Patchwork Solutions Fail: Why Quick Fixes Harm Your Health

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This is integrative view disruptive. This is integrative view [Music] [Music] [Music] radio. Hey everyone, welcome back to radio. Hey everyone, welcome back to radio. Hey everyone, welcome back to another episode of Integrative View another episode of Integrative View another episode of Integrative View Radio. You have Dr. Nick and myself here Radio. You have Dr. Nick and myself here Radio. You have Dr. Nick and myself here today. for those of you on uh YouTube, today. for those of you on uh YouTube, today. for those of you on uh YouTube, he is he is waving at you. And uh we he is he is waving at you. And uh we he is he is waving at you. And uh we have a really fun topic that was have a really fun topic that was have a really fun topic that was actually inspired by uh the pain that actually inspired by uh the pain that actually inspired by uh the pain that Dr. Nick was inflicting on my leg Dr. Nick was inflicting on my leg Dr. Nick was inflicting on my leg yesterday as he was uh he was working on yesterday as he was uh he was working on yesterday as he was uh he was working on me. Um, for those of you that don't me. Um, for those of you that don't me. Um, for those of you that don't know, I am uh about eight months know, I am uh about eight months know, I am uh about eight months pregnant and uh my left leg is something pregnant and uh my left leg is something pregnant and uh my left leg is something that uh became problematic in my that uh became problematic in my that uh became problematic in my previous birth where my entire left leg previous birth where my entire left leg previous birth where my entire left leg uh went numb during the birth and then uh went numb during the birth and then uh went numb during the birth and then go figure, I ended up uh giving birth in go figure, I ended up uh giving birth in go figure, I ended up uh giving birth in a standing position essentially on one a standing position essentially on one a standing position essentially on one leg while breaking Dr. Nick and our best leg while breaking Dr. Nick and our best leg while breaking Dr. Nick and our best friend Dr. Kyle's friend Dr. Kyle's friend Dr. Kyle's shoulders. So, there's a a little shoulders. So, there's a a little shoulders. So, there's a a little backstory there, but we're being very backstory there, but we're being very backstory there, but we're being very very proactive to make sure that that very proactive to make sure that that very proactive to make sure that that doesn't happen in this uh in this birth doesn't happen in this uh in this birth doesn't happen in this uh in this birth because especially since I'm getting so because especially since I'm getting so because especially since I'm getting so close. Uh but we're in Italy. That's close. Uh but we're in Italy. That's close. Uh but we're in Italy. That's where we are currently living. And they where we are currently living. And they where we are currently living. And they have some pretty wild arnica products. have some pretty wild arnica products. have some pretty wild arnica products. And for those of you unfamiliar with And for those of you unfamiliar with And for those of you unfamiliar with arnica, it's a homeopathic most commonly arnica, it's a homeopathic most commonly arnica, it's a homeopathic most commonly used for pain, discomfort, muscle aches. used for pain, discomfort, muscle aches. used for pain, discomfort, muscle aches. And what would you say, Nick? In the US, And what would you say, Nick? In the US, And what would you say, Nick? In the US, the normal percentage of of arnica, you the normal percentage of of arnica, you the normal percentage of of arnica, you know, potency is what? know, potency is what? know, potency is what? It's been a while since I looked it up, It's been a while since I looked it up, It's been a while since I looked it up, but I mean, this is percent though. but I mean, this is percent though. but I mean, this is percent though. Yeah. Yeah. This is 98 99%. And then Yeah. Yeah. This is 98 99%. And then Yeah. Yeah. This is 98 99%. And then what's interesting is then even when you what's interesting is then even when you what's interesting is then even when you look at the label of the ingredients, look at the label of the ingredients, look at the label of the ingredients, that 98 9%, there was still some in that 98 9%, there was still some in that 98 9%, there was still some in Italy that had toxic ingredients, which Italy that had toxic ingredients, which Italy that had toxic ingredients, which is kind of crazy. Um, so it's always is kind of crazy. Um, so it's always is kind of crazy. Um, so it's always about, you know, it's not what you do, about, you know, it's not what you do, about, you know, it's not what you do, but how you do it that matters most. So but how you do it that matters most. So but how you do it that matters most. So in this how instance is making sure that in this how instance is making sure that in this how instance is making sure that you're only putting quality in because you're only putting quality in because you're only putting quality in because when you think about when you think about when you think about homeopathics, uh, when you mix it with homeopathics, uh, when you mix it with homeopathics, uh, when you mix it with something else, it it actually changes something else, it it actually changes something else, it it actually changes the energy of it. Um, so arnica by the energy of it. Um, so arnica by the energy of it. Um, so arnica by itself, you like, oh, this didn't work. itself, you like, oh, this didn't work. itself, you like, oh, this didn't work. But you actually weren't But you actually weren't But you actually weren't using the full potential of arnica when using the full potential of arnica when using the full potential of arnica when you're mixing that with other chemical you're mixing that with other chemical you're mixing that with other chemical ingredients. Uh so you want to get ingredients. Uh so you want to get ingredients. Uh so you want to get something as pure as possible so you can something as pure as possible so you can something as pure as possible so you can actually experience and receive all that actually experience and receive all that actually experience and receive all that arnica has to offer. Yeah. And and arnica has to offer. Yeah. And and arnica has to offer. Yeah. And and arnica is something that you could take arnica is something that you could take arnica is something that you could take orally, but they also have topical orally, but they also have topical orally, but they also have topical versions of it. And so essentially this versions of it. And so essentially this versions of it. And so essentially this this podcast is about when patchwork can this podcast is about when patchwork can this podcast is about when patchwork can [  ] up your [  ] up your [  ] up your life. And the what got me thinking life. And the what got me thinking life. And the what got me thinking is I bought arnica. I bought an arnica is I bought arnica. I bought an arnica is I bought arnica. I bought an arnica topical gel and I was using it on my leg topical gel and I was using it on my leg topical gel and I was using it on my leg and yes it 100% made my leg feel better and yes it 100% made my leg feel better and yes it 100% made my leg feel better but because of the nature of what we do but because of the nature of what we do but because of the nature of what we do and the way and the way and the way well exactly it was I I got through the well exactly it was I I got through the well exactly it was I I got through the night um with my leg being uncomfortable night um with my leg being uncomfortable night um with my leg being uncomfortable and then the next day you know problems and then the next day you know problems and then the next day you know problems still still persist and I think in this still still persist and I think in this still still persist and I think in this day and age this is a lot of people a day and age this is a lot of people a day and age this is a lot of people a lot of people have aches and pains uh lot of people have aches and pains uh lot of people have aches and pains uh and they don't necessarily know what it and they don't necessarily know what it and they don't necessarily know what it stems from. But of course, we have all stems from. But of course, we have all stems from. But of course, we have all the reasoning. Oh, I walked too long. the reasoning. Oh, I walked too long. the reasoning. Oh, I walked too long. Oh, I twisted my ankle. Oh, I slept Oh, I twisted my ankle. Oh, I slept Oh, I twisted my ankle. Oh, I slept wrong. So, we normalize a lot of what we wrong. So, we normalize a lot of what we wrong. So, we normalize a lot of what we experience and it's not just, you know, experience and it's not just, you know, experience and it's not just, you know, us doing it. It's everyone around us. us doing it. It's everyone around us. us doing it. It's everyone around us. So, again, it further normalizes it. And So, again, it further normalizes it. And So, again, it further normalizes it. And the idea of finding the root cause is is the idea of finding the root cause is is the idea of finding the root cause is is uncommon. And part of this is because of uncommon. And part of this is because of uncommon. And part of this is because of of the programming from our upbringing, of the programming from our upbringing, of the programming from our upbringing, which we'll get into later. So the which we'll get into later. So the which we'll get into later. So the arnica is something that I used but I arnica is something that I used but I arnica is something that I used but I asked Dr. Nick I was like can you please asked Dr. Nick I was like can you please asked Dr. Nick I was like can you please work on my leg because I want to deal work on my leg because I want to deal work on my leg because I want to deal with the root cause of it. And as he was with the root cause of it. And as he was with the root cause of it. And as he was working on my leg I I started thinking working on my leg I I started thinking working on my leg I I started thinking about this idea of of patchwork and how about this idea of of patchwork and how about this idea of of patchwork and how it applies to all the different avenues it applies to all the different avenues it applies to all the different avenues of life. And so obviously he's working of life. And so obviously he's working of life. And so obviously he's working on my leg and it was not the most on my leg and it was not the most on my leg and it was not the most comfortable. And getting to the root comfortable. And getting to the root comfortable. And getting to the root cause of different things in your life cause of different things in your life cause of different things in your life is usually not comfortable, which is one is usually not comfortable, which is one is usually not comfortable, which is one of the reasons why we avoid it. And I of the reasons why we avoid it. And I of the reasons why we avoid it. And I think we can pause really quick. Yeah, think we can pause really quick. Yeah, think we can pause really quick. Yeah, sure. When you say working on your