What Really Causes ALS? The Truth About Emotions, Environment & Healing

Hello everyone. Welcome back to another Hello everyone. Welcome back to another Hello everyone. Welcome back to another episode of Integrative View Radio. So, episode of Integrative View Radio. So, episode of Integrative View Radio. So, Dr. Nick and I are doing a really fun Dr. Nick and I are doing a really fun Dr. Nick and I are doing a really fun collaboration here because he gets to collaboration here because he gets to collaboration here because he gets to talk about his favorite thing, which is talk about his favorite thing, which is talk about his favorite thing, which is uh self-love, uh self-love, uh self-love, but in a really interesting interesting but in a really interesting interesting but in a really interesting interesting context today. And this conversation is context today. And this conversation is context today. And this conversation is uh stimulated by a couple of clients uh stimulated by a couple of clients uh stimulated by a couple of clients that we've worked with in the past. And that we've worked with in the past. And that we've worked with in the past. And essentially some as we grew our essentially some as we grew our essentially some as we grew our knowledge base and we started to really knowledge base and we started to really knowledge base and we started to really really dive into the depths of the really dive into the depths of the really dive into the depths of the mental, emotional, psychossematic mental, emotional, psychossematic mental, emotional, psychossematic aspects of disease. Uh there was a light aspects of disease. Uh there was a light aspects of disease. Uh there was a light bulb that went off when it came to the bulb that went off when it came to the bulb that went off when it came to the condition ALS condition ALS condition ALS uh amotrophic lateral sclerosis which is uh amotrophic lateral sclerosis which is uh amotrophic lateral sclerosis which is a neurodeenerative disease. So for those a neurodeenerative disease. So for those a neurodeenerative disease. So for those of you that are here right now because of you that are here right now because of you that are here right now because you're interested in understanding more you're interested in understanding more you're interested in understanding more about neurodeenerative disease, stick about neurodeenerative disease, stick about neurodeenerative disease, stick around. So if you are looking just to around. So if you are looking just to around. So if you are looking just to understand why does the neurological understand why does the neurological understand why does the neurological system, the brain degenerate, this could system, the brain degenerate, this could system, the brain degenerate, this could be MS, this could be ALS, this could be be MS, this could be ALS, this could be be MS, this could be ALS, this could be Alzheimer's, dementia, the list goes on. Alzheimer's, dementia, the list goes on. Alzheimer's, dementia, the list goes on. um that you're going to gain a lot of um that you're going to gain a lot of um that you're going to gain a lot of insight about insight about insight about the the general understanding of the the general understanding of the the general understanding of neurodeenerative disease, but we're neurodeenerative disease, but we're neurodeenerative disease, but we're going to be talking a little bit heavily going to be talking a little bit heavily going to be talking a little bit heavily on ALS just because there's some really on ALS just because there's some really on ALS just because there's some really interesting things that we've seen that interesting things that we've seen that interesting things that we've seen that in my opinion no one is talking about, in my opinion no one is talking about, in my opinion no one is talking about, even doctors that are calling themselves even doctors that are calling themselves even doctors that are calling themselves the experts of ALS. the experts of ALS. the experts of ALS. So we had a couple of clients in the So we had a couple of clients in the So we had a couple of clients in the past that the theme that we saw in their past that the theme that we saw in their past that the theme that we saw in their testing testing testing with the diagnosis they had the with the diagnosis they had the with the diagnosis they had the diagnosis of ALS, we saw cyanide diagnosis of ALS, we saw cyanide diagnosis of ALS, we saw cyanide toxicity. toxicity. toxicity. And when you get into researching And when you get into researching And when you get into researching cyanide toxicity, you know, this is cyanide toxicity, you know, this is cyanide toxicity, you know, this is thought to be a pretty rare exposure, a thought to be a pretty rare exposure, a thought to be a pretty rare exposure, a toxic exposure. And you know, the main toxic exposure. And you know, the main toxic exposure. And you know, the main way you would get exposed is if you way you would get exposed is if you way you would get exposed is if you worked in an environment that was worked in an environment that was worked in an environment that was producing, handling producing, handling producing, handling uh cyanide. uh cyanide. uh cyanide. And so, of course, the research junkies And so, of course, the research junkies And so, of course, the research junkies that we are, uh, one of the main things that we are, uh, one of the main things that we are, uh, one of the main things that contains cyanide is going to be uh, that contains cyanide is going to be uh, that contains cyanide is going to be uh, gunpowder. Uh so if you were a cop, if gunpowder. Uh so if you were a cop, if gunpowder. Uh so if you were a cop, if you had a hobby of hunting or uh going you had a hobby of hunting or uh going you had a hobby of hunting or uh going to shooting ranges, you know, these were to shooting ranges, you know, these were to shooting ranges, you know, these were questions that we would ask to try to questions that we would ask to try to questions that we would ask to try to decipher like where the heck does this decipher like where the heck does this decipher like where the heck does this come from? come from? come from? And And And there would be some of the clients that there would be some of the clients that there would be some of the clients that would say, "Oh yeah, well uh you know, I would say, "Oh yeah, well uh you know, I would say, "Oh yeah, well uh you know, I was a police officer or you know, some was a police officer or you know, some was a police officer or you know, some situation where they're like, maybe it situation where they're like, maybe it situation where they're like, maybe it was that." But then there were others was that." But then there were others was that." But then there were others that are like, "I don't freaking know." that are like, "I don't freaking know." that are like, "I don't freaking know." And at that point we didn't know either And at that point we didn't know either And at that point we didn't know either but it was a matter of let's get the but it was a matter of let's get the but it was a matter of let's get the cyanide out of the body. cyanide out of the body. cyanide out of the body. But then there was an interesting twist But then there was an interesting twist But then there was an interesting twist by a company called Fry Labs. They are a by a company called Fry Labs. They are a by a company called Fry Labs. They are a lab they they uh process different types lab they they uh process different types lab they they uh process different types of testing specifically associated with of testing specifically associated with of testing specifically associated with neurodeenerative disease. And in the neurodeenerative disease. And in the neurodeenerative disease. And in the study that they did many many years ago, study that they did many many years ago, study that they did many many years ago, they found that uh there was a very they found that uh there was a very they found that uh there was a very specific connection to multiple specific connection to multiple specific connection to multiple sclerosis and fungus fungi being in the sclerosis and fungus fungi being in the sclerosis and fungus fungi being in the cerebral spinal fluid. So literally in I cerebral spinal fluid. So literally in I cerebral spinal fluid. So literally in I don't remember exactly what the the um don't remember exactly what the the um don't remember exactly what the the um participants like the amount of participants like the amount of participants like the amount of participants but I know that it was over participants but I know that it was over participants but I know that it was over a thousand a thousand a thousand and they found the fungi in 100% of the and they found the fungi in 100% of the and they found the fungi in 100% of the MS patients. When it came to ALS, which MS patients. When it came to ALS, which MS patients. When it came to ALS, which was the other part of the study, they was the other part of the study, they was the other part of the study, they found algae in the cerebral spinal fluid found algae in the cerebral spinal fluid found algae in the cerebral spinal fluid as what they presumed to be the cause of as what they presumed to be the cause of as what they presumed to be the cause of the neurodeenerative onset. the neurodeenerative onset. the neurodeenerative onset. So, interesting enough is if you look at So, interesting enough is if you look at So, interesting enough is if you look at the research of the algae, it's a blue the research of the algae, it's a blue the research of the algae, it's a blue green algae, also known as cyanoacteria. green algae, also known as cyanoacteria. green algae, also known as cyanoacteria. And as the cyanobacteria gets into the And as the cyanobacteria gets into the And as the cyanobacteria gets into the body and it starts to mess with your me body and it starts to mess with your me body and it starts to mess with your me met metabolic processes and there's met metabolic processes and there's met metabolic processes and there's nitrogen and all these amino acids and nitrogen and all these amino acids and nitrogen