The Truth About Fevers: What Your Kids’ Symptoms Are Really Telling You

[music] [music] [music] What is up everyone? Welcome back to What is up everyone? Welcome back to What is up everyone? Welcome back to another episode of Integrative You another episode of Integrative You another episode of Integrative You Radio. You are graced with Dr. Nick's Radio. You are graced with Dr. Nick's Radio. You are graced with Dr. Nick's presence today. [laughter] presence today. [laughter] presence today. [laughter] The past few episodes that I've done The past few episodes that I've done The past few episodes that I've done solo, I've been letting everyone know solo, I've been letting everyone know solo, I've been letting everyone know that we've just been navigating a bit of that we've just been navigating a bit of that we've just been navigating a bit of chaos over here. You know, two kids and chaos over here. You know, two kids and chaos over here. You know, two kids and dogs and house management and all of dogs and house management and all of dogs and house management and all of those things. Um, those things. Um, those things. Um, I am back [laughter] I am back [laughter] I am back [laughter] back and uh he has some really back and uh he has some really back and uh he has some really interesting things that he wants to spew interesting things that he wants to spew interesting things that he wants to spew out. So, we're going to kick off with a out. So, we're going to kick off with a out. So, we're going to kick off with a uh actual planned podcast, but um for uh actual planned podcast, but um for uh actual planned podcast, but um for those of you that are on YouTube and you those of you that are on YouTube and you those of you that are on YouTube and you see this blazer, then uh it's just going see this blazer, then uh it's just going see this blazer, then uh it's just going to keep getting better because we're to keep getting better because we're to keep getting better because we're going to do some improv after this. going to do some improv after this. going to do some improv after this. [laughter] [laughter] [laughter] This is a warm-up. This is a warm-up. This is a warm-up. This is a warmup. But uh this the topic This is a warmup. But uh this the topic This is a warmup. But uh this the topic that we're talking about I think is very that we're talking about I think is very that we're talking about I think is very relatable and very practical for a lot relatable and very practical for a lot relatable and very practical for a lot of people. Um of people. Um of people. Um I mean we're going through it right now. I mean we're going through it right now. I mean we're going through it right now. Well, exactly. But I think that one of Well, exactly. But I think that one of Well, exactly. But I think that one of the catalysts to talking about this the catalysts to talking about this the catalysts to talking about this topic which is uh an acute fever which topic which is uh an acute fever which topic which is uh an acute fever which we have all been taught to fear um from we have all been taught to fear um from we have all been taught to fear um from conventional medicine because you know conventional medicine because you know conventional medicine because you know fevers can create brain damage so on and fevers can create brain damage so on and fevers can create brain damage so on and so forth. So we're one going to be so forth. So we're one going to be so forth. So we're one going to be busting that myth. Number two is we're busting that myth. Number two is we're busting that myth. Number two is we're actually going to help you understand actually going to help you understand actually going to help you understand what are the psychological, mental, what are the psychological, mental, what are the psychological, mental, emotional layers to why your kids or emotional layers to why your kids or emotional layers to why your kids or even yourself might always be plagued even yourself might always be plagued even yourself might always be plagued with the sinus congestion in the winter with the sinus congestion in the winter with the sinus congestion in the winter months or even other times of the year. months or even other times of the year. months or even other times of the year. Why they have reoccurring sore throats, Why they have reoccurring sore throats, Why they have reoccurring sore throats, why they have upper respiratory why they have upper respiratory why they have upper respiratory infections, why they have ear infections, why they have ear infections, why they have ear infections. infections. infections. The thing is is that if it's reoccurring The thing is is that if it's reoccurring The thing is is that if it's reoccurring or not, this is still going to be of or not, this is still going to be of or not, this is still going to be of value to you. And we really experienced value to you. And we really experienced value to you. And we really experienced this firsthand this firsthand this firsthand uh in the past two weeks. And the uh in the past two weeks. And the uh in the past two weeks. And the catalyst for me wanting to talk about catalyst for me wanting to talk about catalyst for me wanting to talk about this is our neighbor. She's super super this is our neighbor. She's super super this is our neighbor. She's super super open-minded and she has been um you know open-minded and she has been um you know open-minded and she has been um you know getting acquainted with our our ways of getting acquainted with our our ways of getting acquainted with our our ways of navigating um health challenges and navigating um health challenges and navigating um health challenges and she's just constantly fascinated and she's just constantly fascinated and she's just constantly fascinated and intrigued and honestly has adopted a lot intrigued and honestly has adopted a lot intrigued and honestly has adopted a lot of things that we do. Um, but after of things that we do. Um, but after of things that we do. Um, but after Quentyn spiking a a fever, I think he Quentyn spiking a a fever, I think he Quentyn spiking a a fever, I think he was day two into his fever, and she goes was day two into his fever, and she goes was day two into his fever, and she goes like, "Is there a part of you just like, "Is there a part of you just like, "Is there a part of you just thinks that maybe it's just like a thinks that maybe it's just like a thinks that maybe it's just like a virus?" virus?" virus?" [laughter] And I was like, "Haha, my [laughter] And I was like, "Haha, my [laughter] And I was like, "Haha, my friend." friend." friend." And um, and we talked about it and And um, and we talked about it and And um, and we talked about it and [laughter] she's like, "Oh, you didn't [laughter] she's like, "Oh, you didn't [laughter] she's like, "Oh, you didn't know this?" Oh, yeah. We [clears throat] know this?" Oh, yeah. We [clears throat] know this?" Oh, yeah. We [clears throat] we we started talking about it. I was we we started talking about it. I was we we started talking about it. I was like, "Okay, let me let me break this like, "Okay, let me let me break this like, "Okay, let me let me break this down to help you understand." And then down to help you understand." And then down to help you understand." And then she just had this face essentially she just had this face essentially she just had this face essentially saying, "Holy [  ] that makes a lot of saying, "Holy [  ] that makes a lot of saying, "Holy [  ] that makes a lot of sense." without her actually saying, sense." without her actually saying, sense." without her actually saying, "Holy [  ] makes a lot of sense." She "Holy [  ] makes a lot of sense." She "Holy [  ] makes a lot of sense." She did end up saying that later. [laughter] did end up saying that later. [laughter] did end up saying that later. [laughter] And the interesting part of it is she And the interesting part of it is she And the interesting part of it is she really understood it because what was really understood it because what was really understood it because what was happening with Quentyn and the catalyst happening with Quentyn and the catalyst happening with Quentyn and the catalyst to the fever was actually a territorial to the fever was actually a territorial to the fever was actually a territorial issue that was happening between him and issue that was happening between him and issue that was happening between him and her daughter aka you know they're little her daughter aka you know they're little her daughter aka you know they're little kids. They're four years old. M mine kids. They're four years old. M mine kids. They're four years old. M mine this is mine. No, this is mine. I want this is mine. No, this is mine. I want this is mine. No, this is mine. I want my toys. No, I want you know there's a my toys. No, I want you know there's a my toys. No, I want you know there's a lot of that going on. It's a very very lot of that going on. It's a very very lot of that going on. It's a very very common thing at that age. Um, it's not common thing at that age. Um, it's not common thing at that age. Um, it's not that it's a bad thing. It's just that it's a bad thing. It's just that it's a bad thing. It's just they're, you know, they're they're they're, you know, they're they're they're, you know, they're they're learning they're learning through that learning they're learning through that learning they're learning through that those experiences of like, oh, well, those experiences of like, oh, well, those experiences of like, oh, well, this is mine. I want this. And they're this is mine. I want this. And they're this is mine. I want this. And they're trying to stand their ground and stand trying to stand their ground and stand trying to stand their ground and stand their territory. And it's just a their territory. And it's just a their territory. And it's just a learning curve for them. But honestly, learning curve for them. But honestly, learning curve for them. But honestly, the the catalyst to the onset of the the catalyst to the onset of the the catalyst to the onset of symptoms is sometimes not really about symptoms is sometimes not really about symptoms is sometimes not really about what they are perceiving and what they are perceiving and what they are perceiving and experiencing, aka the challenge that experiencing, aka the challenge that experiencing, aka the challenge that they're working through. Sometimes it they're working through. Sometimes it they're working through. Sometimes it actually has to do with us as the actually has to do with us as the actually has to do with us as the parents and how we respond to it. parents and how we respond to it. parents and how we respond to it. And as I mentioned to you, Nick, is I And as I mentioned to you, Nick, is I And as I mentioned to you, Nick, is I feel that I was the catalyst to the feel that I was the catalyst to the feel that I was the catalyst to the onset of the the fever and the quote onset of the the fever and the quote onset of the the fever and the quote unquote cold that he experienced. unquote cold that he experienced. unquote cold that he experienced. Well, one of one of my favorite quotes Well, one of one of my favorite quotes Well, one of one of my favorite quotes is if [clears throat] there's a problem is if [clears throat] there's a problem is if [clears throat] there's a problem and you're experiencing the problem, and you're experiencing the problem, and you're experiencing the problem, you're part of the problem. You know, you're part of the problem. You know, you're part of the problem. You know, it's if your kids are sick, it's it's it's if your kids are sick, it's it's it's if your kids are sick, it's it's not just your kids. If there's