Why Social Media Triggers FOMO: What To Do | Webinar

Hey everyone, welcome back to another Hey everyone, welcome back to another Hey everyone, welcome back to another episode of Integrative View Radio. For episode of Integrative View Radio. For episode of Integrative View Radio. For those of you joining us on YouTube, you those of you joining us on YouTube, you those of you joining us on YouTube, you are now literally the the lighting in are now literally the the lighting in are now literally the the lighting in front of me was perfect and now I'm front of me was perfect and now I'm front of me was perfect and now I'm being blinded by the sun. So, here we being blinded by the sun. So, here we being blinded by the sun. So, here we are. But we're going to roll with it are. But we're going to roll with it are. But we're going to roll with it until it makes my eyes hurt. until it makes my eyes hurt. until it makes my eyes hurt. We have uh Dr. Nick here and we're We have uh Dr. Nick here and we're We have uh Dr. Nick here and we're talking about a little bit about our talking about a little bit about our talking about a little bit about our experience in moving to Italy, but just experience in moving to Italy, but just experience in moving to Italy, but just a different perspective on it. And a different perspective on it. And a different perspective on it. And primarily it was stimulated by actually primarily it was stimulated by actually primarily it was stimulated by actually a social media post that I saw and a social media post that I saw and a social media post that I saw and honestly a bit of my personal experience honestly a bit of my personal experience honestly a bit of my personal experience on social media. But for those of you on social media. But for those of you on social media. But for those of you that know her or don't, Lorie Harter, that know her or don't, Lorie Harter, that know her or don't, Lorie Harter, she's a she's a she's a uh I don't want to call her an uh I don't want to call her an uh I don't want to call her an influencer. She does have a a big influencer. She does have a a big influencer. She does have a a big following, but she does a lot of following, but she does a lot of following, but she does a lot of business coaching with her husband and business coaching with her husband and business coaching with her husband and she puts a lot of really great content she puts a lot of really great content she puts a lot of really great content out there when it comes to business out there when it comes to business out there when it comes to business development, personal development. And I development, personal development. And I development, personal development. And I sent her a DM just being like, "Hey sent her a DM just being like, "Hey sent her a DM just being like, "Hey girl, I feel you." Because she she girl, I feel you." Because she she girl, I feel you." Because she she posted something saying, "Hey guys, you posted something saying, "Hey guys, you posted something saying, "Hey guys, you know, I've been looking at my stats here know, I've been looking at my stats here know, I've been looking at my stats here and the most engagement that I'm getting and the most engagement that I'm getting and the most engagement that I'm getting is when I post about my my clothing or is when I post about my my clothing or is when I post about my my clothing or fashion." fashion." fashion." And I was laughing because we have a And I was laughing because we have a And I was laughing because we have a similar experience when we're looking at similar experience when we're looking at similar experience when we're looking at the statistics of our social media is, the statistics of our social media is, the statistics of our social media is, you know, we pour our heart and soul you know, we pour our heart and soul you know, we pour our heart and soul into this amazing content and podcast, into this amazing content and podcast, into this amazing content and podcast, etc. And it's usually when we post etc. And it's usually when we post etc. And it's usually when we post different things about Quentin. We post different things about Quentin. We post different things about Quentin. We post food that we eat here in Italy. I was food that we eat here in Italy. I was food that we eat here in Italy. I was going to say 100% food, but I mean it's going to say 100% food, but I mean it's going to say 100% food, but I mean it's also Italian food. So, and it was uh it also Italian food. So, and it was uh it also Italian food. So, and it was uh it was just very funny because she's just was just very funny because she's just was just very funny because she's just like, "Listen, I hear you. I'm gonna I'm like, "Listen, I hear you. I'm gonna I'm like, "Listen, I hear you. I'm gonna I'm gonna now blend my my fashion passion gonna now blend my my fashion passion gonna now blend my my fashion passion with with amazing content so I can give with with amazing content so I can give with with amazing content so I can give you both benefits." you both benefits." you both benefits." And you know, as content producers, we And you know, as content producers, we And you know, as content producers, we can look at this from two different can look at this from two different can look at this from two different perspectives. Like we can look at this perspectives. Like we can look at this perspectives. Like we can look at this from the glass half empty and say, "Oh from the glass half empty and say, "Oh from the glass half empty and say, "Oh gosh, people don't care about in-depth gosh, people don't care about in-depth gosh, people don't care about in-depth topics. They just care about, you know, topics. They just care about, you know, topics. They just care about, you know, fashion and and superficial desires fashion and and superficial desires fashion and and superficial desires and beauty and glamorous events." I and beauty and glamorous events." I and beauty and glamorous events." I know. Listen, I'm saying this very know. Listen, I'm saying this very know. Listen, I'm saying this very vulnerably because in the past that vulnerably because in the past that vulnerably because in the past that would have been my, you know, my would have been my, you know, my would have been my, you know, my response of like people don't care about response of like people don't care about response of like people don't care about their health, they just care about, you their health, they just care about, you their health, they just care about, you know, things. And really at the end of know, things. And really at the end of know, things. And really at the end of the day, Nick and I started having a the day, Nick and I started having a the day, Nick and I started having a conversation about this and what we conversation about this and what we conversation about this and what we realized, and this is partly stems from realized, and this is partly stems from realized, and this is partly stems from our move to Italy, is that our move to Italy, is that our move to Italy, is that the things that people are engaging with the things that people are engaging with the things that people are engaging with on social platforms on social platforms on social platforms are depictions or real life captures of are depictions or real life captures of are depictions or real life captures of people living just like living life. The people living just like living life. The people living just like living life. The assumption, yeah, it's going to give assumption, yeah, it's going to give assumption, yeah, it's going to give them them them the the feeling of living, you know? the the feeling of living, you know? the the feeling of living, you know? Yeah. It's It was interesting when you Yeah. It's It was interesting when you Yeah. It's It was interesting when you said that and I like stopped and think said that and I like stopped and think said that and I like stopped and think I'm like, well, yeah, that makes perfect I'm like, well, yeah, that makes perfect I'm like, well, yeah, that makes perfect sense because people, you know, doesn't sense because people, you know, doesn't sense because people, you know, doesn't matter if you're matter if you're matter if you're anytime that you're not experiencing anytime that you're not experiencing anytime that you're not experiencing like being in the moment. It's you want like being in the moment. It's you want