and all these amino acids and these different interactions that happen these different interactions that happen these different interactions that happen is it can actually yield cyanide in the is it can actually yield cyanide in the is it can actually yield cyanide in the body in the bloodstream which could then body in the bloodstream which could then body in the bloodstream which could then make its way into the brain. make its way into the brain. make its way into the brain. So there was a very very big connection So there was a very very big connection So there was a very very big connection to yes in some situations maybe these to yes in some situations maybe these to yes in some situations maybe these clients were exposed to cyanide from an clients were exposed to cyanide from an clients were exposed to cyanide from an environmental exposure environmental exposure environmental exposure but most of them that had the cyanide in but most of them that had the cyanide in but most of them that had the cyanide in their system it was actually coming from their system it was actually coming from their system it was actually coming from the algae the algae the algae that they were exposed to that was then that they were exposed to that was then that they were exposed to that was then creating the byproduct of cyanide. creating the byproduct of cyanide. creating the byproduct of cyanide. So this was definitely just a huge aha So this was definitely just a huge aha So this was definitely just a huge aha moment and and in reality conventional moment and and in reality conventional moment and and in reality conventional medicine stops there of like oh my god medicine stops there of like oh my god medicine stops there of like oh my god like this is revolutionary. But the like this is revolutionary. But the like this is revolutionary. But the thing is is that in our practice thing is is that in our practice thing is is that in our practice not everyone who had ALS not everyone who had ALS not everyone who had ALS got better. And obviously that's got better. And obviously that's got better. And obviously that's heartbreaking for us as as practitioners heartbreaking for us as as practitioners heartbreaking for us as as practitioners because we want to do our best to because we want to do our best to because we want to do our best to eradicate the root cause. We want to eradicate the root cause. We want to eradicate the root cause. We want to eradicate the the algae out of the body. eradicate the the algae out of the body. eradicate the the algae out of the body. We want to clear the cyanide. We want to We want to clear the cyanide. We want to We want to clear the cyanide. We want to get the liver working better. We want to get the liver working better. We want to get the liver working better. We want to get the brain regenerating. We, you get the brain regenerating. We, you get the brain regenerating. We, you know, we we try our best to do these know, we we try our best to do these know, we we try our best to do these things. things. things. And of course, in those situations, the And of course, in those situations, the And of course, in those situations, the type of doctors that we are, we sat back type of doctors that we are, we sat back type of doctors that we are, we sat back and said, "Shit, like what did we miss?" and said, "Shit, like what did we miss?" and said, "Shit, like what did we miss?" You know, what did we what more could we You know, what did we what more could we You know, what did we what more could we have done? have done? have done? And it wasn't a quick answer by any And it wasn't a quick answer by any And it wasn't a quick answer by any means. It it wasn't like, "Oh yeah, means. It it wasn't like, "Oh yeah, means. It it wasn't like, "Oh yeah, figured it out." It it was honestly kind figured it out." It it was honestly kind figured it out." It it was honestly kind of years down the line. And we had this of years down the line. And we had this of years down the line. And we had this this light bulb moment of um and it was this light bulb moment of um and it was this light bulb moment of um and it was partly there was another practitioner partly there was another practitioner partly there was another practitioner who yielded some of this information and who yielded some of this information and who yielded some of this information and then it it kind of spiraled from our own then it it kind of spiraled from our own then it it kind of spiraled from our own research and it was talking about neuro research and it was talking about neuro research and it was talking about neuro degeneration ALS in particular being degeneration ALS in particular being degeneration ALS in particular being associated with associated with associated with a lack of like self-love and essentially a lack of like self-love and essentially a lack of like self-love and essentially it's the nice guy syndrome being nice, it's the nice guy syndrome being nice, it's the nice guy syndrome being nice, putting everyone before yourself, which putting everyone before yourself, which putting everyone before yourself, which is being the message being received by is being the message being received by is being the message being received by the brain, by the mind is self- the brain, by the mind is self- the brain, by the mind is self- betrayal. betrayal. betrayal. And so this is why I was very excited to And so this is why I was very excited to And so this is why I was very excited to talk about this because with Dr. Nick talk about this because with Dr. Nick talk about this because with Dr. Nick because I think Dr. Nick talks about because I think Dr. Nick talks about because I think Dr. Nick talks about this a lot and I honestly for me it was this a lot and I honestly for me it was this a lot and I honestly for me it was even really hard to click and he's just even really hard to click and he's just even really hard to click and he's just like at the end of the day all we're like at the end of the day all we're like at the end of the day all we're trying to do is love ourselves more and trying to do is love ourselves more and trying to do is love ourselves more and you know one there's there's the you know one there's there's the you know one there's there's the convoluted idea of of romantic love and convoluted idea of of romantic love and convoluted idea of of romantic love and I think a lot of us don't really know I think a lot of us don't really know I think a lot of us don't really know what the [  ] does that mean you know what the [  ] does that mean you know what the [  ] does that mean you know self love there's two types of love okay self love there's two types of love okay self love there's two types of love okay there's there's the value centered which there's there's the value centered which there's there's the value centered which is the love when somebody serves what's is the love when somebody serves what's is the love when somebody serves what's most important to you, your highest most important to you, your highest most important to you, your highest values. We perceive that as them showing values. We perceive that as them showing values. We perceive that as them showing an act of love. Or when we do something an act of love. Or when we do something an act of love. Or when we do something for ourselves that's congruent with our for ourselves that's congruent with our for ourselves that's congruent with our highest values, you know, that's us highest values, you know, that's us highest values, you know, that's us self-loving through the value centered self-loving through the value centered self-loving through the value centered love. love. love. That love is contingent on us perceiving That love is contingent on us perceiving That love is contingent on us perceiving that our highest values are being that our highest values are being that our highest values are being served. served. served. The other type of love is unconditional The other type of love is unconditional The other type of love is unconditional love. That's not contingent. love. That's not contingent. love. That's not contingent. Unconditional love is actually present Unconditional love is actually present Unconditional love is actually present in every single moment of our lives. in every single moment of our lives. in every single moment of our lives. Unconditional love is understanding that Unconditional love is understanding that Unconditional love is understanding that everything is in a state of balance. everything is in a state of balance. everything is in a state of balance. And when we perceive everything in a And when we perceive everything in a And when we perceive everything in a state of balance and we feel that, state of balance and we feel that, state of balance and we feel that, that's when we feel grateful. That's that's when we feel grateful. That's that's when we feel grateful. That's when we feel, you know, have the tears when we feel, you know, have the tears when we feel, you know, have the tears of gratitude. That's when we feel just of gratitude. That's when we feel just of gratitude. That's when we feel just that pure love that can't be broken. that pure love that can't be broken. that pure love that can't be broken. That's unconditional love. That's unconditional love. That's unconditional love. And the fun thing about that actually And the fun thing about that actually And the fun thing about that actually just recorded yesterday. Um, but there's just recorded yesterday. Um, but there's just recorded yesterday. Um, but there's a scientific process that can get us to a scientific process that can get us to a scientific process that can get us to experience that unconditional love experience that unconditional love experience that unconditional love whenever we want, which is pretty whenever we want, which is pretty whenever we want, which is pretty amazing. amazing. amazing. Well, I want to I 100% want to get into Well, I want to I 100% want to get into Well, I want to I 100% want to get into that, but what I I want to preface with that, but what I I want to preface with that, but what I I want to preface with is I want to preface with like what does is I want to preface with like what does