leg, sure. When you say working on your leg, sure. When you say working on your leg, most people are not going to know what most people are not going to know what most people are not going to know what that means. Um Oh, you were doing muscle that means. Um Oh, you were doing muscle that means. Um Oh, you were doing muscle work. You were adjusting my knee, making work. You were adjusting my knee, making work. You were adjusting my knee, making sure it was in alignment. you were sure it was in alignment. you were sure it was in alignment. you were working on um my hip flexors. So, it was working on um my hip flexors. So, it was working on um my hip flexors. So, it was a combination of, you know, let's call a combination of, you know, let's call a combination of, you know, let's call it deep intense muscle work. It's a lot it deep intense muscle work. It's a lot it deep intense muscle work. It's a lot more intricate than that, but for those more intricate than that, but for those more intricate than that, but for those of you that are, you know, not really of you that are, you know, not really of you that are, you know, not really going to understand the verbiage, let's going to understand the verbiage, let's going to understand the verbiage, let's keep it simple. And then there was also keep it simple. And then there was also keep it simple. And then there was also an alignment factor, making sure that my an alignment factor, making sure that my an alignment factor, making sure that my low back, my tailbone, and my hip joint low back, my tailbone, and my hip joint low back, my tailbone, and my hip joint were all in proper alignment in addition were all in proper alignment in addition were all in proper alignment in addition to my foot. So, you know, for those of to my foot. So, you know, for those of to my foot. So, you know, for those of you that have ever had a deep tissue you that have ever had a deep tissue you that have ever had a deep tissue massage or a lymphatic massage, you know massage or a lymphatic massage, you know massage or a lymphatic massage, you know that it doesn't always feel the best. that it doesn't always feel the best. that it doesn't always feel the best. And even afterwards, afterwards, you And even afterwards, afterwards, you And even afterwards, afterwards, you have to have the expectation that you're have to have the expectation that you're have to have the expectation that you're going to be sore, you need to drink a going to be sore, you need to drink a going to be sore, you need to drink a lot of water, and you know, you need to lot of water, and you know, you need to lot of water, and you know, you need to make sure that um you're you're clearing make sure that um you're you're clearing make sure that um you're you're clearing whatever was mobilized in that deep whatever was mobilized in that deep whatever was mobilized in that deep tissue work. Hence why when you get a tissue work. Hence why when you get a tissue work. Hence why when you get a massage they always say you know drink a massage they always say you know drink a massage they always say you know drink a lot of water and and make sure not to lot of water and and make sure not to lot of water and and make sure not to indulge too much in processed foods or indulge too much in processed foods or indulge too much in processed foods or um alcohol um alcohol um alcohol etc. So it's not that the arnica didn't etc. So it's not that the arnica didn't etc. So it's not that the arnica didn't work because it did. It just it didn't work because it did. It just it didn't work because it did. It just it didn't resolve the issue which is why the pain resolve the issue which is why the pain resolve the issue which is why the pain come back. pain. Yeah. And I think most come back. pain. Yeah. And I think most come back. pain. Yeah. And I think most people are not necessarily like we can people are not necessarily like we can people are not necessarily like we can say most people are going to say, "Well, say most people are going to say, "Well, say most people are going to say, "Well, you used arnica. It's natural. It's you used arnica. It's natural. It's you used arnica. It's natural. It's healthy." You know, that's good. That's healthy." You know, that's good. That's healthy." You know, that's good. That's commendable because other people are commendable because other people are commendable because other people are using Tylenol, acetaminophen, ibuprofen, using Tylenol, acetaminophen, ibuprofen, using Tylenol, acetaminophen, ibuprofen, they're use or they're even using um they're use or they're even using um they're use or they're even using um stronger drugs like uh percoet and stronger drugs like uh percoet and stronger drugs like uh percoet and fentanyl and you know oxycodon etc. like fentanyl and you know oxycodon etc. like fentanyl and you know oxycodon etc. like that is that is that is whether you use something quote unquote whether you use something quote unquote whether you use something quote unquote natural and healthy like arnica or natural and healthy like arnica or natural and healthy like arnica or something in my mind not healthy um like something in my mind not healthy um like something in my mind not healthy um like a designed chemical a designed chemical a designed chemical if pain's coming back it's just showing if pain's coming back it's just showing if pain's coming back it's just showing you that you haven't resolved the issue you that you haven't resolved the issue you that you haven't resolved the issue and we keep trying to kill the pain but and we keep trying to kill the pain but and we keep trying to kill the pain but the pain's not the problem it's just the the pain's not the problem it's just the the pain's not the problem it's just the messenger so this is going back to let's messenger so this is going back to let's messenger so this is going back to let's not patch the problems let's fix it but not patch the problems let's fix it but not patch the problems let's fix it but I also feel like there's this context I also feel like there's this context I also feel like there's this context that When we talk about this with the that When we talk about this with the that When we talk about this with the human body, for some reason, we feel human body, for some reason, we feel human body, for some reason, we feel like it's okay to do that patchwork or like it's okay to do that patchwork or like it's okay to do that patchwork or it's okay to postpone finding the root it's okay to postpone finding the root it's okay to postpone finding the root cause. But then when you when you talk cause. But then when you when you talk cause. But then when you when you talk about doing patchwork for your house or about doing patchwork for your house or about doing patchwork for your house or your car, for some reason, there's a your car, for some reason, there's a your car, for some reason, there's a different dynamic happening different dynamic happening different dynamic happening psychologically. You know, if you have a psychologically. You know, if you have a psychologically. You know, if you have a hole in your roof and you have someone hole in your roof and you have someone hole in your roof and you have someone come in and do a a [  ] job, they do a come in and do a a [  ] job, they do a come in and do a a [  ] job, they do a patchwork job, you know, they they patchwork job, you know, they they patchwork job, you know, they they literally put a a piece of plywood over literally put a a piece of plywood over literally put a a piece of plywood over it. Essentially, the problem's a little it. Essentially, the problem's a little it. Essentially, the problem's a little bit better, but the problem still bit better, but the problem still bit better, but the problem still exists. And we logically know that that exists. And we logically know that that exists. And we logically know that that means that there's going to be animals means that there's going to be animals means that there's going to be animals that can get in our house. We know that that can get in our house. We know that that can get in our house. We know that that means, you know, different types of that means, you know, different types of that means, you know, different types of insects can create nests in our house. insects can create nests in our house. insects can create nests in our house. Water can come into our house and then Water can come into our house and then Water can come into our house and then create a mold problem and make our create a mold problem and make our create a mold problem and make our family sick. All of those things make family sick. All of those things make family sick. All of those things make logical sense for people. Same thing logical sense for people. Same thing logical sense for people. Same thing with your car. If you have a hole in with your car. If you have a hole in with your car. If you have a hole in your gas tank and someone goes and puts your gas tank and someone goes and puts your gas tank and someone goes and puts a piece of paper over it or some duct a piece of paper over it or some duct a piece of paper over it or some duct tape, you know that you're going to be tape, you know that you're going to be tape, you know that you're going to be in deep [  ] You know, essentially your in deep [  ] You know, essentially your in deep [  ] You know, essentially your car can explode, your car can stop on car can explode, your car can stop on car can explode, your car can stop on the side of the road. You know, you can the side of the road. You know, you can the side of the road. You know, you can get into an accident because of get into an accident because of get into an accident because of dysfunction because the gas is leaking dysfunction because the gas is leaking dysfunction because the gas is leaking into the engine, etc. into the engine, etc. into the engine, etc. And so we can logically understand the And so we can logically understand the And so we can logically understand the ramifications of patchwork in some of ramifications of patchwork in some of ramifications of patchwork in some of these practical parts of life, but for these practical parts of life, but for these practical parts of life, but for some reason we think we're exempt when some reason we think we're exempt when some reason we think we're exempt when it comes to the human it comes to the human it comes to the human body. And yeah, it's pretty interesting body. And yeah, it's pretty interesting body. And yeah, it's pretty interesting that you used the symbolism of a house that you used the symbolism of a house that you used the symbolism of a house and a car because your house is your and a car because your house is your and a car because your house is your home and your body is your home. And and home and your body is your home. And and home and your body is your home. And and but some people take better care of but some people take better care of but some people take better care of their cars than their body. But your their cars than their body. But your their cars than their body. But your body is is your actually vehicle to be body is is your actually vehicle to be body is is your actually vehicle to be able to do even to use. And I didn't do able to do even to use. And I didn't do able to do even