Feeling Stuck in Life? Question Everything & Transform

[Music] [Music] [Music] Hey everyone, welcome back to another Hey everyone, welcome back to another Hey everyone, welcome back to another episode of Integrative You. We got Dr. episode of Integrative You. We got Dr. episode of Integrative You. We got Dr. Nick here and we are going to be uh Nick here and we are going to be uh Nick here and we are going to be uh talking about something that we've talking about something that we've talking about something that we've talked a bit about in the past, but it's talked a bit about in the past, but it's talked a bit about in the past, but it's how essentially we use our pain and our how essentially we use our pain and our how essentially we use our pain and our childhood, younger year experiences to childhood, younger year experiences to childhood, younger year experiences to actually actually actually dictate our path of life. Because a lot dictate our path of life. Because a lot dictate our path of life. Because a lot of what we experience and the voids that of what we experience and the voids that of what we experience and the voids that are associated with that, they create are associated with that, they create are associated with that, they create our passion, they create our purpose. our passion, they create our purpose. our passion, they create our purpose. And I know Nick has a lot of uh insight And I know Nick has a lot of uh insight And I know Nick has a lot of uh insight when it comes to that topic. But before, when it comes to that topic. But before, when it comes to that topic. But before, you know, we fully dive in. I think one you know, we fully dive in. I think one you know, we fully dive in. I think one of the things that we want to share with of the things that we want to share with of the things that we want to share with you and and this is a bit of my own you and and this is a bit of my own you and and this is a bit of my own personal story of when you hit a place personal story of when you hit a place personal story of when you hit a place in your life where you feel more stuck in your life where you feel more stuck in your life where you feel more stuck than you ever have. It's usually an than you ever have. It's usually an than you ever have. It's usually an invitation to let go of the old pain, invitation to let go of the old pain, invitation to let go of the old pain, the old drivers, the old purpose in the old drivers, the old purpose in the old drivers, the old purpose in order for you to get to that next phase order for you to get to that next phase order for you to get to that next phase of you, that new 2.0 0 version of you. of you, that new 2.0 0 version of you. of you, that new 2.0 0 version of you. But the death of your old identity, the But the death of your old identity, the But the death of your old identity, the death of your old persona, the the death of your old persona, the the death of your old persona, the the letting go of those drivers is one of letting go of those drivers is one of letting go of those drivers is one of the most [  ] painful things you will the most [  ] painful things you will the most [  ] painful things you will go through in your life. And I think go through in your life. And I think go through in your life. And I think Nick and I both have our own stories Nick and I both have our own stories Nick and I both have our own stories associated with that. But we're here to associated with that. But we're here to associated with that. But we're here to to shed light on this topic because I to shed light on this topic because I to shed light on this topic because I think a lot of think a lot of think a lot of high-performance entrepreneurs, high-performance entrepreneurs, high-performance entrepreneurs, you know, corporate powerhouses, you know, corporate powerhouses, you know, corporate powerhouses, uh, family leaders, like people that uh, family leaders, like people that uh, family leaders, like people that don't settle. They're they're always don't settle. They're they're always don't settle. They're they're always looking to better themselves. They're looking to better themselves. They're looking to better themselves. They're always looking to bring the best to always looking to bring the best to always looking to bring the best to their kids, you know, show up the best their kids, you know, show up the best their kids, you know, show up the best they can in their career, show up the they can in their career, show up the they can in their career, show up the best they can in their relationships. best they can in their relationships. best they can in their relationships. They just they're always striving for They just they're always striving for They just they're always striving for better or even better. better or even better. better or even better. They hit points and they go, "What the They hit points and they go, "What the They hit points and they go, "What the fuck?" [Music] [Music] [Music] and and then you know we go out and we and and then you know we go out and we and and then you know we go out and we we seek out mentors, we seek out gurus, we seek out mentors, we seek out gurus, we seek out mentors, we seek out gurus, we seek out coaches, which is all great, we seek out coaches, which is all great, we seek out coaches, which is all great, but we're here to shed light on kind of but we're here to shed light on kind of but we're here to shed light on kind of what what what what can be expected so that you don't what can be expected so that you don't what can be expected so that you don't automatically feel like, oh, there's automatically feel like, oh, there's automatically feel like, oh, there's something wrong with me and I need to something wrong with me and I need to something wrong with me and I need to seek out help. like kind of knowing like seek out help. like kind of knowing like seek out help. like kind of knowing like what's part of it when you're going what's part of it when you're going what's part of it when you're going through this up level and and also through this up level and and also through this up level and and also giving you some tools of giving you some tools of giving you some tools of how you can reflect and how you can reflect and how you can reflect and get I don't want to say get through it get I don't want to say get through it get I don't want to say get through it on your own. It's always great to ask on your own. It's always great to ask on your own. It's always great to ask for help, but knowing that there's for help, but knowing that there's for help, but knowing that there's aspects that are yours to navigate and aspects that are yours to navigate and aspects that are yours to navigate and not to delegate. Let's just dive. Okay. I was like I was Let's just dive. Okay. I was like I was Let's just dive. Okay. I was like I was like I'm giving you a pause. I'm like like I'm giving you a pause. I'm like like I'm giving you a pause. I'm like does he have something or should we just does he have something or should we just does he have something or should we just dive in? dive in? dive in? I was like is she gonna is she going to I was like is she gonna is she going to I was like is she gonna is she going to do more storytelling and fluff or can we do more storytelling and fluff or can we do more storytelling and fluff or can we just [  ] get deep into it? just [  ] get deep into it? just [  ] get deep into it? Um Um Um you said pain. Um which is interesting you said pain. Um which is interesting you said pain. Um which is interesting because because because Hey dude, I just want to be clear. This Hey dude, I just want to be clear. This Hey dude, I just want to be clear. This is your saying that I extracted out of is your saying that I extracted out of is your saying that I extracted out of your mouth, but you don't even remember your mouth, but you don't even remember your mouth, but you don't even remember half the stuff that comes out of your half the stuff that comes out of your half the stuff that comes out of your mouth. mouth. mouth. Turning your pain into purpose. Turning your pain into purpose. Turning your pain into purpose. Wait. Yeah, but the death of the old Wait. Yeah, but the death of the old Wait. Yeah, but the death of the old self, self, self, I don't I mean I guess I look at pain I don't I mean I guess I look at pain I don't I mean I guess I look at pain probably slightly different than most probably slightly different than most probably slightly different than most people. I don't think for me it it was people. I don't think for me it it was people. I don't think for me it it was painful. painful. painful. It was just very difficult. So I mean It was just very difficult. So I mean It was just very difficult. So I mean even yesterday I was having a even yesterday I was having a even yesterday I was having a conversation with um a very aware conversation with um a very aware conversation with um a very aware intelligent lady and intelligent lady and intelligent lady and she goes quote like verbiage she goes quote like verbiage she goes quote like verbiage this is who I am this is who I've always this is who I am this is who I've always this is who I am this is who I've always been. been. been. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And she's like I don't know any And she's like I don't know any And she's like I don't know any different. different. different. And it's just interesting because you And it's just interesting because you And it's just interesting because you know I go you're very well educated. you know I go you're very well educated. you know I go you're very well educated. you can speak multiple languages, etc. blah can speak multiple languages, etc. blah can speak multiple languages, etc. blah blah blah. You you're top of what you do blah blah. You you're top of what you do blah blah. You you're top of what you do in your field. And I was like, did you in your field. And I was like, did you in your field. And I was like, did you did you just know all of that right did you just know all of that right did you just know all of that right away? away? away? Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. No, of course you didn't. I go, you No, of course you didn't. I go, you No, of course you didn't. I go, you learned things. I go, so you grew. And learned things. I go, so you grew. And learned things. I go, so you grew. And when you grew and you learned things, when you grew and you learned things, when you grew and you learned things, guess what? You changed. guess what? You changed. guess what? You changed. So this has been a part of you. It's not So this has been a part of you. It's not So this has been a part of you. It's not who you are. And that is the death of who you are. And that is the death of who you are. And that is the death of the old self is we have this belief that the old self is we have this belief that the old self is we have this belief that this is who I am. It's not true this is who I am. It's not true this is who I am. It's not true and it keeps us stuck. So you're 100% and it keeps us stuck. So you're 100% and it keeps us stuck. So you're 100% correct when you're like when you feel correct when you're like when you feel correct when you're like when you feel stuck it's because of a shitty belief. stuck it's because of a shitty belief. stuck it's because of a shitty belief. Y Y Y that's the foundation of it. So if you that's the foundation of it. So if you that's the foundation of it. So if you want to change you can do all these want to change you can do all these want to change you can do all these different things. different things. different things. Great. But it most of the time doing new Great. But it most of the time doing new Great. But it most of the time doing new things doesn't change the belief. You things doesn't change the belief. You things doesn't change the belief. You have to change the belief if you want to have to change the belief if you want to have to change the belief if you want to change change change the causation or the effect of of being the causation or the effect of of being the causation or the effect of of being stuck stuck stuck and to truly quote unquote kill that and to truly quote unquote kill that and to truly quote unquote kill that version of your old self that's holding version of your old self that's holding version of your old self that's holding you back. you back. you back. 100%. And you know to put this into 100%. And you know to put this into 100%. And you know to put this into context for you guys, I want to I want context for you guys, I want to I want context for you guys, I want to I want to take a step back really quick. So to take a step back really quick. So to take a step back really quick. So essentially what kind of leads into the essentially what kind of leads into the essentially what kind of leads into the story I'm about to tell you is when I story I'm about to tell you is when I story I'm about to tell you is when I was a young individual, there was a lot was a young individual, there was a lot was a young individual, there was a lot of different experiences and a lot of, of different experiences and a lot of, of different experiences and a lot of, you know, aspects of the parenting that you know, aspects of the parenting that you know, aspects of the parenting that I experienced that created a lot of I experienced that created a lot of I experienced that created a lot of anger, a lot of frustration, anger, a lot of frustration, anger, a lot of frustration, um, a lot of feeling just kind of like I um, a lot of feeling just kind of like I um, a lot of feeling just kind of like I had to figure it out on my own. Not had to figure it out on my own. Not had to figure it out on my own. Not feeling like I had a support system, not feeling like I had a support system, not feeling like I had a support system, not feeling that I had mentorship. Um it it feeling that I had mentorship. Um it it feeling that I had mentorship. Um it it led to these developments in my led to these developments in my led to these developments in my identity. And so, you know, you can call identity. And so, you know, you can call identity. And so, you know, you can call that pain because there was definitely a that pain because there was definitely a that pain because there was definitely a perception when I was young that this is perception when I was young that this is perception when I was young that this is really painful, but what am I going to really painful, but what am I going to really painful, but what am I going to do? [  ] cry about it. And like I'm do? [  ] cry about it. And like I'm do? [  ] cry about it. And like I'm going to use it. That was just my wiring going to use it. That was just my wiring going to use it. That was just my wiring is [  ] everyone. [  ] this life. I'm is [  ] everyone. [  ] this life. I'm is [  ] everyone. [  ] this life. I'm gonna create something better for gonna create something better for gonna create something better for myself. And that is exactly what I did. myself. And that is exactly what I did. myself. And that is exactly what I did. I I did [  ] that didn't make any sense. I I did [  ] that didn't make any sense. I I did [  ] that didn't make any sense. Like I put myself through college. Yes, Like I put myself through college. Yes, Like I put myself through college. Yes, I took out student loans and put myself I took out student loans and put myself I took out student loans and put myself in debt and all of those things, but in debt and all of those things, but in debt and all of those things, but technically I could have said I can't go technically I could have said I can't go technically I could have said I can't go to college. I didn't even have my to college. I didn't even have my to college. I didn't even have my parents around to sign off for me to go parents around to sign off for me to go parents around to sign off for me to go to college. I had to forge signatures. to college. I had to forge signatures. to college. I had to forge signatures. Oh gosh, I shouldn't say that. I should Oh gosh, I shouldn't say that. I should Oh gosh, I shouldn't say that. I should probably get in trouble. probably get in trouble. probably get in trouble. But essentially, it was just don't care. But essentially, it was just don't care. But essentially, it was just don't care. They just want your money. They just want your money. They just want your money. Yeah. kind of like riding life on my Yeah. kind of like riding life on my Yeah. kind of like riding life on my own. And so I turned that into a own. And so I turned that into a own. And so I turned that into a purpose. And that purpose was I'm going purpose. And that purpose was I'm going purpose. And that purpose was I'm going to be the most successful at whatever I to be the most successful at whatever I to be the most successful at whatever I do. And then I chose to get into the do. And then I chose to get into the do. And then I chose to get into the healthcare arena. And I was like, I'm healthcare arena. And I was like, I'm healthcare arena. And I was like, I'm going to be the best and I'm going to going to be the best and I'm going to going to be the best and I'm going to create quote unquote success. create quote unquote success. create quote unquote success. And I'm saying quote unquote because I And I'm saying quote unquote because I And I'm saying quote unquote because I had a version of success in my head had a version of success in my head had a version of success in my head based off of my belief system and my based off of my belief system and my based off of my belief system and my programs. My what I classified as not programs. My what I classified as not programs. My what I classified as not success was my parents living paycheck success was my parents living paycheck success was my parents living paycheck to paycheck, always being in survival to paycheck, always being in survival to paycheck, always being in survival mode, always needing to make decisions mode, always needing to make decisions mode, always needing to make decisions out of desperation, anger, and fear out of desperation, anger, and fear out of desperation, anger, and fear because they were, you know, they didn't because they were, you know, they didn't because they were, you know, they didn't have the means to ever feel comfortable have the means to ever feel comfortable have the means to ever feel comfortable or stable. So my version of success was or stable. So my version of success was or stable. So my version of success was I need money. I need to create a level I need money. I need to create a level I need money. I need to create a level of of financial stability so that I of of financial stability so that I of of financial stability so that I don't have to have I don't have to have don't have to have I don't have to have don't have to have I don't have to have the same outcomes as them. the same outcomes as them. the same outcomes as them. And so that led me to be this And so that led me to be this And so that led me to be this what would you even call it Nick? Like a what would you even call it Nick? Like a what would you even call it Nick? Like a like a lunatic tornado entrepreneur. like a lunatic tornado entrepreneur. like a lunatic tornado entrepreneur. Like we were re Like we were re Like we were re I was like you're setting me up for I was like you're setting me up for I was like you're setting me up for failure right there. failure right there. failure right there. We were We were We were I'm not answering that question. But I'm not answering that question. But I'm not answering that question. But like we were reinventing the business like we were reinventing the business like we were reinventing the business every single year. I was, you know, I every single year. I was, you know, I every single year. I was, you know, I didn't care. I'd work 80 I'd work a didn't care. I'd work 80 I'd work a didn't care. I'd work 80 I'd work a hundred hours a week. Like it was all hundred hours a week. Like it was all hundred hours a week. Like it was all about creating that success, not being about creating that success, not being about creating that success, not being my parents. And it it created this level my parents. And it it created this level my parents. And it it created this level of uh create like taking risks, this of uh create like taking risks, this of uh create like taking risks, this level of perseverance, like no one's level of perseverance, like no one's level of perseverance, like no one's going to take me out. So it benefited going to take me out. So it benefited going to take me out. So it benefited me. It benefited us. you know, we me. It benefited us. you know, we me. It benefited us. you know, we created something in a short amount of created something in a short amount of created something in a short amount of time that a lot of people haven't. time that a lot of people haven't. time that a lot of people haven't. But then, you know, you hear this a lot. But then, you know, you hear this a lot. But then, you know, you hear this a lot. You go underneath the surface and it's You go underneath the surface and