether that's showing up and being present for their children, whether present for their children, whether present for their children, whether that's being, you know, an awesome that's being, you know, an awesome that's being, you know, an awesome husband, wife, etc. You know, whatever husband, wife, etc. You know, whatever husband, wife, etc. You know, whatever is truly aligned, that's what's going to is truly aligned, that's what's going to is truly aligned, that's what's going to be powerful. be powerful. be powerful. And if you focus on the health, that's And if you focus on the health, that's And if you focus on the health, that's when people need all the motivation. when people need all the motivation. when people need all the motivation. They need external motivation. Say like, They need external motivation. Say like, They need external motivation. Say like, "Yeah, this is going to get you excited "Yeah, this is going to get you excited "Yeah, this is going to get you excited and you're going to wake up early for and you're going to wake up early for and you're going to wake up early for two weeks, 3 weeks." two weeks, 3 weeks." two weeks, 3 weeks." And then you're not And then you're not And then you're not because it really wasn't that important because it really wasn't that important because it really wasn't that important to you to you to you 100%. It's it's actually funny because 100%. It's it's actually funny because 100%. It's it's actually funny because something that I was I was writing down something that I was I was writing down something that I was I was writing down as you were talking and I think this is as you were talking and I think this is as you were talking and I think this is just an important point to make is that just an important point to make is that just an important point to make is that a lot of people So going back to what we a lot of people So going back to what we a lot of people So going back to what we were talking about with with the people were talking about with with the people were talking about with with the people that we work with and how they say oh that we work with and how they say oh that we work with and how they say oh yeah definitely one of my highest values yeah definitely one of my highest values yeah definitely one of my highest values is health. That's why I'm here. And I've is health. That's why I'm here. And I've is health. That's why I'm here. And I've actually actually actually taken in a lot of data by asking better taken in a lot of data by asking better taken in a lot of data by asking better questions with all the clients that questions with all the clients that questions with all the clients that we've worked with over the past I'm we've worked with over the past I'm we've worked with over the past I'm going to say let's say five years going to say let's say five years going to say let's say five years primarily because I just didn't ask primarily because I just didn't ask primarily because I just didn't ask these questions in the earlier part of these questions in the earlier part of these questions in the earlier part of our career because I just didn't know our career because I just didn't know our career because I just didn't know what I didn't know. what I didn't know. what I didn't know. But it actually turned out that most of But it actually turned out that most of But it actually turned out that most of the people that we worked with, they had the people that we worked with, they had the people that we worked with, they had a massive amount of fear amount around a massive amount of fear amount around a massive amount of fear amount around their health because they saw someone their health because they saw someone their health because they saw someone get sick, lose their life, die from get sick, lose their life, die from get sick, lose their life, die from cancer, chronic illness, etc. And so cancer, chronic illness, etc. And so cancer, chronic illness, etc. And so there is an aspect of fear that is there is an aspect of fear that is there is an aspect of fear that is rooted in what we call your void. So, rooted in what we call your void. So, rooted in what we call your void. So, you know, if you have a uh a void of you know, if you have a uh a void of you know, if you have a uh a void of something, you don't have something, something, you don't have something, something, you don't have something, then that could play a role in around then that could play a role in around then that could play a role in around some of your fears or anxieties and that some of your fears or anxieties and that some of your fears or anxieties and that that can be a driver to your values. that can be a driver to your values. that can be a driver to your values. But the thing is is that that can only But the thing is is that that can only But the thing is is that that can only get you so far. you've you may have get you so far. you've you may have get you so far. you've you may have heard us talk about this topic in the heard us talk about this topic in the heard us talk about this topic in the past is that you know one of my um past is that you know one of my um past is that you know one of my um values is is innovative leadership and values is is innovative leadership and values is is innovative leadership and part of that leadership what I what I part of that leadership what I what I part of that leadership what I what I classified as leadership in the past and classified as leadership in the past and classified as leadership in the past and what I classify it as now is very very what I classify it as now is very very what I classify it as now is very very different because that was born different because that was born different because that was born out of uh major void trauma fear lack out of uh major void trauma fear lack out of uh major void trauma fear lack lack of security, lack of safety. So I lack of security, lack of safety. So I lack of security, lack of safety. So I had to I felt like I had to lead my own had to I felt like I had to lead my own had to I felt like I had to lead my own life in a certain way to get out of that life in a certain way to get out of that life in a certain way to get out of that scarcity to get out of that pain scarcity to get out of that pain scarcity to get out of that pain essentially. essentially. essentially. And then And then And then I realized that it is truly a a driver I realized that it is truly a a driver I realized that it is truly a a driver in my life. It is a true value, but the in my life. It is a true value, but the in my life. It is a true value, but the version of it now is very very version of it now is very very version of it now is very very different. different. different. So, I want people to kind of keep this So, I want people to kind of keep this So, I want people to kind of keep this in the back of your mind because when we in the back of your mind because when we in the back of your mind because when we give you your best tools give you your best tools give you your best tools of how to go about creating only a few, of how to go about creating only a few, of how to go about creating only a few, maybe three at max maybe three at max maybe three at max goals for yourself. And don't get me goals for yourself. And don't get me goals for yourself. And don't get me wrong, those might have different sub wrong, those might have different sub wrong, those might have different sub goals underneath them, but three major goals underneath them, but three major goals underneath them, but three major like big goals move uh needle movers. like big goals move uh needle movers. like big goals move uh needle movers. Some of them might be rooted in more of Some of them might be rooted in more of Some of them might be rooted in more of inspiration. This is who I'm becoming. inspiration. This is who I'm becoming. inspiration. This is who I'm becoming. This is what I am excited about. This is This is what I am excited about. This is This is what I am excited about. This is my the vision of the greatest version of my the vision of the greatest version of my the vision of the greatest version of me. The vision of the greatest version me. The vision of the greatest version me. The vision of the greatest version of my life. But you have to challenge of my life. But you have to challenge of my life. But you have to challenge it. And you have to challenge it of is it. And you have to challenge it of is it. And you have to challenge it of is this truly me and what I really want or this truly me and what I really want or this truly me and what I really want or is this rooted in an old fear scarcity is this rooted in an old fear scarcity is this rooted in an old fear scarcity pattern? Because you called me out. You pattern? Because you called me out. You pattern? Because you called me out. You can tell them the story about when I was can tell them the story about when I was can tell them the story about when I was reading you my vision for 2026 and reading you my vision for 2026 and reading you my vision for 2026 and beyond because we're I wasn't 2026 is beyond because we're I wasn't 2026 is beyond because we're I wasn't 2026 is just one stepping stone in my big just one stepping stone in my big just one stepping stone in my big vision. And so I was reading a portion vision. And so I was reading a portion vision. And so I was reading a portion of it and you're and I was like I would of it and you're and I was like I would of it and you're and I was like I would love your feedback and you're like well love your feedback and you're like well love your feedback and you're like well yeah yeah yeah which scares me because you know when a which scares me because you know when a which scares me because you know when a wife asks you your feedback or even a wife asks you your feedback or even a wife asks you your feedback or even a business business business asked if I didn't want to know ask feedback I was like and well I ask feedback I was like and well I ask feedback I was like and well I responded responded responded it was about 93% accurate it was about 93% accurate it was about 93% accurate and and and I did that also to you know make her I did that also to you know make her I did that also to you know make her curious. curious. curious. Um, instead of just diving right in, Um, instead of just diving right in, Um, instead of just diving right in, kind of test the water, you know, kind of test the water, you know, kind of test the water, you know, test read the body language. test read the body language. test read the body language. I I am closer than an arm length away. I I I am closer than an arm length away. I I I am closer than an arm length away. I can get smacked. Um, so, you know, she can get smacked. Um, so, you know, she can get smacked. Um, so, you know, she goes, "Oh, well, carry on. Now I'm goes, "Oh, well, carry on. Now I'm goes, "Oh, well, carry on. Now I'm really interested." really interested." really interested." Yeah, I was. Yeah, I was. Yeah, I was. And this is the human behavior for And this is the human behavior for And this is the human behavior for people, you know, is you you can ask people, you know, is you you can ask people, you know, is you you can ask questions or you can give ambiguous questions or you can give