an issue not just your kids. If there's an issue not just your kids. If there's an issue in the family, it's not just one person. in the family, it's not just one person. in the family, it's not just one person. There's an issue in a relationship. It's There's an issue in a relationship. It's There's an issue in a relationship. It's not just one person. If you're a part of not just one person. If you're a part of not just one person. If you're a part of a problem, you're a part of the problem. a problem, you're a part of the problem. a problem, you're a part of the problem. Yeah. [snorts] And it's Yeah. [snorts] And it's Yeah. [snorts] And it's we always talk about wanting to change we always talk about wanting to change we always talk about wanting to change the name of our podcast to the the name of our podcast to the the name of our podcast to the thoughtprovoking podcast because that's thoughtprovoking podcast because that's thoughtprovoking podcast because that's really what we're we're doing here is really what we're we're doing here is really what we're we're doing here is exactly like this isn't about a blame exactly like this isn't about a blame exactly like this isn't about a blame game. You're part of the problem. This game. You're part of the problem. This game. You're part of the problem. This is about if you can if you can look at is about if you can if you can look at is about if you can if you can look at things differently and ask a series of things differently and ask a series of things differently and ask a series of questions in a really intelligent way, questions in a really intelligent way, questions in a really intelligent way, you're going to be able to navigate hard you're going to be able to navigate hard you're going to be able to navigate hard [  ] more easily. [  ] more easily. [  ] more easily. Well, yeah. And but it's not just about Well, yeah. And but it's not just about Well, yeah. And but it's not just about being adaptable, going through hardship. being adaptable, going through hardship. being adaptable, going through hardship. It's about maximizing and enjoying the It's about maximizing and enjoying the It's about maximizing and enjoying the most out of the good [  ] too. most out of the good [  ] too. most out of the good [  ] too. And which takes me to my favorite quote. And which takes me to my favorite quote. And which takes me to my favorite quote. The quality of your life is dictated by The quality of your life is dictated by The quality of your life is dictated by the quality of the questions you ask. So the quality of the questions you ask. So the quality of the questions you ask. So if we can start asking better quality if we can start asking better quality if we can start asking better quality questions and not being [clears throat] questions and not being [clears throat] questions and not being [clears throat] attached subjectively, you know, through attached subjectively, you know, through attached subjectively, you know, through the emotions and the feelings of does the emotions and the feelings of does the emotions and the feelings of does this make me happy, does this make me this make me happy, does this make me this make me happy, does this make me sad, you know, guilt, shame, pride, all sad, you know, guilt, shame, pride, all sad, you know, guilt, shame, pride, all those. But if we can be objective and be those. But if we can be objective and be those. But if we can be objective and be like, okay, this happened, I feel good. like, okay, this happened, I feel good. like, okay, this happened, I feel good. How can I maximize it? Okay, this How can I maximize it? Okay, this How can I maximize it? Okay, this happened. It made me feel bad. happened. It made me feel bad. happened. It made me feel bad. How can I actually use it to serve How can I actually use it to serve How can I actually use it to serve myself? So you you don't stay a victim myself? So you you don't stay a victim myself? So you you don't stay a victim but you don't most people say you learn but you don't most people say you learn but you don't most people say you learn the most when you lose because the most when you lose because the most when you lose because life the thought provoking. When you life the thought provoking. When you life the thought provoking. When you provoke a thought you're creating provoke a thought you're creating provoke a thought you're creating reflective awareness and that's the reflective awareness and that's the reflective awareness and that's the highest level of awareness that one can highest level of awareness that one can highest level of awareness that one can have is self-reflection. [clears throat] have is self-reflection. [clears throat] have is self-reflection. [clears throat] And unfortunately the world's set up And unfortunately the world's set up And unfortunately the world's set up today through social media and today through social media and today through social media and everything that people don't pause and everything that people don't pause and everything that people don't pause and actually have moments to reflect on actually have moments to reflect on actually have moments to reflect on themselves anymore. So, it's a it's a themselves anymore. So, it's a it's a themselves anymore. So, it's a it's a it's getting less and less the it's getting less and less the it's getting less and less the percentage of us that are um creating percentage of us that are um creating percentage of us that are um creating space to have the time to self-reflect. space to have the time to self-reflect. space to have the time to self-reflect. But let's get back on this. But let's get back on this. But let's get back on this. Yeah. But a sidebar, they're actually, Yeah. But a sidebar, they're actually, Yeah. But a sidebar, they're actually, you know, who knows what the hell's true you know, who knows what the hell's true you know, who knows what the hell's true anymore when you see it on on the media, anymore when you see it on on the media, anymore when you see it on on the media, but they said that uh they're going to but they said that uh they're going to but they said that uh they're going to be banning uh any child below the age of be banning uh any child below the age of be banning uh any child below the age of 16 is going to be banned from social 16 is going to be banned from social 16 is going to be banned from social media in Australia, and it's because of media in Australia, and it's because of media in Australia, and it's because of the rising the the percentages of like the rising the the percentages of like the rising the the percentages of like mental illness due to uh screen mental illness due to uh screen mental illness due to uh screen addiction is above 50% now. So little addiction is above 50% now. So little addiction is above 50% now. So little little sidebar statistic for you guys. little sidebar statistic for you guys. little sidebar statistic for you guys. Let's get back to those on track. Let's get back to those on track. Let's get back to those on track. So one thing that I want to preface with So one thing that I want to preface with So one thing that I want to preface with is it so again talking about like it's is it so again talking about like it's is it so again talking about like it's been crazy in our house hence Nick been crazy in our house hence Nick been crazy in our house hence Nick hasn't been here is hasn't been here is hasn't been here is Ala our six-month-old had a fever. And I Ala our six-month-old had a fever. And I Ala our six-month-old had a fever. And I want to say this just because this is a want to say this just because this is a want to say this just because this is a quality information for new moms. quality information for new moms. quality information for new moms. Very commonly, little babies will get a Very commonly, little babies will get a Very commonly, little babies will get a fever right before teeth are popping fever right before teeth are popping fever right before teeth are popping through the gums. So, it's it's a part through the gums. So, it's it's a part through the gums. So, it's it's a part of the teething process, but it's of the teething process, but it's of the teething process, but it's usually a sign that teeth are about to usually a sign that teeth are about to usually a sign that teeth are about to break through the skin. And it's very break through the skin. And it's very break through the skin. And it's very because it's around the sinuses, it will because it's around the sinuses, it will because it's around the sinuses, it will create a sinus infection. create a sinus infection. create a sinus infection. Little it will look like a sinus Little it will look like a sinus Little it will look like a sinus infection. um [clears throat] she didn't infection. um [clears throat] she didn't infection. um [clears throat] she didn't really have color to her uh snot, so really have color to her uh snot, so really have color to her uh snot, so it's just the body, hence the fever it's just the body, hence the fever it's just the body, hence the fever moving stuff as things get warmer. But moving stuff as things get warmer. But moving stuff as things get warmer. But if if there are colors, um that's going if if there are colors, um that's going if if there are colors, um that's going to show like that there's more likely an to show like that there's more likely an to show like that there's more likely an underlining infection connected with it underlining infection connected with it underlining infection connected with it as well. [music] [music] [music] [music] Yeah. And there is a lot of kids that do Yeah. And there is a lot of kids that do Yeah. And there is a lot of kids that do have already underlying infections in have already underlying infections in have already underlying infections in their sinuses. And this is primarily their sinuses. And this is primarily their sinuses. And this is primarily because the vaginal microbiome is not because the vaginal microbiome is not because the vaginal microbiome is not always great uh because of all of the always great uh because of all of the always great uh because of all of the chemicals that are in, you know, tampons chemicals that are in, you know, tampons chemicals that are in, you know, tampons and condoms and lubricants. And then on and condoms and lubricants. And then on and condoms and lubricants. And then on top of that is hospitals are a breeding top of that is hospitals are a breeding top of that is hospitals are a breeding ground for different types of bacteria ground for different types of bacteria ground for different types of bacteria and most women are giving birth in a and most women are giving birth in a and most women are giving birth in a hospital. So again, kind of some hospital. So again, kind of some hospital. So again, kind of some sidebars for you to understand, but you sidebars for you to understand, but you sidebars for you to understand, but you know, very common to get a fever right know, very common to get a fever right know, very common to get a fever right before teeth are breaking through the before teeth are breaking through the before teeth are breaking through the skin. Um, so just kind of be a little skin. Um, so just kind of be a little skin. Um, so just kind of be a little bit patient if you have a young young bit patient if you have a young young bit patient if you have a young young baby that is spiking a fever and see if baby that is spiking a fever and see if baby that is spiking a fever and see if that is what is actually the catalyst to that is what is actually the catalyst to that is what is actually the catalyst to it before having intervention of, you it before having intervention of, you it before having