it's You go underneath the surface and it's like, I'm [  ] tired. I'm burnt out. like, I'm [  ] tired. I'm burnt out. like, I'm [  ] tired. I'm burnt out. My health is not that great. My mental My health is not that great. My mental My health is not that great. My mental health is not that great. I don't even health is not that great. I don't even health is not that great. I don't even know how to have fun anymore. I'm losing know how to have fun anymore. I'm losing know how to have fun anymore. I'm losing relationships because I don't show up to relationships because I don't show up to relationships because I don't show up to anything because I'm so busy working. anything because I'm so busy working. anything because I'm so busy working. And you start to realize that you have And you start to realize that you have And you start to realize that you have no quality of life. no quality of life. no quality of life. And that, you know, was part of it. And And that, you know, was part of it. And And that, you know, was part of it. And that was starting to create this stuck. that was starting to create this stuck. that was starting to create this stuck. This is starting to create a [  ] This This is starting to create a [  ] This This is starting to create a [  ] This isn't what I thought it was going to be. isn't what I thought it was going to be. isn't what I thought it was going to be. And then once we had our family, that And then once we had our family, that And then once we had our family, that was like that was the [  ] the was like that was the [  ] the was like that was the [  ] the biggest wrench known to man thrown into biggest wrench known to man thrown into biggest wrench known to man thrown into into everything because then it was just into everything because then it was just into everything because then it was just like this isn't an option anymore unless like this isn't an option anymore unless like this isn't an option anymore unless I want to be a completely absent parent. I want to be a completely absent parent. I want to be a completely absent parent. And that was when we closed our brick And that was when we closed our brick And that was when we closed our brick and mortar and we moved to South and mortar and we moved to South and mortar and we moved to South Carolina. And I think I cried for like a Carolina. And I think I cried for like a Carolina. And I think I cried for like a year. year. year. I guess I didn't let it get to a year. I guess I didn't let it get to a year. I guess I didn't let it get to a year. It felt like a year. And I finally was It felt like a year. And I finally was It felt like a year. And I finally was like like like a year and a half. a year and a half. a year and a half. I'm I'm stuck. I don't know what to do. I'm I'm stuck. I don't know what to do. I'm I'm stuck. I don't know what to do. And that was the start of the death of And that was the start of the death of And that was the start of the death of the old identity of entrepreneurial the old identity of entrepreneurial the old identity of entrepreneurial powerhouse workaholic powerhouse workaholic powerhouse workaholic healthc care empire creator whatever the healthc care empire creator whatever the healthc care empire creator whatever the [  ] I was telling myself at that point [  ] I was telling myself at that point [  ] I was telling myself at that point and it was it was the death of that and and it was it was the death of that and and it was it was the death of that and holy [  ] everything about my wiring my holy [  ] everything about my wiring my holy [  ] everything about my wiring my neurology like my body my energy was was neurology like my body my energy was was neurology like my body my energy was was wrapped up in that and I went through wrapped up in that and I went through wrapped up in that and I went through physical detoxification. It was a mental physical detoxification. It was a mental physical detoxification. It was a mental detox. It was an energetic detox. It was detox. It was an energetic detox. It was detox. It was an energetic detox. It was a spirit. It wasn't even a spiritual a spirit. It wasn't even a spiritual a spirit. It wasn't even a spiritual detox cuz I didn't even have any detox cuz I didn't even have any detox cuz I didn't even have any spiritual awareness. spiritual awareness. spiritual awareness. And and essentially the moral of the And and essentially the moral of the And and essentially the moral of the story is is that it was [  ] intense. story is is that it was [  ] intense. story is is that it was [  ] intense. It was painful and it took time. It was painful and it took time. It was painful and it took time. Well, your Well, your Well, your your identity going back to death of the your identity going back to death of the your identity going back to death of the old self that you'd used all those old self that you'd used all those old self that you'd used all those things. You'd used the anger, the fear, things. You'd used the anger, the fear, things. You'd used the anger, the fear, the not you know not wanting to live in the not you know not wanting to live in the not you know not wanting to live in desperation. desperation. desperation. Those you used those things as tools and Those you used those things as tools and Those you used those things as tools and that got you so far and then you had the that got you so far and then you had the that got you so far and then you had the conscious awareness of you know conscious awareness of you know conscious awareness of you know things changed in my life. this isn't things changed in my life. this isn't things changed in my life. this isn't actually going to take me any farther. actually going to take me any farther. actually going to take me any farther. Yep. Yep. Yep. But the belief was still there. But the belief was still there. But the belief was still there. And that's that's that's quote unquote And that's that's that's quote unquote And that's that's that's quote unquote the the painful internal civil war that the the painful internal civil war that the the painful internal civil war that happens is that okay, I need to get rid happens is that okay, I need to get rid happens is that okay, I need to get rid of these things, but wait a second, now of these things, but wait a second, now of these things, but wait a second, now I'm not successful, I'm not successful, I'm not successful, which is which is why I did everything. which is which is why I did everything. which is which is why I did everything. You have to find new drivers. And I this You have to find new drivers. And I this You have to find new drivers. And I this is the conversation that I had with a is the conversation that I had with a is the conversation that I had with a client the other day was I'm like you client the other day was I'm like you client the other day was I'm like you can use your anger, your frustration, can use your anger, your frustration, can use your anger, your frustration, your betrayal, your abandonment. You can your betrayal, your abandonment. You can your betrayal, your abandonment. You can use it. Can you hear Ta? use it. Can you hear Ta? use it. Can you hear Ta? Yeah. You can use it as the drivers to Yeah. You can use it as the drivers to Yeah. You can use it as the drivers to achieve whatever outcomes you're looking achieve whatever outcomes you're looking achieve whatever outcomes you're looking to achieve. But once you decide that to achieve. But once you decide that to achieve. But once you decide that that identity only took you so far, you that identity only took you so far, you that identity only took you so far, you have to find different drivers. And have to find different drivers. And have to find different drivers. And that's where people are like, but I that's where people are like, but I that's where people are like, but I don't even know where to start or how to don't even know where to start or how to don't even know where to start or how to do this or you know like where do I find do this or you know like where do I find do this or you know like where do I find this motivation, these drivers, this you this motivation, these drivers, this you this motivation, these drivers, this you know this push to continue to keep know this push to continue to keep know this push to continue to keep going. going. going. Well, yes, Well, yes, Well, yes, that I would say is uh half of the pie that I would say is uh half of the pie that I would say is uh half of the pie 100%. That's why I'm saying it because I 100%. That's why I'm saying it because I 100%. That's why I'm saying it because I know that you're going to shed light on know that you're going to shed light on know that you're going to shed light on both sides. both sides. both sides. Well, I mean, it's a very very important Well, I mean, it's a very very important Well, I mean, it's a very very important and those drivers, we've talked about it and those drivers, we've talked about it and those drivers, we've talked about it a [  ] ton of times. It's your values a [  ] ton of times. It's your values a [  ] ton of times. It's your values like those new drivers because that's like those new drivers because that's like those new drivers because that's the the inspo that that's really going the the inspo that that's really going the the inspo that that's really going to going to be actually so strong for to going to be actually so strong for to going to be actually so strong for you to go through both pain and you to go through both pain and you to go through both pain and pleasure. you like you're not going to pleasure. you like you're not going to pleasure. you like you're not going to give a a [  ] about pain and pleasure give a a [  ] about pain and pleasure give a a [  ] about pain and pleasure because you're actually just in because you're actually just in because you're actually just in gratitude for being you. gratitude for being you. gratitude for being you. And gratitude And gratitude And gratitude is so strong. Most people don't really is so strong. Most people don't really is so strong. Most people don't really know what gratitude feels like today, know what gratitude feels like today, know what gratitude feels like today, which is kind of sad. But the other half which is kind of sad. But the other half which is kind of sad. But the other half is is is you put so much energy, focus, attention you put so much energy, focus, attention you put so much energy, focus, attention on that old those old drivers and you on that old those old drivers and you on that old those old drivers and you link them link them