ambiguous questions or you can give ambiguous um answers to kind of draw somebody in um answers to kind of draw somebody in um answers to kind of draw somebody in more um so that you don't get slapped. more um so that you don't get slapped. more um so that you don't get slapped. So, she was really interested and I go, So, she was really interested and I go, So, she was really interested and I go, "Well, you know, from everything you "Well, you know, from everything you "Well, you know, from everything you read, a lot of it sound really authentic read, a lot of it sound really authentic read, a lot of it sound really authentic to who you are and who you are becoming, to who you are and who you are becoming, to who you are and who you are becoming, but a little bit of it seemed rooted but a little bit of it seemed rooted but a little bit of it seemed rooted into the old version of Nicole that was, into the old version of Nicole that was, into the old version of Nicole that was, I think, more connected now to like what I think, more connected now to like what I think, more connected now to like what you would call like your ego. I want to you would call like your ego. I want to you would call like your ego. I want to be seen. I want people to think I'm a be seen. I want people to think I'm a be seen. I want people to think I'm a badass instead of you just, you know, badass instead of you just, you know, badass instead of you just, you know, knowing you're a badass. You don't need knowing you're a badass. You don't need knowing you're a badass. You don't need anybody else to think you're a badass." anybody else to think you're a badass." anybody else to think you're a badass." uh and just gave some more examples and uh and just gave some more examples and uh and just gave some more examples and she's like, "You're 100% correct." Which she's like, "You're 100% correct." Which she's like, "You're 100% correct." Which is like the third time in, you know, my is like the third time in, you know, my is like the third time in, you know, my life she's ever said that to me. life she's ever said that to me. life she's ever said that to me. Yeah. Well, I and again I I only share Yeah. Well, I and again I I only share Yeah. Well, I and again I I only share this because I do think that this is a this because I do think that this is a this because I do think that this is a bit of a theme especially in high bit of a theme especially in high bit of a theme especially in high performers, high achievers which tend to performers, high achievers which tend to performers, high achievers which tend to be a lot of entrepreneurs who is a huge be a lot of entrepreneurs who is a huge be a lot of entrepreneurs who is a huge portion of our audience and a lot of who portion of our audience and a lot of who portion of our audience and a lot of who we work with in our private practice. we work with in our private practice. we work with in our private practice. But, you know, a lot of us are But, you know, a lot of us are But, you know, a lot of us are are these high performers, these high are these high performers, these high are these high performers, these high achievers, and we're usually doing it achievers, and we're usually doing it achievers, and we're usually doing it because we we're filling a void of not because we we're filling a void of not because we we're filling a void of not being heard, not being uh seen, not being heard, not being uh seen, not being heard, not being uh seen, not being valued, not being appreciated, um being valued, not being appreciated, um being valued, not being appreciated, um feeling alone. feeling alone. feeling alone. And you know, we we sometimes create And you know, we we sometimes create And you know, we we sometimes create these personal brands. And we don't do these personal brands. And we don't do these personal brands. And we don't do this consciously very often, but you this consciously very often, but you this consciously very often, but you know, we want to become a speaker. We know, we want to become a speaker. We know, we want to become a speaker. We want to become an expert. We want to want to become an expert. We want to want to become an expert. We want to become the best in our field or the best become the best in our field or the best become the best in our field or the best the biggest expert in X and you know, I the biggest expert in X and you know, I the biggest expert in X and you know, I want my the biggest podcast and I want want my the biggest podcast and I want want my the biggest podcast and I want this and I want that blah blah blah blah this and I want that blah blah blah blah this and I want that blah blah blah blah blah. And it's because we are trying to blah. And it's because we are trying to blah. And it's because we are trying to prove something to the world. We're prove something to the world. We're prove something to the world. We're trying to prove something to oursel. trying to prove something to oursel. trying to prove something to oursel. We're essentially trying to prove We're essentially trying to prove We're essentially trying to prove something prove something to that little something prove something to that little something prove something to that little child who felt not seen, not valued, and child who felt not seen, not valued, and child who felt not seen, not valued, and not appreciated. not appreciated. not appreciated. And you know, I know that's a big part And you know, I know that's a big part And you know, I know that's a big part of my story when I finally was able to of my story when I finally was able to of my story when I finally was able to see it and and be honest with myself see it and and be honest with myself see it and and be honest with myself about it. And, you know, it really it about it. And, you know, it really it about it. And, you know, it really it gave me a lot of freedom when I was able gave me a lot of freedom when I was able gave me a lot of freedom when I was able to say, I don't need that anymore. I to say, I don't need that anymore. I to say, I don't need that anymore. I don't want that anymore. I want to be don't want that anymore. I want to be don't want that anymore. I want to be able to feel enough able to feel enough able to feel enough um by just being me and not being a um by just being me and not being a um by just being me and not being a hyper achiever. hyper achiever. hyper achiever. And and so part of my vision was uh all And and so part of my vision was uh all And and so part of my vision was uh all about you know speaking on stages which about you know speaking on stages which about you know speaking on stages which is the only part of because I had a 2023 is the only part of because I had a 2023 is the only part of because I had a 2023 vision and I read through it uh just you vision and I read through it uh just you vision and I read through it uh just you know December of 2025 and I was like wow know December of 2025 and I was like wow know December of 2025 and I was like wow it's really awesome that majority of it's really awesome that majority of it's really awesome that majority of this 90% of it has come to fruition and this 90% of it has come to fruition and this 90% of it has come to fruition and the only part that didn't that I hence the only part that didn't that I hence the only part that didn't that I hence carried over into by 2026. carried over into by 2026. carried over into by 2026. It didn't come to fruition because it It didn't come to fruition because it It didn't come to fruition because it wasn't [  ] aligned and that was me. I want to speak on a and that was me. I want to speak on a and that was me. I want to speak on a stage with a thousand people and blah stage with a thousand people and blah stage with a thousand people and blah blah blah. And I'm not saying that that blah blah. And I'm not saying that that blah blah. And I'm not saying that that might not happen. might not happen. might not happen. But the root what it was rooted in, But the root what it was rooted in, But the root what it was rooted in, it was rooted in I'm not enough. I need it was rooted in I'm not enough. I need it was rooted in I'm not enough. I need to be seen. I need to be appreciated. I to be seen. I need to be appreciated. I to be seen. I need to be appreciated. I need to be looked at as the expert. I need to be looked at as the expert. I need to be looked at as the expert. I need to be needed. It was rooted in that need to be needed. It was rooted in that need to be needed. It was rooted in that which wants me to come to a quick which wants me to come to a quick which wants me to come to a quick clarity for people. It's understand that clarity for people. It's understand that clarity for people. It's understand that your life is giving you and showing you your life is giving you and showing you your life is giving you and showing you who you are. You know that's the be to who you are. You know that's the be to who you are. You know that's the be to have principle. So she quote unquote have principle. So she quote unquote have principle. So she quote unquote achieved everything except that because achieved everything except that because achieved everything except that because that wasn't who she was. So now she has that wasn't who she was. So now she has that wasn't who she was. So now she has two options. She has, you know, that's two options. She has, you know, that's two options. She has, you know, that's she took the time she took the time she took the time wants the fantasy. wants the fantasy. wants the fantasy. Well, she took the time for feedback, Well, she took the time for feedback, Well, she took the time for feedback, you know, she was like, "Okay, well, I I you know, she was like, "Okay, well, I I you know, she was like, "Okay, well, I I was all that. All that came into my was all that. All that came into my was all that. All that came into my life. I was the being. I did things that life. I was the being. I did things that life. I was the being. I did things that was congruent and I had those things. was congruent and I had those things. was congruent and I had those things. What I didn't have was the speaking on What I didn't have was the speaking on What I didn't have was the speaking on stage for a large group of people, blah stage for a large group of people, blah stage for a large group of people, blah blah blah." Because you really weren't blah blah." Because you really weren't blah blah." Because you really weren't the person that the person that the person that is that, you know? Going back to the two options, you had Going back to the two options, you had Going back to the two options, you had an option to reflect and say an option to reflect and say an option to reflect and say that happened because I wasn't in that happened because I wasn't in that happened because I wasn't in alignment. That's not really who I am. alignment. That's not really who I am. alignment. That's not really who I am. It was my ego that was wanting this, not It was my ego that was wanting this, not It was my ego that was wanting this, not really me. really me. really me. Or Or Or okay, what do I need to do to actually okay, what do I need to do to actually okay, what do I need to do to actually become this woman? Because if you