intervention of, you know, antibiotics, supplements, etc. know, antibiotics, supplements, etc. know, antibiotics, supplements, etc. But then uh so she had her two-day um But then uh so she had her two-day um But then uh so she had her two-day um fever, some teeth broke through, good to fever, some teeth broke through, good to fever, some teeth broke through, good to go. She then got back to complete uh go. She then got back to complete uh go. She then got back to complete uh normal baseline and then Quentyn had his normal baseline and then Quentyn had his normal baseline and then Quentyn had his fever. And so essentially one thing that fever. And so essentially one thing that fever. And so essentially one thing that I want you to know is a lot of what I want you to know is a lot of what I want you to know is a lot of what we're talking about is on the basis of we're talking about is on the basis of we're talking about is on the basis of uh new Germanic medicine which has been uh new Germanic medicine which has been uh new Germanic medicine which has been an absolute uh fascination for us an absolute uh fascination for us an absolute uh fascination for us because it's so [  ] on point and um because it's so [  ] on point and um because it's so [  ] on point and um you can look up the history but the you can look up the history but the you can look up the history but the history is essentially a oncologist who history is essentially a oncologist who history is essentially a oncologist who uh developed cancer himself right after uh developed cancer himself right after uh developed cancer himself right after having a very tragic loss in his family having a very tragic loss in his family having a very tragic loss in his family and he was an outside the box thinker. and he was an outside the box thinker. and he was an outside the box thinker. and he had a patient base of cancer and he had a patient base of cancer and he had a patient base of cancer patients and decided to ask questions patients and decided to ask questions patients and decided to ask questions and found out that every single patient and found out that every single patient and found out that every single patient that he had in his office which was that he had in his office which was that he had in his office which was thousands um they all developed cancer thousands um they all developed cancer thousands um they all developed cancer within a few months of a big event in within a few months of a big event in within a few months of a big event in their life. Uh so essentially he went on their life. Uh so essentially he went on their life. Uh so essentially he went on to study the psychossematics of physical to study the psychossematics of physical to study the psychossematics of physical illnesses, physical symptoms in the body illnesses, physical symptoms in the body illnesses, physical symptoms in the body and his work is [  ] brilliant. So and his work is [  ] brilliant. So and his work is [  ] brilliant. So well what I love about him is that you well what I love about him is that you well what I love about him is that you know there's a lot of people think it's know there's a lot of people think it's know there's a lot of people think it's like oh the mind it's perceptions like like oh the mind it's perceptions like like oh the mind it's perceptions like yeah like that's the root cause of yeah like that's the root cause of yeah like that's the root cause of disease like you know it's the it's not disease like you know it's the it's not disease like you know it's the it's not the mind isn't the body you know it's the mind isn't the body you know it's the mind isn't the body you know it's what's going on with the body you know what's going on with the body you know what's going on with the body you know is it a lack of nutrients is it this is is it a lack of nutrients is it this is is it a lack of nutrients is it this is it you know living conditions like it you know living conditions like it you know living conditions like what's going on and it's like you come what's going on and it's like you come what's going on and it's like you come from the spiritual side of things and from the spiritual side of things and from the spiritual side of things and you know this has quote unquote always you know this has quote unquote always you know this has quote unquote always kind of been known is that the spirit kind of been known is that the spirit kind of been known is that the spirit guides the mind. The mind dictates the guides the mind. The mind dictates the guides the mind. The mind dictates the body. body. body. This doctor didn't know that. He was a This doctor didn't know that. He was a This doctor didn't know that. He was a medical doctor. So he went through it as medical doctor. So he went through it as medical doctor. So he went through it as a complete scientific perspective a complete scientific perspective a complete scientific perspective and clinically and clinically and clinically started finding all these things but started finding all these things but started finding all these things but then had imaging to back it up. So it then had imaging to back it up. So it then had imaging to back it up. So it was all through a scientific process for was all through a scientific process for was all through a scientific process for him to pretty much prove the exact same him to pretty much prove the exact same him to pretty much prove the exact same thing as these spiritual gurus knew for thing as these spiritual gurus knew for thing as these spiritual gurus knew for a long time as well. So what's fun about a long time as well. So what's fun about a long time as well. So what's fun about this for me is that you know eastern and this for me is that you know eastern and this for me is that you know eastern and western worlds we're actually coming western worlds we're actually coming western worlds we're actually coming together together together and we're showing show showcasing the and we're showing show showcasing the and we're showing show showcasing the same things which when there is that same things which when there is that same things which when there is that there's going to be a fight because the there's going to be a fight because the there's going to be a fight because the old system old life cycles always want old system old life cycles always want old system old life cycles always want to continue to live to continue to live to continue to live and we've been seeing that as well you and we've been seeing that as well you and we've been seeing that as well you know a push through um jabs and a push know a push through um jabs and a push know a push through um jabs and a push through you know different medications through you know different medications through you know different medications and a to push through indoctrination of and a to push through indoctrination of and a to push through indoctrination of one way of thinking. Um, which isn't one way of thinking. Um, which isn't one way of thinking. Um, which isn't true. You know, the we live in a world true. You know, the we live in a world true. You know, the we live in a world of duality. So, it's trying to take in of duality. So, it's trying to take in of duality. So, it's trying to take in all the information and like I said all the information and like I said all the information and like I said before, use it to serve yourself. before, use it to serve yourself. before, use it to serve yourself. Yeah. And I I think that at the end of Yeah. And I I think that at the end of Yeah. And I I think that at the end of the day, what we're talking about here the day, what we're talking about here the day, what we're talking about here is just a matter for you to ask is just a matter for you to ask is just a matter for you to ask questions as to what is the catalyst to questions as to what is the catalyst to questions as to what is the catalyst to the specific symptoms that your child is the specific symptoms that your child is the specific symptoms that your child is experiencing. And you know, as we experiencing. And you know, as we experiencing. And you know, as we mentioned before, there might be an mentioned before, there might be an mentioned before, there might be an underlying infection that now comes out, underlying infection that now comes out, underlying infection that now comes out, but there's the catalyst that brought it but there's the catalyst that brought it but there's the catalyst that brought it out. And that's what we want you to out. And that's what we want you to out. And that's what we want you to understand here. Because if you can understand here. Because if you can understand here. Because if you can understand both ends of the spectrum and understand both ends of the spectrum and understand both ends of the spectrum and you can also address both ends of the you can also address both ends of the you can also address both ends of the spectrum, aka maybe a sinus spray, a spectrum, aka maybe a sinus spray, a spectrum, aka maybe a sinus spray, a throat spray, a supplement in order to throat spray, a supplement in order to throat spray, a supplement in order to help with the actual infection, but then help with the actual infection, but then help with the actual infection, but then also deal with the the environmental also deal with the the environmental also deal with the the environmental the the the behavioral aspect that was the the the behavioral aspect that was the the the behavioral aspect that was the catalyst. Bringing those two worlds the catalyst. Bringing those two worlds the catalyst. Bringing those two worlds together is where you're going to see together is where you're going to see together is where you're going to see the most success and you're going to the most success and you're going to the most success and you're going to stop the reoccurrence of these issues. stop the reoccurrence of these issues. stop the reoccurrence of these issues. So, kind of getting into the uh So, kind of getting into the uh So, kind of getting into the uh So, what was the catalyst? So, what was the catalyst? So, what was the catalyst? So, the catalyst was um Quentyn was So, the catalyst was um Quentyn was So, the catalyst was um Quentyn was dealing with this territorial uh you dealing with this territorial uh you dealing with this territorial uh you know, this is mine, this is mine. It got know, this is mine, this is mine. It got know, this is mine, this is mine. It got to the point that you know, he was like, to the point that you know, he was like, to the point that you know, he was like, I'm going to my friend's house and I'm I'm going to my friend's house and I'm I'm going to my friend's house and I'm going to take all my toys back. We live going to take all my toys back. We live going to take all my toys back. We live literally feet away. So, like our half literally feet away. So, like our half literally feet away. So, like our half of our shit's there, half of hers's toys of our shit's there, half of hers's toys of our shit's there, half of hers's toys are here. And it was like, you know, oh, are here. And it was like, you know, oh, are here. And it was like, you know, oh, we're I this is mine. This is mine. This we're I this is mine. This is mine. This we're I this is mine. This is mine. This is mine. And then they were getting into is mine. And then they were getting into is mine. And then they were getting into like someone would bite or scratch or like someone would bite or scratch or like someone would bite or scratch or push when they were getting frustrated push when they were getting frustrated push when they were getting frustrated of like no this is mine. And so in our of like no this is mine. And so in our of like no this is mine. And so in our family we