is I want to preface with like what does this look like to not love yourself? this look like to not love yourself? this look like to not love yourself? because I I think that this is something because I I think that this is something because I I think that this is something that not not a lot of people understand that not not a lot of people understand that not not a lot of people understand and we can only and we can only and we can only we can only improve upon things that are we can only improve upon things that are we can only improve upon things that are in our awareness and there are not many in our awareness and there are not many in our awareness and there are not many people that are going to walk around and people that are going to walk around and people that are going to walk around and be like I hate myself you know like I be like I hate myself you know like I be like I hate myself you know like I don't know maybe but you know some don't know maybe but you know some don't know maybe but you know some people might say that playfully and say people might say that playfully and say people might say that playfully and say like oh I hate myself in this moment or like oh I hate myself in this moment or like oh I hate myself in this moment or you know I just hate where I'm at in my you know I just hate where I'm at in my you know I just hate where I'm at in my life but you know they're they're not life but you know they're they're not life but you know they're they're not necessarily putting two two together how necessarily putting two two together how necessarily putting two two together how certain ways they show up or don't show certain ways they show up or don't show certain ways they show up or don't show up are actually being received by the up are actually being received by the up are actually being received by the mind, the body, the brain as mind, the body, the brain as mind, the body, the brain as as bet self- betrayal or or guilt and as bet self- betrayal or or guilt and as bet self- betrayal or or guilt and shame etc. shame etc. shame etc. And I think the probably the biggest And I think the probably the biggest And I think the probably the biggest thing and I I want to hear from you thing and I I want to hear from you thing and I I want to hear from you about it too is this idea of uh putting about it too is this idea of uh putting about it too is this idea of uh putting people people pleasing. people people pleasing. people people pleasing. You know there I understand the You know there I understand the You know there I understand the analytical reason for people pleasing is analytical reason for people pleasing is analytical reason for people pleasing is we want to be part of a community. You we want to be part of a community. You we want to be part of a community. You know we want to feel like we have that know we want to feel like we have that know we want to feel like we have that collaboration and camaraderie. So collaboration and camaraderie. So collaboration and camaraderie. So analytically it makes perfect sense why analytically it makes perfect sense why analytically it makes perfect sense why we would want to people please. we would want to people please. we would want to people please. But I think at the end of the day if we But I think at the end of the day if we But I think at the end of the day if we ever took a step back we realize that if ever took a step back we realize that if ever took a step back we realize that if you are in a relationship where you need you are in a relationship where you need you are in a relationship where you need to people please to be liked to people please to be liked to people please to be liked it's not a great relationship number one it's not a great relationship number one it's not a great relationship number one and number two is deep down you still and number two is deep down you still and number two is deep down you still feel like [  ] even though you quote feel like [  ] even though you quote feel like [  ] even though you quote unquote have that community. unquote have that community. unquote have that community. And then I think the other thing is the And then I think the other thing is the And then I think the other thing is the idea of getting long with the questions idea of getting long with the questions idea of getting long with the questions here girl. Yeah. But the the other thing here girl. Yeah. But the the other thing here girl. Yeah. But the the other thing is is very similar is is very similar is is very similar and and I think this is a huge huge and and I think this is a huge huge and and I think this is a huge huge topic for for I don't want to say topic for for I don't want to say topic for for I don't want to say mothers. I I think the mothers it's a mothers. I I think the mothers it's a mothers. I I think the mothers it's a little bit more intense but parents it's little bit more intense but parents it's little bit more intense but parents it's like putting yourself last. You know how like putting yourself last. You know how like putting yourself last. You know how many how how many people have come to us many how how many people have come to us many how how many people have come to us and they would never invest in their own and they would never invest in their own and they would never invest in their own health but they will spend so much money health but they will spend so much money health but they will spend so much money on their kids and you know and at the on their kids and you know and at the on their kids and you know and at the end of the day you can spin that however end of the day you can spin that however end of the day you can spin that however you want. You could just say, "Oh, it's, you want. You could just say, "Oh, it's, you want. You could just say, "Oh, it's, you know, this is the only amount of you know, this is the only amount of you know, this is the only amount of money we have." Blah, blah, whatever. money we have." Blah, blah, whatever. money we have." Blah, blah, whatever. How you, however you want to justify it. How you, however you want to justify it. How you, however you want to justify it. That is being perceived as you're not That is being perceived as you're not That is being perceived as you're not worth it. You're not good enough. It is worth it. You're not good enough. It is worth it. You're not good enough. It is a an act against loving yourself enough a an act against loving yourself enough a an act against loving yourself enough that you know that you should take care that you know that you should take care that you know that you should take care of yourself just as much as your kid. of yourself just as much as your kid. of yourself just as much as your kid. So, the point I'm making is that it So, the point I'm making is that it So, the point I'm making is that it doesn't look the way we think. Like this doesn't look the way we think. Like this doesn't look the way we think. Like this isn't the the suicidal teenager who says isn't the the suicidal teenager who says isn't the the suicidal teenager who says to his friend, "I hate myself." Or she to his friend, "I hate myself." Or she to his friend, "I hate myself." Or she says, "I hate myself." This is this is says, "I hate myself." This is this is says, "I hate myself." This is this is so many people that are willing to put so many people that are willing to put so many people that are willing to put themselves on the back burner for for themselves on the back burner for for themselves on the back burner for for others and even just for success. Good luck, Nick. Good luck, Nick. Good luck, Nick. There was like 17 questions mixed with There was like 17 questions mixed with There was like 17 questions mixed with some some some Yeah, this is great. I'm so excited Yeah, this is great. I'm so excited Yeah, this is great. I'm so excited right now. Great. So, let's start at the right now. Great. So, let's start at the right now. Great. So, let's start at the very beginning while you're, you know, very beginning while you're, you know, very beginning while you're, you know, rewind 20 minutes ago. Uh, you gave a rewind 20 minutes ago. Uh, you gave a rewind 20 minutes ago. Uh, you gave a lot of examples of what it may look like lot of examples of what it may look like lot of examples of what it may look like for somebody not to give themselves for somebody not to give themselves for somebody not to give themselves love. You know, I think the question love. You know, I think the question love. You know, I think the question was, what does it look like to not give was, what does it look like to not give was, what does it look like to not give yourself love? Yes. Well, when you think yourself love? Yes. Well, when you think yourself love? Yes. Well, when you think about true optimal health is a state of about true optimal health is a state of about true optimal health is a state of zero stress. zero stress. zero stress. So there's no stress on the system. And So there's no stress on the system. And So there's no stress on the system. And when there's no stress on the system, when there's no stress on the system, when there's no stress on the system, all there is is love. all there is is love. all there is is love. So what does it look like to not have So what does it look like to not have So what does it look like to not have love? Well, that's when if you want to love? Well, that's when if you want to love? Well, that's when if you want to geek out, that's when we actually drop geek out, that's when we actually drop geek out, that's when we actually drop back into the world of duality and we back into the world of duality and we back into the world of duality and we become split. And so what does that become split. And so what does that become split. And so what does that split look like? Well, that looks like, split look like? Well, that looks like, split look like? Well, that looks like, you know, holding on to anger and you know, holding on to anger and you know, holding on to anger and resentment and doing this. You know, resentment and doing this. You know, resentment and doing this. You know, every single um every single um every single um aspect of disease aspect of disease aspect