were that and it was Because if you were that and it was Because if you were that and it was authentic, you might have had limiting authentic, you might have had limiting authentic, you might have had limiting beliefs or something that was holding beliefs or something that was holding beliefs or something that was holding you back from it still. you back from it still. you back from it still. Yes. Yes. Yes. So then you could have So then you could have So then you could have I think that's a great very I think that's a great very I think that's a great very you could have broken down you could have broken down you could have broken down you could have realizing that you could you could have realizing that you could you could have realizing that you could have broken down those limiting beliefs have broken down those limiting beliefs have broken down those limiting beliefs and roadblocks that were holding you and roadblocks that were holding you and roadblocks that were holding you back from actually being that woman. But back from actually being that woman. But back from actually being that woman. But you realized that it was actually not in you realized that it was actually not in you realized that it was actually not in alignment with really who you were. And alignment with really who you were. And alignment with really who you were. And what was interesting is that you also in what was interesting is that you also in what was interesting is that you also in the 2026 vision, you had the same thing, the 2026 vision, you had the same thing, the 2026 vision, you had the same thing, but the complete opposite that I'm going but the complete opposite that I'm going but the complete opposite that I'm going to speak to a small group of powerful to speak to a small group of powerful to speak to a small group of powerful females females females as a leader to them. as a leader to them. as a leader to them. That was an alignment. That was an alignment. That was an alignment. So you were still speaking, you were So you were still speaking, you were So you were still speaking, you were still leading, you were actually still leading, you were actually still leading, you were actually authentically connected with a group authentically connected with a group authentically connected with a group that was aligned with you versus I want that was aligned with you versus I want that was aligned with you versus I want to be on this stage, you know, wearing to be on this stage, you know, wearing to be on this stage, you know, wearing [  ] baller [  ] baller [  ] baller female suit or whatever the hell you're female suit or whatever the hell you're female suit or whatever the hell you're going to wear going to wear going to wear and thinking I'm the [  ] and blah blah and thinking I'm the [  ] and blah blah and thinking I'm the [  ] and blah blah blah blah blah. Feed an ego. So you blah blah blah. Feed an ego. So you blah blah blah. Feed an ego. So you quickly squashed that, moved on. And quickly squashed that, moved on. And quickly squashed that, moved on. And this is awesome because talking about this is awesome because talking about this is awesome because talking about your social media algorithm, how it was your social media algorithm, how it was your social media algorithm, how it was like, you know, like, you know, like, you know, more of a a recap, an evaluation of what more of a a recap, an evaluation of what more of a a recap, an evaluation of what didn't work over the past year, which is didn't work over the past year, which is didn't work over the past year, which is awesome. Everybody should do that. awesome. Everybody should do that. awesome. Everybody should do that. We're going to give you a little bit We're going to give you a little bit We're going to give you a little bit more detail about this towards the end. more detail about this towards the end. more detail about this towards the end. But I also challenge, you know, don't But I also challenge, you know, don't But I also challenge, you know, don't wait for the end of the year. Like, wait for the end of the year. Like, wait for the end of the year. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah, this is, this is, this is, of course, of course, of course, this is something I I do with my this is something I I do with my this is something I I do with my four-year-old. I lay in bed with him at four-year-old. I lay in bed with him at four-year-old. I lay in bed with him at night. I'm like, night. I'm like, night. I'm like, we do this on a weekly basis. Literally, we do this on a weekly basis. Literally, we do this on a weekly basis. Literally, every single week, we ask ourselves every single week, we ask ourselves every single week, we ask ourselves these questions and then we hold each these questions and then we hold each these questions and then we hold each other accountable to to it as well. Um, other accountable to to it as well. Um, other accountable to to it as well. Um, but this is something I do with Quinton. but this is something I do with Quinton. but this is something I do with Quinton. I'm like, what was the best part of your I'm like, what was the best part of your I'm like, what was the best part of your day and what was the worst part of your day and what was the worst part of your day and what was the worst part of your day? day? day? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then, you know, what what did you do And then, you know, what what did you do And then, you know, what what did you do to create that? to create that? to create that? What did you do to create the best part What did you do to create the best part What did you do to create the best part of your day? of your day? of your day? You know, not telling him that he needs You know, not telling him that he needs You know, not telling him that he needs to do more of it. I'm just helping him to do more of it. I'm just helping him to do more of it. I'm just helping him become conscious of this was great. You become conscious of this was great. You become conscious of this was great. You enjoyed it. This is what you did to do enjoyed it. This is what you did to do enjoyed it. This is what you did to do it. Now connect the dots. You're it. Now connect the dots. You're it. Now connect the dots. You're intelligent. If you want to do like have intelligent. If you want to do like have intelligent. If you want to do like have more, do more, be more. more, do more, be more. more, do more, be more. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. What did you do that sucked? You know What did you do that sucked? You know What did you do that sucked? You know what was the worst part of your day? what was the worst part of your day? what was the worst part of your day? What did you do to create that? What did you do to create that? What did you do to create that? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Well, now you're conscious of what Okay. Well, now you're conscious of what Okay. Well, now you're conscious of what you did to create it. In the future, if you did to create it. In the future, if you did to create it. In the future, if it happens again, you'll be like, "Oh it happens again, you'll be like, "Oh it happens again, you'll be like, "Oh crap." Because we're going to go through crap." Because we're going to go through crap." Because we're going to go through the same process again, and eventually the same process again, and eventually the same process again, and eventually he'll be able to connect the dots. So he'll be able to connect the dots. So he'll be able to connect the dots. So he's learning from experience, which is he's learning from experience, which is he's learning from experience, which is the best teacher. I'm not telling him. the best teacher. I'm not telling him. the best teacher. I'm not telling him. Sometimes I do, but I try not to tell Sometimes I do, but I try not to tell Sometimes I do, but I try not to tell him, you know, do more of this, do less him, you know, do more of this, do less him, you know, do more of this, do less of this. Like, of this. Like, of this. Like, do you know you just quoted Julius do you know you just quoted Julius do you know you just quoted Julius Caesar? Caesar? Caesar? No. No. No. Experience is the best teacher. That was previous life. That was previous life. That was previous life. That was you in a previous life. Got it. That was you in a previous life. Got it. That was you in a previous life. Got it. Well, I I want to go back really quick Well, I I want to go back really quick Well, I I want to go back really quick though because I think that this is like though because I think that this is like though because I think that this is like we need people need to understand this we need people need to understand this we need people need to understand this point point point is because I think there was a lot of is because I think there was a lot of is because I think there was a lot of people doing this limiting belief work people doing this limiting belief work people doing this limiting belief work and and I'm it is valuable and and I'm it is valuable and and I'm it is valuable but as you just said is there was the but as you just said is there was the but as you just said is there was the option to say this is not aligned option to say this is not aligned option to say this is not aligned which you need you need data about which you need you need data about which you need you need data about yourself to know to be able to test yourself to know to be able to test yourself to know to be able to test that. You need to know your own values that. You need to know your own values that. You need to know your own values in order to test that because otherwise in order to test that because otherwise in order to test that because otherwise if you don't know your own values and if you don't know your own values and if you don't know your own values and you don't have the ability to to test you don't have the ability to to test you don't have the ability to to test that, that, that, you know, Nick gave it to me, but even you know, Nick gave it to me, but even you know, Nick gave it to me, but even if you're doing it for yourself, you're if you're doing it for yourself, you're if you're doing it for yourself, you're rereading and you're like, "This doesn't rereading and you're like, "This doesn't rereading and you're like, "This doesn't feel right or I've had this on my goal feel right or I've had this on my goal feel right or I've had this on my goal list two years in a row, three years in list two years in a row, three years in list two years in a row, three years in a row. Why has it never happened?" a row. Why has it never happened?" a row. Why has it never happened?" You could play that role. Uh, can you You could play that role. Uh, can you You could play that role. Uh, can you see the reflection? That's why you're see the reflection? That's why you're see the reflection? That's why you're laughing. laughing. laughing. Um, Um, Um, you can play that game of, you know, oh, you can play that game of, you know, oh, you can play that game of, you know, oh, it's because I didn't do this or I it's because I didn't do this or I it's because I didn't do this or I didn't do that or I still have limiting didn't do that or I still have limiting