teach our kids don't put your family we teach our kids don't put your family we teach our kids don't put your hands on people. That is not okay. That hands on people. That is not okay. That hands on people. That is not okay. That is not an acceptable behavior. And so is not an acceptable behavior. And so is not an acceptable behavior. And so after it was the after it was the after it was the unless it's self-defense, you know, then unless it's self-defense, you know, then unless it's self-defense, you know, then you're like should ask somebody. you're like should ask somebody. you're like should ask somebody. [laughter] [laughter] [laughter] So after the third time of of them So after the third time of of them So after the third time of of them getting into their altercation and he getting into their altercation and he getting into their altercation and he pushed, you know, I was just kind of pushed, you know, I was just kind of pushed, you know, I was just kind of spread thin and I was just like, spread thin and I was just like, spread thin and I was just like, "Absolutely not." And I yelled at him "Absolutely not." And I yelled at him "Absolutely not." And I yelled at him and I put him in his room and I just was and I put him in his room and I just was and I put him in his room and I just was like, "This is not how we act." So I like, "This is not how we act." So I like, "This is not how we act." So I startled him. Like he literally was startled him. Like he literally was startled him. Like he literally was like, cuz I don't normally yell at him like, cuz I don't normally yell at him like, cuz I don't normally yell at him like that. And I just kind of had enough like that. And I just kind of had enough like that. And I just kind of had enough with him acting that way. We all have with him acting that way. We all have with him acting that way. We all have our moments, people. I'm going to sit our moments, people. I'm going to sit our moments, people. I'm going to sit here and be vulnerable with you. Like, here and be vulnerable with you. Like, here and be vulnerable with you. Like, I'm not a saint. Um, and I I'm not I'm not a saint. Um, and I I'm not I'm not a saint. Um, and I I'm not always able to practice what I preach. always able to practice what I preach. always able to practice what I preach. But the most important thing is I But the most important thing is I But the most important thing is I reflect and I'm and I rectify it. That's reflect and I'm and I rectify it. That's reflect and I'm and I rectify it. That's all we can do. You can't sit here and all we can do. You can't sit here and all we can do. You can't sit here and be, you know, put guilt on yourself. So, be, you know, put guilt on yourself. So, be, you know, put guilt on yourself. So, I literally physically startled him when I literally physically startled him when I literally physically startled him when I yelled at him because he was like, I yelled at him because he was like, I yelled at him because he was like, "Whoa, mom doesn't normally do this to "Whoa, mom doesn't normally do this to "Whoa, mom doesn't normally do this to me." Put him in his room and I addressed me." Put him in his room and I addressed me." Put him in his room and I addressed it within about 10 minutes of like, you it within about 10 minutes of like, you it within about 10 minutes of like, you know, saying, "Hey, mom did this. I'm know, saying, "Hey, mom did this. I'm know, saying, "Hey, mom did this. I'm going to take ownership of it, but let's going to take ownership of it, but let's going to take ownership of it, but let's talk about this behavior. talk about this behavior. talk about this behavior. And it was the next day that he had a And it was the next day that he had a And it was the next day that he had a fever. So essentially when it comes down fever. So essentially when it comes down fever. So essentially when it comes down to um what a fever is, fever is actually to um what a fever is, fever is actually to um what a fever is, fever is actually when you are in healing mode. Um this is when you are in healing mode. Um this is when you are in healing mode. Um this is one of the interesting things that this one of the interesting things that this one of the interesting things that this doctor proved is that what happens is doctor proved is that what happens is doctor proved is that what happens is you go through a conflict uh you go you go through a conflict uh you go you go through a conflict uh you go through you know a a trauma you can call through you know a a trauma you can call through you know a a trauma you can call it and then when your body moves into it and then when your body moves into it and then when your body moves into healing mode it's actually when it's healing mode it's actually when it's healing mode it's actually when it's usually the most symptomatic. So the usually the most symptomatic. So the usually the most symptomatic. So the symptoms of a fever is, you know, symptoms of a fever is, you know, symptoms of a fever is, you know, warming up of the body, activation of warming up of the body, activation of warming up of the body, activation of immune system, and it's when and it immune system, and it's when and it immune system, and it's when and it usually, especially if it happens at usually, especially if it happens at usually, especially if it happens at night, when you're in more of a relax night, when you're in more of a relax night, when you're in more of a relax and repair, that is another sign that and repair, that is another sign that and repair, that is another sign that you're in repair mode. So essentially, you're in repair mode. So essentially, you're in repair mode. So essentially, what what what So there's So there's So there's active healing active healing active healing during the day and then more repair during the day and then more repair during the day and then more repair healing at night. So he was going healing at night. So he was going healing at night. So he was going through the healing phase of this through the healing phase of this through the healing phase of this conflict. He also had an association conflict. He also had an association conflict. He also had an association with um with a runny nose and the runny with um with a runny nose and the runny with um with a runny nose and the runny nose uh or I'm sorry with a cough more nose uh or I'm sorry with a cough more nose uh or I'm sorry with a cough more than a runny nose. He had a little bit than a runny nose. He had a little bit than a runny nose. He had a little bit of a runny nose but the cough. So upper of a runny nose but the cough. So upper of a runny nose but the cough. So upper respiratory and a cough is associated respiratory and a cough is associated respiratory and a cough is associated with territorial conflict. So this was with territorial conflict. So this was with territorial conflict. So this was again so the territorial conflict was again so the territorial conflict was again so the territorial conflict was happening and he wasn't necessarily happening and he wasn't necessarily happening and he wasn't necessarily symptomatic when he was in it. symptomatic when he was in it. symptomatic when he was in it. I disciplined him. He had a bit of a I disciplined him. He had a bit of a I disciplined him. He had a bit of a startle reflex, a shock reflex. And then startle reflex, a shock reflex. And then startle reflex, a shock reflex. And then he went because of how we approached it, he went because of how we approached it, he went because of how we approached it, he went into healing mode. So, not only he went into healing mode. So, not only he went into healing mode. So, not only healing from the startle that I created healing from the startle that I created healing from the startle that I created by yelling at him, but he also went into by yelling at him, but he also went into by yelling at him, but he also went into healing of the territorial conflict healing of the territorial conflict healing of the territorial conflict being held in the upper respiratory. And being held in the upper respiratory. And being held in the upper respiratory. And so, he had a fever and he had a cough so, he had a fever and he had a cough so, he had a fever and he had a cough for about two days. for about two days. for about two days. And so did we use some therapies on him And so did we use some therapies on him And so did we use some therapies on him that we have here? We yes, we used the that we have here? We yes, we used the that we have here? We yes, we used the pulse electromagnetic frequency device, pulse electromagnetic frequency device, pulse electromagnetic frequency device, our amp coil, but we weren't using the our amp coil, but we weren't using the our amp coil, but we weren't using the amp coil necessarily for his respiratory amp coil necessarily for his respiratory amp coil necessarily for his respiratory system or his immune system. We were system or his immune system. We were system or his immune system. We were actually using it to calm his nervous actually using it to calm his nervous actually using it to calm his nervous system. We were using it on different system. We were using it on different system. We were using it on different settings to create emotional balance and settings to create emotional balance and settings to create emotional balance and that was one of the reasons why he was that was one of the reasons why he was that was one of the reasons why he was able to recover so quickly. able to recover so quickly. able to recover so quickly. So essentially what we're going to bring So essentially what we're going to bring So essentially what we're going to bring to you is we're bringing to you some to you is we're bringing to you some to you is we're bringing to you some understandings of what is the understandings of what is the understandings of what is the psychossematic root causes of sinus psychossematic root causes of sinus psychossematic root causes of sinus infections, throat infections, upper infections, throat infections, upper infections, throat infections, upper respiratory infections, and ear respiratory infections, and ear respiratory infections, and ear infections. infections. infections. Well, I think I just want to clarify one Well, I think I just want to clarify one Well, I think I just want to clarify one thing for people and not getting like thing for people and not getting like thing for people and not getting like too deep with it, but initially, too deep with it, but initially, too deep with it, but initially, especially if this is brand new, people especially if this is brand new, people especially if this is brand new, people are going to be like, "Wait a second. are going to be like, "Wait a second. are going to be like, "Wait a second. You were very nonchalant about saying You were very nonchalant about saying You were very nonchalant about saying symptoms in the body are usually part of symptoms in the body are usually part of symptoms in the body are usually part of the starting the healing process. That's the starting the healing process. That's the starting the healing process. That's like the opposite of what most people like the opposite of what most people like the opposite of what most people has been taught is like when you start has been taught is like when you start has been taught is like when you start having symptoms that's when you start having symptoms that's when you start having symptoms that's when you start getting sick. getting sick. getting sick. Not healing. Sick and healing are two Not healing. Sick and healing are two Not healing. Sick and healing are two different things. Like what the f are different things. Like what the f are different things. Like what the f are you talking