like being in the moment. It's you want to experience being in the moment. And to experience being in the moment. And to experience being in the moment. And most of the time we're not in the moment most of the time we're not in the moment most of the time we're not in the moment cuz we're judging the past or you know cuz we're judging the past or you know cuz we're judging the past or you know wanting desiring something in the wanting desiring something in the wanting desiring something in the future. So when we're scrolling future. So when we're scrolling future. So when we're scrolling mindlessly through the social media it's mindlessly through the social media it's mindlessly through the social media it's like unconsciously that's what we're like unconsciously that's what we're like unconsciously that's what we're trying to do. It's like we're trying to trying to do. It's like we're trying to trying to do. It's like we're trying to experience living in the moment while experience living in the moment while experience living in the moment while not being in the moment. As funny as not being in the moment. As funny as not being in the moment. As funny as that sounds. You know, it's funny that sounds. You know, it's funny that sounds. You know, it's funny because our very good friend Bailey was because our very good friend Bailey was because our very good friend Bailey was here, and you probably have no idea what here, and you probably have no idea what here, and you probably have no idea what direction I'm going with this right now, direction I'm going with this right now, direction I'm going with this right now, but Bailey loves to tell the story of but Bailey loves to tell the story of but Bailey loves to tell the story of how um I finally told her like a I don't how um I finally told her like a I don't how um I finally told her like a I don't even know, maybe a month or a couple of even know, maybe a month or a couple of even know, maybe a month or a couple of months in to our friendship that I told months in to our friendship that I told months in to our friendship that I told her when I first met her, I didn't like her when I first met her, I didn't like her when I first met her, I didn't like her. She loves to tell everyone that her. She loves to tell everyone that her. She loves to tell everyone that story. And story. And story. And uh I bring this up primarily because the uh I bring this up primarily because the uh I bring this up primarily because the reason why I didn't like quote unquote reason why I didn't like quote unquote reason why I didn't like quote unquote like her when I first met her is because like her when I first met her is because like her when I first met her is because she came into our office, you know, we she came into our office, you know, we she came into our office, you know, we were networking, just meeting each other were networking, just meeting each other were networking, just meeting each other as entrepreneurs in the New Jersey area as entrepreneurs in the New Jersey area as entrepreneurs in the New Jersey area and she was talking about her she just and she was talking about her she just and she was talking about her she just got back from California and you know got back from California and you know got back from California and you know she talked a little bit about how she she talked a little bit about how she she talked a little bit about how she does a lot of traveling. She splits time does a lot of traveling. She splits time does a lot of traveling. She splits time in three different places through the in three different places through the in three different places through the year and this and that. And in that year and this and that. And in that year and this and that. And in that moment in in my life, you know, we both moment in in my life, you know, we both moment in in my life, you know, we both were in it together. But we had a were in it together. But we had a were in it together. But we had a business, we had a brick-andmortar, you business, we had a brick-andmortar, you business, we had a brick-andmortar, you know, there was a a lack of freedom for know, there was a a lack of freedom for know, there was a a lack of freedom for many different reasons, but partly many different reasons, but partly many different reasons, but partly because, you know, we had this business, because, you know, we had this business, because, you know, we had this business, we were growing a business, we had bills we were growing a business, we had bills we were growing a business, we had bills to pay and and whatnot. And I bring this to pay and and whatnot. And I bring this to pay and and whatnot. And I bring this up primarily because when we scroll on up primarily because when we scroll on up primarily because when we scroll on social media, we need to get out. We social media, we need to get out. We social media, we need to get out. We need to get away from that train of need to get away from that train of need to get away from that train of thinking of, oh, good for you with that. thinking of, oh, good for you with that. thinking of, oh, good for you with that. I can't afford those clothes. I can't I can't afford those clothes. I can't I can't afford those clothes. I can't afford to travel. I don't have time to afford to travel. I don't have time to afford to travel. I don't have time to travel. I can't travel. I have four travel. I can't travel. I have four travel. I can't travel. I have four kids. We could play that game and turn kids. We could play that game and turn kids. We could play that game and turn in turn the desire into a um in turn the desire into a um in turn the desire into a um a void like a deficit. Or we can look at a void like a deficit. Or we can look at a void like a deficit. Or we can look at it and say, "Wow, this is a feedback it and say, "Wow, this is a feedback it and say, "Wow, this is a feedback mechanism to show me the parts of me or mechanism to show me the parts of me or mechanism to show me the parts of me or the parts of life that I'm suppressing the parts of life that I'm suppressing the parts of life that I'm suppressing because I quote unquote have things to because I quote unquote have things to because I quote unquote have things to do and bills to pay and a job to have. do and bills to pay and a job to have. do and bills to pay and a job to have. Well, and I would say it's not it's not Well, and I would say it's not it's not Well, and I would say it's not it's not necessarily a bad thing looking at it as necessarily a bad thing looking at it as necessarily a bad thing looking at it as everything's halftruth because it shows everything's halftruth because it shows everything's halftruth because it shows awareness. Uh, which is amazing. But the awareness. Uh, which is amazing. But the awareness. Uh, which is amazing. But the I think the sad truth of it is like how I think the sad truth of it is like how I think the sad truth of it is like how many times do we have to go through many times do we have to go through many times do we have to go through getting that awareness to make a change getting that awareness to make a change getting that awareness to make a change cuz we just we're like, oh, you know, cuz we just we're like, oh, you know, cuz we just we're like, oh, you know, let's escape to this. This is going to let's escape to this. This is going to let's escape to this. This is going to make my life better. you know whether it make my life better. you know whether it make my life better. you know whether it it's a true thing that you know I should it's a true thing that you know I should it's a true thing that you know I should turn that into a goal and stop putting turn that into a goal and stop putting turn that into a goal and stop putting my time on social media and actually my time on social media and actually my time on social media and actually start achieving the the micro steps to start achieving the the micro steps to start achieving the the micro steps to achieve this goal. I got that awareness achieve this goal. I got that awareness achieve this goal. I got that awareness initially from, you know, a lack of initially from, you know, a lack of initially from, you know, a lack of sensation through social media or is it sensation through social media or is it sensation through social media or is it just, you know, I'm escaping to get this just, you know, I'm escaping to get this just, you know, I'm