to use. And I didn't do that on purpose by the way. I was that on purpose by the way. I was that on purpose by the way. I was listening and I was like there's some listening and I was like there's some listening and I was like there's some good analogies good analogies good analogies there. So for some people, you know, on there. So for some people, you know, on there. So for some people, you know, on the human behavior, you're not going to the human behavior, you're not going to the human behavior, you're not going to take action until you can link how it's take action until you can link how it's take action until you can link how it's going to serve you. So it's just that going to serve you. So it's just that going to serve you. So it's just that simple instance that, hey, just check in simple instance that, hey, just check in simple instance that, hey, just check in really quick. Are you taking better care really quick. Are you taking better care really quick. Are you taking better care of your house than your actual home, of your house than your actual home, of your house than your actual home, your body, your mind, everything? Or are your body, your mind, everything? Or are your body, your mind, everything? Or are you taking better care of your car, your you taking better care of your car, your you taking better care of your car, your vehicle, your truck, your SUV, whatever vehicle, your truck, your SUV, whatever vehicle, your truck, your SUV, whatever it is, your motorcycle better than it is, your motorcycle better than it is, your motorcycle better than you're taking care of your body? And you're taking care of your body? And you're taking care of your body? And let's just make it a fair exchange. You let's just make it a fair exchange. You let's just make it a fair exchange. You know, you don't have to take less care know, you don't have to take less care know, you don't have to take less care of one. It's just let's put that much of one. It's just let's put that much of one. It's just let's put that much love and care and TLC into yourself. love and care and TLC into yourself. love and care and TLC into yourself. Well, and I think that that is very easy Well, and I think that that is very easy Well, and I think that that is very easy to say, but people will still tend to to say, but people will still tend to to say, but people will still tend to put themselves on the back burner. And put themselves on the back burner. And put themselves on the back burner. And that's kind of the the point that we that's kind of the the point that we that's kind of the the point that we want to drive home today is is talking a want to drive home today is is talking a want to drive home today is is talking a little bit more in depth about the parts little bit more in depth about the parts little bit more in depth about the parts that we might not have in our actual that we might not have in our actual that we might not have in our actual awareness. You know, I know you've heard awareness. You know, I know you've heard awareness. You know, I know you've heard me say it a million times and this was a me say it a million times and this was a me say it a million times and this was a phrase or a concept that I learned in phrase or a concept that I learned in phrase or a concept that I learned in business and it was conflict avoided is business and it was conflict avoided is business and it was conflict avoided is conflict multiplied. And for those of conflict multiplied. And for those of conflict multiplied. And for those of you when it comes to the people side of you when it comes to the people side of you when it comes to the people side of life, if you take a moment and think life, if you take a moment and think life, if you take a moment and think about this idea, if there was an issue about this idea, if there was an issue about this idea, if there was an issue and you just avoided it and and didn't and you just avoided it and and didn't and you just avoided it and and didn't speak up or didn't address it or didn't speak up or didn't address it or didn't speak up or didn't address it or didn't have a conversation, that conflict, if have a conversation, that conflict, if have a conversation, that conflict, if it was an internal conflict or an it was an internal conflict or an it was an internal conflict or an external conflict, that got bigger. And external conflict, that got bigger. And external conflict, that got bigger. And it could get bigger because of the story it could get bigger because of the story it could get bigger because of the story that gets created. It can get bigger that gets created. It can get bigger that gets created. It can get bigger because the problem isn't resolved. it because the problem isn't resolved. it because the problem isn't resolved. it can get bigger that eventually it's like can get bigger that eventually it's like can get bigger that eventually it's like the emotional turmoil of stuffing it the emotional turmoil of stuffing it the emotional turmoil of stuffing it away and then there's boom blow up away and then there's boom blow up away and then there's boom blow up fight. It could be a year later, it fight. It could be a year later, it fight. It could be a year later, it could be 10 years later. We've all could be 10 years later. We've all could be 10 years later. We've all experienced that and we've experienced experienced that and we've experienced experienced that and we've experienced it. If you are an entrepreneur, you've it. If you are an entrepreneur, you've it. If you are an entrepreneur, you've 100% experienced it in your business. If 100% experienced it in your business. If 100% experienced it in your business. If you see something that isn't working and you see something that isn't working and you see something that isn't working and you just were too busy to deal with it, you just were too busy to deal with it, you just were too busy to deal with it, that problem became bigger. that that problem became bigger. that that problem became bigger. that employee issue became bigger and employee issue became bigger and employee issue became bigger and eventually resulted in a uh you know eventually resulted in a uh you know eventually resulted in a uh you know non-amicable departure. It it happens in non-amicable departure. It it happens in non-amicable departure. It it happens in marriages in reality. Well, the I would marriages in reality. Well, the I would marriages in reality. Well, the I would say that I wanted to say sad, but the say that I wanted to say sad, but the say that I wanted to say sad, but the hard part about it is is that you know hard part about it is is that you know hard part about it is is that you know when we avoid things for so long, we're when we avoid things for so long, we're when we avoid things for so long, we're we're just constantly going to the next we're just constantly going to the next we're just constantly going to the next problem, the next fire that we avoided problem, the next fire that we avoided problem, the next fire that we avoided weeks, months, years earlier. And then weeks, months, years earlier. And then weeks, months, years earlier. And then it's like, oh [  ] I'm just going to it's like, oh [  ] I'm just going to it's like, oh [  ] I'm just going to the next fire and I'm going to the next the next fire and I'm going to the next the next fire and I'm going to the next fire because we avoided so much. So, you fire because we avoided so much. So, you fire because we avoided so much. So, you know, initially sometimes it can take a know, initially sometimes it can take a know, initially sometimes it can take a decent amount of effort, energy, and decent amount of effort, energy, and decent amount of effort, energy, and work because we do need to do a certain work because we do need to do a certain work because we do need to do a certain degree of patchwork sometimes um to be degree of patchwork sometimes um to be degree of patchwork sometimes um to be able to give us the space to really work able to give us the space to really work able to give us the space to really work on the true problem. But, you know, if on the true problem. But, you know, if on the true problem. But, you know, if if you don't have that space, then you if you don't have that space, then you if you don't have that space, then you just got to deal with the pain and and just got to deal with the pain and and just got to deal with the pain and and take a couple steps backwards and deal take a couple steps backwards and deal take a couple steps backwards and deal with that causation because you're never with that causation because you're never with that causation because you're never going to get out of that circus of going to get out of that circus of going to get out of that circus of problem problem. problem problem. problem problem. But I think that's the other point that But I think that's the other point that But I think that's the other point that I want to make is that I think this this I want to make is that I think this this I want to make is that I think this this is very very very much built in to is very very very much built in to is very very very much built in to culture and and we live in Italy now. We culture and and we live in Italy now. We culture and and we live in Italy now. We lived in the US our whole lives and it's lived in the US our whole lives and it's lived in the US our whole lives and it's everywhere. It's not just the US. But everywhere. It's not just the US. But everywhere. It's not just the US. But there's this idea there's this idea there's this idea that you things should be fast, cheap, that you things should be fast, cheap, that you things should be fast, cheap, and easy. And we live in a world of and easy. And we live in a world of and easy. And we live in a world of convenience. Don't get me wrong, the convenience. Don't get me wrong, the convenience. Don't get me wrong, the world of convenience is very, very, very world of convenience is very, very, very world of convenience is very, very, very prevalent in the US. Hence why there's prevalent in the US. Hence why there's prevalent in the US. Hence why there's fast food on every single corner. There fast food on every single corner. There fast food on every single corner. There are drive-thrus for your pharmaceutical are drive-thrus for your pharmaceutical are drive-thrus for your pharmaceutical drugs. like you know we have drugs. like you know we have drugs. like you know we have delivery, we have how many you know of delivery, we have how many you know of delivery, we have how many you know of those apps now from Uber Eats and those apps now from Uber Eats and those apps now from Uber Eats and whatever else like there is a massive whatever else like there is a massive whatever else like there is a massive driver for convenience living in Italy driver for convenience living in Italy driver for convenience living in Italy we have some levels of convenience we have some levels of convenience we have some levels of convenience depending on where you are but nowhere depending on where you are but nowhere depending on where you are but nowhere near as much as the US and so we're near as much as the US and so we're near as much as the US and so we're we're built on this idea that things we're built on this idea that things