about? [laughter] you talking about? [laughter] you talking about? [laughter] And it's going back and it's going back And it's going back and it's going back And it's going back and it's going back and understanding the process that the and understanding the process that the and understanding the process that the spirit governs the mind. The mind spirit governs the mind. The mind spirit governs the mind. The mind dictates the body. So when the mind dictates the body. So when the mind dictates the body. So when the mind already changes, it's processing its already changes, it's processing its already changes, it's processing its perception. [clears throat] So when the perception. [clears throat] So when the perception. [clears throat] So when the mind is out of balance, it sees more mind is out of balance, it sees more mind is out of balance, it sees more good or more bad. But when the mind is good or more bad. But when the mind is good or more bad. But when the mind is in a state of equinimity or balance, in a state of equinimity or balance, in a state of equinimity or balance, homeostasis, when you think about it in homeostasis, when you think about it in homeostasis, when you think about it in a health, that the benefits and the a health, that the benefits and the a health, that the benefits and the drawbacks are equal. Put them on a drawbacks are equal. Put them on a drawbacks are equal. Put them on a scale, they weigh exactly the same. scale, they weigh exactly the same. scale, they weigh exactly the same. There's no stress response. So when the There's no stress response. So when the There's no stress response. So when the mind perceives you know elation more mind perceives you know elation more mind perceives you know elation more good than bad or more bad than good that good than bad or more bad than good that good than bad or more bad than good that creates a stress response and if that creates a stress response and if that creates a stress response and if that stress response goes on long enough or stress response goes on long enough or stress response goes on long enough or intense enough then the body's going to intense enough then the body's going to intense enough then the body's going to have a reaction either initially micro have a reaction either initially micro have a reaction either initially micro traumas over time or you know one big traumas over time or you know one big traumas over time or you know one big event. So when the body when the mind event. So when the body when the mind event. So when the body when the mind brings that perception self through brings that perception self through brings that perception self through self-reflection usually and balances out self-reflection usually and balances out self-reflection usually and balances out that stress response the body is going that stress response the body is going that stress response the body is going to have a different response because the to have a different response because the to have a different response because the mind dictates the body. mind dictates the body. mind dictates the body. Then the body's going to change. A fever Then the body's going to change. A fever Then the body's going to change. A fever is an initial symptom of change. Why? is an initial symptom of change. Why? is an initial symptom of change. Why? Think about fire. Fire is one of the Think about fire. Fire is one of the Think about fire. Fire is one of the quickest way to change the form of quickest way to change the form of quickest way to change the form of something. It's [clears throat] the something. It's [clears throat] the something. It's [clears throat] the quickest way to transport to move quickest way to transport to move quickest way to transport to move through heat. So that's what happens a through heat. So that's what happens a through heat. So that's what happens a lot of times. You know, you get sinuses, lot of times. You know, you get sinuses, lot of times. You know, you get sinuses, you get runny nose, you're coughing, you get runny nose, you're coughing, you get runny nose, you're coughing, you're moving air, you're moving toxins, you're moving air, you're moving toxins, you're moving air, you're moving toxins, you're moving energy around, and the you're moving energy around, and the you're moving energy around, and the body is really hot. So it can burn off body is really hot. So it can burn off body is really hot. So it can burn off the old [  ] that didn't serve it the old [  ] that didn't serve it the old [  ] that didn't serve it energetically, but also move around the energetically, but also move around the energetically, but also move around the physical [  ] that's not serving it to physical [  ] that's not serving it to physical [  ] that's not serving it to be able to take it out, to pee it out, be able to take it out, to pee it out, be able to take it out, to pee it out, sweat it out. sweat it out. sweat it out. Exactly. And that's kind of the point Exactly. And that's kind of the point Exactly. And that's kind of the point that I want to make is like this that I want to make is like this that I want to make is like this shouldn't sound that foreign when you shouldn't sound that foreign when you shouldn't sound that foreign when you want to think about the perspective of I want to think about the perspective of I want to think about the perspective of I have a runny nose. What the [  ] is your have a runny nose. What the [  ] is your have a runny nose. What the [  ] is your body doing? Your body is trying to push body doing? Your body is trying to push body doing? Your body is trying to push out the bacteria or the fungus or out the bacteria or the fungus or out the bacteria or the fungus or whatever it is through the mucus of your whatever it is through the mucus of your whatever it is through the mucus of your sinuses. You're coughing. It's because sinuses. You're coughing. It's because sinuses. You're coughing. It's because you're trying to literally expel out you're trying to literally expel out you're trying to literally expel out whatever [  ] is in your lungs. You're whatever [  ] is in your lungs. You're whatever [  ] is in your lungs. You're [  ] yourself. It's because your [  ] yourself. It's because your [  ] yourself. It's because your body is trying to expel something out of body is trying to expel something out of body is trying to expel something out of your intestines that shouldn't be there. your intestines that shouldn't be there. your intestines that shouldn't be there. It's actually more concerning when you It's actually more concerning when you It's actually more concerning when you have the lack of, "Oh, I'm coughing, but have the lack of, "Oh, I'm coughing, but have the lack of, "Oh, I'm coughing, but nothing is coming out. Oh, I'm nothing is coming out. Oh, I'm nothing is coming out. Oh, I'm chronically stuffy, but nothing is chronically stuffy, but nothing is chronically stuffy, but nothing is coming out. Oh, I'm constipated." That's coming out. Oh, I'm constipated." That's coming out. Oh, I'm constipated." That's because you won't [  ] let it go. because you won't [  ] let it go. because you won't [  ] let it go. That's because you are attached to a That's because you are attached to a That's because you are attached to a story. You're attached to a trauma. You story. You're attached to a trauma. You story. You're attached to a trauma. You can't forgive. You can't forget. You can't forgive. You can't forget. You can't forgive. You can't forget. You can't let it go. like you are you are can't let it go. like you are you are can't let it go. like you are you are harboring that you are you are letting harboring that you are you are letting harboring that you are you are letting that run your existence. that run your existence. that run your existence. So this is what you have to understand. So this is what you have to understand. So this is what you have to understand. I'm just going to call I like to get I'm just going to call I like to get I'm just going to call I like to get deep on everything but you know to the deep on everything but you know to the deep on everything but you know to the deathnesses deathnesses deathnesses what to the death what to the death what to the death to the deathnesses. to the deathnesses. to the deathnesses. Yep. Okay. Here we go. Yep. Okay. Here we go. Yep. Okay. Here we go. Definitely not. Forget forgive. Forget Definitely not. Forget forgive. Forget Definitely not. Forget forgive. Forget it's all [  ] it's all [  ] it's all [  ] Don't just don't. Just don't right now. Don't just don't. Just don't right now. Don't just don't. Just don't right now. But yes, it is. And this is it's part of But yes, it is. And this is it's part of But yes, it is. And this is it's part of our programming. You know, I had you had our programming. You know, I had you had our programming. You know, I had you had a conversation with the female neighbor. a conversation with the female neighbor. a conversation with the female neighbor. I had a combination conversation with I had a combination conversation with I had a combination conversation with the male neighbor. And he was talking the male neighbor. And he was talking the male neighbor. And he was talking about forgiving. He's like, "No, it's about forgiving. He's like, "No, it's about forgiving. He's like, "No, it's I'm all love. I've I've forgiven." And I I'm all love. I've I've forgiven." And I I'm all love. I've I've forgiven." And I was like, "No, you're not. You your was like, "No, you're not. You your was like, "No, you're not. You your words literally just said that you have words literally just said that you have words literally just said that you have a perception that that person did more a perception that that person did more a perception that that person did more bad than good to you, so you had to bad than good to you, so you had to bad than good to you, so you had to forgive them and that you give them forgive them and that you give them forgive them and that you give them love. That's not love, bro. That's not love. That's not love, bro. That's not love. That's not love, bro. That's not love. When you balance the mind out, love. When you balance the mind out, love. When you balance the mind out, there's nothing to forgive. there's nothing to forgive. there's nothing to forgive. And you don't forget like this. The goal And you don't forget like this. The goal And you don't forget like this. The goal is not to forget who you are, a part of is not to forget who you are, a part of is not to forget who you are, a part of who you are, a moment of yourself. The who you are, a moment of yourself. The who you are, a moment of yourself. The goal is to learn how to love the moments goal is to learn how to love the moments goal is to learn how to love the moments of yourself, of yourself, of yourself, the shitty times and the good times. the shitty times and the good times. the shitty times and the good times. And and this is what [  ] pisses me And and this is what [  ] pisses me And and this is what [  ] pisses me off about human behavior and off about human behavior and off about human behavior and psychologist and everything is that the psychologist and everything is that the psychologist and everything is that the programming goes so deep that we're programming goes so deep that we're programming goes so deep that we're attached to still trying to attached to still trying to attached to still trying to we're better than somebody else and we're better than somebody else and we're better than somebody else and there's more good than bad and if there's more good than bad and if there's more good than bad and if there's bad well it's like you know we there's bad well it's like you know we there's bad well it's like you know we