didn't do that or I still have limiting beliefs to break down. But if you know beliefs to break down. But if you know beliefs to break down. But if you know your values, you can ask yourself the your values, you can ask yourself the your values, you can ask yourself the simple question, is this truly [  ] simple question, is this truly [  ] simple question, is this truly [  ] aligned with my true true values of who aligned with my true true values of who aligned with my true true values of who I am and who I'm becoming? And that was I am and who I'm becoming? And that was I am and who I'm becoming? And that was the key factor that helped me to the key factor that helped me to the key factor that helped me to understand that I do want to teach and I understand that I do want to teach and I understand that I do want to teach and I do want to speak. It is one of my do want to speak. It is one of my do want to speak. It is one of my absolute favorite things to do, but I absolute favorite things to do, but I absolute favorite things to do, but I actually want to do it with a very very actually want to do it with a very very actually want to do it with a very very specific specific specific type of person, group of people that are type of person, group of people that are type of person, group of people that are interested in taking the information, interested in taking the information, interested in taking the information, the knowledge to literally become the the knowledge to literally become the the knowledge to literally become the greatest version of themselves so that greatest version of themselves so that greatest version of themselves so that they can create the greatest version of they can create the greatest version of they can create the greatest version of their families. their families. their families. I'm not interested in necessarily just I'm not interested in necessarily just I'm not interested in necessarily just helping people that just want to make a helping people that just want to make a helping people that just want to make a [  ] ton of money in their business or [  ] ton of money in their business or [  ] ton of money in their business or they only want to get better because they only want to get better because they only want to get better because they want to be skinny or they want to they want to be skinny or they want to they want to be skinny or they want to be healthy because they want to look a be healthy because they want to look a be healthy because they want to look a certain way to to find their new husband certain way to to find their new husband certain way to to find their new husband or wife like or they just want to get or wife like or they just want to get or wife like or they just want to get rid of symptoms because those symptoms rid of symptoms because those symptoms rid of symptoms because those symptoms don't allow them to vacation. Like I'm don't allow them to vacation. Like I'm don't allow them to vacation. Like I'm interested in speaking, educating, and interested in speaking, educating, and interested in speaking, educating, and and collaborating with people that are and collaborating with people that are and collaborating with people that are interested in in creating interested in in creating interested in in creating a family dynamic that it leaves a a family dynamic that it leaves a a family dynamic that it leaves a legacy. Like their family can leave an legacy. Like their family can leave an legacy. Like their family can leave an impact and a legacy just because they're impact and a legacy just because they're impact and a legacy just because they're [  ] awesome humans and they they [  ] awesome humans and they they [  ] awesome humans and they they treated everyone they've come in contact treated everyone they've come in contact treated everyone they've come in contact with with such a an amazing capacity with with such a an amazing capacity with with such a an amazing capacity that they're remembered. or it's because that they're remembered. or it's because that they're remembered. or it's because they created something or or some they created something or or some they created something or or some framework that solves a major problem framework that solves a major problem framework that solves a major problem for the world. I don't really care. But for the world. I don't really care. But for the world. I don't really care. But if you're interested in becoming the if you're interested in becoming the if you're interested in becoming the greatest version of yourself and helping greatest version of yourself and helping greatest version of yourself and helping your family be the greatest version of your family be the greatest version of your family be the greatest version of itself, then like [  ] yeah. Let's chat. itself, then like [  ] yeah. Let's chat. itself, then like [  ] yeah. Let's chat. Let's do it. Let's I'll speak, etc. But Let's do it. Let's I'll speak, etc. But Let's do it. Let's I'll speak, etc. But speaking to a group of a thousand people speaking to a group of a thousand people speaking to a group of a thousand people that 90% of them could give two [  ] that 90% of them could give two [  ] that 90% of them could give two [  ] about what I have to say, that was about what I have to say, that was about what I have to say, that was feeding my ego. Yes. So to interject, So to interject, So to interject, the very beginning, Nicole said her the very beginning, Nicole said her the very beginning, Nicole said her social media wasn't New Year's social media wasn't New Year's social media wasn't New Year's resolutions or affirmations. resolutions or affirmations. resolutions or affirmations. Not that those aren't important, it's Not that those aren't important, it's Not that those aren't important, it's just not what you do, but how you do it. just not what you do, but how you do it. just not what you do, but how you do it. Everything she just said there, Everything she just said there, Everything she just said there, she was most lit up by, I want to work she was most lit up by, I want to work she was most lit up by, I want to work with [  ] awesome humans. with [  ] awesome humans. with [  ] awesome humans. A great affirmation, A great affirmation, A great affirmation, look in the mirror. I work with [  ] look in the mirror. I work with [  ] look in the mirror. I work with [  ] awesome humans. awesome humans. awesome humans. And to watch yourself and see how your And to watch yourself and see how your And to watch yourself and see how your body changes when you say that to body changes when you say that to body changes when you say that to yourself. That would be a very powerful yourself. That would be a very powerful yourself. That would be a very powerful affirmation for her. It would be an affirmation for her. It would be an affirmation for her. It would be an alignment. Everything she just said, she alignment. Everything she just said, she alignment. Everything she just said, she was fired up. She was aligned. You could was fired up. She was aligned. You could was fired up. She was aligned. You could tell was authentic. Kill it was true. It tell was authentic. Kill it was true. It tell was authentic. Kill it was true. It was her. So, this is when you should use was her. So, this is when you should use was her. So, this is when you should use an affirmation. an affirmation. an affirmation. Yep. an a an affirmation if she goes Yep. an a an affirmation if she goes Yep. an a an affirmation if she goes if it's a line if it's a line if it's a line I am I am and this you can tell these I am I am and this you can tell these I am I am and this you can tell these the affirmations you're like I am a a the affirmations you're like I am a a the affirmations you're like I am a a powerful woman that delivers speeches to powerful woman that delivers speeches to powerful woman that delivers speeches to thousands to tens of thousands of people thousands to tens of thousands of people thousands to tens of thousands of people who look up to me as a leader blah blah who look up to me as a leader blah blah who look up to me as a leader blah blah blah like if that's your affirmation blah like if that's your affirmation blah like if that's your affirmation it's [  ] and it's [  ] and it's [  ] and your subconscious is your subconscious your subconscious is your subconscious your subconscious is your subconscious is already Like, girl, bro, this ain't is already Like, girl, bro, this ain't is already Like, girl, bro, this ain't you. I'm going to give you experiences you. I'm going to give you experiences you. I'm going to give you experiences that are going to cause you a lot of that are going to cause you a lot of that are going to cause you a lot of pain as a feedback mechanism for you to pain as a feedback mechanism for you to pain as a feedback mechanism for you to see and feel this [  ] is not aligned. see and feel this [  ] is not aligned. see and feel this [  ] is not aligned. So, food for thought. If you're reading So, food for thought. If you're reading So, food for thought. If you're reading affirmations right now or if somebody affirmations right now or if somebody affirmations right now or if somebody taught you an affirmation like that, say taught you an affirmation like that, say taught you an affirmation like that, say thanks but no thanks. Affirmations need thanks but no thanks. Affirmations need thanks but no thanks. Affirmations need to be real and raw. like you need to to be real and raw. like you need to to be real and raw. like you need to feel it needs to be your vocabulary. feel it needs to be your vocabulary. feel it needs to be your vocabulary. And for Nicole, And for Nicole, And for Nicole, you know, it's not proper. She's from you know, it's not proper. She's from you know, it's not proper. She's from Newark, New Jersey. I work with [  ] Newark, New Jersey. I work with [  ] Newark, New Jersey. I work with [  ] awesome humans, awesome humans, awesome humans, which got me excited because humans are which got me excited because humans are which got me excited because humans are the actual real version of yourself. the actual real version of yourself. the actual real version of yourself. People comes from persona, which is a People comes from persona, which is a People comes from persona, which is a facade. So if you're working with people facade. So if you're working with people facade. So if you're working with people already the verbiage of that isn't already the verbiage of that isn't already the verbiage of that isn't aligned because people is not actually aligned because people is not actually aligned because people is not actually authentic. People is the persona, a authentic. People is the persona, a authentic. People is the persona, a facade created by society. facade created by society. facade created by society. But we're not going to get down that But we're not going to get down that But we're not going to get down that rabbit hole today. rabbit hole today. rabbit hole today. Yes. Well, Yes. Well, Yes. Well, backtracking a little bit. So, you know, backtracking a little bit. So, you know, backtracking a little bit. So, you know, we we talked about it quite a few we we talked about it quite a few we we talked about it quite a few different things, but