we're built on this idea that things should be fast, cheap, and easy. And so should be fast, cheap, and easy. And so should be fast, cheap, and easy. And so then this is going to flow into the idea then this is going to flow into the idea then this is going to flow into the idea that things in life should be fast, that things in life should be fast, that things in life should be fast, quick and easy. And this is a driver for quick and easy. And this is a driver for quick and easy. And this is a driver for this idea of this idea of this idea of patchwork. And so problem avoided is patchwork. And so problem avoided is patchwork. And so problem avoided is problem multiplied. And we need to get problem multiplied. And we need to get problem multiplied. And we need to get out of the fantasy that it's not going out of the fantasy that it's not going out of the fantasy that it's not going to require some level of of an to require some level of of an to require some level of of an investment or an asset in order to fix investment or an asset in order to fix investment or an asset in order to fix the problem. But exactly what you said the problem. But exactly what you said the problem. But exactly what you said is if you want to patchwork it or push is if you want to patchwork it or push is if you want to patchwork it or push it to the side alto together, the the it to the side alto together, the the it to the side alto together, the the cost gets bigger. And I'm not talking cost gets bigger. And I'm not talking cost gets bigger. And I'm not talking about like the cost of the new roof on about like the cost of the new roof on about like the cost of the new roof on your house or the cost of the new leg your house or the cost of the new leg your house or the cost of the new leg you need. Yes, of course there's that you need. Yes, of course there's that you need. Yes, of course there's that factor, but the thing is that people factor, but the thing is that people factor, but the thing is that people don't look at their time and their don't look at their time and their don't look at their time and their energy as a primary asset. We always energy as a primary asset. We always energy as a primary asset. We always look at money as an asset and people are look at money as an asset and people are look at money as an asset and people are actively giving away their time and actively giving away their time and actively giving away their time and energy which in my opinion is is the energy which in my opinion is is the energy which in my opinion is is the most valuable asset and so if you spend most valuable asset and so if you spend most valuable asset and so if you spend most of your days without time and most of your days without time and most of your days without time and energy you can't enjoy your money. So energy you can't enjoy your money. So energy you can't enjoy your money. So well 100% and we're seeing that well 100% and we're seeing that well 100% and we're seeing that tremendously in people that are 50 and tremendously in people that are 50 and tremendously in people that are 50 and older. you know, people that are are older. you know, people that are are older. you know, people that are are retiring and they're not enjoying their retiring and they're not enjoying their retiring and they're not enjoying their money. They're they're going and dealing money. They're they're going and dealing money. They're they're going and dealing with all the health problems that they with all the health problems that they with all the health problems that they either patchworked or ignored alto either patchworked or ignored alto either patchworked or ignored alto together and you know, they're not together and you know, they're not together and you know, they're not spending their years on at the yacht spending their years on at the yacht spending their years on at the yacht club or the golf course. Like it's if club or the golf course. Like it's if club or the golf course. Like it's if you really take a step back and start you really take a step back and start you really take a step back and start looking at the people around you or or looking at the people around you or or looking at the people around you or or the people that you know that retired or the people that you know that retired or the people that you know that retired or your f your parents' friends, whatever. your f your parents' friends, whatever. your f your parents' friends, whatever. There are there's so many people going There are there's so many people going There are there's so many people going into retirement and immediately going into retirement and immediately going into retirement and immediately going into some type of health crisis and a into some type of health crisis and a into some type of health crisis and a lot of them passing away within 10 years lot of them passing away within 10 years lot of them passing away within 10 years of retirement. It's it's a very very of retirement. It's it's a very very of retirement. It's it's a very very alarming statistic. If um just throwing alarming statistic. If um just throwing alarming statistic. If um just throwing you know a tad bit on one of our you know a tad bit on one of our you know a tad bit on one of our previous podcast we always talked about previous podcast we always talked about previous podcast we always talked about the balance. So if you're curious of the balance. So if you're curious of the balance. So if you're curious of learning the balance about this, we learning the balance about this, we learning the balance about this, we talked about the younger generations um talked about the younger generations um talked about the younger generations um enjoying their time and energy without enjoying their time and energy without enjoying their time and energy without the money. Um so there's always a co- the money. Um so there's always a co- the money. Um so there's always a co- balance of co-learning but health and balance of co-learning but health and balance of co-learning but health and uh uh uh true the true authentic experience of true the true authentic experience of true the true authentic experience of life is in the middle. Um so we got to life is in the middle. Um so we got to life is in the middle. Um so we got to manage both equally. But that was just a manage both equally. But that was just a manage both equally. But that was just a little tag for a previous podcast. little tag for a previous podcast. little tag for a previous podcast. Yeah. No, it's Well, that's the thing is Yeah. No, it's Well, that's the thing is Yeah. No, it's Well, that's the thing is is we're generation to generation, it's is we're generation to generation, it's is we're generation to generation, it's been so different. And the Gen Zers to been so different. And the Gen Zers to been so different. And the Gen Zers to the to the boomers, it it's such a stark the to the boomers, it it's such a stark the to the boomers, it it's such a stark difference the way they think about difference the way they think about difference the way they think about life. No one's right or wrong. Um but life. No one's right or wrong. Um but life. No one's right or wrong. Um but they're the seessaw, they're the seessaw, they're the seessaw, you know, the work hard and hustle for you know, the work hard and hustle for you know, the work hard and hustle for your whole life. And the re we say this your whole life. And the re we say this your whole life. And the re we say this is the bigger awareness we can have the is the bigger awareness we can have the is the bigger awareness we can have the the better questions will develop which the better questions will develop which the better questions will develop which will give us more will give us more will give us more clarity more congruent answers allowing clarity more congruent answers allowing clarity more congruent answers allowing us to take better action so we can just us to take better action so we can just us to take better action so we can just live our best life you know not being live our best life you know not being live our best life you know not being polarized from one viewer to the next polarized from one viewer to the next polarized from one viewer to the next but let's just see the big picture and but let's just see the big picture and but let's just see the big picture and make the best most efficient decisions make the best most efficient decisions make the best most efficient decisions going forward. Well I think it's moving going forward. Well I think it's moving going forward. Well I think it's moving out of judgment and moving into out of judgment and moving into out of judgment and moving into awareness and understanding. You know, awareness and understanding. You know, awareness and understanding. You know, there's a lot of people, even there's a lot of people, even there's a lot of people, even millennials, that are judging the millennials, that are judging the millennials, that are judging the Jenzers. And, you know, don't get me Jenzers. And, you know, don't get me Jenzers. And, you know, don't get me wrong, there were times, especially as a wrong, there were times, especially as a wrong, there were times, especially as a business owner, when I was like, "Wait, business owner, when I was like, "Wait, business owner, when I was like, "Wait, what did you just ask me?" Like, what did you just ask me?" Like, what did you just ask me?" Like, and uh because, you know, we're old the and uh because, you know, we're old the and uh because, you know, we're old the old millennials, so we're we're actually old millennials, so we're we're actually old millennials, so we're we're actually closer to the mindset of the boomers and closer to the mindset of the boomers and closer to the mindset of the boomers and uh but when you when you zoom out, uh but when you when you zoom out, uh but when you when you zoom out, you're like, "Oh, they watched all of you're like, "Oh, they watched all of you're like, "Oh, they watched all of us. They watched all of us work so us. They watched all of us work so us. They watched all of us work so freaking hard, burn ourselves out, and freaking hard, burn ourselves out, and freaking hard, burn ourselves out, and not have quality of life, and they said, not have quality of life, and they said, not have quality of life, and they said, "Nope, don't want that." "Nope, don't want that." "Nope, don't want that." What's even interesting, like you go What's even interesting, like you go What's even interesting, like you go back to that programming of fast, cheap, back to that programming of fast, cheap, back to that programming of fast, cheap, and easy, especially in the US, but it's and easy, especially in the US, but it's and easy, especially in the US, but it's been everywhere. Um, you know, it's why been everywhere. Um, you know, it's why been everywhere. Um, you know, it's why the medical system is designed the way the medical system is designed the way the medical system is designed the way it is because it's a patchwork. It's it is because it's a patchwork. It's it is because it's a patchwork. It's fast. I don't know if I would say it's fast. I don't know if I would say it's fast. I don't know if I would say it's cheap, depending on what country you're cheap, depending on what country you're cheap, depending