of disease is literally how far away from love are you how far away from love are you how far away from love are you and that will equal the degree of the and that will equal the degree of the and that will equal the degree of the disease. disease. disease. So, how does it look to not have love? So, how does it look to not have love? So, how does it look to not have love? That's like a mic drop, dude. That's like a mic drop, dude. That's like a mic drop, dude. Well, that's what it looks like. the the Well, that's what it looks like. the the Well, that's what it looks like. the the degree of your sickness is congruent to degree of your sickness is congruent to degree of your sickness is congruent to the degree of lack of love. the degree of lack of love. the degree of lack of love. And and you're saying lack of love, not And and you're saying lack of love, not And and you're saying lack of love, not necessarily just for yourself, but just necessarily just for yourself, but just necessarily just for yourself, but just generally like lack of love inward generally like lack of love inward generally like lack of love inward outward or both like or one. It's it's outward or both like or one. It's it's outward or both like or one. It's it's actually the exact same. Okay. The the actually the exact same. Okay. The the actually the exact same. Okay. The the lack of love the lack of love we have lack of love the lack of love we have lack of love the lack of love we have outside of us is equal to the degree of outside of us is equal to the degree of outside of us is equal to the degree of lack of love we have inside of us and lack of love we have inside of us and lack of love we have inside of us and vice versa. vice versa. vice versa. Yeah, as above so below. It's the same Yeah, as above so below. It's the same Yeah, as above so below. It's the same same just expresses itself through same just expresses itself through same just expresses itself through different symbols. Uh so that's my answer to your first Uh so that's my answer to your first Uh so that's my answer to your first question. Second one, people pleasing. Why? Uh you Second one, people pleasing. Why? Uh you Second one, people pleasing. Why? Uh you know, initially honestly looking at it know, initially honestly looking at it know, initially honestly looking at it through purely neurologically is that's through purely neurologically is that's through purely neurologically is that's how we're hardwired. Um, you know, you how we're hardwired. Um, you know, you how we're hardwired. Um, you know, you stated you want to have a canity in this stated you want to have a canity in this stated you want to have a canity in this and that, but we want to people please and that, but we want to people please and that, but we want to people please so we can be part of the community so we can be part of the community so we can be part of the community because because because how we process this initially through how we process this initially through how we process this initially through our hindbrain and our hindb brain wants our hindbrain and our hindb brain wants our hindbrain and our hindb brain wants us to stay alive. You know, we don't us to stay alive. You know, we don't us to stay alive. You know, we don't that's not really an issue for us that's not really an issue for us that's not really an issue for us anymore um for our quality of living for anymore um for our quality of living for anymore um for our quality of living for most of the world most of the world. But most of the world most of the world. But most of the world most of the world. But we wanted that community because that we wanted that community because that we wanted that community because that community is where we did trade, you community is where we did trade, you community is where we did trade, you know, that's that's where we got things know, that's that's where we got things know, that's that's where we got things from other people. That's where we got from other people. That's where we got from other people. That's where we got protection. That's where we had housing, protection. That's where we had housing, protection. That's where we had housing, you know, we didn't all just live by you know, we didn't all just live by you know, we didn't all just live by ourselves. So, so if we got kicked out ourselves. So, so if we got kicked out ourselves. So, so if we got kicked out of the community, we lost everything. of the community, we lost everything. of the community, we lost everything. You could die. So, so that's that's the You could die. So, so that's that's the You could die. So, so that's that's the initial hard programming of our nervous initial hard programming of our nervous initial hard programming of our nervous system is to people please. Um, but then system is to people please. Um, but then system is to people please. Um, but then you grow out of that hind brain, the old you grow out of that hind brain, the old you grow out of that hind brain, the old brain into our neoortex where we can brain into our neoortex where we can brain into our neoortex where we can start asking better quality questions to start asking better quality questions to start asking better quality questions to have a better quality life. And the next have a better quality life. And the next have a better quality life. And the next thing is that, you know, we've been thing is that, you know, we've been thing is that, you know, we've been programmed uh to try to earn love programmed uh to try to earn love programmed uh to try to earn love because that's we we all unconsciously because that's we we all unconsciously because that's we we all unconsciously know that that's the best feeling that know that that's the best feeling that know that that's the best feeling that we've ever experienced in our life is we've ever experienced in our life is we've ever experienced in our life is just the feeling of love. It doesn't get just the feeling of love. It doesn't get just the feeling of love. It doesn't get any better than that. And we're all any better than that. And we're all any better than that. And we're all trying to recreate that, but nobody has trying to recreate that, but nobody has trying to recreate that, but nobody has taught us how to recreate it. So, we taught us how to recreate it. So, we taught us how to recreate it. So, we create it by acts of service. We create create it by acts of service. We create create it by acts of service. We create it by being a yes person. Yes, I'll do it by being a yes person. Yes, I'll do it by being a yes person. Yes, I'll do this for you. Yes, I'll do this for you. this for you. Yes, I'll do this for you. this for you. Yes, I'll do this for you. Yes. You know, and never creating a Yes. You know, and never creating a Yes. You know, and never creating a scene thinking that if you know, even scene thinking that if you know, even scene thinking that if you know, even doing I'm laughing. It's not really doing I'm laughing. It's not really doing I'm laughing. It's not really funny. Um but working with couples or funny. Um but working with couples or funny. Um but working with couples or you know, individuals with a a you know, individuals with a a you know, individuals with a a relationship issue. Um it's I'm trying relationship issue. Um it's I'm trying relationship issue. Um it's I'm trying to be nice, like I'm trying to do these to be nice, like I'm trying to do these to be nice, like I'm trying to do these things. And it's like, you know, you go things. And it's like, you know, you go things. And it's like, you know, you go to a a gym and you work out and you're to a a gym and you work out and you're to a a gym and you work out and you're like, I'm going to be really nice on like, I'm going to be really nice on like, I'm going to be really nice on you, bicep. We're actually not going to you, bicep. We're actually not going to you, bicep. We're actually not going to do anything to create too much work for do anything to create too much work for do anything to create too much work for you. I don't want you to get too you. I don't want you to get too you. I don't want you to get too stressed bicep. Like, the bicep only stressed bicep. Like, the bicep only stressed bicep. Like, the bicep only gets bigger and stronger by ripping the gets bigger and stronger by ripping the gets bigger and stronger by ripping the muscle fibers and then they scar up. You muscle fibers and then they scar up. You muscle fibers and then they scar up. You don't get more muscle fibers. You rip don't get more muscle fibers. You rip don't get more muscle fibers. You rip them apart and then they scar up and them apart and then they scar up and them apart and then they scar up and that's how you get stronger. A [  ] that's how you get stronger. A [  ] that's how you get stronger. A [  ] relationship is the exact same way. If relationship is the exact same way. If relationship is the exact same way. If you never have a fight, if you never you never have a fight, if you never you never have a fight, if you never have a confrontation, if you don't have have a confrontation, if you don't have have a confrontation, if you don't have a stress response, it's not going to get a stress response, it's not going to get a stress response, it's not going to get stronger. And if something doesn't get stronger. And if something doesn't get stronger. And if something doesn't get strong, strong, strong, it [  ] dies. Yeah. Like, we try to it [  ] dies. Yeah. Like, we try to it [  ] dies. Yeah. Like, we try to live this one-sided world and that's live this one-sided world and that's live this one-sided world and that's what's [  ] everything up. what's [  ] everything up. what's [  ] everything up. That's what's creating the high That's what's creating the high That's what's creating the high polarization so that we have these polarization so that we have these polarization so that we have these really bad neurodeenerative diseases really bad neurodeenerative diseases really bad neurodeenerative diseases today. I I agree. I I just want to say today. I I agree. I I just want to say today. I I agree. I I just want to say this though because the this is not this though because the