just remembering different things, but just remembering different things, but just remembering that as you are creating goals for that as you are creating goals for that as you are creating goals for yourself, you're creating a a vision for yourself, you're creating a a vision for yourself, you're creating a a vision for yourself. And and I think it's more yourself. And and I think it's more yourself. And and I think it's more important for us to keep this idea of a important for us to keep this idea of a important for us to keep this idea of a vision versus a goal because you vision versus a goal because you vision versus a goal because you essentially create your vision and then essentially create your vision and then essentially create your vision and then you set goals to help you achieve that you set goals to help you achieve that you set goals to help you achieve that vision. It's pretty much from going from vision. It's pretty much from going from vision. It's pretty much from going from A to B. So you are at A, B is the vision A to B. So you are at A, B is the vision A to B. So you are at A, B is the vision and then you create the goals, the the and then you create the goals, the the and then you create the goals, the the stepping stones in order to get to the B stepping stones in order to get to the B stepping stones in order to get to the B and also you have to be conscious of how and also you have to be conscious of how and also you have to be conscious of how far is the distance, how big is the gap. far is the distance, how big is the gap. far is the distance, how big is the gap. This is something that Keith Cunningham This is something that Keith Cunningham This is something that Keith Cunningham has taught in reference to business. has taught in reference to business. has taught in reference to business. He's like, you know, there's a lot of He's like, you know, there's a lot of He's like, you know, there's a lot of people that will not want to be honest people that will not want to be honest people that will not want to be honest with where they are. or they don't get with where they are. or they don't get with where they are. or they don't get clarity on their a and so they talk clarity on their a and so they talk clarity on their a and so they talk about you know I want to be here I want about you know I want to be here I want about you know I want to be here I want to make a million dollar $10 million in to make a million dollar $10 million in to make a million dollar $10 million in my business but they're not being honest my business but they're not being honest my business but they're not being honest with where they are so they're with where they are so they're with where they are so they're essentially just they don't have a clear essentially just they don't have a clear essentially just they don't have a clear map from A to B because they're either map from A to B because they're either map from A to B because they're either not being honest with where they are or not being honest with where they are or not being honest with where they are or they have a complete [  ] they have a complete [  ] they have a complete [  ] uh injected goal I want to make 10 uh injected goal I want to make 10 uh injected goal I want to make 10 million because the other company that's million because the other company that's million because the other company that's similar to mine in my industry makes 10 similar to mine in my industry makes 10 similar to mine in my industry makes 10 million and so it's fueled by ego. It's million and so it's fueled by ego. It's million and so it's fueled by ego. It's not fueled by alignment. It's not even not fueled by alignment. It's not even not fueled by alignment. It's not even fueled by a why. So we need to be very fueled by a why. So we need to be very fueled by a why. So we need to be very very conscious of what is your vision very conscious of what is your vision very conscious of what is your vision beyond the vision. Like what's the big beyond the vision. Like what's the big beyond the vision. Like what's the big big vision that if you told the average big vision that if you told the average big vision that if you told the average person they would think you're [  ] person they would think you're [  ] person they would think you're [  ] crazy because because most people are crazy because because most people are crazy because because most people are like you can't have a great life. Yeah. like you can't have a great life. Yeah. like you can't have a great life. Yeah. Well, you can't have a great life. Well, you can't have a great life. Well, you can't have a great life. [  ] deal with that. [  ] deal with that. [  ] deal with that. So you have the vision beyond the So you have the vision beyond the So you have the vision beyond the vision. Then you have, you know, the vision. Then you have, you know, the vision. Then you have, you know, the vision of what the next year year of vision of what the next year year of vision of what the next year year of your life looks like. And then you start your life looks like. And then you start your life looks like. And then you start to set goals to achieve that. If you to set goals to achieve that. If you to set goals to achieve that. If you don't have that clear vision that's don't have that clear vision that's don't have that clear vision that's truly aligned to who you are and it's truly aligned to who you are and it's truly aligned to who you are and it's not a [  ] vision that somebody told not a [  ] vision that somebody told not a [  ] vision that somebody told you you should have, you're you're not you you should have, you're you're not you you should have, you're you're not going to be successful. So you also have going to be successful. So you also have going to be successful. So you also have to be conscious of like let's be honest to be conscious of like let's be honest to be conscious of like let's be honest with what is this rooted in? If you want with what is this rooted in? If you want with what is this rooted in? If you want to be thinner and you don't care about to be thinner and you don't care about to be thinner and you don't care about health, then just say I want to be health, then just say I want to be health, then just say I want to be thinner. Like make that part of of the thinner. Like make that part of of the thinner. Like make that part of of the vision of I want to look this way and vision of I want to look this way and vision of I want to look this way and when I look this way, this is what I'm when I look this way, this is what I'm when I look this way, this is what I'm doing. I'm doing this. I'm going here. doing. I'm doing this. I'm going here. doing. I'm doing this. I'm going here. I'm talking to this person. I walk this I'm talking to this person. I walk this I'm talking to this person. I walk this way. I talk this way. I like whatever it way. I talk this way. I like whatever it way. I talk this way. I like whatever it is. There's nothing wrong with that. You is. There's nothing wrong with that. You is. There's nothing wrong with that. You don't have to be, you know, I want to be don't have to be, you know, I want to be don't have to be, you know, I want to be the healthiest version of myself. you the healthiest version of myself. you the healthiest version of myself. you that doesn't have to be a goal just that doesn't have to be a goal just that doesn't have to be a goal just because people tell you you need to be because people tell you you need to be because people tell you you need to be healthy. You know, health might be part healthy. You know, health might be part healthy. You know, health might be part of the journey for you to get to that of the journey for you to get to that of the journey for you to get to that best looking version of yourself or the best looking version of yourself or the best looking version of yourself or the most wealthy version of yourself. And most wealthy version of yourself. And most wealthy version of yourself. And you might say, "I want to make a [  ] you might say, "I want to make a [  ] you might say, "I want to make a [  ] ton of money." But you know that you ton of money." But you know that you ton of money." But you know that you can't think straight. And so you become can't think straight. And so you become can't think straight. And so you become the healthiest version of yourself to the healthiest version of yourself to the healthiest version of yourself to get your mind more clear so you can stay get your mind more clear so you can stay get your mind more clear so you can stay focused and be committed to making X focused and be committed to making X focused and be committed to making X amount of dollars. amount of dollars. amount of dollars. All of it at the end of the day All of it at the end of the day All of it at the end of the day interweavves with each other. This is interweavves with each other. This is interweavves with each other. This is why we've been integrative wellness why we've been integrative wellness why we've been integrative wellness group and now we're integrative you is group and now we're integrative you is group and now we're integrative you is because everything is integrated and because everything is integrated and because everything is integrated and everybody is trying to isolate out. I everybody is trying to isolate out. I everybody is trying to isolate out. I got my business goals and I got my got my business goals and I got my got my business goals and I got my family goals and I got my relationship family goals and I got my relationship family goals and I got my relationship goals and I got my personal goals. But goals and I got my personal goals. But goals and I got my personal goals. But if you don't take the time to interweave if you don't take the time to interweave if you don't take the time to interweave all of that together as you make a plan all of that together as you make a plan all of that together as you make a plan for your year, your three years, your for your year, your three years, your for your year, your three years, your five years, five years, five years, this is why you burn out. This is why it this is why you burn out. This is why it this is why you burn out. This is why it all kind of disassembles. all kind of disassembles. all kind of disassembles. So, you know, our passion is truly So, you know, our passion is truly So, you know, our passion is truly helping entrepreneurial parents and helping entrepreneurial parents and helping entrepreneurial parents and families like how do you bring it all families like how do you bring it all families like how do you bring it all together? you know, how do you how do together? you know, how do you how do together? you know, how do you how do you stay focused in all these different you stay focused in all these different you stay focused in all these different buckets and have them work together buckets and have them work together buckets and have them work together opposed to against each other? How many opposed to against each other? How many opposed to against each other? How many people are like, I want to do this in my people are like, I want to do this in my people are like, I want to do this in my business, but then, you know, slowly business, but then, you know, slowly