on what country you're in, and it's easier. in, and it's easier. in, and it's easier. But when you do that, when you learn But when you do that, when you learn But when you do that, when you learn that, you know, fast food, that, you know, fast food, that, you know, fast food, everything, it it's designed to get you everything, it it's designed to get you everything, it it's designed to get you on to the next moment. And when you're on to the next moment. And when you're on to the next moment. And when you're constantly looking for the next moment, constantly looking for the next moment, constantly looking for the next moment, a you're not being present. So, you're a you're not being present. So, you're a you're not being present. So, you're missing out on life, which creates missing out on life, which creates missing out on life, which creates distress. Anytime that we're either distress. Anytime that we're either distress. Anytime that we're either mentally, you know, back in the past mentally, you know, back in the past mentally, you know, back in the past thinking or in that future kind of thinking or in that future kind of thinking or in that future kind of desire desire desire aspect, we're we're missing out on life. aspect, we're we're missing out on life. aspect, we're we're missing out on life. And that's the aging process. You know, And that's the aging process. You know, And that's the aging process. You know, the whole aging process is is a distress the whole aging process is is a distress the whole aging process is is a distress and the distress comes from not being and the distress comes from not being and the distress comes from not being present. Because when we're when we're present. Because when we're when we're present. Because when we're when we're present, we're actually taking in and present, we're actually taking in and present, we're actually taking in and we're experiencing, we're allowing and we're experiencing, we're allowing and we're experiencing, we're allowing and there's really no force um on us when there's really no force um on us when there's really no force um on us when we're in the present moment. But anytime we're in the present moment. But anytime we're in the present moment. But anytime we get out of that moment, you know, and we get out of that moment, you know, and we get out of that moment, you know, and based on also the intensity of the based on also the intensity of the based on also the intensity of the emotion that's attached to that past or emotion that's attached to that past or emotion that's attached to that past or to the present, um that's what's that's to the present, um that's what's that's to the present, um that's what's that's what's that's a huge part of creating what's that's a huge part of creating what's that's a huge part of creating the the the force, the distress onto the the the the force, the distress onto the the the the force, the distress onto the body, which you know creates breakdown body, which you know creates breakdown body, which you know creates breakdown and creates symptoms and creates pain and creates symptoms and creates pain and creates symptoms and creates pain and then we go into that patchwork. and then we go into that patchwork. and then we go into that patchwork. Yeah. So what's fun about that is like Yeah. So what's fun about that is like Yeah. So what's fun about that is like you said is looking bigger of you know you said is looking bigger of you know you said is looking bigger of you know I'm having some physical symptoms in my I'm having some physical symptoms in my I'm having some physical symptoms in my body but I know that my body is more body but I know that my body is more body but I know that my body is more than just a body. It's also you know than just a body. It's also you know than just a body. It's also you know really dictated by the mind. So let's really dictated by the mind. So let's really dictated by the mind. So let's look at what's the mind trying to tell look at what's the mind trying to tell look at what's the mind trying to tell my my left hip and my left leg left leg my my left hip and my left leg left leg my my left hip and my left leg left leg you know what's that attached to? Oh you know what's that attached to? Oh you know what's that attached to? Oh that's also left side of the body is that's also left side of the body is that's also left side of the body is attached to that right brain. More of attached to that right brain. More of attached to that right brain. More of the feminine more of the creation. That the feminine more of the creation. That the feminine more of the creation. That left leg is taking us into what? Well, left leg is taking us into what? Well, left leg is taking us into what? Well, that's how I can either walk forward in that's how I can either walk forward in that's how I can either walk forward in life typically that whole left aspect. life typically that whole left aspect. life typically that whole left aspect. So, it's like, So, it's like, So, it's like, okay, where where am I either holding okay, where where am I either holding okay, where where am I either holding myself back in that creative aspect of myself back in that creative aspect of myself back in that creative aspect of moving forward in my life or that's just moving forward in my life or that's just moving forward in my life or that's just the breaks, but also maybe of am I the breaks, but also maybe of am I the breaks, but also maybe of am I missing something also really help pull missing something also really help pull missing something also really help pull me forward? Yep. You know, am I missing me forward? Yep. You know, am I missing me forward? Yep. You know, am I missing something that's going to really inspire something that's going to really inspire something that's going to really inspire me on this creative part of life? So me on this creative part of life? So me on this creative part of life? So it's looking in both directions of the it's looking in both directions of the it's looking in both directions of the past, what's holding me back in the past, what's holding me back in the past, what's holding me back in the future. What can I connect with to future. What can I connect with to future. What can I connect with to increase that desire, not holding on, increase that desire, not holding on, increase that desire, not holding on, but collapsing both so that I love what but collapsing both so that I love what but collapsing both so that I love what that pain gave me. It gave me the that pain gave me. It gave me the that pain gave me. It gave me the awareness to tap into something that I'm awareness to tap into something that I'm awareness to tap into something that I'm even more creative and inspired about. even more creative and inspired about. even more creative and inspired about. That gave me the awareness of what's That gave me the awareness of what's That gave me the awareness of what's holding me back. And when I can use both holding me back. And when I can use both holding me back. And when I can use both of that negative and positive of that negative and positive of that negative and positive information, that's when you become information, that's when you become information, that's when you become empowered. That's when you become empowered. That's when you become empowered. That's when you become powerful. And that's when you can use powerful. And that's when you can use powerful. And that's when you can use that power to serve yourself, which is that power to serve yourself, which is that power to serve yourself, which is self-love. And that's the gift that self-love. And that's the gift that self-love. And that's the gift that patchwork doesn't offer. Well, yeah. And patchwork doesn't offer. Well, yeah. And patchwork doesn't offer. Well, yeah. And and that's the thing is this is going and that's the thing is this is going and that's the thing is this is going back to the idea of really thinking back to the idea of really thinking back to the idea of really thinking outside of the box. And this is, you outside of the box. And this is, you outside of the box. And this is, you know, things that we've developed over know, things that we've developed over know, things that we've developed over the past decade that we've been working the past decade that we've been working the past decade that we've been working in in practice and working with people in in practice and working with people in in practice and working with people is, you know, you can look at me is, you know, you can look at me is, you know, you can look at me logically and say, you know, you have a logically and say, you know, you have a logically and say, you know, you have a baby and your belly is ginormous at this baby and your belly is ginormous at this baby and your belly is ginormous at this point at 8 months pregnant. So that's point at 8 months pregnant. So that's point at 8 months pregnant. So that's the problem with your with your left the problem with your with your left the problem with your with your left leg. But then, you know, you can then leg. But then, you know, you can then leg. But then, you know, you can then take the step back just looking from the take the step back just looking from the take the step back just looking from the physical perspective and say, well, why physical perspective and say, well, why physical perspective and say, well, why the left and not the right? Oh, well, the left and not the right? Oh, well, the left and not the right? Oh, well, the baby's position blah blah blah blah the baby's position blah blah blah blah the baby's position blah blah blah blah blah. You can have all of the logical blah. You can have all of the logical blah. You can have all of the logical reasons for it, but there are certain reasons for it, but there are certain reasons for it, but there are certain scenarios where the physical work won't scenarios where the physical work won't scenarios where the physical work won't work for the person. And this is this is work for the person. And this is this is work for the person. And this is this is why we've become investigators in our why we've become investigators in our why we've become investigators in our practice is if someone comes to me and practice is if someone comes to me and practice is if someone comes to me and says, I have X problem. I've done this, says, I have X problem. I've done this, says, I have X problem. I've done this, this, this, this. And all of those this, this, this. And all of those this, this, this. And all of those things were physical and biochemical. things were physical and biochemical. things were physical and biochemical. They took supplements, they did detox They took supplements, they did detox They took supplements, they did detox therapies, they did stem cells, they did therapies, they did stem cells, they did therapies, they did stem cells, they did all of that. Now, we have to look beyond all of that. Now, we have to look beyond all of that. Now, we have to look beyond that because what are we going to do? that because what are we going to do? that because what are we going to do? Recreate the wheel? We're going to get Recreate the wheel? We're going to get Recreate the wheel? We're going to get different supplements. We're going to do different supplements. We're