link them to so many different times to get you to so many different times to get you to so many different times to get you through tough times to get you to through tough times to get you to through tough times to get you to experience high pleasure which drives experience high pleasure which drives experience high pleasure which drives what? Neural pathways. what? Neural pathways. what? Neural pathways. Yep. Yep. Yep. And just because you have a new driver, And just because you have a new driver, And just because you have a new driver, well, guess what? All those old neural well, guess what? All those old neural well, guess what? All those old neural pathways are still there. pathways are still there. pathways are still there. So you have to rewire those neural So you have to rewire those neural So you have to rewire those neural pathways. Otherwise, it's like, "Oh, I pathways. Otherwise, it's like, "Oh, I pathways. Otherwise, it's like, "Oh, I got this new driver. Oh, but this is got this new driver. Oh, but this is got this new driver. Oh, but this is probably actually still stronger because probably actually still stronger because probably actually still stronger because you've used it longer over here." you've used it longer over here." you've used it longer over here." Y Y Y So you have to actually rewire the old So you have to actually rewire the old So you have to actually rewire the old drivers. And the easiest way to do that, drivers. And the easiest way to do that, drivers. And the easiest way to do that, I mean, it gets a little complex, but I mean, it gets a little complex, but I mean, it gets a little complex, but thinking about it is thinking about it is thinking about it is you, if you have something imbalanced, a you, if you have something imbalanced, a you, if you have something imbalanced, a belief, the you're either attached to belief, the you're either attached to belief, the you're either attached to quote unquote it being more good or more quote unquote it being more good or more quote unquote it being more good or more bad. So, in this instance, you have bad. So, in this instance, you have bad. So, in this instance, you have these old drivers and you need to bring these old drivers and you need to bring these old drivers and you need to bring them down because they're too strong. them down because they're too strong. them down because they're too strong. So, you got to link what? Negativity to So, you got to link what? Negativity to So, you got to link what? Negativity to it. You got to link how it's not serving it. You got to link how it's not serving it. You got to link how it's not serving you. You got to and you got to go back you. You got to and you got to go back you. You got to and you got to go back to all the moments that you thought it to all the moments that you thought it to all the moments that you thought it was actually doing you good. was actually doing you good. was actually doing you good. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And cancel those moments out with doing And cancel those moments out with doing And cancel those moments out with doing bad. You can't work on the story. That's bad. You can't work on the story. That's bad. You can't work on the story. That's not how it works. Like therapist work on not how it works. Like therapist work on not how it works. Like therapist work on the story and it just [  ] you up even the story and it just [  ] you up even the story and it just [  ] you up even more because it you're you're not more because it you're you're not more because it you're you're not actually working actually working actually working through the creation of what actually through the creation of what actually through the creation of what actually created the story, which is the created the story, which is the created the story, which is the perception in the moment space. I always perception in the moment space. I always perception in the moment space. I always like getting technical and I'm not going like getting technical and I'm not going like getting technical and I'm not going to get too technical today, but it's to get too technical today, but it's to get too technical today, but it's like it's the the perception in the like it's the the perception in the like it's the the perception in the moment which is space gives us time. How moment which is space gives us time. How moment which is space gives us time. How we experience life and we have we experience life and we have we experience life and we have the feelings through time. the feelings through time. the feelings through time. Life is just about changing the feeling. Life is just about changing the feeling. Life is just about changing the feeling. And the only way we can do that And the only way we can do that And the only way we can do that a cliffnotee version of that a cliffnotee version of that a cliffnotee version of that and the only way Yeah. The only way we and the only way Yeah. The only way we and the only way Yeah. The only way we can do that and but the awesome thing can do that and but the awesome thing can do that and but the awesome thing about it is and science actually okay about it is and science actually okay about it is and science actually okay I'm going to geek out a little bit. I'm going to geek out a little bit. I'm going to geek out a little bit. Science is actually Science is actually Science is actually um um um I think it was I forget what country I I think it was I forget what country I I think it was I forget what country I feel like it was Austria. I should have feel like it was Austria. I should have feel like it was Austria. I should have saved it. I read it a couple weeks ago. saved it. I read it a couple weeks ago. saved it. I read it a couple weeks ago. Um, Um, Um, this scientist this scientist this scientist looked at memories differently looked at memories differently looked at memories differently and he looked at memories and he and he looked at memories and he and he looked at memories and he compared them to compared them to compared them to a black hole and he's like memories are a black hole and he's like memories are a black hole and he's like memories are portals. portals. portals. Mhm. And they're portals through Mhm. And they're portals through Mhm. And they're portals through spaceime. And they allow you to go back spaceime. And they allow you to go back spaceime. And they allow you to go back and access and access and access a moment in time, space, a moment in time, space, a moment in time, space, and to change it. and to change it. and to change it. And when we change our history, that And when we change our history, that And when we change our history, that changes our present and our future. changes our present and our future. changes our present and our future. He didn't explain it just like this. I'm He didn't explain it just like this. I'm He didn't explain it just like this. I'm just explaining it more in the human just explaining it more in the human just explaining it more in the human behavior aspect. behavior aspect. behavior aspect. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But when I was reading it, I was like, But when I was reading it, I was like, But when I was reading it, I was like, "Holy [  ] man." Like science is now "Holy [  ] man." Like science is now "Holy [  ] man." Like science is now actually showing us that we can change actually showing us that we can change actually showing us that we can change our destiny. We can change our future. our destiny. We can change our future. our destiny. We can change our future. We can change our outcome right now We can change our outcome right now We can change our outcome right now instantaneously instantaneously instantaneously by actually going through a portal to go by actually going through a portal to go by actually going through a portal to go back into the past and change it. And back into the past and change it. And back into the past and change it. And when we do that, our life when we do that, our life when we do that, our life instantaneously changes. instantaneously changes. instantaneously changes. But also things that you've said is it's But also things that you've said is it's But also things that you've said is it's it starts with also the changing of your it starts with also the changing of your it starts with also the changing of your perception. And and essentially my perception. And and essentially my perception. And and essentially my cliffnotee version of what you said cliffnotee version of what you said cliffnotee version of what you said prior to talking about this study is prior to talking about this study is prior to talking about this study is that if you perceive that that if you perceive that that if you perceive that everything you used in your old identity everything you used in your old identity everything you used in your old identity from you know the the pain and your from you know the the pain and your from you know the the pain and your experiences the drivers essentially if experiences the drivers essentially if experiences the drivers essentially if if everything was perceived as but it if everything was perceived as but it if everything was perceived as but it only helped me then you have a skewed only helped me then you have a skewed only helped me then you have a skewed perception of that. So you have to go perception of that. So you have to go perception of that. So you have to go back and you have to think about how did back and you have to think about how did back and you have to think about how did that actually derail me from other that actually derail me from other that actually derail me from other things and how did that potentially things and how did that potentially things and how did that potentially um put me on a path that you become the um put me on a path that you become the um put me on a path that you become the hamster on the wheel because that was a hamster on the wheel because that was a hamster on the wheel because that was a big realization that I think we both had big realization that I think we both had big realization that I think we both had is that when we sat back the biggest is that when we sat back the biggest is that when we sat back the biggest light bulb that happened is like holy light bulb that happened is like holy light bulb that happened is like holy crap we made a lot of decisions crap we made a lot of decisions crap we made a lot of decisions out of desperation. out of desperation. out of desperation. A lot of decisions were rooted in that A lot of decisions were rooted in that A lot of decisions were rooted