business, but then, you know, slowly their relationship is crumbling apart. their relationship is crumbling apart. their relationship is crumbling apart. They they if if you support your They they if if you support your They they if if you support your relationship while simultaneously relationship while simultaneously relationship while simultaneously supporting your business, you'll go supporting your business, you'll go supporting your business, you'll go farther. farther. farther. If you say, "Oh, I'm going to give a If you say, "Oh, I'm going to give a If you say, "Oh, I'm going to give a 100% to my business, but only for 100% to my business, but only for 100% to my business, but only for quarter one, then quarter two, I'll work quarter one, then quarter two, I'll work quarter one, then quarter two, I'll work on my my relationship." No. Nope. It's on my my relationship." No. Nope. It's on my my relationship." No. Nope. It's not how it works. It's the same way we not how it works. It's the same way we not how it works. It's the same way we look at the physical body. People are look at the physical body. People are look at the physical body. People are like, "Okay, so what are we doing? Are like, "Okay, so what are we doing? Are like, "Okay, so what are we doing? Are we going to do the the liver protocol we going to do the the liver protocol we going to do the the liver protocol and then we'll work on my thyroid?" I'm and then we'll work on my thyroid?" I'm and then we'll work on my thyroid?" I'm like, "No, we're working on everything like, "No, we're working on everything like, "No, we're working on everything together." And they're like, "What do together." And they're like, "What do together." And they're like, "What do you mean?" My last doctor told me I had you mean?" My last doctor told me I had you mean?" My last doctor told me I had to do like heavy metal detox and then I to do like heavy metal detox and then I to do like heavy metal detox and then I had to do a chemical detox and then I had to do a chemical detox and then I had to do a chemical detox and then I had to do my thyroid and then I and I had to do my thyroid and then I and I had to do my thyroid and then I and I was like no that's why it didn't work. was like no that's why it didn't work. was like no that's why it didn't work. That's why you're here. That's why you're here. That's why you're here. They're like I was like just just trust They're like I was like just just trust They're like I was like just just trust the process. So I think that Nick is going to have uh So I think that Nick is going to have uh So I think that Nick is going to have uh Nick's going to have his own version of Nick's going to have his own version of Nick's going to have his own version of this. So I'm going to let you share as this. So I'm going to let you share as this. So I'm going to let you share as well because our brains work very well because our brains work very well because our brains work very different and I do think that you know different and I do think that you know different and I do think that you know the average female brain, average you the average female brain, average you the average female brain, average you know masculine brain it they they work know masculine brain it they they work know masculine brain it they they work different in how they different in how they different in how they create a vision and set goals. create a vision and set goals. create a vision and set goals. Hence I said that I created a story. I Hence I said that I created a story. I Hence I said that I created a story. I was like I was do I have we have all was like I was do I have we have all was like I was do I have we have all these assessments that we did we did do these assessments that we did we did do these assessments that we did we did do but I felt like I needed to just brain but I felt like I needed to just brain but I felt like I needed to just brain dump dump dump before doing those assessments. And I before doing those assessments. And I before doing those assessments. And I essentially wrote out the categories of essentially wrote out the categories of essentially wrote out the categories of life. I wrote out personal me. I wrote life. I wrote out personal me. I wrote life. I wrote out personal me. I wrote out family. I wrote out relationship. out family. I wrote out relationship. out family. I wrote out relationship. Even though Nick is part of my family, I Even though Nick is part of my family, I Even though Nick is part of my family, I still wanted to isolate out and speak to still wanted to isolate out and speak to still wanted to isolate out and speak to exactly what I wanted our relationship exactly what I wanted our relationship exactly what I wanted our relationship to look like in addition to what to look like in addition to what to look like in addition to what relationships look like with my friends relationships look like with my friends relationships look like with my friends group, group, group, finances, wealth, and then business. finances, wealth, and then business. finances, wealth, and then business. Those are the main categories that I Those are the main categories that I Those are the main categories that I focused on. Um, focused on. Um, focused on. Um, and I wrote the story. I wrote the story and I wrote the story. I wrote the story and I wrote the story. I wrote the story of in my current brain and vision, the of in my current brain and vision, the of in my current brain and vision, the best version best version best version of who I'm becoming uh from who I am and of who I'm becoming uh from who I am and of who I'm becoming uh from who I am and what I know and how I talk and how I what I know and how I talk and how I what I know and how I talk and how I hold myself and how I walk and how I hold myself and how I walk and how I hold myself and how I walk and how I dress and what my physical body looks dress and what my physical body looks dress and what my physical body looks like, what my face looks like, like, what my face looks like, like, what my face looks like, everything. everything. everything. And how I'm perceived by others. And how I'm perceived by others. And how I'm perceived by others. And I wrote exactly what I want my And I wrote exactly what I want my And I wrote exactly what I want my family to look like, parenting to look family to look like, parenting to look family to look like, parenting to look like, my kids to look like, my home life like, my kids to look like, my home life like, my kids to look like, my home life to look like, our relationship to look to look like, our relationship to look to look like, our relationship to look like, what my friends are like, what do like, what my friends are like, what do like, what my friends are like, what do we do together, what do we talk about? we do together, what do we talk about? we do together, what do we talk about? And and I separated out business and And and I separated out business and And and I separated out business and wealth because some of you business wealth because some of you business wealth because some of you business owners, and I know I've experienced this owners, and I know I've experienced this owners, and I know I've experienced this quite a bit with coaching healthreneurs, quite a bit with coaching healthreneurs, quite a bit with coaching healthreneurs, is that you put both in the same bucket, is that you put both in the same bucket, is that you put both in the same bucket, but really at the end of the day, what but really at the end of the day, what but really at the end of the day, what you're building in a wealth portfolio you're building in a wealth portfolio you're building in a wealth portfolio is different than what you're doing in is different than what you're doing in is different than what you're doing in your business. Your business shouldn't your business. Your business shouldn't your business. Your business shouldn't really be your only asset really be your only asset really be your only asset but looking at all of the assets that but looking at all of the assets that but looking at all of the assets that you are creating, acquiring, working you are creating, acquiring, working you are creating, acquiring, working for, etc. So, I just wrote the story and for, etc. So, I just wrote the story and for, etc. So, I just wrote the story and the story was some people might be like the story was some people might be like the story was some people might be like you're crazy like are you really like do you're crazy like are you really like do you're crazy like are you really like do you really think it's possible for you really think it's possible for you really think it's possible for someone to achieve all this? That's the someone to achieve all this? That's the someone to achieve all this? That's the point. The point is the vision is so big point. The point is the vision is so big point. The point is the vision is so big and grandiose and it's it's really exact and grandiose and it's it's really exact and grandiose and it's it's really exact like it's it's the best version of like it's it's the best version of like it's it's the best version of yourself, the best version of your life. yourself, the best version of your life. yourself, the best version of your life. And the question that I when people are And the question that I when people are And the question that I when people are like I don't even know where to start. like I don't even know where to start. like I don't even know where to start. I'm like if you did not have to earn I'm like if you did not have to earn I'm like if you did not have to earn money tomorrow, money tomorrow, money tomorrow, you were independently wealthy. What you were independently wealthy. What you were independently wealthy. What would your life look like? would your life look like? would your life look like? What would you do? Because you want to What would you do? Because you want to What would you do? Because you want to do it. You get to do it. If you could do it. You get to do it. If you could do it. You get to do it. If you could hand pluck or you could curate your hand pluck or you could curate your hand pluck or you could curate your perfect partner, what would it look like perfect partner, what would it look like perfect partner, what would it look like if your kids, you know, would be you if your kids, you know, would be you if your kids, you know, would be you would see them at 20 years old and would see them at 20 years old and would see them at 20 years old and you're like, "Oh my god, they're [  ] you're like, "Oh my god, they're [  ] you're like, "Oh my god, they're [  ] awesome. I did such a good job." Like, awesome. I did such a good job." Like, awesome. I did such a good job." Like, what would they be like? What would they what would they be like? What would they what would they be like? What would they look like? like you you have the ability look like? like you you have the ability look like? like you you have the ability to to create anything you want if you to to create anything you want if you to to create anything you want if you have the utmost clarity and the utmost have the utmost clarity and the utmost have the utmost clarity and the utmost focus. And I don't think a lot of people