going to do different supplements. We're going to do different therapies. We're going to do different therapies. We're going to do different therapies. We're going to do different detox. I don't know. Maybe. different detox. I don't know. Maybe. different detox. I don't know. Maybe. But really, at the end of the day is But really, at the end of the day is But really, at the end of the day is let's go down the road that nobody else let's go down the road that nobody else let's go down the road that nobody else explored. You know, what are the were explored. You know, what are the were explored. You know, what are the were there any major life events or stressors there any major life events or stressors there any major life events or stressors leading up to the onset of what you're leading up to the onset of what you're leading up to the onset of what you're experiencing? So, this is a really cool experiencing? So, this is a really cool experiencing? So, this is a really cool thing about, you know, thinking outside thing about, you know, thinking outside thing about, you know, thinking outside of the box when it comes to the human of the box when it comes to the human of the box when it comes to the human body and thinking outside of the idea of body and thinking outside of the idea of body and thinking outside of the idea of patchwork. And as we're wrapping this patchwork. And as we're wrapping this patchwork. And as we're wrapping this up, there's there's two major things up, there's there's two major things up, there's there's two major things that I want you to walk away with. I that I want you to walk away with. I that I want you to walk away with. I want to give you a couple additional want to give you a couple additional want to give you a couple additional examples of this idea of patchwork examples of this idea of patchwork examples of this idea of patchwork because I gave you the examples with the because I gave you the examples with the because I gave you the examples with the house, but how does this actually apply house, but how does this actually apply house, but how does this actually apply to you, your health, your family, your to you, your health, your family, your to you, your health, your family, your relationships, and then of course we relationships, and then of course we relationships, and then of course we want to give you some want to give you some want to give you some solutions. But this idea of patchwork, I solutions. But this idea of patchwork, I solutions. But this idea of patchwork, I don't think that many people will think don't think that many people will think don't think that many people will think this is patchwork. surgery, medication, this is patchwork. surgery, medication, this is patchwork. surgery, medication, even certain forms of of psychological even certain forms of of psychological even certain forms of of psychological therapy can be patchwork. It's an after therapy can be patchwork. It's an after therapy can be patchwork. It's an after the fact. It's a react. It's a the fact. It's a react. It's a the fact. It's a react. It's a reactivity opposed to a reactivity opposed to a reactivity opposed to a proactivity. And if you're not dealing proactivity. And if you're not dealing proactivity. And if you're not dealing with root with root with root cause, then you know that it's cause, then you know that it's cause, then you know that it's patchwork. And then even too, couples patchwork. And then even too, couples patchwork. And then even too, couples therapy can be a form of patchwork. and therapy can be a form of patchwork. and therapy can be a form of patchwork. and you know parenting techniques that you know parenting techniques that you know parenting techniques that you're learning after the fact that your you're learning after the fact that your you're learning after the fact that your kid is rebellious and has an addiction kid is rebellious and has an addiction kid is rebellious and has an addiction problem can be patchwork. So we have to problem can be patchwork. So we have to problem can be patchwork. So we have to understand this is that you know there understand this is that you know there understand this is that you know there is an is an is an opportunity to be opportunity to be opportunity to be proactive and not reactive. proactive and not reactive. proactive and not reactive. You know, I I feel very fortunate that You know, I I feel very fortunate that You know, I I feel very fortunate that Nick and I, you know, well, two, you Nick and I, you know, well, two, you Nick and I, you know, well, two, you could look at this two different could look at this two different could look at this two different perspectives. We were really busy with perspectives. We were really busy with perspectives. We were really busy with our business and we put a family on our business and we put a family on our business and we put a family on hold. Some people can look at that as a hold. Some people can look at that as a hold. Some people can look at that as a negative, but we believe that everything negative, but we believe that everything negative, but we believe that everything happens the way that it's supposed to happens the way that it's supposed to happens the way that it's supposed to because our clinical experience played a because our clinical experience played a because our clinical experience played a very big role in our own personal very big role in our own personal very big role in our own personal development, which actually set us up development, which actually set us up development, which actually set us up with perfect timing to have a family. with perfect timing to have a family. with perfect timing to have a family. And I say that because we got into Dr. And I say that because we got into Dr. And I say that because we got into Dr. D. Martini's work and we started to D. Martini's work and we started to D. Martini's work and we started to really understand more about ourselves, really understand more about ourselves, really understand more about ourselves, about what we valued, who we are from about what we valued, who we are from about what we valued, who we are from the core of our character. And Nick and the core of our character. And Nick and the core of our character. And Nick and I realized, you know, hence why we were I realized, you know, hence why we were I realized, you know, hence why we were able to run a business together and not able to run a business together and not able to run a business together and not kill each other and also be, you know, kill each other and also be, you know, kill each other and also be, you know, together as as romantic partners is that together as as romantic partners is that together as as romantic partners is that we had a lot of alignment with our our we had a lot of alignment with our our we had a lot of alignment with our our values. And so really what that meant is values. And so really what that meant is values. And so really what that meant is that when we come together as a couple that when we come together as a couple that when we come together as a couple and now have a child, we're very aligned and now have a child, we're very aligned and now have a child, we're very aligned with how we want to raise that child, with how we want to raise that child, with how we want to raise that child, the values we want to instill in that the values we want to instill in that the values we want to instill in that child, quote unquote, the lessons we child, quote unquote, the lessons we child, quote unquote, the lessons we want them to learn, what we think makes want them to learn, what we think makes want them to learn, what we think makes them a quote unquote good person, them a quote unquote good person, them a quote unquote good person, because everybody has a different because everybody has a different because everybody has a different definition of that. We were congruent definition of that. We were congruent definition of that. We were congruent with how we wanted to feed him, with how we wanted to feed him, with how we wanted to feed him, schooling, etc. schooling, etc. schooling, etc. How many people have a child or even get How many people have a child or even get How many people have a child or even get a dog and they realize, "Wow, we are so a dog and they realize, "Wow, we are so a dog and they realize, "Wow, we are so not on the same [  ] page with not on the same [  ] page with not on the same [  ] page with anything and it's because no one's ever anything and it's because no one's ever anything and it's because no one's ever talked about their values." One caveat talked about their values." One caveat talked about their values." One caveat there. It's we do have a lot of values there. It's we do have a lot of values there. It's we do have a lot of values that overlap. I mean, based on we're so that overlap. I mean, based on we're so that overlap. I mean, based on we're so different, but but we're also very very different, but but we're also very very different, but but we're also very very very different. And there are some of very different. And there are some of very different. And there are some of those differences between our values those differences between our values those differences between our values when you get down to the specifics of when you get down to the specifics of when you get down to the specifics of it. But this is part of what I want to it. But this is part of what I want to it. But this is part of what I want to say. When she says aligned, she didn't say. When she says aligned, she didn't say. When she says aligned, she didn't mean that we have the same values. It mean that we have the same values. It mean that we have the same values. It means that we've also taken the time not means that we've also taken the time not means that we've also taken the time not only to learn our values, each other's only to learn our values, each other's only to learn our values, each other's values, the family's values, but learned values, the family's values, but learned values, the family's values, but learned the alignment comes from the the alignment comes from the the alignment comes from the synchronization. Each each specific synchronization. Each each specific synchronization. Each each specific individual's values are actually serving individual's values are actually serving individual's values are actually serving each other. Just because they're each other. Just because they're each other. Just because they're different doesn't mean in one's not when different doesn't mean in one's not when different doesn't mean in one's not when one's getting served the other one's one's getting served the other one's one's getting served the other one's not. That's that's not alignment. That's not. That's that's not alignment. That's not. That's that's not alignment. That's disalignment. When everybody's getting disalignment. When everybody's getting disalignment. When everybody's getting served, when the family's getting served served, when the family's getting served served, when the family's getting served as well, that's alignment. Everybody as well, that's alignment. Everybody as well, that's alignment. Everybody it's it's you know the what is it? The it's it's you know the what is it? The it's it's you know the what is it? The you can have