escaping to get this dopamine dopamine dopamine um detachment and you know, anything um detachment and you know, anything um detachment and you know, anything that we understand through that that we understand through that that we understand through that psychosmatic model. It's like if you're psychosmatic model. It's like if you're psychosmatic model. It's like if you're detaching from your life, well, you're detaching from your life, well, you're detaching from your life, well, you're just telling yourself that you don't just telling yourself that you don't just telling yourself that you don't love yourself enough to be in it. So, love yourself enough to be in it. So, love yourself enough to be in it. So, you're going to do something to detach you're going to do something to detach you're going to do something to detach from it. And that has a lot of negative from it. And that has a lot of negative from it. And that has a lot of negative side effects. Well, I think it goes back side effects. Well, I think it goes back side effects. Well, I think it goes back to the phrase if you think you can or to the phrase if you think you can or to the phrase if you think you can or you think you can't, either way, you're you think you can't, either way, you're you think you can't, either way, you're right. And you know it comes down to if right. And you know it comes down to if right. And you know it comes down to if we're if we're scrolling and we are we're if we're scrolling and we are we're if we're scrolling and we are attracted to the fashion and you have to attracted to the fashion and you have to attracted to the fashion and you have to ask yourself you know are you attracted ask yourself you know are you attracted ask yourself you know are you attracted to the fashion because you want to to the fashion because you want to to the fashion because you want to uh you know you you want to have certain uh you know you you want to have certain uh you know you you want to have certain clothes that quote unquote make you uh clothes that quote unquote make you uh clothes that quote unquote make you uh viewed that you have a specific status viewed that you have a specific status viewed that you have a specific status or do you like fashion because you know or do you like fashion because you know or do you like fashion because you know that would get you up and get you out of that would get you up and get you out of that would get you up and get you out of your house get you feeling confident to your house get you feeling confident to your house get you feeling confident to go out and have conversations and go out and have conversations and go out and have conversations and network and engage and dance on a bar. I network and engage and dance on a bar. I network and engage and dance on a bar. I don't know. don't know. don't know. You know, are you attracted to food, but You know, are you attracted to food, but You know, are you attracted to food, but you're more so attracted to food from you're more so attracted to food from you're more so attracted to food from different cultures? And it's because at different cultures? And it's because at different cultures? And it's because at the root of it, you really want to the root of it, you really want to the root of it, you really want to travel. You want to experience different travel. You want to experience different travel. You want to experience different places and experience, you know, uh places and experience, you know, uh places and experience, you know, uh different forms of of dining. You know, different forms of of dining. You know, different forms of of dining. You know, I think that's one of the things that we I think that's one of the things that we I think that's one of the things that we were attracted to in in Italy. It wasn't were attracted to in in Italy. It wasn't were attracted to in in Italy. It wasn't about just the food. It was about the about just the food. It was about the about just the food. It was about the experience of the food. And you know, experience of the food. And you know, experience of the food. And you know, when you're when you're navigating, you when you're when you're navigating, you when you're when you're navigating, you can either it's exa it's exactly what can either it's exa it's exactly what can either it's exa it's exactly what you're saying. I'm just saying it in a you're saying. I'm just saying it in a you're saying. I'm just saying it in a different way. Is you can sit there and different way. Is you can sit there and different way. Is you can sit there and say, "Good for them. I wish I could do say, "Good for them. I wish I could do say, "Good for them. I wish I could do that." And and further that scarcity that." And and further that scarcity that." And and further that scarcity or you can say, "I'm going to make that or you can say, "I'm going to make that or you can say, "I'm going to make that happen." because anything is possible. happen." because anything is possible. happen." because anything is possible. You know, you can we can play the game You know, you can we can play the game You know, you can we can play the game of well, it's really hard to travel with of well, it's really hard to travel with of well, it's really hard to travel with kids. There are families that that's kids. There are families that that's kids. There are families that that's what they do. They're they there's a what they do. They're they there's a what they do. They're they there's a whole if you if you go in and type it whole if you if you go in and type it whole if you if you go in and type it into social media, there are traveling into social media, there are traveling into social media, there are traveling families. They're traveling. Some of families. They're traveling. Some of families. They're traveling. Some of them are traveling with up to five kids, them are traveling with up to five kids, them are traveling with up to five kids, six kids, and like that's their six kids, and like that's their six kids, and like that's their lifestyle. So, it's all possible, but lifestyle. So, it's all possible, but lifestyle. So, it's all possible, but it's really just a matter of are you it's really just a matter of are you it's really just a matter of are you going to take the action steps in order going to take the action steps in order going to take the action steps in order to bring it to life? And you know, and to bring it to life? And you know, and to bring it to life? And you know, and obviously you bring it to life if if obviously you bring it to life if if obviously you bring it to life if if it's a if it's a big enough want, desire it's a if it's a big enough want, desire it's a if it's a big enough want, desire or or even void, I guess you can say. or or even void, I guess you can say. or or even void, I guess you can say. So, it's like we need to stop putting So, it's like we need to stop putting So, it's like we need to stop putting these limitations on ourselves of I these limitations on ourselves of I these limitations on ourselves of I can't because what the [  ] are you can't because what the [  ] are you can't because what the [  ] are you waiting for? You know, we did a podcast waiting for? You know, we did a podcast waiting for? You know, we did a podcast about the people that retire that they about the people that retire that they about the people that retire that they say, "Oh, I'm g I'm waiting till I say, "Oh, I'm g I'm waiting till I say, "Oh, I'm g I'm waiting till I retire." And then they get sick or they retire." And then they get sick or they retire." And then they get sick or they die. The statistics are crazy with that. die. The statistics are crazy with that. die. The statistics are crazy with that. I think one of the biggest things that I think one of the biggest things that I think one of the biggest things that holds us back from the I can is um holds us back from the I can is um holds us back from the I can is um pertaining to social media is going pertaining to social media is going pertaining to social media is going through and it's like oh well I could do through and it's like oh well I could do through and it's like oh well I could do that and I can do that and I can do that that and I can do that and I can do that that and I can do that and I can do that and you can doing something but not and you can doing something but not and you can doing something but not doing something pretty