in that and not rooted in inspiration because we and not rooted in inspiration because we and not rooted in inspiration because we were just like in the trenches taking were just like in the trenches taking were just like in the trenches taking grenades. So it's like you say, grenades. So it's like you say, grenades. So it's like you say, "Okay, well I need to do this. I have to "Okay, well I need to do this. I have to "Okay, well I need to do this. I have to do this. I should do this. I have to do this. I should do this. I have to do this. I should do this. I have to hire this person because the volume is hire this person because the volume is hire this person because the volume is so high. I have to um you know cut this so high. I have to um you know cut this so high. I have to um you know cut this person for this purpose." like whatever person for this purpose." like whatever person for this purpose." like whatever it is, you realize that most of it is it is, you realize that most of it is it is, you realize that most of it is about uh patching problems about uh patching problems about uh patching problems opposed to opposed to opposed to moving the needle to the bigger vision, moving the needle to the bigger vision, moving the needle to the bigger vision, the vision beyond the vision. the vision beyond the vision. the vision beyond the vision. And and I think that what you said is And and I think that what you said is And and I think that what you said is how we have to we have to reprogram the how we have to we have to reprogram the how we have to we have to reprogram the programs programs programs is that is a question you should be is that is a question you should be is that is a question you should be asking yourself on a regular basis. You asking yourself on a regular basis. You asking yourself on a regular basis. You should be asking yourself that question, should be asking yourself that question, should be asking yourself that question, especially when you have big decisions especially when you have big decisions especially when you have big decisions to make. Is is this a decision rooted in to make. Is is this a decision rooted in to make. Is is this a decision rooted in desperation? I need to, I should, I have desperation? I need to, I should, I have desperation? I need to, I should, I have to. Or is it rooted in inspiration of I to. Or is it rooted in inspiration of I to. Or is it rooted in inspiration of I get to, I want to. get to, I want to. get to, I want to. And you know and what's the what is what And you know and what's the what is what And you know and what's the what is what are you working towards are you working towards are you working towards is is also what you have to really think is is also what you have to really think is is also what you have to really think about because that will allow you to about because that will allow you to about because that will allow you to surpass surpass surpass the the painful sides of transition and the the painful sides of transition and the the painful sides of transition and growth because you know where you're growth because you know where you're growth because you know where you're going. You know where you are and you going. You know where you are and you going. You know where you are and you know where you're going. If you don't know where you're going. If you don't know where you're going. If you don't know where you're going, then you're know where you're going, then you're know where you're going, then you're going to be like, I don't I I don't want going to be like, I don't I I don't want going to be like, I don't I I don't want to go through this. I don't even know to go through this. I don't even know to go through this. I don't even know what I'm going through it for. what I'm going through it for. what I'm going through it for. Yes. And you know, it's Yes. And you know, it's Yes. And you know, it's I'm not going to lie, it's it's harder I'm not going to lie, it's it's harder I'm not going to lie, it's it's harder than we're talking about. than we're talking about. than we're talking about. Not not to Not not to Not not to I have a whole email sequence with ug I have a whole email sequence with ug I have a whole email sequence with ug like ugly crying pictures of me that like ugly crying pictures of me that like ugly crying pictures of me that we'll release one day that are from we'll release one day that are from we'll release one day that are from these these these I'll use it for blackmail I'll use it for blackmail I'll use it for blackmail from these periods of time where we went from these periods of time where we went from these periods of time where we went through these really really difficult through these really really difficult through these really really difficult things you know we came to Italy people things you know we came to Italy people things you know we came to Italy people like oh my god where's your family did like oh my god where's your family did like oh my god where's your family did your family come and they like they know your family come and they like they know your family come and they like they know and like they're wondering what my and like they're wondering what my and like they're wondering what my response is and I'm just like we knew response is and I'm just like we knew response is and I'm just like we knew our values as individuals. We knew our our values as individuals. We knew our our values as individuals. We knew our values as a family. We had a vision of values as a family. We had a vision of values as a family. We had a vision of what we wanted our kids to experience in what we wanted our kids to experience in what we wanted our kids to experience in growing up. And we also had a vision of growing up. And we also had a vision of growing up. And we also had a vision of who we what we wanted our lives to look who we what we wanted our lives to look who we what we wanted our lives to look like as a family dynamic and as like as a family dynamic and as like as a family dynamic and as individuals. And that vision from down individuals. And that vision from down individuals. And that vision from down to like what we wore to how we walked to to like what we wore to how we walked to to like what we wore to how we walked to where we ate to where we visited, what where we ate to where we visited, what where we ate to where we visited, what nature looked like, what our house nature looked like, what our house nature looked like, what our house looked like that matched Italy. looked like that matched Italy. looked like that matched Italy. And so leaving family behind, yes, it And so leaving family behind, yes, it And so leaving family behind, yes, it was difficult, but we knew that the was difficult, but we knew that the was difficult, but we knew that the vision aligned perfectly to what we vision aligned perfectly to what we vision aligned perfectly to what we wanted. wanted. wanted. And that was what we could how we could And that was what we could how we could And that was what we could how we could access that was going to Italy access that was going to Italy access that was going to Italy and that that was the when when you can and that that was the when when you can and that that was the when when you can attach to that inspiration, attach to that inspiration, attach to that inspiration, you'll go through both the pleasure and you'll go through both the pleasure and you'll go through both the pleasure and the pain. like that's that's the main the pain. like that's that's the main the pain. like that's that's the main driver driver driver to make things easier. to make things easier. to make things easier. One has the ability to do a lot of other One has the ability to do a lot of other One has the ability to do a lot of other things. Hence, like you said, if if things. Hence, like you said, if if things. Hence, like you said, if if you're going to have a new gain, well, you're going to have a new gain, well, you're going to have a new gain, well, energy is always balanced. There's an energy is always balanced. There's an energy is always balanced. There's an equal and opposite reaction. So, there's equal and opposite reaction. So, there's equal and opposite reaction. So, there's a loss. So getting clear on these new a loss. So getting clear on these new a loss. So getting clear on these new gains that you're going after, you're gains that you're going after, you're gains that you're going after, you're going to have and also getting clear on going to have and also getting clear on going to have and also getting clear on what losses that's attached to, what what losses that's attached to, what what losses that's attached to, what losses are going to equal that out. So losses are going to equal that out. So losses are going to equal that out. So you're actually setting yourself up to you're actually setting yourself up to you're actually setting yourself up to lose so that you can win. And that's lose so that you can win. And that's lose so that you can win. And that's this is a big thing people don't do. And this is a big thing people don't do. And this is a big thing people don't do. And then they lose something and then they then they lose something and then they then they lose something and then they start having grief. And grief takes you start having grief. And grief takes you start having grief. And grief takes you away from inspiration. So then you get away from inspiration. So then you get away from inspiration. So then you get derailed and then you're making derailed and then you're making derailed and then you're making decisions out of desperation and you decisions out of desperation and you decisions out of desperation and you fall back into that old shitty cycle and fall back into that old shitty cycle and fall back into that old shitty cycle and you know maybe you still have a little you know maybe you still have a little you know maybe you still have a little bit of that neural pathway of that old bit of that neural pathway of that old bit of that neural pathway of that old ego self and it tries to come back up ego self and it tries to come back up ego self and it tries to come back up and says hey you use me in these hard and says hey you use me in these hard and says hey you use me in these hard times it's hard again you can use me times it's hard again you can use me times it's hard again you can use me again because it doesn't want to die it again because it doesn't want to die it again because it doesn't want to die it wants to live it'll try coming back to wants to live it'll try coming back to wants to live it'll