this is not this though because the this is not advocating for um deadend fighting or um advocating for um deadend fighting or um advocating for um deadend fighting or um demand relationships as our very good demand relationships as our very good demand relationships as our very good friends Paul and Stacy say, you know, do friends Paul and Stacy say, you know, do friends Paul and Stacy say, you know, do this my way and it'll be better. This is this my way and it'll be better. This is this my way and it'll be better. This is about uh constructive feedback and about uh constructive feedback and about uh constructive feedback and communication rhythms that allow you to communication rhythms that allow you to communication rhythms that allow you to stay on the same page but not avoid stay on the same page but not avoid stay on the same page but not avoid conflict because as we've said in the conflict because as we've said in the conflict because as we've said in the past, conflict avoided is conflict past, conflict avoided is conflict past, conflict avoided is conflict multiplied. I think that people multiplied. I think that people multiplied. I think that people understand these principles when it understand these principles when it understand these principles when it comes to workplace environments. you comes to workplace environments. you comes to workplace environments. you know, they they understand like if know, they they understand like if know, they they understand like if you're the employee, you want feedback. you're the employee, you want feedback. you're the employee, you want feedback. If you if you like your job, I should If you if you like your job, I should If you if you like your job, I should say, you want feedback, good or bad, say, you want feedback, good or bad, say, you want feedback, good or bad, because you want to know, should I get because you want to know, should I get because you want to know, should I get the [  ] out of here? Am I doing a good the [  ] out of here? Am I doing a good the [  ] out of here? Am I doing a good job? Like, should I feel like can I go job? Like, should I feel like can I go job? Like, should I feel like can I go home on the weekend and feel good about home on the weekend and feel good about home on the weekend and feel good about myself or is there somewhere I can myself or is there somewhere I can myself or is there somewhere I can improve so I can create a better work improve so I can create a better work improve so I can create a better work environment for myself? But it's like environment for myself? But it's like environment for myself? But it's like people don't take the same concept at people don't take the same concept at people don't take the same concept at home of, you know, the communication home of, you know, the communication home of, you know, the communication rhythms, staying consistent, so rhythms, staying consistent, so rhythms, staying consistent, so everybody's on the same page. There's no everybody's on the same page. There's no everybody's on the same page. There's no mysteries. There's no stories being told mysteries. There's no stories being told mysteries. There's no stories being told in each other's head. You you're in each other's head. You you're in each other's head. You you're communicating on a regular basis with a communicating on a regular basis with a communicating on a regular basis with a regular cadence. You're you're providing regular cadence. You're you're providing regular cadence. You're you're providing feedback. And in a work environment, feedback. And in a work environment, feedback. And in a work environment, too, you're not like yelling at your too, you're not like yelling at your too, you're not like yelling at your [  ] boss, and you're hopefully your [  ] boss, and you're hopefully your [  ] boss, and you're hopefully your boss is not yelling at you. you're not boss is not yelling at you. you're not boss is not yelling at you. you're not like bringing a [  ] ton of emotions to like bringing a [  ] ton of emotions to like bringing a [  ] ton of emotions to the table like you you have to sit there the table like you you have to sit there the table like you you have to sit there with a poker face and take your feedback with a poker face and take your feedback with a poker face and take your feedback or give your feedback or give your feedback or give your feedback and like in in family dynamics or or and like in in family dynamics or or and like in in family dynamics or or relationship dynamics like what what is relationship dynamics like what what is relationship dynamics like what what is it about that like we just are like like it about that like we just are like like it about that like we just are like like it could have nothing to do with the it could have nothing to do with the it could have nothing to do with the person. So the point is is that you're person. So the point is is that you're person. So the point is is that you're hundred million [  ] percent right. hundred million [  ] percent right. hundred million [  ] percent right. It's just but you don't fight for the It's just but you don't fight for the It's just but you don't fight for the sake of fighting. You don't like come sake of fighting. You don't like come sake of fighting. You don't like come and dump your day on your partner. This and dump your day on your partner. This and dump your day on your partner. This this is about the a not avoiding this is about the a not avoiding this is about the a not avoiding conflict because the conflict blows the conflict because the conflict blows the conflict because the conflict blows the [  ] up later. It doesn't matter how [  ] up later. It doesn't matter how [  ] up later. It doesn't matter how good you think you are at hiding it. good you think you are at hiding it. good you think you are at hiding it. So two things. One, the goal is always So two things. One, the goal is always So two things. One, the goal is always to be proactive. So we have a weekly to be proactive. So we have a weekly to be proactive. So we have a weekly business meeting, but we also have a business meeting, but we also have a business meeting, but we also have a weekly personal meeting. And you know weekly personal meeting. And you know weekly personal meeting. And you know just from what we talked about like two just from what we talked about like two just from what we talked about like two questions in that personal meeting is questions in that personal meeting is questions in that personal meeting is what did I acknowledge that you did to what did I acknowledge that you did to what did I acknowledge that you did to show me love? You know that way she can show me love? You know that way she can show me love? You know that way she can actually be aware of what I perceived actually be aware of what I perceived actually be aware of what I perceived was her showing me me love and then was her showing me me love and then was her showing me me love and then another question is you know what can another question is you know what can another question is you know what can she work on the from my perception. So she work on the from my perception. So she work on the from my perception. So yeah, like where can we do better? Like yeah, like where can we do better? Like yeah, like where can we do better? Like we and we have to answer those questions we and we have to answer those questions we and we have to answer those questions for ourselves. Like it's not about me for ourselves. Like it's not about me for ourselves. Like it's not about me just ridiculing Nick. Like I where can I just ridiculing Nick. Like I where can I just ridiculing Nick. Like I where can I do better? Like where did I what am I do better? Like where did I what am I do better? Like where did I what am I proud of and what am I not? It it's just proud of and what am I not? It it's just proud of and what am I not? It it's just like you the this isn't you don't just like you the this isn't you don't just like you the this isn't you don't just have a meeting and just [  ] wing it. have a meeting and just [  ] wing it. have a meeting and just [  ] wing it. Like this is one of the reasons why like Like this is one of the reasons why like Like this is one of the reasons why like we had all these people opt in. By the we had all these people opt in. By the we had all these people opt in. By the way, you guys can access our meeting, way, you guys can access our meeting, way, you guys can access our meeting, but everybody opts in for the free but everybody opts in for the free but everybody opts in for the free meeting, which we give it to you with meeting, which we give it to you with meeting, which we give it to you with all the questions, but then I'll have all the questions, but then I'll have all the questions, but then I'll have people tell me like, "Oh, I did it and people tell me like, "Oh, I did it and people tell me like, "Oh, I did it and this and that happened." And I'm like, this and that happened." And I'm like, this and that happened." And I'm like, literally, you need to get the videos. literally, you need to get the videos. literally, you need to get the videos. The videos are like 20 bucks. Like, get The videos are like 20 bucks. Like, get The videos are like 20 bucks. Like, get the videos of how to do it because it's the videos of how to do it because it's the videos of how to do it because it's not about what you do, it's about how not about what you do, it's about how not about what you do, it's about how you do it. Just cuz you have a meeting you do it. Just cuz you have a meeting you do it. Just cuz you have a meeting on the schedule doesn't mean it's going on the schedule doesn't mean it's going on the schedule doesn't mean it's going to be productive because there's a to be productive because there's a to be productive because there's a strategic way to go into the meeting and strategic way to go into the meeting and strategic way to go into the meeting and bring a level of vulnerability, bring a level of vulnerability, bring a level of vulnerability, transparency, transparency, transparency, and and master your communication with and and master your communication with and and master your communication