focus. And I don't think a lot of people focus. And I don't think a lot of people realize how powerful we are in that realize how powerful we are in that realize how powerful we are in that capacity. But this is one of the reasons capacity. But this is one of the reasons capacity. But this is one of the reasons why people teach things like meditation why people teach things like meditation why people teach things like meditation or I'm sorry manifestation and or I'm sorry manifestation and or I'm sorry manifestation and meditation because they've experienced meditation because they've experienced meditation because they've experienced that that that massive clarity of vision and having a massive clarity of vision and having a massive clarity of vision and having a vision beyond the vision vision beyond the vision vision beyond the vision is what is the key to creating the is what is the key to creating the is what is the key to creating the greatest version of your life and the greatest version of your life and the greatest version of your life and the greatest version of yourself. greatest version of yourself. greatest version of yourself. Nick didn't write a story. Nick didn't write a story. Nick didn't write a story. I'm not a story person. Sounds great. I'm not a story person. Sounds great. I'm not a story person. Sounds great. Not how my brain works. Not how my brain works. Not how my brain works. I'm very um I'm very um I'm very um I don't know the word you would say, but I don't know the word you would say, but I don't know the word you would say, but in my in my brain I would say efficient. in my in my brain I would say efficient. in my in my brain I would say efficient. You are very innovative and efficient. You are very innovative and efficient. You are very innovative and efficient. Stories take up a lot more space and Stories take up a lot more space and Stories take up a lot more space and time than I think is necessary. time than I think is necessary. time than I think is necessary. So I did something similar just I guess So I did something similar just I guess So I did something similar just I guess more of like that man to the point less more of like that man to the point less more of like that man to the point less less fluff. So, I had the categories uh less fluff. So, I had the categories uh less fluff. So, I had the categories uh of life and literally just wrote of life and literally just wrote of life and literally just wrote everything that was, you know, the everything that was, you know, the everything that was, you know, the vision uh that I wanted in there with as vision uh that I wanted in there with as vision uh that I wanted in there with as few words as possible and cuz I wanted few words as possible and cuz I wanted few words as possible and cuz I wanted to make sure it was clear and concrete to make sure it was clear and concrete to make sure it was clear and concrete for me and the for me it was that's left for me and the for me it was that's left for me and the for me it was that's left brain. So, I'm always processing things brain. So, I'm always processing things brain. So, I'm always processing things through both brains, left brain, right through both brains, left brain, right through both brains, left brain, right brain to make sure that it fits um that brain to make sure that it fits um that brain to make sure that it fits um that it's authentic in both both sides. You it's authentic in both both sides. You it's authentic in both both sides. You know, we can we can process something. know, we can we can process something. know, we can we can process something. Left brain's like, "Yep, [  ] yeah, Left brain's like, "Yep, [  ] yeah, Left brain's like, "Yep, [  ] yeah, that's me." And then the right brain is that's me." And then the right brain is that's me." And then the right brain is the feeling aspect of it, which the feeling aspect of it, which the feeling aspect of it, which processes it completely different. And processes it completely different. And processes it completely different. And the right brain, if I'm feeling that the right brain, if I'm feeling that the right brain, if I'm feeling that like overly proud, I know that this is like overly proud, I know that this is like overly proud, I know that this is not congruent. This is just filling a not congruent. This is just filling a not congruent. This is just filling a void. If I So, long story short, I want void. If I So, long story short, I want void. If I So, long story short, I want everything on that big vision to be everything on that big vision to be everything on that big vision to be inspiration, to be felt within my heart. inspiration, to be felt within my heart. inspiration, to be felt within my heart. And if it's not felt within my heart, if And if it's not felt within my heart, if And if it's not felt within my heart, if it's felt somewhere else in the body, I it's felt somewhere else in the body, I it's felt somewhere else in the body, I know that it's not congruent. So, it's a know that it's not congruent. So, it's a know that it's not congruent. So, it's a quick way for me to check in being like, quick way for me to check in being like, quick way for me to check in being like, "Okay, here's what I think my vision is. "Okay, here's what I think my vision is. "Okay, here's what I think my vision is. Can I hold myself accountable? Where do Can I hold myself accountable? Where do Can I hold myself accountable? Where do I feel it? How do I feel it? How strong I feel it? How do I feel it? How strong I feel it? How do I feel it? How strong is it?" And and then I go like deeper. is it?" And and then I go like deeper. is it?" And and then I go like deeper. Just cuz it's in your heart region Just cuz it's in your heart region Just cuz it's in your heart region doesn't mean it's necessarily like it's doesn't mean it's necessarily like it's doesn't mean it's necessarily like it's you. Um, so once you feel inspired, you. Um, so once you feel inspired, you. Um, so once you feel inspired, you want to get used to the quality of you want to get used to the quality of you want to get used to the quality of that. You know, what is the temperature? that. You know, what is the temperature? that. You know, what is the temperature? What is the color? Is it warm? Is it What is the color? Is it warm? Is it What is the color? Is it warm? Is it light? Is it heavy? Is it dark? Like go light? Is it heavy? Is it dark? Like go light? Is it heavy? Is it dark? Like go through objectively like a scientist and through objectively like a scientist and through objectively like a scientist and break down as specific as you can what break down as specific as you can what break down as specific as you can what your intuition, what inspiration feels your intuition, what inspiration feels your intuition, what inspiration feels like for you. And the more you can get like for you. And the more you can get like for you. And the more you can get used to feeling that, then you have a used to feeling that, then you have a used to feeling that, then you have a very good quote unquote temperature very good quote unquote temperature very good quote unquote temperature gauge to be able to judge things gauge to be able to judge things gauge to be able to judge things against. So I go through left brain. I against. So I go through left brain. I against. So I go through left brain. I create the categories, fill it out. I go create the categories, fill it out. I go create the categories, fill it out. I go into the right brain. I check. into the right brain. I check. into the right brain. I check. For those of you that are like, uh, For those of you that are like, uh, For those of you that are like, uh, we're gonna give you the guide to this. we're gonna give you the guide to this. we're gonna give you the guide to this. Um, so you are aware that, you know, you Um, so you are aware that, you know, you Um, so you are aware that, you know, you can kind of just now focus on what he's can kind of just now focus on what he's can kind of just now focus on what he's saying uh to take away pearls, but you saying uh to take away pearls, but you saying uh to take away pearls, but you will actually have access to a guide um will actually have access to a guide um will actually have access to a guide um with all of the specific questions so with all of the specific questions so with all of the specific questions so that you can you can either do my style that you can you can either do my style that you can you can either do my style of the storytelling or you could do Dr. of the storytelling or you could do Dr. of the storytelling or you could do Dr. next style which is more specific next style which is more specific next style which is more specific questions about specific categories questions about specific categories questions about specific categories and you know once once you know it's and you know once once you know it's and you know once once you know it's congruent it's um let's play ball congruent it's um let's play ball congruent it's um let's play ball well and I also think that you know at well and I also think that you know at well and I also think that you know at the end of the day the end of the day the end of the day one of the other links that we'll have one of the other links that we'll have one of the other links that we'll have here is if you are like the story one here is if you are like the story one here is if you are like the story one really vibes with me and I think that really vibes with me and I think that really vibes with me and I think that would be great but you start the process would be great but you start the process would be great but you start the process and you get really stuck you really need and you get really stuck you really need and you get really stuck you really need to to to do your values. Like it it's it's at the do your values. Like it it's it's at the do your values. Like it it's it's at the foundation of all of our planning that foundation of all of our planning that foundation of all of our planning that we do for ourselves, for our family, for we do for ourselves, for our family, for we do for ourselves, for our family, for our business is all rooted in alignment our business is all rooted in alignment our business is all rooted in alignment to the values. And anytime that we have to the values. And anytime that we have to the values. And anytime that we have start creating a laundry list of start creating a laundry list of start creating a laundry list of different goals or business initiatives different goals or business initiatives different goals or business initiatives or big decisions that need to be made, or big decisions that need to be made, or big decisions that need to be made, we cross reference it back to check how we cross reference it back to check how we cross reference it back to check how aligned it is with our values. It's like aligned it is with our values. It's like aligned it is with our values. It's like the vacations we take are dictated by the vacations we take are dictated by the vacations we take are dictated by our values. Like it's I think people our values. Like it's I think people our values. Like it's I think people just don't understand like how you can just don't understand like how you can just