try coming back to life so there's all these things and you life so there's all these things and you life so there's all these things and you know there's know there's know there's tons of different tools that you know on tons of different tools that you know on tons of different tools that you know on on a complete aspect is when you're on a complete aspect is when you're on a complete aspect is when you're quote unquote going to be reborn making quote unquote going to be reborn making quote unquote going to be reborn making a new version of yourself, you you need a new version of yourself, you you need a new version of yourself, you you need to try to kill all of yourself. to try to kill all of yourself. to try to kill all of yourself. And the easiest way to do that that I And the easiest way to do that that I And the easiest way to do that that I found without using drugs is meditation. found without using drugs is meditation. found without using drugs is meditation. And there's some really really good And there's some really really good And there's some really really good meditations. you know, Despensza is meditations. you know, Despensza is meditations. you know, Despensza is probably one of the biggest well-known probably one of the biggest well-known probably one of the biggest well-known um meditation gurus and like his um meditation gurus and like his um meditation gurus and like his meditation body electric is you lose the meditation body electric is you lose the meditation body electric is you lose the sensation of your body and you sensation of your body and you sensation of your body and you understand that that it's it's just this understand that that it's it's just this understand that that it's it's just this electromagnetic electromagnetic electromagnetic entity. entity. entity. And as you experience that, that helps And as you experience that, that helps And as you experience that, that helps to rewire you and that helps to kill to rewire you and that helps to kill to rewire you and that helps to kill that belief system that this is who you that belief system that this is who you that belief system that this is who you are. So there's so many different things are. So there's so many different things are. So there's so many different things that one can do to help assist their that one can do to help assist their that one can do to help assist their transition. So so there isn't quote transition. So so there isn't quote transition. So so there isn't quote unquote as much pain as you're talking unquote as much pain as you're talking unquote as much pain as you're talking about. So everything can be efficient. about. So everything can be efficient. about. So everything can be efficient. You know, pain is only pain is for the You know, pain is only pain is for the You know, pain is only pain is for the most part an an effect of most part an an effect of most part an an effect of lack of awareness. lack of awareness. lack of awareness. That's that's all pain is. You know, That's that's all pain is. You know, That's that's all pain is. You know, when when you have a balanced awareness, when when you have a balanced awareness, when when you have a balanced awareness, there there really isn't pain. So, I want to wrap this up for everyone So, I want to wrap this up for everyone So, I want to wrap this up for everyone and I want to give you guys a couple of and I want to give you guys a couple of and I want to give you guys a couple of practical tools all you know in in one practical tools all you know in in one practical tools all you know in in one uh short um sentence. But just to kind uh short um sentence. But just to kind uh short um sentence. But just to kind of recap here is if you had a rough, you of recap here is if you had a rough, you of recap here is if you had a rough, you know, upbringing, childhood, and you know, upbringing, childhood, and you know, upbringing, childhood, and you turned it in, you you turned it around, turned it in, you you turned it around, turned it in, you you turned it around, you turned it into purpose, you turned you turned it into purpose, you turned you turned it into purpose, you turned it into drive, you turned it into it into drive, you turned it into it into drive, you turned it into success, [  ] congratulations. That's success, [  ] congratulations. That's success, [  ] congratulations. That's amazing. you were a victor to your amazing. you were a victor to your amazing. you were a victor to your circumstances. circumstances. circumstances. But do not But do not But do not condemn yourself, be upset with condemn yourself, be upset with condemn yourself, be upset with yourself, think there's something wrong yourself, think there's something wrong yourself, think there's something wrong with you because you got stuck. Because with you because you got stuck. Because with you because you got stuck. Because if you are an individual that is if you are an individual that is if you are an individual that is continually growing, getting outside the continually growing, getting outside the continually growing, getting outside the box, it's inevitable that you're going box, it's inevitable that you're going box, it's inevitable that you're going to hit a place where you're like, well, to hit a place where you're like, well, to hit a place where you're like, well, this isn't kind of what I thought it was this isn't kind of what I thought it was this isn't kind of what I thought it was going to be, or this is not what the going to be, or this is not what the going to be, or this is not what the outcomes that I was looking for, or I outcomes that I was looking for, or I outcomes that I was looking for, or I created this quote unquote success, created this quote unquote success, created this quote unquote success, whatever that is to you, but now all whatever that is to you, but now all whatever that is to you, but now all this is [  ] this side, quality of life this is [  ] this side, quality of life this is [  ] this side, quality of life or relationships. or relationships. or relationships. It happens because It happens because It happens because in your perseverance there's a in your perseverance there's a in your perseverance there's a probability that there was a decent probability that there was a decent probability that there was a decent amount of decisions that were made out amount of decisions that were made out amount of decisions that were made out of desperation. The desperation of to of desperation. The desperation of to of desperation. The desperation of to not be your childhood, to not be your not be your childhood, to not be your not be your childhood, to not be your past, to not be your parents, to not be past, to not be your parents, to not be past, to not be your parents, to not be whatever. whatever. whatever. So now you have an opportunity and that So now you have an opportunity and that So now you have an opportunity and that opportunity is to let go of the old opportunity is to let go of the old opportunity is to let go of the old drivers and the old identity to step drivers and the old identity to step drivers and the old identity to step into the new 2.0 I know higher version into the new 2.0 I know higher version into the new 2.0 I know higher version of yourself. That's all that it's of yourself. That's all that it's of yourself. That's all that it's calling you to do. When you feel so calling you to do. When you feel so calling you to do. When you feel so stuck and so overwhelmed and so stuck and so overwhelmed and so stuck and so overwhelmed and so unfulfilled and you're like, "What the unfulfilled and you're like, "What the unfulfilled and you're like, "What the fuck?" That's your calling to start to fuck?" That's your calling to start to fuck?" That's your calling to start to step into this new version of yourself. step into this new version of yourself. step into this new version of yourself. But it does require the death of the old But it does require the death of the old But it does require the death of the old self. And yes, it can be painful. But self. And yes, it can be painful. But self. And yes, it can be painful. But there are very specific tools. One, you there are very specific tools. One, you there are very specific tools. One, you should 100% try to navigate this on your should 100% try to navigate this on your should 100% try to navigate this on your own own own with some of the tools I'm about to with some of the tools I'm about to with some of the tools I'm about to mention before you seek out mentorship. mention before you seek out mentorship. mention before you seek out mentorship. And mentorship should not be about And mentorship should not be about And mentorship should not be about someone telling you what to do, telling someone telling you what to do, telling someone telling you what to do, telling you what to believe, injecting their you what to believe, injecting their you what to believe, injecting their [  ] onto you. This is about hiring a [  ] onto you. This is about hiring a [  ] onto you. This is about hiring a strategic person that is going to ask strategic person that is going to ask strategic person that is going to ask you better questions to help you see you better questions to help you see you better questions to help you see what you can't [  ] see. I want to be what you can't [  ] see. I want to be what you can't [  ] see. I want to be very clear on that because this isn't very clear on that because this isn't very clear on that because this isn't about your old story. This isn't about about your old story. This isn't about about your old story. This isn't about like, oh, your old identity is not that like, oh, your old identity is not that like, oh, your old identity is not that bad. That's not what this is about. This bad. That's not what this is about. This bad. That's not what this is about. This is about someone who is a trained is about someone who is a trained is about someone who is a trained professional that has also achieved what professional that has also achieved what professional that has also achieved what you're trying to achieve. If you're you're trying to achieve. If you're you're trying to achieve. If you're trying to break through a wall and let trying to break through a wall and let trying to break through a wall and let go of an old identity and step into this go of an old identity and step into this go of an old identity and step into this new better version of yourself, the new better version of yourself, the new better version of yourself, the person mentoring you better have gone person mentoring you better have