just have to forgive. Like that's you just have to forgive. Like that's you just have to forgive. Like that's you know you get to that's religion know you get to that's religion know you get to that's religion controlling us if you really want to get controlling us if you really want to get controlling us if you really want to get to where it started. you know, forgive to where it started. you know, forgive to where it started. you know, forgive thy neighbor. Like, it's [  ] thy neighbor. Like, it's [  ] thy neighbor. Like, it's [  ] [  ] [  ] [  ] Love thy neighbor. That's that's the Love thy neighbor. That's that's the Love thy neighbor. That's that's the true aspect of it. And you can't give true aspect of it. And you can't give true aspect of it. And you can't give something that you don't have. So, you something that you don't have. So, you something that you don't have. So, you have to self-reflect and love yourself have to self-reflect and love yourself have to self-reflect and love yourself to be able to actually give that love to to be able to actually give that love to to be able to actually give that love to somebody else. somebody else. somebody else. I know you're right. So, I know you're right. So, I know you're right. So, well, that's I mean, this is my job. So well, that's I mean, this is my job. So well, that's I mean, this is my job. So the fever aspect is that initial change the fever aspect is that initial change the fever aspect is that initial change of the body to of the body to of the body to what? what? what? Are you asking me? Are you asking me? Are you asking me? Yep. Yep. Yep. To bring back in the homeostasis that To bring back in the homeostasis that To bring back in the homeostasis that occurred in the mind. occurred in the mind. occurred in the mind. Correct. Correct. Correct. And what's beautiful for me looking at And what's beautiful for me looking at And what's beautiful for me looking at the story, there's parts of it that I the story, there's parts of it that I the story, there's parts of it that I didn't know. didn't know. didn't know. it. Fevers tend to, it. Fevers tend to, it. Fevers tend to, especially like him, the territorial especially like him, the territorial especially like him, the territorial aspect, there's a release of expression, aspect, there's a release of expression, aspect, there's a release of expression, there's a release of anger, there's a there's a release of anger, there's a there's a release of anger, there's a release of something. [snorts] Um, release of something. [snorts] Um, release of something. [snorts] Um, yes. yes. yes. And he was doing it, but was what's also And he was doing it, but was what's also And he was doing it, but was what's also beautiful is you did it too. And I don't beautiful is you did it too. And I don't beautiful is you did it too. And I don't know if you know this, and this is part know if you know this, and this is part know if you know this, and this is part of I want to allow our listeners to take of I want to allow our listeners to take of I want to allow our listeners to take even more control of their life because even more control of their life because even more control of their life because this wasn't, like I said, if you're a this wasn't, like I said, if you're a this wasn't, like I said, if you're a part of the problem, you're part of the part of the problem, you're part of the part of the problem, you're part of the problem to serve yourself. This wasn't problem to serve yourself. This wasn't problem to serve yourself. This wasn't just a teaching opportunity for Quinton. just a teaching opportunity for Quinton. just a teaching opportunity for Quinton. This was an opportunity for Nicole to be This was an opportunity for Nicole to be This was an opportunity for Nicole to be able to physically release some of her able to physically release some of her able to physically release some of her buildup, buildup, buildup, frustration, anger, whatever is held in frustration, anger, whatever is held in frustration, anger, whatever is held in there. there. there. And then to say like, "Oh my god, like And then to say like, "Oh my god, like And then to say like, "Oh my god, like get back in that moment through get back in that moment through get back in that moment through self-reflection and like what was really self-reflection and like what was really self-reflection and like what was really triggering me?" Because this is the gift triggering me?" Because this is the gift triggering me?" Because this is the gift of what that moment gave you. Like what of what that moment gave you. Like what of what that moment gave you. Like what was what was I really triggered about? was what was I really triggered about? was what was I really triggered about? And it probably wasn't anything to do And it probably wasn't anything to do And it probably wasn't anything to do with Quinton. Quinton was just a teacher with Quinton. Quinton was just a teacher with Quinton. Quinton was just a teacher to bring up some old past emotions that to bring up some old past emotions that to bring up some old past emotions that were unbalanced were unbalanced were unbalanced to physically release as well as to physically release as well as to physically release as well as mentally release. mentally release. mentally release. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And once you And once you And once you That's all it is ever. That's all it is ever. That's all it is ever. And once you can get clarity of that And once you can get clarity of that And once you can get clarity of that moment of what you are really processing moment of what you are really processing moment of what you are really processing unconsciously, unconsciously, unconsciously, well then we have the self-reflection. well then we have the self-reflection. well then we have the self-reflection. we can go through and balance how that we can go through and balance how that we can go through and balance how that quote unquote bad back then in the past quote unquote bad back then in the past quote unquote bad back then in the past served you. served you. served you. So the benefits and and uh drawbacks are So the benefits and and uh drawbacks are So the benefits and and uh drawbacks are equal. equal. equal. The left brain's balanced. We go to the The left brain's balanced. We go to the The left brain's balanced. We go to the right brain and we feel that change in right brain and we feel that change in right brain and we feel that change in our body that we're not holding on to our body that we're not holding on to our body that we're not holding on to that anger anymore whether it's in the that anger anymore whether it's in the that anger anymore whether it's in the sinuses or the the loss and or anger in sinuses or the the loss and or anger in sinuses or the the loss and or anger in the liver and loss in the sinuses and the liver and loss in the sinuses and the liver and loss in the sinuses and respiratory tract etc. respiratory tract etc. respiratory tract etc. And what's also fun is that And what's also fun is that And what's also fun is that the like you said before, the the like you said before, the the like you said before, the attachment's gone attachment's gone attachment's gone and you'll just feel like you can and you'll just feel like you can and you'll just feel like you can actually just feel yourself being a actually just feel yourself being a actually just feel yourself being a different human being. different human being. different human being. Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. And that's that's healing. when when when when the left brain has changed, when when the left brain has changed, when when the left brain has changed, when the right brain has changed, when the right brain has changed, when the right brain has changed, when they're hemisync, they're hemisync, they're hemisync, that's when actually we feel gratitude. that's when actually we feel gratitude. that's when actually we feel gratitude. Well, I think that the thing that might Well, I think that the thing that might Well, I think that the thing that might be confusing right now to the listeners be confusing right now to the listeners be confusing right now to the listeners is that, you know, are you really being is that, you know, are you really being is that, you know, are you really being able to do this type of deep level of able to do this type of deep level of able to do this type of deep level of work with kids? And that's not really work with kids? And that's not really work with kids? And that's not really the the point. The point is is for us to the the point. The point is is for us to the the point. The point is is for us to be able to be able to be able to understand what some of these symptoms understand what some of these symptoms understand what some of these symptoms mean in our children and it's also for mean in our children and it's also for mean in our children and it's also for us to know that we are part of of that us to know that we are part of of that us to know that we are part of of that manifestation, part of that quote manifestation, part of that quote manifestation, part of that quote unquote problem. And this is one of the unquote problem. And this is one of the unquote problem. And this is one of the reasons why it's not really about trying reasons why it's not really about trying reasons why it's not really about trying to heal your kid or put your kid through to heal your kid or put your kid through to heal your kid or put your kid through some type of healing program or some type of healing program or some type of healing program or protocol. This is about how you show up protocol. This is about how you show up protocol. This is about how you show up as the parent because the environment as the parent because the environment as the parent because the environment dictates the the reality, the outcomes. dictates the the reality, the outcomes. dictates the the reality, the outcomes. And so if you can think outside of the And so if you can think outside of the And so if you can think outside of the box and ask better questions around what box and ask better questions around what box and ask better questions around what were the catalysts that caused X, Y, or were the catalysts that caused X, Y, or were the catalysts that caused X, Y, or Z for my child, that's where you're Z for my child, that's where you're Z for my child, that's where you're going to have more success as a family going to have more success as a family going to have more success as a family unit and you're also going to see a unit and you're also going to see a unit and you're also going to see a major shift in your children. And so, major shift in your children. And so, major shift in your children. And so, yeah, but it's pretty easy to teach this yeah, but it's pretty easy to teach this yeah, but it's pretty easy to teach this stuff to a kid as well. You mean, you stuff to a kid as well. You mean, you stuff to a kid as well. You mean, you know, territorial and you figure out know, territorial and you figure out know, territorial and you figure out like what they love. Like Quinton loves like what they love. Like Quinton loves like what they love. Like Quinton loves dinosaurs right now. So, you start dinosaurs right now. So, you start dinosaurs right now. So, you start playing with a group of dinosaurs and playing with a group of dinosaurs and playing with a group of dinosaurs and they're playing with a toy and one they're playing with a toy and one they're playing with a toy and one dinosaur takes a toy away. Like, oh no, dinosaur takes a toy away. Like, oh no, dinosaur takes a toy away. Like, oh no, this one's sad. And this T-Rex wants to this one's sad. And this T-Rex wants to