much doing something pretty much doing something pretty much strengthens the opposite side as well of strengthens the opposite side as well of strengthens the opposite side as well of you not being able to do something. And you not being able to do something. And you not being able to do something. And you could, if you could do those things, you could, if you could do those things, you could, if you could do those things, the only reason you're not is because the only reason you're not is because the only reason you're not is because it's actually not in alignment for you. it's actually not in alignment for you. it's actually not in alignment for you. Otherwise, you'd be doing it. So then Otherwise, you'd be doing it. So then Otherwise, you'd be doing it. So then you look at, okay, well, I'm not doing you look at, okay, well, I'm not doing you look at, okay, well, I'm not doing something. I said I could be doing something. I said I could be doing something. I said I could be doing something, but that's actually creating something, but that's actually creating something, but that's actually creating the brakes on what I should be doing, the brakes on what I should be doing, the brakes on what I should be doing, but I'm not. but I'm not. but I'm not. [Music] [Music] [Music] should and want are are two very very should and want are are two very very should and want are are two very very different things. But, you know, different things. But, you know, different things. But, you know, kind of circling this back to the the kind of circling this back to the the kind of circling this back to the the bigger picture of what we're talking bigger picture of what we're talking bigger picture of what we're talking about of this idea of living. about of this idea of living. about of this idea of living. You know, this is piggybacking off of You know, this is piggybacking off of You know, this is piggybacking off of the should and the wants and the have the should and the wants and the have the should and the wants and the have toss is toss is toss is so many of us and us as well. We're so many of us and us as well. We're so many of us and us as well. We're speaking about ourselves in in this speaking about ourselves in in this speaking about ourselves in in this context is context is context is not only were we living a life of doing not only were we living a life of doing not only were we living a life of doing slashchieving, but that's what we felt like we had to but that's what we felt like we had to but that's what we felt like we had to do like that was the normal. You know, do like that was the normal. You know, do like that was the normal. You know, you I don't know about the audience, but you I don't know about the audience, but you I don't know about the audience, but I didn't really grow up with language or I didn't really grow up with language or I didn't really grow up with language or dialogue that life is about living and dialogue that life is about living and dialogue that life is about living and fun and enjoyment and pleasure and fun and enjoyment and pleasure and fun and enjoyment and pleasure and experience. Like, I grew up with the experience. Like, I grew up with the experience. Like, I grew up with the mindset that life is hard, life is a mindset that life is hard, life is a mindset that life is hard, life is a struggle, and you have to do things that struggle, and you have to do things that struggle, and you have to do things that you don't always want to do because you don't always want to do because you don't always want to do because that's what life is. that's what life is. that's what life is. And I and I we're millennial. That's And I and I we're millennial. That's And I and I we're millennial. That's like something I want to sign up for. like something I want to sign up for. like something I want to sign up for. Yeah. Well, we talked about this a Yeah. Well, we talked about this a Yeah. Well, we talked about this a little bit, too. I'll take two of those, little bit, too. I'll take two of those, little bit, too. I'll take two of those, please. Can I take you put me down for please. Can I take you put me down for please. Can I take you put me down for two? Well, we were we were talking about two? Well, we were we were talking about two? Well, we were we were talking about the divide of we're millennials. Our the divide of we're millennials. Our the divide of we're millennials. Our parents were boomers and we were talking parents were boomers and we were talking parents were boomers and we were talking about the Gen Zers in a previous podcast about the Gen Zers in a previous podcast about the Gen Zers in a previous podcast and we were we were talking about the and we were we were talking about the and we were we were talking about the divide because the the hustle work your divide because the the hustle work your divide because the the hustle work your 9to-5 you know get your pension and get 9to-5 you know get your pension and get 9to-5 you know get your pension and get your retirement and and like that that your retirement and and like that that your retirement and and like that that was so polarized and it created a lot of was so polarized and it created a lot of was so polarized and it created a lot of unhappy unhealthy people that the unhappy unhealthy people that the unhappy unhealthy people that the Jenzers just watched and they go I'm not Jenzers just watched and they go I'm not Jenzers just watched and they go I'm not [  ] doing bad. [  ] doing bad. [  ] doing bad. Like, no, I'm good. And especially Jim's Like, no, I'm good. And especially Jim's Like, no, I'm good. And especially Jim's ears remind me of that scene of uh ears remind me of that scene of uh ears remind me of that scene of uh Sandra Bulock in the heat when she flips Sandra Bulock in the heat when she flips Sandra Bulock in the heat when she flips off and all the all the cops. She's off and all the all the cops. She's off and all the all the cops. She's like, "Jerks, you're just a bunch of like, "Jerks, you're just a bunch of like, "Jerks, you're just a bunch of jerks. [  ] jerks. Jerks. Love that jerks. [  ] jerks. Jerks. Love that jerks. [  ] jerks. Jerks. Love that movie." Um, but yeah, but it's it's movie." Um, but yeah, but it's it's movie." Um, but yeah, but it's it's just, you know, I I'm not saying the just, you know, I I'm not saying the just, you know, I I'm not saying the Jenzers have it figured out by any Jenzers have it figured out by any Jenzers have it figured out by any means, but I think that they're they're means, but I think that they're they're means, but I think that they're they're leveraging these online platforms like leveraging these online platforms like leveraging these online platforms like YouTube and social media and Tik Tok. YouTube and social media and Tik Tok. YouTube and social media and Tik Tok. Um, you know, they want to be Um, you know, they want to be Um, you know, they want to be influencers because they want freedom influencers because they want freedom influencers because they want freedom and they want to be able to not just and they want to be able to not just and they want to be able to not just dedicate their whole lives to working. dedicate their whole lives to working. dedicate their whole lives to working. They actually want to live. And and I They actually want to live. And and I They actually want to live. And and I I'm not saying if you ask the general J I'm not saying if you ask the general J I'm not saying if you ask the general J gen Jenzir, that's the exact verbiage gen Jenzir, that's the exact verbiage gen Jenzir, that's the exact verbiage coming out of their mouth, but if you coming out of their mouth, but if you coming out of their mouth, but if you look at the big picture, the grand look at the big picture, the grand look at the big picture, the grand scheme of things, that's really what it scheme of things, that's really what it scheme of things, that's really what it comes down to. And you know, since we've comes down to. And you know, since we've comes down to. And you know, since we've moved to Italy, of course, we have so moved to Italy, of course, we have so moved to Italy, of course, we have so many people reach out to us of like, many people reach out to us of like, many people reach out to us of like, you're my inspiration. I wanted to do you're my inspiration. I wanted to do you're my inspiration. I wanted to do that. It's on my