don't understand like how you can you can literally create a frame your you can literally create a frame your you can literally create a frame your own personal framework that you apply to own personal framework that you apply to own personal framework that you apply to your life that allows you to maximize your life that allows you to maximize your life that allows you to maximize your time, your money, your energy, and your time, your money, your energy, and your time, your money, your energy, and it allows you to make big and bold it allows you to make big and bold it allows you to make big and bold decisions with confidence. Like that is decisions with confidence. Like that is decisions with confidence. Like that is one of the the biggest uh avenues of one of the the biggest uh avenues of one of the the biggest uh avenues of freedom that anybody could ask for. So I freedom that anybody could ask for. So I freedom that anybody could ask for. So I I do want you guys to keep in mind that I do want you guys to keep in mind that I do want you guys to keep in mind that knowing who you are at your core and knowing who you are at your core and knowing who you are at your core and knowing what you value the most and what knowing what you value the most and what knowing what you value the most and what is absolutely most important to you is is absolutely most important to you is is absolutely most important to you is is the the guiding force behind creating is the the guiding force behind creating is the the guiding force behind creating goals, mapping your year, mapping your goals, mapping your year, mapping your goals, mapping your year, mapping your next five years. next five years. next five years. And so the main thing that I want to say And so the main thing that I want to say And so the main thing that I want to say is you need to know your values. Number is you need to know your values. Number is you need to know your values. Number one. Number two, if you have not tapp one. Number two, if you have not tapp one. Number two, if you have not tapp tapped into your creative juices in a tapped into your creative juices in a tapped into your creative juices in a really long time and you have way too really long time and you have way too really long time and you have way too many [  ] limiting beliefs or shitty many [  ] limiting beliefs or shitty many [  ] limiting beliefs or shitty people in your [  ] ear telling you people in your [  ] ear telling you people in your [  ] ear telling you that you can't, you can't, you can't, that you can't, you can't, you can't, that you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, then like my you can't, you can't, then like my you can't, you can't, then like my version, you're probably not going to be version, you're probably not going to be version, you're probably not going to be able to do. I don't think I would have able to do. I don't think I would have able to do. I don't think I would have been able to do my version 5 years ago, been able to do my version 5 years ago, been able to do my version 5 years ago, which is sitting down and saying this is which is sitting down and saying this is which is sitting down and saying this is the badass that I want to be. This is the badass that I want to be. This is the badass that I want to be. This is what I want my relationship to look what I want my relationship to look what I want my relationship to look like. This is the amount of money that I like. This is the amount of money that I like. This is the amount of money that I want to have. and know that I will want to have. and know that I will want to have. and know that I will create it. Like that took took me a long create it. Like that took took me a long create it. Like that took took me a long time. time. time. But one of the things that Nick didn't But one of the things that Nick didn't But one of the things that Nick didn't share um that was part of both of our share um that was part of both of our share um that was part of both of our process um was also reflecting on the process um was also reflecting on the process um was also reflecting on the year prior. So no matter where you are year prior. So no matter where you are year prior. So no matter where you are in your journey, looking at knowing the in your journey, looking at knowing the in your journey, looking at knowing the the the mind and human behavior, it's the the mind and human behavior, it's the the mind and human behavior, it's looking at like what didn't work could looking at like what didn't work could looking at like what didn't work could be a starting place for those of you be a starting place for those of you be a starting place for those of you that haven't tapped into creativity. You that haven't tapped into creativity. You that haven't tapped into creativity. You haven't tapped into vision because you haven't tapped into vision because you haven't tapped into vision because you just feel chaotic and stuck and just feel chaotic and stuck and just feel chaotic and stuck and overwhelmed and you think it's like, overwhelmed and you think it's like, overwhelmed and you think it's like, "Oh, cool podcast, guys. That's not for "Oh, cool podcast, guys. That's not for "Oh, cool podcast, guys. That's not for me. That can't happen for me." Like, me. That can't happen for me." Like, me. That can't happen for me." Like, yes, it can. and get out of your own yes, it can. and get out of your own yes, it can. and get out of your own [  ] way. Love you. [  ] way. Love you. [  ] way. Love you. But start with what didn't [  ] work. But start with what didn't [  ] work. But start with what didn't [  ] work. Because if you're in that mindset, I'm Because if you're in that mindset, I'm Because if you're in that mindset, I'm sure you have a laundry list of what sure you have a laundry list of what sure you have a laundry list of what didn't work. And if you use that didn't work. And if you use that didn't work. And if you use that information through this guide that information through this guide that information through this guide that we've created, this framework that we've we've created, this framework that we've we've created, this framework that we've created, you can then understand why created, you can then understand why created, you can then understand why it's not working. Understand it's not working. Understand it's not working. Understand the root of it and then also choose a the root of it and then also choose a the root of it and then also choose a new level of tolerance. Choose a new new level of tolerance. Choose a new new level of tolerance. Choose a new path. Choose a new pattern and shift path. Choose a new pattern and shift path. Choose a new pattern and shift that as you move into this year and that as you move into this year and that as you move into this year and beyond. Boom. Boom. Boom. I was like, does he have anything else I was like, does he have anything else I was like, does he have anything else he's gonna say? All right, guys. So, we he's gonna say? All right, guys. So, we he's gonna say? All right, guys. So, we are going to give you access to this are going to give you access to this are going to give you access to this framework. framework. framework. Use it. Use it. Use it. Don't use it once. Come back to it. If Don't use it once. Come back to it. If Don't use it once. Come back to it. If you create goals and you never [  ] you create goals and you never [  ] you create goals and you never [  ] look at them again, it it just don't look at them again, it it just don't look at them again, it it just don't even do it. Just don't even bother. even do it. Just don't even bother. even do it. Just don't even bother. Literally, we have a giant calendar that Literally, we have a giant calendar that Literally, we have a giant calendar that is six feet wide that has our entire is six feet wide that has our entire is six feet wide that has our entire year mapped out. If that's overwhelming year mapped out. If that's overwhelming year mapped out. If that's overwhelming to you, do the next month to three to you, do the next month to three to you, do the next month to three months. We also have a whiteboard where months. We also have a whiteboard where months. We also have a whiteboard where we have all of the major things that we have all of the major things that we have all of the major things that we're doing and not doing as a reminder. we're doing and not doing as a reminder. we're doing and not doing as a reminder. The more [  ] is in your face that you The more [  ] is in your face that you The more [  ] is in your face that you see it over and over again, put it on see it over and over again, put it on see it over and over again, put it on the back screen of your phone. put it the back screen of your phone. put it the back screen of your phone. put it somewhere you're going to see it. Put it somewhere you're going to see it. Put it somewhere you're going to see it. Put it on your desk. Put it on your on your uh on your desk. Put it on your on your uh on your desk. Put it on your on your uh desktop and and just put it there so desktop and and just put it there so desktop and and just put it there so that you could see it every time you that you could see it every time you that you could see it every time you have to go to work on your computer. have to go to work on your computer. have to go to work on your computer. Whatever it is, just make sure that you Whatever it is, just make sure that you Whatever it is, just make sure that you revisit it over and over and over and revisit it over and over and over and revisit it over and over and over and over again. And the [  ] best feeling over again. And the [  ] best feeling over again. And the [  ] best feeling in the world is when you go back and you in the world is when you go back and you in the world is when you go back and you reread your goals or you reread that reread your goals or you reread that reread your goals or you reread that story and you go, "Holy [  ] I did it." story and you go, "Holy [  ] I did it." story and you go, "Holy [  ] I did it." Like all of it came to fruition. That's Like all of it came to fruition. That's Like all of it came to fruition. That's really such a powerful moment. And and really such a powerful moment. And and really such a powerful moment. And and then you just keep capitalizing on that then you just keep capitalizing on that then you just keep capitalizing on that and compounding from there. and compounding from there. and compounding from there. So, I hope that this was uh you know, So, I hope that this was uh you know, So, I hope that this was uh you know, started out as we [  ] on your dreams started out as we [  ] on your dreams started out as we [ __ ] on your dreams and now we're inspiring you. All right, we'll see you on the next All right, we'll see you on the next All right, we'll see you on the next one. Oh, one. Oh, one. Oh, yep. yep. yep. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh, no. All right, come on. One pearl. One All right, come on. One pearl. One All right, come on. One pearl. One pearl. pearl. pearl. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. We're good. Okay, we're gonna leave it We're good. Okay, we're gonna leave it We're good. Okay, we're gonna leave it at that.