this one's sad. And this T-Rex wants to beat the [  ] out of, you know, beat the [  ] out of, you know, beat the [  ] out of, you know, Brachiosaurus because he took away his Brachiosaurus because he took away his Brachiosaurus because he took away his toy. And you you just you have them toy. And you you just you have them toy. And you you just you have them self-reflect by, you know, a story line self-reflect by, you know, a story line self-reflect by, you know, a story line outside. You know, it's it's easy to see outside. You know, it's it's easy to see outside. You know, it's it's easy to see like, you know, two dogs with a toy like, you know, two dogs with a toy like, you know, two dogs with a toy playing tug of war and barking at each playing tug of war and barking at each playing tug of war and barking at each other. And you just other. And you just other. And you just Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You just self-reflect back so they can You just self-reflect back so they can You just self-reflect back so they can process it better. And as any great process it better. And as any great process it better. And as any great teacher, any great parent, it's all teacher, any great parent, it's all teacher, any great parent, it's all about asking questions. about asking questions. about asking questions. Especially if you have a son like ours Especially if you have a son like ours Especially if you have a son like ours who doesn't want to be told what to do who doesn't want to be told what to do who doesn't want to be told what to do and how to think. He wants to learn and and how to think. He wants to learn and and how to think. He wants to learn and process everything himself. So my job, process everything himself. So my job, process everything himself. So my job, our job is literally just to ask a bunch our job is literally just to ask a bunch our job is literally just to ask a bunch of questions. of questions. of questions. Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. What's T-Rex feeling this way? Why is he What's T-Rex feeling this way? Why is he What's T-Rex feeling this way? Why is he feeling this way? What could he do feeling this way? What could he do feeling this way? What could he do better? How could he be a good friend? better? How could he be a good friend? better? How could he be a good friend? How could both dinosaurs win? You know, How could both dinosaurs win? You know, How could both dinosaurs win? You know, how how could T-Rex get what he wants how how could T-Rex get what he wants how how could T-Rex get what he wants while Brochiosaurus get gets what he while Brochiosaurus get gets what he while Brochiosaurus get gets what he wants or she wants? You know, it's just wants or she wants? You know, it's just wants or she wants? You know, it's just going through and taking the time to going through and taking the time to going through and taking the time to actually care enough instead of being actually care enough instead of being actually care enough instead of being attached to being pissed off. attached to being pissed off. attached to being pissed off. Yes. Yes. Yes. Sorry, I went on a lot of tangents Sorry, I went on a lot of tangents Sorry, I went on a lot of tangents there. there. there. [clears throat] All right, guys. So, we want to just run All right, guys. So, we want to just run All right, guys. So, we want to just run through some very specific examples for through some very specific examples for through some very specific examples for you to wrap your head around when it you to wrap your head around when it you to wrap your head around when it comes to comes to comes to these different symptoms that might be these different symptoms that might be these different symptoms that might be reoccurring in yourself, in your reoccurring in yourself, in your reoccurring in yourself, in your children. So, sinus congestion has a lot children. So, sinus congestion has a lot children. So, sinus congestion has a lot to do with uh it's kind of a funny name. to do with uh it's kind of a funny name. to do with uh it's kind of a funny name. It's a stink conflict and it's when you It's a stink conflict and it's when you It's a stink conflict and it's when you are feel like something is off, are feel like something is off, are feel like something is off, something stinks. something stinks. something stinks. And one of the examples that is, you And one of the examples that is, you And one of the examples that is, you know, could help you understand it is know, could help you understand it is know, could help you understand it is when there the child feels like their when there the child feels like their when there the child feels like their space is being invaded. Something stinks space is being invaded. Something stinks space is being invaded. Something stinks about a new situation. They're having about a new situation. They're having about a new situation. They're having trouble processing a new situation. They trouble processing a new situation. They trouble processing a new situation. They potentially feel jealous or potentially feel jealous or potentially feel jealous or uncomfortable about different changes in uncomfortable about different changes in uncomfortable about different changes in the home. This can also be very common the home. This can also be very common the home. This can also be very common when a new sibling comes into the world when a new sibling comes into the world when a new sibling comes into the world um or there's an adoption or there's um or there's an adoption or there's um or there's an adoption or there's even a pet that comes in. So, it's even a pet that comes in. So, it's even a pet that comes in. So, it's definitely something to think about when definitely something to think about when definitely something to think about when you see sinus congestion that is you see sinus congestion that is you see sinus congestion that is happening, especially if it's happening, especially if it's happening, especially if it's reoccurring sinus issues in yourself or reoccurring sinus issues in yourself or reoccurring sinus issues in yourself or in a child. in a child. in a child. When it comes to the sore throat, this When it comes to the sore throat, this When it comes to the sore throat, this has a lot to do with being having to has a lot to do with being having to has a lot to do with being having to essentially swallow things that you essentially swallow things that you essentially swallow things that you don't agree with. This can happen a lot don't agree with. This can happen a lot don't agree with. This can happen a lot in little kids, partly because they in little kids, partly because they in little kids, partly because they don't understand, you know, why they don't understand, you know, why they don't understand, you know, why they might be scolded about something. They might be scolded about something. They might be scolded about something. They don't understand why we do the things don't understand why we do the things don't understand why we do the things that we do, why we need to do things that we do, why we need to do things that we do, why we need to do things that we don't want to do, why they need that we don't want to do, why they need that we don't want to do, why they need to go to daycare, why they, you know, to go to daycare, why they, you know, to go to daycare, why they, you know, need to um be respectful to certain need to um be respectful to certain need to um be respectful to certain people that are disrespectful to them. people that are disrespectful to them. people that are disrespectful to them. Uh, so this is this is really about Uh, so this is this is really about Uh, so this is this is really about taking a a step back and potentially taking a a step back and potentially taking a a step back and potentially going the extra mile to help kids going the extra mile to help kids going the extra mile to help kids understand why things are being done the understand why things are being done the understand why things are being done the way they are or why there was a discip way they are or why there was a discip way they are or why there was a discip disciplinary action for something in disciplinary action for something in disciplinary action for something in particular. particular. particular. But also being able to reflect on are But also being able to reflect on are But also being able to reflect on are you just injecting you just injecting you just injecting are you injecting your values or other are you injecting your values or other are you injecting your values or other values that were pushed onto you for the values that were pushed onto you for the values that were pushed onto you for the sake of sake of sake of what you were told is right or wrong or what you were told is right or wrong or what you were told is right or wrong or is this actually the f the values of the is this actually the f the values of the is this actually the f the values of the family? Because a lot of times we're family? Because a lot of times we're family? Because a lot of times we're telling kids how they should be or how telling kids how they should be or how telling kids how they should be or how they shouldn't be in accordance to they shouldn't be in accordance to they shouldn't be in accordance to what's going to be more commonly what's going to be more commonly what's going to be more commonly accepted in society or what's more accepted in society or what's more accepted in society or what's more commonly accepted in in the church or commonly accepted in in the church or commonly accepted in in the church or you know in in other aspects of life. you know in in other aspects of life. you know in in other aspects of life. You know, you might be cursing at home You know, you might be cursing at home You know, you might be cursing at home and then, you know, don't curse in and then, you know, don't curse in and then, you know, don't curse in school and scold your kid in front of school and scold your kid in front of school and scold your kid in front of the teacher after the teacher says, "Oh, the teacher after the teacher says, "Oh, the teacher after the teacher says, "Oh, Johnny's been cursing at school." And Johnny's been cursing at school." And Johnny's been cursing at school." And your kid is going to automatically have your kid is going to automatically have your kid is going to automatically have an issue swallowing that an issue swallowing that an issue swallowing that because you're contradicting yourself. because you're contradicting yourself. because you're contradicting yourself. I had tons of strep throat as a kid and I had tons of strep throat as a kid and I had tons of strep throat as a kid and I have thought about it and thought I have thought about it and thought I have thought about it and thought about it and thought about it and this about it and thought about it and this about it and thought about it and this is my parents is my parents is my parents never never never they weren't a practice what you preach they weren't a practice what you preach they weren't a practice what you preach people they they would curse and yell people they they would curse and yell people they they would curse and yell and then they would say don't curse and then they would say don't curse and then they would say don't curse don't yell to me don't yell to me don't yell to me everything they told me to do or not do everything they told me to do or not do everything they told me to do or not do they were doing. they were doing. they were doing. Yeah, we've given you a lot of different Yeah, we've given you a lot of different Yeah, we've given you a lot of different examples and kind of bounced around a examples and kind of bounced