list. I'm going to make that. It's on my list. I'm going to make that. It's on my list. I'm going to make it happen in 10 years. And people are it happen in 10 years. And people are it happen in 10 years. And people are saying these things and and again it saying these things and and again it saying these things and and again it goes back to that desire of I want to goes back to that desire of I want to goes back to that desire of I want to live. I want to experience. live. I want to experience. live. I want to experience. I'm tired of just doing and going and I'm tired of just doing and going and I'm tired of just doing and going and neverending to-do lists. neverending to-do lists. neverending to-do lists. Yeah. And that doesn't mean you have to Yeah. And that doesn't mean you have to Yeah. And that doesn't mean you have to move, you know, across the world to move, you know, across the world to move, you know, across the world to achieve that. But if that's in alignment achieve that. But if that's in alignment achieve that. But if that's in alignment with with you as well as with the with with you as well as with the with with you as well as with the family, then Yeah. Like when you look at family, then Yeah. Like when you look at family, then Yeah. Like when you look at families, big families, any families families, big families, any families families, big families, any families that travel, that travel, that travel, they go through pain. We all go through they go through pain. We all go through they go through pain. We all go through pain. But the only reason they're doing pain. But the only reason they're doing pain. But the only reason they're doing it is because that pain isn't bigger it is because that pain isn't bigger it is because that pain isn't bigger than the joy they get out of traveling. than the joy they get out of traveling. than the joy they get out of traveling. So, and that joy is because that's So, and that joy is because that's So, and that joy is because that's serving the family's values and the serving the family's values and the serving the family's values and the parents values. So, if traveling isn't parents values. So, if traveling isn't parents values. So, if traveling isn't connected to a high value or what you connected to a high value or what you connected to a high value or what you get out of traveling isn't connected to get out of traveling isn't connected to get out of traveling isn't connected to a high value and you go travel with a a high value and you go travel with a a high value and you go travel with a family because that's what you're family because that's what you're family because that's what you're supposed to do, etc. Well, there's going supposed to do, etc. Well, there's going supposed to do, etc. Well, there's going to be it's not going to be worth it. to be it's not going to be worth it. to be it's not going to be worth it. There's going to be a lot of pain. So, There's going to be a lot of pain. So, There's going to be a lot of pain. So, it's it's not just scrolling through and it's it's not just scrolling through and it's it's not just scrolling through and like, "Oh my god, that looks like it like, "Oh my god, that looks like it like, "Oh my god, that looks like it would be amazing." Regground yourself would be amazing." Regground yourself would be amazing." Regground yourself and be like, "Well, this could be and and be like, "Well, this could be and and be like, "Well, this could be and looks like looks like it's just a looks like looks like it's just a looks like looks like it's just a picture. God knows what's really picture. God knows what's really picture. God knows what's really happening, happening, happening, but this looks like they're living an but this looks like they're living an but this looks like they're living an authentic great life. authentic great life. authentic great life. Awesome. We can ex we can still feel Awesome. We can ex we can still feel Awesome. We can ex we can still feel that joy through them, which is also that joy through them, which is also that joy through them, which is also awesome. But that doesn't mean we should awesome. But that doesn't mean we should awesome. But that doesn't mean we should make that how we make that how we make that how we create our joy. And I think that's a big create our joy. And I think that's a big create our joy. And I think that's a big misunderstanding for people is like, oh, misunderstanding for people is like, oh, misunderstanding for people is like, oh, that's how they receive joy. you know, that's how they receive joy. you know, that's how they receive joy. you know, I've been taught if I want to receive I've been taught if I want to receive I've been taught if I want to receive joy, just do what somebody else does. joy, just do what somebody else does. joy, just do what somebody else does. Well, yeah, you can do that in a Well, yeah, you can do that in a Well, yeah, you can do that in a business to make money, etc. But that's business to make money, etc. But that's business to make money, etc. But that's still wrong based on our philosophy still wrong based on our philosophy still wrong based on our philosophy because your business is just a because your business is just a because your business is just a representation of you. So, if you're representation of you. So, if you're representation of you. So, if you're creating a business built off of how creating a business built off of how creating a business built off of how somebody else created it, it's probably somebody else created it, it's probably somebody else created it, it's probably not going to be in line with your not going to be in line with your not going to be in line with your vision. Um, different story, but no, I vision. Um, different story, but no, I vision. Um, different story, but no, I think it's I think it's relevant. think it's I think it's relevant. think it's I think it's relevant. Raising a family raising a family is the Raising a family raising a family is the Raising a family raising a family is the same way. You know, it's just like look same way. You know, it's just like look same way. You know, it's just like look how maybe somebody created and achieved how maybe somebody created and achieved how maybe somebody created and achieved that authentic alignment and they're that authentic alignment and they're that authentic alignment and they're expressing themselves and they're, you expressing themselves and they're, you expressing themselves and they're, you know, grateful more times than not. Like know, grateful more times than not. Like know, grateful more times than not. Like what did they do to achieve that? Don't what did they do to achieve that? Don't what did they do to achieve that? Don't do the same things. You're a different do the same things. You're a different do the same things. You're a different person. person. person. But there's also the what you're talking But there's also the what you're talking But there's also the what you're talking about, you know, this idea of uh, you about, you know, this idea of uh, you about, you know, this idea of uh, you know, making big bold decisions that are know, making big bold decisions that are know, making big bold decisions that are aligned. you know, we the the foundation aligned. you know, we the the foundation aligned. you know, we the the foundation that we use is knowing our values and that we use is knowing our values and that we use is knowing our values and then we brought it together to know our then we brought it together to know our then we brought it together to know our family's values. And so when you have family's values. And so when you have family's values. And so when you have that data point, you can you can make that data point, you can you can make that data point, you can you can make big bold decisions like we did moving to big bold decisions like we did moving to big bold decisions like we did moving to Italy. Uh because you you're able to to Italy. Uh because you you're able to to Italy. Uh because you you're able to to know, wow, okay, these are the values know, wow, okay, these are the values know, wow, okay, these are the values that I have. These are the values you that I have. These are the values you that I have. These are the values you have. These are the values of the have. These are the values of the have. These are the values of the family. And you can evaluate family. And you can evaluate