with your partner. You don't become suck at your partner. You don't become suck at your partner. You don't become suck at it and then you become good next week. it and then you become good next week. it and then you become good next week. And halfway through we leg Russ wrestle. And halfway through we leg Russ wrestle. And halfway through we leg Russ wrestle. So I mean there's that and just So I mean there's that and just So I mean there's that and just [Music] [Music] [Music] but some meetings are super like some but some meetings are super like some but some meetings are super like some meetings we come to and they're super meetings we come to and they're super meetings we come to and they're super powerful and and powerful and and powerful and and you know I don't want to say positive you know I don't want to say positive you know I don't want to say positive they're just like they're just like they're just like we walk away like we're we're very uh we walk away like we're we're very uh we walk away like we're we're very uh grounded and we walk away feeling really grounded and we walk away feeling really grounded and we walk away feeling really good and then there's some meetings that good and then there's some meetings that good and then there's some meetings that there's like tears and frustration, but there's like tears and frustration, but there's like tears and frustration, but at the end there's there's a there's a a at the end there's there's a there's a a at the end there's there's a there's a a support, there's a collaboration, support, there's a collaboration, support, there's a collaboration, there's a there's a solution, there's an there's a there's a solution, there's an there's a there's a solution, there's an awareness. awareness. awareness. And I think like sometimes, And I think like sometimes, And I think like sometimes, especially as women, we think that our especially as women, we think that our especially as women, we think that our husband should know what's going on in husband should know what's going on in husband should know what's going on in our head. Like he should know that I'm our head. Like he should know that I'm our head. Like he should know that I'm upset about this or he should know that upset about this or he should know that upset about this or he should know that I'm having a rough time at work or he I'm having a rough time at work or he I'm having a rough time at work or he should know. And then if he doesn't should know. And then if he doesn't should know. And then if he doesn't know, you're like secretly brewing and know, you're like secretly brewing and know, you're like secretly brewing and then he doesn't fill the dishwasher then he doesn't fill the dishwasher then he doesn't fill the dishwasher properly and you [  ] lose your [  ] properly and you [  ] lose your [  ] properly and you [  ] lose your [  ] So reeling this back in, why we're So reeling this back in, why we're So reeling this back in, why we're having this conversation is that this is having this conversation is that this is having this conversation is that this is doing those steps, but it's also part of doing those steps, but it's also part of doing those steps, but it's also part of just the the ALS Mr. Nice Guy. And this just the the ALS Mr. Nice Guy. And this just the the ALS Mr. Nice Guy. And this isn't just isn't just isn't just um us coming up with this Mr. Nice Guy um us coming up with this Mr. Nice Guy um us coming up with this Mr. Nice Guy uh idea. Like there's been multiple uh idea. Like there's been multiple uh idea. Like there's been multiple different physicians, people doing different physicians, people doing different physicians, people doing research um that's really shown this uh research um that's really shown this uh research um that's really shown this uh statistic. But when you think about like statistic. But when you think about like statistic. But when you think about like the nice guy syndrome and the the nice guy syndrome and the the nice guy syndrome and the psychosmatic connection to it, like a psychosmatic connection to it, like a psychosmatic connection to it, like a nice guy is where what everything's nice guy is where what everything's nice guy is where what everything's calm. calm. calm. They're in Italian I say ben. Um it's They're in Italian I say ben. Um it's They're in Italian I say ben. Um it's just everything's okay. Everything's just everything's okay. Everything's just everything's okay. Everything's okay. And they don't allow themselves to okay. And they don't allow themselves to okay. And they don't allow themselves to have that expression have that expression have that expression and which usually the symptom is loss of and which usually the symptom is loss of and which usually the symptom is loss of voice. Loss of voice and it's because of voice. Loss of voice and it's because of voice. Loss of voice and it's because of the paralysis of the muscles of the the paralysis of the muscles of the the paralysis of the muscles of the tongue and throat tongue and throat tongue and throat and and and that's interesting. Um, I just got that's interesting. Um, I just got that's interesting. Um, I just got something else I'll throw out there, but something else I'll throw out there, but something else I'll throw out there, but that's when you that's when you that's when you that affects I mean you can break it that affects I mean you can break it that affects I mean you can break it down all the things. So my brain was down all the things. So my brain was down all the things. So my brain was just going to too many different places just going to too many different places just going to too many different places at once, but it's like they they they at once, but it's like they they they at once, but it's like they they they have trouble grasping. So it's like have trouble grasping. So it's like have trouble grasping. So it's like they're holding on to something that's they're holding on to something that's they're holding on to something that's not allowing them to express themselves not allowing them to express themselves not allowing them to express themselves there. So there's always a there. So there's always a there. So there's always a counterbalance there. So like they're counterbalance there. So like they're counterbalance there. So like they're holding on to something. Usually they holding on to something. Usually they holding on to something. Usually they there's stiffening of the muscles there's stiffening of the muscles there's stiffening of the muscles specifically starting the legs. So they specifically starting the legs. So they specifically starting the legs. So they have a shuffling gate. Um so they're not have a shuffling gate. Um so they're not have a shuffling gate. Um so they're not able to walk forward in life. Where are able to walk forward in life. Where are able to walk forward in life. Where are they not stepping forward? What are they they not stepping forward? What are they they not stepping forward? What are they holding on to? What are they not holding on to? What are they not holding on to? What are they not stepping into their truth? And and then stepping into their truth? And and then stepping into their truth? And and then you look at a lot of times when it gets you look at a lot of times when it gets you look at a lot of times when it gets um even further along the line, it can um even further along the line, it can um even further along the line, it can have issue going up affecting the heart have issue going up affecting the heart have issue going up affecting the heart cardiovascular that's more neurologic cardiovascular that's more neurologic cardiovascular that's more neurologic actually. I mean, you can look at actually. I mean, you can look at actually. I mean, you can look at selflove being going right to the heart, selflove being going right to the heart, selflove being going right to the heart, but it's actually going up affecting but it's actually going up affecting but it's actually going up affecting more of the vagus nerve. And the vagus more of the vagus nerve. And the vagus more of the vagus nerve. And the vagus nerve is the main cranial nerve that nerve is the main cranial nerve that nerve is the main cranial nerve that goes in to innervate the heart. And it goes in to innervate the heart. And it goes in to innervate the heart. And it has a parasympathetic uh effect of has a parasympathetic uh effect of has a parasympathetic uh effect of calming. Um, and you're like, well, the calming. Um, and you're like, well, the calming. Um, and you're like, well, the person is calm. Like, no, they they look person is calm. Like, no, they they look person is calm. Like, no, they they look calm, but inside it's just like a bomb calm, but inside it's just like a bomb calm, but inside it's just like a bomb that wants to go off. Yeah. And that's that wants to go off. Yeah. And that's that wants to go off. Yeah. And that's that's the degree that's the degree that's the degree of the imbalance which reaches the of the imbalance which reaches the of the imbalance which reaches the degree of the state of the disease. And degree of the state of the disease. And degree of the state of the disease. And it's also the you know the two as you it's also the you know the two as you it's also the you know the two as you mentioned the the intervation of like mentioned the the intervation of like mentioned the the intervation of like the heart and lungs is the the mortality the heart and lungs is the the mortality the heart and lungs is the the mortality risk associated with uh ALS. But you risk associated with uh ALS. But you risk associated with uh ALS. But you know leading up to that and this is how know leading up to that and this is how know leading up to that and this is how they they rate it progressing is the the they they rate it progressing is the the they they rate it progressing is the the loss of loss of loss of uh motor control of the tongue which is uh motor control of the tongue which is uh motor control of the tongue which is going to affect speech can also start to going to affect speech can also start to going to affect speech can also start to affect eating. And then one of the