your cake and eat it too. you can have your cake and eat it too. you can have your cake and eat it too. Every everybody's winning. Every everybody's winning. Every everybody's winning. Yeah. No, I I appreciate you clarifying Yeah. No, I I appreciate you clarifying Yeah. No, I I appreciate you clarifying that because that is an important point. that because that is an important point. that because that is an important point. You don't seek out someone who has the You don't seek out someone who has the You don't seek out someone who has the same values of you of you. you you seek same values of you of you. you you seek same values of you of you. you you seek out where there's alignment and out where there's alignment and out where there's alignment and opportunity to grow and and I think that opportunity to grow and and I think that opportunity to grow and and I think that the differences in our values uh really the differences in our values uh really the differences in our values uh really helped us grow in in directions of our helped us grow in in directions of our helped us grow in in directions of our life that we wouldn't have grown if we life that we wouldn't have grown if we life that we wouldn't have grown if we were alone or with different partners. were alone or with different partners. were alone or with different partners. So that there is a very big difference So that there is a very big difference So that there is a very big difference there. And so what we want you to think there. And so what we want you to think there. And so what we want you to think about is okay patchwork. I'm getting it. about is okay patchwork. I'm getting it. about is okay patchwork. I'm getting it. What parts of my life do I think that What parts of my life do I think that What parts of my life do I think that I'm I'm I'm possibly, you know, patching? And, you possibly, you know, patching? And, you possibly, you know, patching? And, you know, if we want to, if we're like, oh, know, if we want to, if we're like, oh, know, if we want to, if we're like, oh, I don't know. Thinking about this idea I don't know. Thinking about this idea I don't know. Thinking about this idea of fast, cheap, and easy, you know, of fast, cheap, and easy, you know, of fast, cheap, and easy, you know, where where am I being resistant in where where am I being resistant in where where am I being resistant in putting in the time, the effort, or or putting in the time, the effort, or or putting in the time, the effort, or or the the monetary investment in order to the the monetary investment in order to the the monetary investment in order to fix the root of the fix the root of the fix the root of the problem? And also, where am I being problem? And also, where am I being problem? And also, where am I being reactive? I think this is a key question reactive? I think this is a key question reactive? I think this is a key question for a lot of people. Where am I being for a lot of people. Where am I being for a lot of people. Where am I being reactive versus proactive? Because in reactive versus proactive? Because in reactive versus proactive? Because in our our our experience, we've seen a lot of people experience, we've seen a lot of people experience, we've seen a lot of people come to us with health problems. There's come to us with health problems. There's come to us with health problems. There's not been until more recently, there not been until more recently, there not been until more recently, there hasn't been tons of people that have hasn't been tons of people that have hasn't been tons of people that have come to us saying, "I want to be come to us saying, "I want to be come to us saying, "I want to be proactive in my health." It was I want proactive in my health." It was I want proactive in my health." It was I want to be I need I need to be reactive to be I need I need to be reactive to be I need I need to be reactive because I have a problem. And the same because I have a problem. And the same because I have a problem. And the same thing usually goes for you know a lot of thing usually goes for you know a lot of thing usually goes for you know a lot of people are not actively seeking out people are not actively seeking out people are not actively seeking out personal growth uh actively seeking out personal growth uh actively seeking out personal growth uh actively seeking out therapy. They're they're doing this as a therapy. They're they're doing this as a therapy. They're they're doing this as a reactivity. So you have to understand do reactivity. So you have to understand do reactivity. So you have to understand do not beat yourself up about this. We have not beat yourself up about this. We have not beat yourself up about this. We have been this this idea has been embedded in been this this idea has been embedded in been this this idea has been embedded in us based off of the the culture and us based off of the the culture and us based off of the the culture and societal norms. You know what is the societal norms. You know what is the societal norms. You know what is the saying? Um don't fix it unless it's saying? Um don't fix it unless it's saying? Um don't fix it unless it's broke. Like I grew up with that saying broke. Like I grew up with that saying broke. Like I grew up with that saying 100%. And I think about that and and it 100%. And I think about that and and it 100%. And I think about that and and it was something I heard a lot just my was something I heard a lot just my was something I heard a lot just my family but other people. And I'm like, family but other people. And I'm like, family but other people. And I'm like, what a [  ] up thing to say to kids, what a [  ] up thing to say to kids, what a [  ] up thing to say to kids, you know, don't fix it until it's broke, you know, don't fix it until it's broke, you know, don't fix it until it's broke, you know, like that is such a [  ] you know, like that is such a [  ] you know, like that is such a [  ] lesson lesson lesson mindset. So, it's it's an interesting mindset. So, it's it's an interesting mindset. So, it's it's an interesting idea. But the other fantasy that I want idea. But the other fantasy that I want idea. But the other fantasy that I want to break is that one, stop thinking that to break is that one, stop thinking that to break is that one, stop thinking that problem solving is easy. You know, this problem solving is easy. You know, this problem solving is easy. You know, this is why CEOs are paid so well. They're is why CEOs are paid so well. They're is why CEOs are paid so well. They're not paid well because they, you know, not paid well because they, you know, not paid well because they, you know, they're just sitting around in their big they're just sitting around in their big they're just sitting around in their big ass office. It's because they are the ass office. It's because they are the ass office. It's because they are the absolute best problemolvers, the most absolute best problemolvers, the most absolute best problemolvers, the most efficient problem solvers, and they are efficient problem solvers, and they are efficient problem solvers, and they are willing to have the hardest [  ] willing to have the hardest [  ] willing to have the hardest [  ] conversations of anyone in the company. conversations of anyone in the company. conversations of anyone in the company. That is what makes a good CEO. So if you That is what makes a good CEO. So if you That is what makes a good CEO. So if you want to be the leader of your family, if want to be the leader of your family, if want to be the leader of your family, if you want to be a leader to your husband you want to be a leader to your husband you want to be a leader to your husband or your wife or your business, then you or your wife or your business, then you or your wife or your business, then you need to understand that problem solving need to understand that problem solving need to understand that problem solving is a part of that. And and I'm sorry, if is a part of that. And and I'm sorry, if is a part of that. And and I'm sorry, if you're a parent, you need to you're a you're a parent, you need to you're a you're a parent, you need to you're a problem solver. End of story. Like problem solver. End of story. Like problem solver. End of story. Like that's part of your job. So you need to that's part of your job. So you need to that's part of your job. So you need to open your level of awareness and you open your level of awareness and you open your level of awareness and you need to understand and anticipate that need to understand and anticipate that need to understand and anticipate that you're going to be using your assets. If you're going to be using your assets. If you're going to be using your assets. If that's going to be your time, your that's going to be your time, your that's going to be your time, your energy or your finances or a combination energy or your finances or a combination energy or your finances or a combination of them, that is a requirement to of them, that is a requirement to of them, that is a requirement to problem solve. They don't there's no problem solve. They don't there's no problem solve. They don't there's no magic wand. I would say that constantly magic wand. I would say that constantly magic wand. I would say that constantly in my office. I'm like people would come in my office. I'm like people would come in my office. I'm like people would come in, oh wait, how long is this going to in, oh wait, how long is this going to in, oh wait, how long is this going to take? Oh, how much is it going to cost? take? Oh, how much is it going to cost? take? Oh, how much is it going to cost? And I'm like, listen, there might be And I'm like, listen, there might be And I'm like, listen, there might be someone out there that has a magic wand. someone out there that has a magic wand. someone out there that has a magic wand. I don't have it. I'd be a lot richer if I don't have it. I'd be a lot richer if I don't have it. I'd be a lot richer if I did. I did. I did. But maybe you could keep me posted. Go But maybe you could keep me posted. Go But maybe you could keep me posted. Go ahead. Like, I have a magic ahead. Like, I have a magic ahead. Like, I have a magic wand. Of course you do. wand. Of course you do. wand. Of course you do. And I wasn't meaning that in the dirty And I wasn't meaning that in the dirty And I wasn't meaning that in the dirty way. I don't even know where you're way. I don't even know where you're way. I don't even know where you're going with that. For my for my pervert going with that. For my for my pervert going with that. For my for my pervert followers followers followers that think just like you. And the last point that I want to drive And the last point that I want to drive And the last point that I want to drive home is pay attention. Open your level home is pay attention. Open your level home is pay attention. Open your level of awareness. I listen I trust me Dr. of awareness. I listen I trust me Dr. of awareness. I listen I trust me Dr. Nick and I both know probably more me Nick and I both know probably more me Nick and I both know probably more me more than Dr. Nick. I know what it's more than Dr. Nick. I know what it's more than Dr. Nick. I know what it's like to be so [  ] busy that you like like to be