family. And you can evaluate different places and different different places and different different places and different environments and different cultures to environments and different cultures to environments and different cultures to see what matches up. see what matches up. see what matches up. And and then it makes it And and then it makes it And and then it makes it it makes a big bold decision more of a it makes a big bold decision more of a it makes a big bold decision more of a confident decision because not all confident decision because not all confident decision because not all struggles created the same. But usually struggles created the same. But usually struggles created the same. But usually when you're in alignment, the universe when you're in alignment, the universe when you're in alignment, the universe is going to give you an easier path. is going to give you an easier path. is going to give you an easier path. Yes. And signs, opportunities. Y. But Yes. And signs, opportunities. Y. But Yes. And signs, opportunities. Y. But you can't go into any of this with the you can't go into any of this with the you can't go into any of this with the idea that it's one-sided. you know, we idea that it's one-sided. you know, we idea that it's one-sided. you know, we would have been we would have really would have been we would have really would have been we would have really been disappointed if we thought we're been disappointed if we thought we're been disappointed if we thought we're just going to move to Italy because this just going to move to Italy because this just going to move to Italy because this is this is definitely a theme on social is this is definitely a theme on social is this is definitely a theme on social media because of course now I'm in the media because of course now I'm in the media because of course now I'm in the algorithm all these Italian accounts and algorithm all these Italian accounts and algorithm all these Italian accounts and the accounts are showing like every the the accounts are showing like every the the accounts are showing like every the scenery is amazing. The sea is amazing. scenery is amazing. The sea is amazing. scenery is amazing. The sea is amazing. The food is amazing. The people are The food is amazing. The people are The food is amazing. The people are amazing. They just show all of the amazing. They just show all of the amazing. They just show all of the really really good sides of Italy. And really really good sides of Italy. And really really good sides of Italy. And don't get me wrong, Italy is fantastic. don't get me wrong, Italy is fantastic. don't get me wrong, Italy is fantastic. But if we were to think that we were But if we were to think that we were But if we were to think that we were going to come here and everything was going to come here and everything was going to come here and everything was going to be smooth, we would have set going to be smooth, we would have set going to be smooth, we would have set ourselves up for pretty big ourselves up for pretty big ourselves up for pretty big disappointment. You know, navigating our disappointment. You know, navigating our disappointment. You know, navigating our visas has not been easy. Navigating visas has not been easy. Navigating visas has not been easy. Navigating language has not been easy. Just language has not been easy. Just language has not been easy. Just navigating how to find [  ] fabric navigating how to find [  ] fabric navigating how to find [  ] fabric softener in the grocery store was super softener in the grocery store was super softener in the grocery store was super hard in the first month. Like you're in hard in the first month. Like you're in hard in the first month. Like you're in a grocery store, you're like, I don't a grocery store, you're like, I don't a grocery store, you're like, I don't know what any of this means. Is this for know what any of this means. Is this for know what any of this means. Is this for the dishwasher or is this for the the dishwasher or is this for the the dishwasher or is this for the toilet? Like I don't know. Nick still toilet? Like I don't know. Nick still toilet? Like I don't know. Nick still messes stuff up. I was washing the messes stuff up. I was washing the messes stuff up. I was washing the laundry with Papa, which is for the laundry with Papa, which is for the laundry with Papa, which is for the floor. I get humbled quite often here. floor. I get humbled quite often here. floor. I get humbled quite often here. So, you know, there are things like So, you know, there are things like So, you know, there are things like things that you don't think about in things that you don't think about in things that you don't think about in your native culture because like because your native culture because like because your native culture because like because you know the language, because you know you know the language, because you know you know the language, because you know the customs, because you know what a the customs, because you know what a the customs, because you know what a grocery store has to offer. You go to grocery store has to offer. You go to grocery store has to offer. You go to other places in the world and it's other places in the world and it's other places in the world and it's completely different. You know that like completely different. You know that like completely different. You know that like you don't there are no superstores. you don't there are no superstores. you don't there are no superstores. There's no there's no Walmart. There's There's no there's no Walmart. There's There's no there's no Walmart. There's nothing like that. So anyway, the the nothing like that. So anyway, the the nothing like that. So anyway, the the point that we're making here is that, point that we're making here is that, point that we're making here is that, you know, sometimes you know, sometimes you know, sometimes if you feel if you feel if you feel unsettled, it it's and you're looking unsettled, it it's and you're looking unsettled, it it's and you're looking through social media and you through social media and you through social media and you you start to feel kind of like [  ] you start to feel kind of like [  ] you start to feel kind of like [  ] because you're just like, "Oh, that because you're just like, "Oh, that because you're just like, "Oh, that would be nice. I wish I could afford would be nice. I wish I could afford would be nice. I wish I could afford those clothes. Oh, I wish I could those clothes. Oh, I wish I could those clothes. Oh, I wish I could travel. Oh, that would be nice. I've travel. Oh, that would be nice. I've travel. Oh, that would be nice. I've never been o overseas in my life." Like never been o overseas in my life." Like never been o overseas in my life." Like if you're playing that game, if you're playing that game, if you're playing that game, like take the step back. What how do you like take the step back. What how do you like take the step back. What how do you always say it um like get the always say it um like get the always say it um like get the subjectivity out, be objective, like subjectivity out, be objective, like subjectivity out, be objective, like look at it as a scientist. Ask ask a look at it as a scientist. Ask ask a look at it as a scientist. Ask ask a question first because that's that's a question first because that's that's a question first because that's that's a what all scientists do is just ask what all scientists do is just ask what all scientists do is just ask questions. But asking a question takes questions. But asking a question takes questions. But asking a question takes you out of the lyic system of being you out of the lyic system of being you out of the lyic system of being reactive into the forebrain where you reactive into the forebrain where you reactive into the forebrain where you process answering questions. So I always process answering questions. So I always process answering questions. So I always say actually I say well this is say actually I say well this is say actually I say well this is interesting. Um and that's just a pause. interesting. Um and that's just a pause. interesting. Um and that's just a pause. It's not really a question but that It's not really a question but that It's not really a question but that gives me a moment to set up a a very gives me a moment to set up a a very gives me a moment to set up a a very