gone person mentoring you better have gone through that already in their life. through that already in their life. through that already in their life. Maybe they've gone through it multiple Maybe they've gone through it multiple Maybe they've gone through it multiple times, but if it's somebody who still times, but if it's somebody who still times, but if it's somebody who still feels stuck or is still kind of doing feels stuck or is still kind of doing feels stuck or is still kind of doing the same [  ] they've been doing since the same [  ] they've been doing since the same [  ] they've been doing since they were a teenager, please do not they were a teenager, please do not they were a teenager, please do not listen to them. listen to them. listen to them. But again, before you go and seek out But again, before you go and seek out But again, before you go and seek out help from someone else, you should be help from someone else, you should be help from someone else, you should be able to one, get yourself in a weekly able to one, get yourself in a weekly able to one, get yourself in a weekly rhythm of asking yourself at least once rhythm of asking yourself at least once rhythm of asking yourself at least once a week, but honestly, you should be a week, but honestly, you should be a week, but honestly, you should be asking yourself every single day, asking yourself every single day, asking yourself every single day, is this a decision that I am making out is this a decision that I am making out is this a decision that I am making out of inspiration or desperation? If it's a of inspiration or desperation? If it's a of inspiration or desperation? If it's a decision out of desperation, scrap it. decision out of desperation, scrap it. decision out of desperation, scrap it. And if it if the making the decision out And if it if the making the decision out And if it if the making the decision out of inspiration feels really hard, then of inspiration feels really hard, then of inspiration feels really hard, then sit with it long enough until you feel sit with it long enough until you feel sit with it long enough until you feel like you have the way to navigate it, like you have the way to navigate it, like you have the way to navigate it, that it feels good. Not saying that it that it feels good. Not saying that it that it feels good. Not saying that it won't be hard, but it feels good because won't be hard, but it feels good because won't be hard, but it feels good because you know that it's driving you towards you know that it's driving you towards you know that it's driving you towards your bigger, better outcome. your bigger, better outcome. your bigger, better outcome. And so, And so, And so, and you feel you'll feel inspiration in and you feel you'll feel inspiration in and you feel you'll feel inspiration in the heart center, but you the heart center, but you the heart center, but you You always want to use all of you. So, You always want to use all of you. So, You always want to use all of you. So, left brain, right brain. So, the left brain, right brain. So, the left brain, right brain. So, the feeling, right brain, use it, maximize feeling, right brain, use it, maximize feeling, right brain, use it, maximize it, strengthen it. It's an awesome it, strengthen it. It's an awesome it, strengthen it. It's an awesome feedback mechanism. So, get in touch feedback mechanism. So, get in touch feedback mechanism. So, get in touch with where you're feeling. You know, the with where you're feeling. You know, the with where you're feeling. You know, the desperation that's connected to the gut. desperation that's connected to the gut. desperation that's connected to the gut. Desperation is coming from an instinct Desperation is coming from an instinct Desperation is coming from an instinct or an impulse, which both come from the or an impulse, which both come from the or an impulse, which both come from the gut. gut. gut. Intuition is pulling you towards your Intuition is pulling you towards your Intuition is pulling you towards your inspiration, which you're going to feel inspiration, which you're going to feel inspiration, which you're going to feel in the heart. So get really clear on in the heart. So get really clear on in the heart. So get really clear on those differences because that is a those differences because that is a those differences because that is a great driver. Now we got the left brain. great driver. Now we got the left brain. great driver. Now we got the left brain. The left brain is you'll feel that The left brain is you'll feel that The left brain is you'll feel that inspiration when analytically you're inspiration when analytically you're inspiration when analytically you're serving your highest values. So get serving your highest values. So get serving your highest values. So get crystal clear on what your highest crystal clear on what your highest crystal clear on what your highest values are. The top three things that values are. The top three things that values are. The top three things that are most important to you. When you're are most important to you. When you're are most important to you. When you're in alignment with those, hence you don't in alignment with those, hence you don't in alignment with those, hence you don't give a [  ] about pain or pleasure. give a [  ] about pain or pleasure. give a [  ] about pain or pleasure. You're doing things to love yourself. You're doing things to love yourself. You're doing things to love yourself. You're hence you're in a state of You're hence you're in a state of You're hence you're in a state of gratitude. gratitude. gratitude. carry on. carry on. carry on. One of the questions that I ask is again One of the questions that I ask is again One of the questions that I ask is again going back, is this a decision out of going back, is this a decision out of going back, is this a decision out of inspiration or desperation? If you feel inspiration or desperation? If you feel inspiration or desperation? If you feel like that's a really hard question to like that's a really hard question to like that's a really hard question to answer, as Dr. Nick is saying, you can answer, as Dr. Nick is saying, you can answer, as Dr. Nick is saying, you can tap into more of your analytical mind, tap into more of your analytical mind, tap into more of your analytical mind, go to the decision. If you're tr if go to the decision. If you're tr if go to the decision. If you're tr if you're leaning towards a yes, what are you're leaning towards a yes, what are you're leaning towards a yes, what are the pros and cons? If you're if you say the pros and cons? If you're if you say the pros and cons? If you're if you say no, what are the pros and cons? So you no, what are the pros and cons? So you no, what are the pros and cons? So you can also bridge the two worlds. You can also bridge the two worlds. You can also bridge the two worlds. You don't have to just tap into just solely don't have to just tap into just solely don't have to just tap into just solely your senses of how does it make you your senses of how does it make you your senses of how does it make you feel, but this can also be about the feel, but this can also be about the feel, but this can also be about the like analytical logistical part of like analytical logistical part of like analytical logistical part of things. things. things. Those pros and cons need to be linked to Those pros and cons need to be linked to Those pros and cons need to be linked to your highest values. A lot of times your highest values. A lot of times your highest values. A lot of times we'll do pros and cons and we're like, we'll do pros and cons and we're like, we'll do pros and cons and we're like, "Oh, there's there's a lot of pros, but "Oh, there's there's a lot of pros, but "Oh, there's there's a lot of pros, but they're the pros are aligned with they're the pros are aligned with they're the pros are aligned with injected values. They're not actually injected values. They're not actually injected values. They're not actually important to you. They're things that important to you. They're things that important to you. They're things that are important to your parents or the are important to your parents or the are important to your parents or the things that are important to society. things that are important to society. things that are important to society. the things that are important to the the things that are important to the the things that are important to the religious system, etc. So, it that's why religious system, etc. So, it that's why religious system, etc. So, it that's why pros and cons are great, but it's like pros and cons are great, but it's like pros and cons are great, but it's like the pro, is it serving what's most the pro, is it serving what's most the pro, is it serving what's most important to me, my highest values? important to me, my highest values? important to me, my highest values? Cons, is it not serving? Is it taking Cons, is it not serving? Is it taking Cons, is it not serving? Is it taking away? Because when it's when it's away? Because when it's when it's away? Because when it's when it's serving you, you're building yourself serving you, you're building yourself serving you, you're building yourself up. When it's not linked to the highest up. When it's not linked to the highest up. When it's not linked to the highest values, you're breaking yourself down. values, you're breaking yourself down. values, you're breaking yourself down. And the values for for those of you that And the values for for those of you that And the values for for those of you that are like, I don't know what that is. I are like, I don't know what that is. I are like, I don't know what that is. I don't know what that means. I don't know don't know what that means. I don't know don't know what that means. I don't know even know how to go about that. Um, we even know how to go about that. Um, we even know how to go about that. Um, we have a a very short little miniourse have a a very short little miniourse have a a very short little miniourse that you can leverage that's on our that you can leverage that's on our that you can leverage that's on our site. We'll make sure to put the link in site. We'll make sure to put the link in site. We'll make sure to put the link in the show notes that is specifically the show notes that is specifically the show notes that is specifically helping you to figure out your top helping you to figure out your top helping you to figure out your top values. You know, that was another values. You know, that was another values. You