affect eating. And then one of the affect eating. And then one of the others is, you know, we we had a others is, you know, we we had a others is, you know, we we had a gentleman that had to have a uh machine gentleman that had to have a uh machine gentleman that had to have a uh machine with him because he had no ability to with him because he had no ability to with him because he had no ability to swallow and there was no control proper swallow and there was no control proper swallow and there was no control proper control over the parotted glands. So he control over the parotted glands. So he control over the parotted glands. So he would overproduce saliva and he couldn't would overproduce saliva and he couldn't would overproduce saliva and he couldn't swallow it. And so he obviously had a swallow it. And so he obviously had a swallow it. And so he obviously had a feeding tube, he couldn't swallow um feeding tube, he couldn't swallow um feeding tube, he couldn't swallow um foods anymore. And so, you know, when foods anymore. And so, you know, when foods anymore. And so, you know, when you get into the psychossematics of you get into the psychossematics of you get into the psychossematics of that, and and I'm I'm keeping this that, and and I'm I'm keeping this that, and and I'm I'm keeping this really really simple for you guys, it's, really really simple for you guys, it's, really really simple for you guys, it's, you know, if you're not going to speak you know, if you're not going to speak you know, if you're not going to speak up and exercise your truth or exercise up and exercise your truth or exercise up and exercise your truth or exercise your voice or stand for yourself and your voice or stand for yourself and your voice or stand for yourself and stand for your truth, stand for your truth, stand for your truth, you know, you're you're mentally not you know, you're you're mentally not you know, you're you're mentally not speaking up. And that can manifest as a speaking up. And that can manifest as a speaking up. And that can manifest as a physical manifestation. If you can't physical manifestation. If you can't physical manifestation. If you can't swallow, digest, assimilate your swallow, digest, assimilate your swallow, digest, assimilate your reality, reality, reality, it's going to manifest physically. I I it's going to manifest physically. I I it's going to manifest physically. I I know this could be like totally crazy know this could be like totally crazy know this could be like totally crazy for people to think like, "Holy [  ] is for people to think like, "Holy [  ] is for people to think like, "Holy [  ] is that real? Can that really happen?" that real? Can that really happen?" that real? Can that really happen?" And the answer is yes. And the answer is yes. And the answer is yes. And there's, you know, a quote unquote a And there's, you know, a quote unquote a And there's, you know, a quote unquote a right way and a wrong way to do things. right way and a wrong way to do things. right way and a wrong way to do things. It's not about and we've seen a lot of It's not about and we've seen a lot of It's not about and we've seen a lot of this since co um it's not a speaking up this since co um it's not a speaking up this since co um it's not a speaking up that you're right and somebody else is that you're right and somebody else is that you're right and somebody else is wrong. Correct. It's it's it's speaking wrong. Correct. It's it's it's speaking wrong. Correct. It's it's it's speaking up out of self-love is this is this is up out of self-love is this is this is up out of self-love is this is this is who I this is just who I am. Um you're who I this is just who I am. Um you're who I this is just who I am. Um you're not pushing anything on anybody else. not pushing anything on anybody else. not pushing anything on anybody else. It's not it's not it's not a fight. Um, It's not it's not it's not a fight. Um, It's not it's not it's not a fight. Um, and I think that's that's the problem and I think that's that's the problem and I think that's that's the problem that people think is that, you know, that people think is that, you know, that people think is that, you know, what if I disagree? What if I do these what if I disagree? What if I do these what if I disagree? What if I do these things? Like I'm fighting. Like that's things? Like I'm fighting. Like that's things? Like I'm fighting. Like that's not fighting. That's just disagreeing. not fighting. That's just disagreeing. not fighting. That's just disagreeing. Like we're we all have different set of Like we're we all have different set of Like we're we all have different set of values. values. values. Half the world is going to agree and Half the world is going to agree and Half the world is going to agree and half the world's not. You know, that's half the world's not. You know, that's half the world's not. You know, that's why there's always something to gossip why there's always something to gossip why there's always something to gossip about because there's there's always about because there's there's always about because there's there's always that other half truth. Um, so it's not that other half truth. Um, so it's not that other half truth. Um, so it's not attaching to thinking about speaking up attaching to thinking about speaking up attaching to thinking about speaking up or doing any kind of fight uh that's or doing any kind of fight uh that's or doing any kind of fight uh that's connected with it. Um, it's why there's connected with it. Um, it's why there's connected with it. Um, it's why there's leg wrestling. But there leg wrestling. But there leg wrestling. But there there's the way to to do it to express there's the way to to do it to express there's the way to to do it to express um that connection with your highest um that connection with your highest um that connection with your highest values, what's most important to you. values, what's most important to you. values, what's most important to you. Well, and that's actually one of the Well, and that's actually one of the Well, and that's actually one of the things I think could be really good things I think could be really good things I think could be really good action item for those of you listening action item for those of you listening action item for those of you listening is for those of you that are like, "Wow, is for those of you that are like, "Wow, is for those of you that are like, "Wow, this is amazing. This is really this is amazing. This is really this is amazing. This is really inspiring, but holy [  ] where do I inspiring, but holy [  ] where do I inspiring, but holy [ __ ] where do I start? Uh, your values is key because start? Uh, your values is key because start? Uh, your values is key because exactly what Nick was just saying is exactly what Nick was just saying is exactly what Nick was just saying is this is not about speaking up in in an this is not about speaking up in in an this is not about speaking up in in an aggressive way, becoming the loudest aggressive way, becoming the loudest aggressive way, becoming the loudest person in the room, you know, saying you person in the room, you know, saying you person in the room, you know, saying you should do this, you should do that. This should do this, you should do that. This should do this, you should do that. This is about what I call humble confidence. is about what I call humble confidence. is about what I call humble confidence. So being able to speak confidently but So being able to speak confidently but So being able to speak confidently but in a very compassionate and humble way. in a very compassionate and humble way. in a very compassionate and humble way. So you're not throwing your ego around So you're not throwing your ego around So you're not throwing your ego around or throwing around what you think is the or throwing around what you think is the or throwing around what you think is the right way to live. You just have this right way to live. You just have this right way to live. You just have this humility about you. You know who you are humility about you. You know who you are humility about you. You know who you are at your core and you know where to say at your core and you know where to say at your core and you know where to say yes, where to say no in your life. You yes, where to say no in your life. You yes, where to say no in your life. You know who you want to spend more time know who you want to spend more time know who you want to spend more time with, who you don't want to spend more with, who you don't want to spend more with, who you don't want to spend more time with. And it's because you know time with. And it's because you know time with. And it's because you know your values. you know who you are at your values. you know who you are at your values. you know who you are at your with your your character your with your your character your with your your character um from a deep perspective and so this um from a deep perspective and so this um from a deep perspective and so this is one of the reasons why we start with is one of the reasons why we start with is one of the reasons why we start with values uh discovery in our integrative values uh discovery in our integrative values uh discovery in our integrative medicine program. You know, some people medicine program. You know, some people medicine program. You know, some people don't always understand why is this don't always understand why is this don't always understand why is this important. And it's because you need to important. And it's because you need to important. And it's because you need to know who you are as the foundation for know who you are as the foundation for know who you are as the foundation for the human behavior, mental, emotional the human behavior, mental, emotional the human behavior, mental, emotional work that we're going to do later. work that we're going to do later. work that we're going to do later. Because now, if you know who you are, Because now, if you know who you are, Because now, if you know who you are, you already have a level of awareness of you already have a level of awareness of you already have a level of awareness of where to say yes