healthy question. Um so you can just ask healthy question. Um so you can just ask healthy question. Um so you can just ask a question. I usually just say this is a question. I usually just say this is a question. I usually just say this is interesting because that creates a pause interesting because that creates a pause interesting because that creates a pause for me to ask a specific question. Yeah. for me to ask a specific question. Yeah. for me to ask a specific question. Yeah. And and it allows you to ask the And and it allows you to ask the And and it allows you to ask the questions to get better insight. You questions to get better insight. You questions to get better insight. You know, this isn't just, oh, this isn't know, this isn't just, oh, this isn't know, this isn't just, oh, this isn't for you. You're not meant to have this. for you. You're not meant to have this. for you. You're not meant to have this. You're being you're being attracted to You're being you're being attracted to You're being you're being attracted to something and you're telling yourself something and you're telling yourself something and you're telling yourself that you can't have it because you have that you can't have it because you have that you can't have it because you have too much [  ] to do. You're too busy. too much [  ] to do. You're too busy. too much [  ] to do. You're too busy. You have too much on your plate. You You have too much on your plate. You You have too much on your plate. You have a job, you have kids, you have a have a job, you have kids, you have a have a job, you have kids, you have a family, you have this and that, you family, you have this and that, you family, you have this and that, you know, and and going back to this idea of know, and and going back to this idea of know, and and going back to this idea of the values. the values. the values. This can sound horrible to some people, This can sound horrible to some people, This can sound horrible to some people, but I'm going to just go there anyway but I'm going to just go there anyway but I'm going to just go there anyway because this is real, raw, and because this is real, raw, and because this is real, raw, and vulnerable. vulnerable. vulnerable. But, you know, Nick and I looked at our But, you know, Nick and I looked at our But, you know, Nick and I looked at our values and and we looked at also on the values and and we looked at also on the values and and we looked at also on the flip side like some of the things that I flip side like some of the things that I flip side like some of the things that I I probably did this more than Nick, but I probably did this more than Nick, but I probably did this more than Nick, but some of the things that stressed me out some of the things that stressed me out some of the things that stressed me out in the US like I I was so sick of having in the US like I I was so sick of having in the US like I I was so sick of having to overthink about food. I was so sick to overthink about food. I was so sick to overthink about food. I was so sick of feeling stressed by like I love going of feeling stressed by like I love going of feeling stressed by like I love going out to dinner, but it was like stressful out to dinner, but it was like stressful out to dinner, but it was like stressful because I knew I was going to be because I knew I was going to be because I knew I was going to be swollen. I knew my stomach was going to swollen. I knew my stomach was going to swollen. I knew my stomach was going to hurt. I knew it was going to feel like hurt. I knew it was going to feel like hurt. I knew it was going to feel like crap. Um, but I did it anyway because I crap. Um, but I did it anyway because I crap. Um, but I did it anyway because I wanted the experience and I wanted to wanted the experience and I wanted to wanted the experience and I wanted to have quality conversations with friends. have quality conversations with friends. have quality conversations with friends. And so there were there were certain And so there were there were certain And so there were there were certain things that were taking my energy and things that were taking my energy and things that were taking my energy and then there were certain things that I then there were certain things that I then there were certain things that I desired when I was looking on social desired when I was looking on social desired when I was looking on social media when I when we talk about these media when I when we talk about these media when I when we talk about these like triggers or where you find yourself like triggers or where you find yourself like triggers or where you find yourself playing that guilt, shame or comparison playing that guilt, shame or comparison playing that guilt, shame or comparison game. I was looking at people that were game. I was looking at people that were game. I was looking at people that were traveling and thinking like getting mad traveling and thinking like getting mad traveling and thinking like getting mad like why am I doing that? I don't have like why am I doing that? I don't have like why am I doing that? I don't have that freedom right now. And that freedom right now. And that freedom right now. And so looking at my my values, my values, so looking at my my values, my values, so looking at my my values, my values, some of them include experience. Um it some of them include experience. Um it some of them include experience. Um it includes includes includes quality conversations. It includes fun quality conversations. It includes fun quality conversations. It includes fun in nature, expansive experiences or in nature, expansive experiences or in nature, expansive experiences or expansive adventures. And I started expansive adventures. And I started expansive adventures. And I started realizing after visiting Italy that realizing after visiting Italy that realizing after visiting Italy that there was a lot of my values that would there was a lot of my values that would there was a lot of my values that would be fulfilled. be fulfilled. be fulfilled. And as much as I value family, I left behind I left behind I left behind family. Mom, dad, sister, brother. And family. Mom, dad, sister, brother. And family. Mom, dad, sister, brother. And you know if for those that go ahead and you know if for those that go ahead and you know if for those that go ahead and and do their values, if your highest and do their values, if your highest and do their values, if your highest value or one of your highest is is not value or one of your highest is is not value or one of your highest is is not just your immediate family but your just your immediate family but your just your immediate family but your extended family, extended family, extended family, picking up and moving to another country picking up and moving to another country picking up and moving to another country might not feel good even though it might not feel good even though it might not feel good even though it checks off other boxes. And you know checks off other boxes. And you know checks off other boxes. And you know when we came here our our it's still in when we came here our our it's still in when we came here our our it's still in progress but our thought is how can we progress but our thought is how can we progress but our thought is how can we set our lives up here so that it's an set our lives up here so that it's an set our lives up here so that it's an open door for family to come you know so open door for family to come you know so open door for family to come you know so we're not it's not that we're abandoning we're not it's not that we're abandoning we're not it's not that we're abandoning that part. It's important to us, but we that part. It's important to us, but we that part. It's important to us, but we knew that we could be the best versions knew that we could be the best versions knew that we could be the best versions of ourselves of ourselves of ourselves and do the best for our kids if we were and do the best for our kids if we were and do the best for our kids if we were living in our values. living in our values. living in our values. Yeah. You just try to constantly look at Yeah. You just try to constantly look at Yeah. You just try to constantly look at what's going to create the best what's going to create the best what's going to create the best environment for you. And you know, I environment for you. And you know, I environment