know, that was another reason why we were able to move to Italy reason why we were able to move to Italy reason why we were able to move to Italy and make such a grandiose move in our and make such a grandiose move in our and make such a grandiose move in our lives because when it came to our top lives because when it came to our top lives because when it came to our top values as individuals and as a family, values as individuals and as a family, values as individuals and as a family, um expansive experience being one, um um expansive experience being one, um um expansive experience being one, um nature, food, health, uh all of these nature, food, health, uh all of these nature, food, health, uh all of these things were we were going to be able to things were we were going to be able to things were we were going to be able to live more in our values inside of of live more in our values inside of of live more in our values inside of of Italy. And there's also been a lot of Italy. And there's also been a lot of Italy. And there's also been a lot of business moves that we've made in order business moves that we've made in order business moves that we've made in order to align to our values. So this is to align to our values. So this is to align to our values. So this is something that is really really something that is really really something that is really really important at the foundation because you important at the foundation because you important at the foundation because you can then make better decisions out of can then make better decisions out of can then make better decisions out of inspiration. And you can also ask inspiration. And you can also ask inspiration. And you can also ask yourself the question in a different yourself the question in a different yourself the question in a different way. Where am I going to say no to way. Where am I going to say no to way. Where am I going to say no to sharpen my yes? Um, the more that you sharpen my yes? Um, the more that you sharpen my yes? Um, the more that you can say no to that is not going to truly can say no to that is not going to truly can say no to that is not going to truly serve you or align to you, then it will serve you or align to you, then it will serve you or align to you, then it will present more opportunities that are more present more opportunities that are more present more opportunities that are more the hell yes, the hell yeah that are the hell yes, the hell yeah that are the hell yes, the hell yeah that are aligned for you to continue to get you aligned for you to continue to get you aligned for you to continue to get you where you want to be. where you want to be. where you want to be. And so for those of you that are like, And so for those of you that are like, And so for those of you that are like, "Oh, all of this is so hard and and "Oh, all of this is so hard and and "Oh, all of this is so hard and and whatnot." It's probably hard because you whatnot." It's probably hard because you whatnot." It's probably hard because you live a life of distraction and you're live a life of distraction and you're live a life of distraction and you're constantly on you're constantly, you constantly on you're constantly, you constantly on you're constantly, you know, tuned in to responding people on know, tuned in to responding people on know, tuned in to responding people on your phone, you're on social media, you your phone, you're on social media, you your phone, you're on social media, you got a go go go lifestyle, you got a lot got a go go go lifestyle, you got a lot got a go go go lifestyle, you got a lot of demands at at work. You got to carve of demands at at work. You got to carve of demands at at work. You got to carve out time to think. You got to carve out out time to think. You got to carve out out time to think. You got to carve out time to be able to give yourself some time to be able to give yourself some time to be able to give yourself some [  ] space to get answers on things [  ] space to get answers on things [  ] space to get answers on things that are really important to the quality that are really important to the quality that are really important to the quality of your life. of your life. of your life. And if you don't carve out that time, And if you don't carve out that time, And if you don't carve out that time, you're going to stay stuck. you're going to stay stuck. you're going to stay stuck. The truth of it is The truth of it is The truth of it is if something's too hard and difficult to if something's too hard and difficult to if something's too hard and difficult to do, it's not a priority for you. do, it's not a priority for you. do, it's not a priority for you. You know, that's that's it. So, you You know, that's that's it. So, you You know, that's that's it. So, you guess what? You either wait for it to guess what? You either wait for it to guess what? You either wait for it to become more painful so that it becomes a become more painful so that it becomes a become more painful so that it becomes a priority priority priority or you can create the pain yourself just or you can create the pain yourself just or you can create the pain yourself just as you go through and you said if you as you go through and you said if you as you go through and you said if you want to kill an aspect that you think's want to kill an aspect that you think's want to kill an aspect that you think's good well you have to link drawbacks to good well you have to link drawbacks to good well you have to link drawbacks to it. So you can start linking a [  ] ton it. So you can start linking a [  ] ton it. So you can start linking a [  ] ton of drawbacks into you not taking this of drawbacks into you not taking this of drawbacks into you not taking this action. You can create more pain. Pain action. You can create more pain. Pain action. You can create more pain. Pain is a fantastic teacher. is a fantastic teacher. is a fantastic teacher. So go through if you if if you don't So go through if you if if you don't So go through if you if if you don't have enough will to take action on have enough will to take action on have enough will to take action on something, you know, write out 100, 150, something, you know, write out 100, 150, something, you know, write out 100, 150, 200 drawbacks of not taking that action. 200 drawbacks of not taking that action. 200 drawbacks of not taking that action. And then on the opposite side, write out And then on the opposite side, write out And then on the opposite side, write out 100, 150, 200 benefits of taking that 100, 150, 200 benefits of taking that 100, 150, 200 benefits of taking that action. What's it going to give you? action. What's it going to give you? action. What's it going to give you? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. By doing it, what's it going to take By doing it, what's it going to take By doing it, what's it going to take away by not doing it? away by not doing it? away by not doing it? And then you don't have to wait. You And then you don't have to wait. You And then you don't have to wait. You don't have to waste time. You don't have don't have to waste time. You don't have don't have to waste time. You don't have to waste your life. And you can to waste your life. And you can to waste your life. And you can literally speed up the process because literally speed up the process because literally speed up the process because that's what you're doing. You're you're that's what you're doing. You're you're that's what you're doing. You're you're speeding up the process of changing the speeding up the process of changing the speeding up the process of changing the belief system. Hi TA. I I guys, I really belief system. Hi TA. I I guys, I really belief system. Hi TA. I I guys, I really hope you appreciate our commitment to hope you appreciate our commitment to hope you appreciate our commitment to this podcast considering I don't have no this podcast considering I don't have no this podcast considering I don't have no idea if you could hear it, but our child idea if you could hear it, but our child idea if you could hear it, but our child is in the background yelling at us. We is in the background yelling at us. We is in the background yelling at us. We also have our dogs in the background. also have our dogs in the background. also have our dogs in the background. I'm like, okay, if there's one more I'm like, okay, if there's one more I'm like, okay, if there's one more distraction, distraction, distraction, but TA said the podcast is over. It's a but TA said the podcast is over. It's a but TA said the podcast is over. It's a controlled zoo. controlled zoo. controlled zoo. It's a controlled circus. Yes. All It's a controlled circus. Yes. All It's a controlled circus. Yes. All right, guys. We are going to put some right, guys. We are going to put some right, guys. We are going to put some links in the show notes for you. We're links in the show notes for you. We're links in the show notes for you. We're going to give you a great meditation going to give you a great meditation going to give you a great meditation that you can use to take these that you can use to take these that you can use to take these thoughtprovoking questions into the thoughtprovoking questions into the thoughtprovoking questions into the meditation and we're going to give you meditation and we're going to give you meditation and we're going to give you the top two questions that you can ask the top two questions that you can ask the top two questions that you can ask yourself on minimum a weekly basis, but yourself on minimum a weekly basis, but yourself on minimum a weekly basis, but honestly should be on a daily basis in honestly should be on a daily basis in honestly should be on a daily basis in order for you to get this level of order for you to get this level of order for you to get this level of clarity. And we will also give you a clarity. And we will also give you a clarity. And we will also give you a link to our uh values course if you want link to our uh values course if you want link to our uh values course if you want to explore what the heck is important to to explore what the heck is important to to explore what the heck is important to you and what are your top three values. you and what are your top three values. you and what are your top three values. She is cute. She is cute. She is cute. She is pretty damn cute. She is pretty damn cute. She is pretty damn cute. All right, see you on the next one. All right, see you on the next one. All right, see you on the next one. [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Music]