in your life, where to where to say yes in your life, where to where to say yes in your life, where to say no, where to spend more of your say no, where to spend more of your say no, where to spend more of your time, where to spend less of your time. time, where to spend less of your time. time, where to spend less of your time. You have a level of awareness of where You have a level of awareness of where You have a level of awareness of where are you people pleasing? Where are you are you people pleasing? Where are you are you people pleasing? Where are you guilt and shaming yourself based off of guilt and shaming yourself based off of guilt and shaming yourself based off of what other people told you is the right what other people told you is the right what other people told you is the right way to live or the right way to be. So way to live or the right way to be. So way to live or the right way to be. So this is really really significant. And this is really really significant. And this is really really significant. And if you can get to know this about if you can get to know this about if you can get to know this about yourself, there is a level of freedom yourself, there is a level of freedom yourself, there is a level of freedom that it creates that most people have that it creates that most people have that it creates that most people have not experienced in their lives and not experienced in their lives and not experienced in their lives and potentially will never experience in potentially will never experience in potentially will never experience in their lives. Did I make you emotional? No. Oh, you Did I make you emotional? No. Oh, you Did I make you emotional? No. Oh, you looked a little emotional. looked a little emotional. looked a little emotional. I'm always a little emotional. I was I'm always a little emotional. I was I'm always a little emotional. I was like, did I get a tear? Come on. like, did I get a tear? Come on. like, did I get a tear? Come on. So, we we covered a lot of ground here So, we we covered a lot of ground here So, we we covered a lot of ground here and I want to give you guys just like a and I want to give you guys just like a and I want to give you guys just like a breakdown of of action items. So, one, breakdown of of action items. So, one, breakdown of of action items. So, one, ALS is a complicated condition. ALS is a complicated condition. ALS is a complicated condition. Neurodeenerative disease is a Neurodeenerative disease is a Neurodeenerative disease is a complicated condition. And listen, I complicated condition. And listen, I complicated condition. And listen, I understand that if we're talking understand that if we're talking understand that if we're talking Alzheimer's, dementia, Alzheimer's, dementia, Alzheimer's, dementia, a lot of times these are older a lot of times these are older a lot of times these are older individuals. These are older individuals individuals. These are older individuals individuals. These are older individuals that are very set in their ways. So, you that are very set in their ways. So, you that are very set in their ways. So, you might be listening as an advocate right might be listening as an advocate right might be listening as an advocate right now. It's your mom, it's your dad, and now. It's your mom, it's your dad, and now. It's your mom, it's your dad, and you're like, I want I want them to try you're like, I want I want them to try you're like, I want I want them to try all of this. Uh you have to understand all of this. Uh you have to understand all of this. Uh you have to understand if they wanted to, they would. And and if they wanted to, they would. And and if they wanted to, they would. And and usually that's not necessarily limited usually that's not necessarily limited usually that's not necessarily limited based off of their mental capacity at based off of their mental capacity at based off of their mental capacity at this point. It's just if people wanted this point. It's just if people wanted this point. It's just if people wanted to work on themselves and they wanted to to work on themselves and they wanted to to work on themselves and they wanted to try something different, they would. So try something different, they would. So try something different, they would. So please do not um get attached to other please do not um get attached to other please do not um get attached to other people's outcomes. people's outcomes. people's outcomes. It's their journey, not yours. So I I It's their journey, not yours. So I I It's their journey, not yours. So I I want to say that. Number two is if you want to say that. Number two is if you want to say that. Number two is if you are someone that you feel like there is are someone that you feel like there is are someone that you feel like there is turmoil, turbulence when it comes to turmoil, turbulence when it comes to turmoil, turbulence when it comes to love with yourself and also potentially love with yourself and also potentially love with yourself and also potentially in your family dynamic or with your in your family dynamic or with your in your family dynamic or with your partner. The communication rhythms that partner. The communication rhythms that partner. The communication rhythms that we were talking about, we literally have we were talking about, we literally have we were talking about, we literally have this as a free downloadable option. We this as a free downloadable option. We this as a free downloadable option. We will put the link in the show notes. Get will put the link in the show notes. Get will put the link in the show notes. Get access to it. You really should get the access to it. You really should get the access to it. You really should get the video so you know how to do it. It's not video so you know how to do it. It's not video so you know how to do it. It's not about what you do. It's how you do it. about what you do. It's how you do it. about what you do. It's how you do it. For those of you really resonating with For those of you really resonating with For those of you really resonating with this last piece of I don't know what I this last piece of I don't know what I this last piece of I don't know what I like. I don't know who I am. I don't like. I don't know who I am. I don't like. I don't know who I am. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know how to know. I don't know. I don't know how to know. I don't know. I don't know how to start this process. You need to start at start this process. You need to start at start this process. You need to start at the foundation which is your values. And the foundation which is your values. And the foundation which is your values. And we have a course on that as well. So, we have a course on that as well. So, we have a course on that as well. So, please again go to the show notes. The please again go to the show notes. The please again go to the show notes. The links will be there. You will have easy links will be there. You will have easy links will be there. You will have easy access to all of this. For those of you access to all of this. For those of you access to all of this. For those of you that are just like, I don't know where that are just like, I don't know where that are just like, I don't know where to start and I need your help. We got to start and I need your help. We got to start and I need your help. We got you. you. you. because this is what we curate for the because this is what we curate for the because this is what we curate for the people that we work with. And you know, people that we work with. And you know, people that we work with. And you know, some people are the self-starters. They some people are the self-starters. They some people are the self-starters. They want to do things at their own pace. You want to do things at their own pace. You want to do things at their own pace. You know, they want to take the bull by the know, they want to take the bull by the know, they want to take the bull by the horns. And then some people are like, horns. And then some people are like, horns. And then some people are like, "Listen, I I I just I want to have I "Listen, I I I just I want to have I "Listen, I I I just I want to have I want to have the strategy. I want to do want to have the strategy. I want to do want to have the strategy. I want to do this in the quickest, most efficient this in the quickest, most efficient this in the quickest, most efficient way, and I want your help along along way, and I want your help along along way, and I want your help along along the way." That's what we're here for. the way." That's what we're here for. the way." That's what we're here for. So, we really hope that you enjoyed So, we really hope that you enjoyed So, we really hope that you enjoyed this. I hope it sheds some light on this this. I hope it sheds some light on this this. I hope it sheds some light on this condition. Uh, and I hope that it gave condition. Uh, and I hope that it gave condition. Uh, and I hope that it gave you hope that this isn't just bad luck, you hope that this isn't just bad luck, you hope that this isn't just bad luck, bad genes. It's not if if it's in your bad genes. It's not if if it's in your bad genes. It's not if if it's in your family, it doesn't mean that this is family, it doesn't mean that this is family, it doesn't mean that this is going to happen to you. You are in the going to happen to you. You are in the going to happen to you. You are in the driver's seat of your outcomes, but it's driver's seat of your outcomes, but it's driver's seat of your outcomes, but it's not necessarily just about the not necessarily just about the not necessarily just about the physicality of these types of diseases. physicality of these types of diseases. physicality of these types of diseases. It's also about the mental and emotional It's also about the mental and emotional It's also about the mental and emotional layers that play into it. layers that play into it. layers that play into it. All right, guys. Love. We'll see you on All right, guys. Love. We'll see you on All right, guys. Love. We'll see you on the next one. the next one. the next one. [Music] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Music]