for you. And you know, I think nothing is just bad or just good. think nothing is just bad or just good. think nothing is just bad or just good. It's how you use it. You know, I always It's how you use it. You know, I always It's how you use it. You know, I always say like guns don't kill people. It's say like guns don't kill people. It's say like guns don't kill people. It's the user behind it. You know, social the user behind it. You know, social the user behind it. You know, social media can provide great things. It can media can provide great things. It can media can provide great things. It can provide uh a lot of awareness of what's provide uh a lot of awareness of what's provide uh a lot of awareness of what's going on in the world that we don't see going on in the world that we don't see going on in the world that we don't see both the good and the bad based on what both the good and the bad based on what both the good and the bad based on what platform and what algorithms creating platform and what algorithms creating platform and what algorithms creating that platform. Um but yeah, I'd say, you that platform. Um but yeah, I'd say, you that platform. Um but yeah, I'd say, you know, it's always a higher level of know, it's always a higher level of know, it's always a higher level of awareness, higher level of living, um awareness, higher level of living, um awareness, higher level of living, um to create your transitions. to create your transitions. to create your transitions. And I think this might be the last part And I think this might be the last part And I think this might be the last part of this little conversation of social of this little conversation of social of this little conversation of social media. Um is that if you want to use it, media. Um is that if you want to use it, media. Um is that if you want to use it, use it. But have an intent of your use it. But have an intent of your use it. But have an intent of your transition going into it. Like before transition going into it. Like before transition going into it. Like before you even pick up your phone, your you even pick up your phone, your you even pick up your phone, your tablet, whatever you're using, like have tablet, whatever you're using, like have tablet, whatever you're using, like have an intent of really what you're trying an intent of really what you're trying an intent of really what you're trying to discover, what you're trying to use. to discover, what you're trying to use. to discover, what you're trying to use. And then, you know, it sounds funny, but And then, you know, it sounds funny, but And then, you know, it sounds funny, but set a time limit, but not on a phone, set a time limit, but not on a phone, set a time limit, but not on a phone, not on a computer. Just be like, I'm not on a computer. Just be like, I'm not on a computer. Just be like, I'm going to spend 15 minutes. I'm going to going to spend 15 minutes. I'm going to going to spend 15 minutes. I'm going to spend five minutes. I'm going to spend spend five minutes. I'm going to spend spend five minutes. I'm going to spend just say it out loud. set it to yourself just say it out loud. set it to yourself just say it out loud. set it to yourself and energetically they'll be there and and energetically they'll be there and and energetically they'll be there and they'll like you'll have some type of they'll like you'll have some type of they'll like you'll have some type of clue or feeling saying like I'm good. I clue or feeling saying like I'm good. I clue or feeling saying like I'm good. I I don't need anymore. If you continue I don't need anymore. If you continue I don't need anymore. If you continue after that, well, there's a shame on you after that, well, there's a shame on you after that, well, there's a shame on you and a shame on me uh aspect to it. You and a shame on me uh aspect to it. You and a shame on me uh aspect to it. You know, you can overindulge in anything. know, you can overindulge in anything. know, you can overindulge in anything. So, have an intent, get clarity of what So, have an intent, get clarity of what So, have an intent, get clarity of what you want to receive out of it. Uh and you want to receive out of it. Uh and you want to receive out of it. Uh and then hopefully that algorithm's working then hopefully that algorithm's working then hopefully that algorithm's working for you. Yeah. And I think the the last for you. Yeah. And I think the the last for you. Yeah. And I think the the last thing I'll say is just thinking about thing I'll say is just thinking about thing I'll say is just thinking about what is going to promote more energy and what is going to promote more energy and what is going to promote more energy and inspiration opposed to detract it. Um inspiration opposed to detract it. Um inspiration opposed to detract it. Um you know if you're a business owner and you know if you're a business owner and you know if you're a business owner and you're looking at other businesses you you're looking at other businesses you you're looking at other businesses you know the question I would always ask is know the question I would always ask is know the question I would always ask is you know is this providing value or is you know is this providing value or is you know is this providing value or is this actually detracting me from my this actually detracting me from my this actually detracting me from my uniqueness factor? you know, the whole uniqueness factor? you know, the whole uniqueness factor? you know, the whole book that was written about the blue book that was written about the blue book that was written about the blue zones or not blue zones, I'm sorry, blue zones or not blue zones, I'm sorry, blue zones or not blue zones, I'm sorry, blue ocean uh versus red ocean, you know, are ocean uh versus red ocean, you know, are ocean uh versus red ocean, you know, are you going to put yourself in the you going to put yourself in the you going to put yourself in the saturated ocean where you look like a saturated ocean where you look like a saturated ocean where you look like a different version of what everybody else different version of what everybody else different version of what everybody else is doing or are you going to strive to is doing or are you going to strive to is doing or are you going to strive to be the bo most unique bold in your be the bo most unique bold in your be the bo most unique bold in your market and you know that is that is market and you know that is that is market and you know that is that is something that I think that a lot of us something that I think that a lot of us something that I think that a lot of us entrepreneurs can get really caught up entrepreneurs can get really caught up entrepreneurs can get really caught up with and and the same thing goes for all with and and the same thing goes for all with and and the same thing goes for all of these other aspect ects that we're of these other aspect ects that we're of these other aspect ects that we're talking about is, you know, is social talking about is, you know, is social talking about is, you know, is social media. If it is detracting energy, then media. If it is detracting energy, then media. If it is detracting energy, then go ahead and use the tools in this go ahead and use the tools in this go ahead and use the tools in this podcast, ask the questions and and try podcast, ask the questions and and try podcast, ask the questions and and try to decipher what the feedback is and how to decipher what the feedback is and how to decipher what the feedback is and how it can then be transferred to more it can then be transferred to more it can then be transferred to more inspirational aligned action because it inspirational aligned action because it inspirational aligned action because it is telling you something. is telling you something. is telling you something. So I think that this is a huge topic So I think that this is a huge topic So I think that this is a huge topic because social media can either create because social media can either create because social media can either create opportunity opportunity opportunity or it could be a huge distraction and or it could be a huge distraction and or it could be a huge distraction and detraction. All right guys, All right guys, All right guys, see you next time. see you next time. see you next time. [Music] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Music]