so [  ] busy that you like like to be so [  ] busy that you like your level of awareness is non-existent your level of awareness is non-existent your level of awareness is non-existent because you're just so busy. You're just because you're just so busy. You're just because you're just so busy. You're just surviving. you're trying to just keep it surviving. you're trying to just keep it surviving. you're trying to just keep it all afloat. And when you're in that all afloat. And when you're in that all afloat. And when you're in that phase of life, and that phase of life phase of life, and that phase of life phase of life, and that phase of life can, trust me, it can persist 20, 30 can, trust me, it can persist 20, 30 can, trust me, it can persist 20, 30 years. It could persist 50 years. I was years. It could persist 50 years. I was years. It could persist 50 years. I was in it for at least 20 years. And you in it for at least 20 years. And you in it for at least 20 years. And you can't listen to the feedback of your can't listen to the feedback of your can't listen to the feedback of your body. You can't listen to the feedback body. You can't listen to the feedback body. You can't listen to the feedback of your your mind. You can't even you of your your mind. You can't even you of your your mind. You can't even you can't even comprehend the feedback of can't even comprehend the feedback of can't even comprehend the feedback of life. like constantly getting rejected life. like constantly getting rejected life. like constantly getting rejected or derailed or investments falling or derailed or investments falling or derailed or investments falling through. Like these things are happening through. Like these things are happening through. Like these things are happening to reroute you to say [  ] stop. I to reroute you to say [  ] stop. I to reroute you to say [  ] stop. I literally I was so [  ] literally I was so [  ] literally I was so [  ] stubborn that they say in stubborn that they say in stubborn that they say in Italian and I was so stubborn that I Italian and I was so stubborn that I Italian and I was so stubborn that I would just be like I'll push through. I would just be like I'll push through. I would just be like I'll push through. I will overcome this instead of pausing to will overcome this instead of pausing to will overcome this instead of pausing to say what is this telling me? How is this say what is this telling me? How is this say what is this telling me? How is this rerouting me? So just just try to keep rerouting me? So just just try to keep rerouting me? So just just try to keep that in mind being that in mind being that in mind being busy. I don't know about you guys, but busy. I don't know about you guys, but busy. I don't know about you guys, but the the busyiness level that I was for the the busyiness level that I was for the the busyiness level that I was for many many many many many many years, when I really stopped to think years, when I really stopped to think years, when I really stopped to think about it, I never I really don't think about it, I never I really don't think about it, I never I really don't think that the level of that the level of that the level of output ever resulted in the equal amount output ever resulted in the equal amount output ever resulted in the equal amount of received money, energy, time. of received money, energy, time. of received money, energy, time. It it was never necessarily the the It it was never necessarily the the It it was never necessarily the the direct correlation of if I put this much direct correlation of if I put this much direct correlation of if I put this much out, I'm getting this much back. out, I'm getting this much back. out, I'm getting this much back. Especially when you're in the Especially when you're in the Especially when you're in the chaotic, busy, burnout, overwhelm. If chaotic, busy, burnout, overwhelm. If chaotic, busy, burnout, overwhelm. If you're busy and you're busy and you're busy and thriving, different. Well, I mean, not thriving, different. Well, I mean, not thriving, different. Well, I mean, not necessarily because you could be necessarily because you could be necessarily because you could be thriving in one area of that, but thriving in one area of that, but thriving in one area of that, but killing yourself in another. killing yourself in another. killing yourself in another. Um, so I want to, this has gone a little Um, so I want to, this has gone a little Um, so I want to, this has gone a little longer than I anticipated, but wrapping longer than I anticipated, but wrapping longer than I anticipated, but wrapping this up, get a pen and pencil out, write this up, get a pen and pencil out, write this up, get a pen and pencil out, write this down because awareness is a skill this down because awareness is a skill this down because awareness is a skill set. You know, it's not something that set. You know, it's not something that set. You know, it's not something that just comes naturally. You have to you just comes naturally. You have to you just comes naturally. You have to you have to work at it. So, an easy thing to have to work at it. So, an easy thing to have to work at it. So, an easy thing to increase your awareness on this is increase your awareness on this is increase your awareness on this is literally just have your journal, pad of literally just have your journal, pad of literally just have your journal, pad of paper, pen, and every day before going paper, pen, and every day before going paper, pen, and every day before going every night before going to bed, every night before going to bed, every night before going to bed, literally just have two columns. One's literally just have two columns. One's literally just have two columns. One's proactive, the other side's reactive, proactive, the other side's reactive, proactive, the other side's reactive, and put in the top couple things that and put in the top couple things that and put in the top couple things that you were proactive in that day. And then you were proactive in that day. And then you were proactive in that day. And then put in the top couple things that you put in the top couple things that you put in the top couple things that you were reactive that day. And next to were reactive that day. And next to were reactive that day. And next to reactive, I want you to put into reactive, I want you to put into reactive, I want you to put into parenthesis energy out. You know, Nicole parenthesis energy out. You know, Nicole parenthesis energy out. You know, Nicole was saying how she gave and gave and was saying how she gave and gave and was saying how she gave and gave and gave, but didn't equal that receiving. gave, but didn't equal that receiving. gave, but didn't equal that receiving. Well, the proactive, that's energy in. Well, the proactive, that's energy in. Well, the proactive, that's energy in. So, for you to be able to see that this So, for you to be able to see that this So, for you to be able to see that this is what you did that was proactive that is what you did that was proactive that is what you did that was proactive that day. That was what you were reactive. day. That was what you were reactive. day. That was what you were reactive. And then you can easily see that, oh my And then you can easily see that, oh my And then you can easily see that, oh my god, this energy out was so much more god, this energy out was so much more god, this energy out was so much more than energy in. If I continue this than energy in. If I continue this than energy in. If I continue this process, the universe, my body, process, the universe, my body, process, the universe, my body, everything's going to be breaking down. everything's going to be breaking down. everything's going to be breaking down. I'm going to have a lot more chaos. Life I'm going to have a lot more chaos. Life I'm going to have a lot more chaos. Life is going to [  ] suck. So, the goal is going to [  ] suck. So, the goal is going to [  ] suck. So, the goal is to have a is to have a is to have a balance. Energy out to energy in. And balance. Energy out to energy in. And balance. Energy out to energy in. And when we're in that balance, that's where when we're in that balance, that's where when we're in that balance, that's where we talk about having the power. So, you we talk about having the power. So, you we talk about having the power. So, you want to go through and constantly be want to go through and constantly be want to go through and constantly be looking at where you were reactive and looking at where you were reactive and looking at where you were reactive and constantly working on that. You're constantly working on that. You're constantly working on that. You're always going to have things that you're always going to have things that you're always going to have things that you're reactive in. Otherwise, you're just in a reactive in. Otherwise, you're just in a reactive in. Otherwise, you're just in a total bliss of gratitude and love all total bliss of gratitude and love all total bliss of gratitude and love all day, which is impossible. Nobody's like day, which is impossible. Nobody's like day, which is impossible. Nobody's like that. So, don't listen to the people that. So, don't listen to the people that. So, don't listen to the people that think that life is all good because that think that life is all good because that think that life is all good because that's [  ] Um, you're going to that's [  ] Um, you're going to that's [  ] Um, you're going to constantly have proactive and reactive, constantly have proactive and reactive, constantly have proactive and reactive, but the goal is to balance it. but the goal is to balance it. but the goal is to balance it. Yeah. And and this is based on the Yeah. And and this is based on the Yeah. And and this is based on the premise of fantasy to a nightmare. If premise of fantasy to a nightmare. If premise of fantasy to a nightmare. If you live in the one-sided world that you live in the one-sided world that you live in the one-sided world that everything is supposed to be great and everything is supposed to be great and everything is supposed to be great and don't listen to those people. don't listen to those people. don't listen to those people. Don't listen to those people because Don't listen to those people because Don't listen to those people because it's not a realistic expectation and it it's not a realistic expectation and it it's not a realistic expectation and it will create a nightmare for you. So, will create a nightmare for you. So, will create a nightmare for you. So, we're here to ground you. we're here to ground you. we're here to ground you. Slap you a little bit. Slap you. Stop Slap you a little bit. Slap you. Stop Slap you a little bit. Slap you. Stop being a [  ] Stop the patchwork quirk. being a [  ] Stop the patchwork quirk. being a [  ] Stop the patchwork quirk. Start being [  ] proactive. Start being [  ] proactive. Start being [ __ ] proactive. Was that your your Italian accent? That Was that your your Italian accent? That Was that your your Italian accent? That was my Italian. That's all I got. was my Italian. That's all I got. was my Italian. That's all I got. All right, guys. We hope you enjoyed. 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