around a examples and kind of bounced around a lot of different places, but you know, lot of different places, but you know, lot of different places, but you know, the main takeaway is just to the main takeaway is just to the main takeaway is just to to kind of pause to not be so subjective to kind of pause to not be so subjective to kind of pause to not be so subjective and emotional and to be objective and emotional and to be objective and emotional and to be objective looking at the body is always giving us looking at the body is always giving us looking at the body is always giving us feedback. It's just giving us feedback. It's just giving us feedback. It's just giving us information. And the truest form of what information. And the truest form of what information. And the truest form of what the body is giving us is how the mind is the body is giving us is how the mind is the body is giving us is how the mind is processing. You know, is the mind in processing. You know, is the mind in processing. You know, is the mind in alignment to serving what's most alignment to serving what's most alignment to serving what's most important to you, your highest values? important to you, your highest values? important to you, your highest values? Is it balance and benefits equals Is it balance and benefits equals Is it balance and benefits equals drawbacks or is it imbalanced? drawbacks or is it imbalanced? drawbacks or is it imbalanced? Well, one of our last uh examples is Well, one of our last uh examples is Well, one of our last uh examples is actually probably a story you could actually probably a story you could actually probably a story you could tell. Um, so just really quick as we tell. Um, so just really quick as we tell. Um, so just really quick as we mentioned upper respiratory, sometimes mentioned upper respiratory, sometimes mentioned upper respiratory, sometimes it can actually be like separation it can actually be like separation it can actually be like separation conflict, which is when you know a kid conflict, which is when you know a kid conflict, which is when you know a kid now is going to grandma and grandpa's now is going to grandma and grandpa's now is going to grandma and grandpa's house or a babysitter or daycare. Um, house or a babysitter or daycare. Um, house or a babysitter or daycare. Um, but more more commonly it's the but more more commonly it's the but more more commonly it's the territorial fear. So, just like not territorial fear. So, just like not territorial fear. So, just like not feeling 100% comfortable with a major feeling 100% comfortable with a major feeling 100% comfortable with a major change in routine or uh even a a change change in routine or uh even a a change change in routine or uh even a a change from the perspective of, you know, these from the perspective of, you know, these from the perspective of, you know, these were my toys, now they're not my toys were my toys, now they're not my toys were my toys, now they're not my toys anymore because they're being shared anymore because they're being shared anymore because they're being shared with new siblings or new friends or with new siblings or new friends or with new siblings or new friends or whatnot. whatnot. whatnot. But ear infections, lots of kids dealing But ear infections, lots of kids dealing But ear infections, lots of kids dealing with ear infections. Nick didn't with ear infections. Nick didn't with ear infections. Nick didn't necessarily have ear infections as a necessarily have ear infections as a necessarily have ear infections as a kid, but he actually had a loss of kid, but he actually had a loss of kid, but he actually had a loss of hearing at a for a stent of time. And hearing at a for a stent of time. And hearing at a for a stent of time. And what's kind of interesting about ear what's kind of interesting about ear what's kind of interesting about ear infections, loss of hearing or or infections, loss of hearing or or infections, loss of hearing or or hearing changing, um has a lot of a lot hearing changing, um has a lot of a lot hearing changing, um has a lot of a lot to do with a child not wanting to hear to do with a child not wanting to hear to do with a child not wanting to hear something, not wanting to hear uh something, not wanting to hear uh something, not wanting to hear uh disagreements, not wanting to hear disagreements, not wanting to hear disagreements, not wanting to hear arguments, or even not being able to arguments, or even not being able to arguments, or even not being able to hear, being left out of very important hear, being left out of very important hear, being left out of very important conversations. conversations. conversations. What' you say? What' you say? What' you say? [laughter] That's a dad joke right there if you That's a dad joke right there if you That's a dad joke right there if you didn't catch on. didn't catch on. didn't catch on. Really good one. [snorts] Um yeah, I was deaf for about 6 months Um yeah, I was deaf for about 6 months Um yeah, I was deaf for about 6 months um when I was young. And make a long um when I was young. And make a long um when I was young. And make a long story short because this podcast is story short because this podcast is story short because this podcast is going on for a while. But the going on for a while. But the going on for a while. But the I knew I was conscious of it being I was I knew I was conscious of it being I was I knew I was conscious of it being I was overhearing a conversation with my overhearing a conversation with my overhearing a conversation with my parents. And this is why I like uh parents. And this is why I like uh parents. And this is why I like uh meditation and using some tools of meditation and using some tools of meditation and using some tools of hypnosis because through that process I hypnosis because through that process I hypnosis because through that process I was able to take myself back into that was able to take myself back into that was able to take myself back into that specific moment. And when we're when specific moment. And when we're when specific moment. And when we're when we're in the actual moment, we have we're in the actual moment, we have we're in the actual moment, we have access to all the information. When access to all the information. When access to all the information. When we're not in the moment, we're we can we're not in the moment, we're we can we're not in the moment, we're we can only work with the story of what we know only work with the story of what we know only work with the story of what we know or what we think, which isn't actually or what we think, which isn't actually or what we think, which isn't actually true. It's just the story. So, the true. It's just the story. So, the true. It's just the story. So, the meditation and hypnotic uh tools allowed meditation and hypnotic uh tools allowed meditation and hypnotic uh tools allowed me to get into that. And my parents were me to get into that. And my parents were me to get into that. And my parents were having a financial discussion and I had having a financial discussion and I had having a financial discussion and I had walked downstairs and I heard I stopped. walked downstairs and I heard I stopped. walked downstairs and I heard I stopped. They didn't hear me. Um cuz I heard them They didn't hear me. Um cuz I heard them They didn't hear me. Um cuz I heard them kind of yelling and and I heard them uh kind of yelling and and I heard them uh kind of yelling and and I heard them uh my my my I have to go back and think, but I I have to go back and think, but I I have to go back and think, but I pretty sure it was my father going, pretty sure it was my father going, pretty sure it was my father going, "Well, if we just didn't have a third "Well, if we just didn't have a third "Well, if we just didn't have a third child, we'd be financially okay." And I child, we'd be financially okay." And I child, we'd be financially okay." And I perceived like, "Oh my god, I'm creating perceived like, "Oh my god, I'm creating perceived like, "Oh my god, I'm creating so much stress on this family." and I so much stress on this family." and I so much stress on this family." and I just like slowly walked back up the just like slowly walked back up the just like slowly walked back up the stairs and into [clears throat] my bed stairs and into [clears throat] my bed stairs and into [clears throat] my bed and you know didn't process it well. and you know didn't process it well. and you know didn't process it well. Hence I was deaf for about 6 months. So Hence I was deaf for about 6 months. So Hence I was deaf for about 6 months. So it's pretty amazing because that helped it's pretty amazing because that helped it's pretty amazing because that helped me in a lot of different ways um me in a lot of different ways um me in a lot of different ways um heighten my other senses uh which has heighten my other senses uh which has heighten my other senses uh which has been a a huge gift for me. But it's just been a a huge gift for me. But it's just been a a huge gift for me. But it's just so powerful that when we really take the so powerful that when we really take the so powerful that when we really take the time to process, time to process, time to process, the body's dictated by the mind. And if the body's dictated by the mind. And if the body's dictated by the mind. And if we can really if we really want to heal, we can really if we really want to heal, we can really if we really want to heal, if we really want to live a joyful life, if we really want to live a joyful life, if we really want to live a joyful life, you know, it's like, yeah, we need to you know, it's like, yeah, we need to you know, it's like, yeah, we need to put some work into the body, but the put some work into the body, but the put some work into the body, but the body's 99.9999% body's 99.9999% body's 99.9999% space, space, space, which shows that majority of what we're which shows that majority of what we're which shows that majority of what we're dealing with is the mind. dealing with is the mind. dealing with is the mind. Yeah. And it's at the end of the day, Yeah. And it's at the end of the day, Yeah. And it's at the end of the day, you know, we are all not just children you know, we are all not just children you know, we are all not just children experiencing different conflicts through experiencing different conflicts through experiencing different conflicts through our environment, relationships, and our environment, relationships, and our environment, relationships, and daily routines. And you know, the thing daily routines. And you know, the thing daily routines. And you know, the thing is is that um you know, I know that I is is that um you know, I know that I is is that um you know, I know that I was brought up with like just you know, was brought up with like just you know, was brought up with like just you know, be tough. Life is hard. Just get through be tough. Life is hard. Just get through be tough. Life is hard. Just get through it. Shut your [  ] mouth essentially. it. Shut your [  ] mouth essentially. it. Shut your [  ] mouth essentially. Um, but I think now times are changing Um, but I think now times are changing Um, but I think now times are changing and um, you know, I'm a an elder and um, you know, I'm a an elder and um, you know, I'm a an elder millennial and uh, growing up with millennial and uh, growing up with millennial and uh, growing up with boomer parents and you know, they they boomer parents and you know, they they boomer parents and you know, they they went through a lot of hard [  ] and went through a lot of hard [  ] and went through a lot of hard [  ] and there was there like essentially the way there was there like essentially the way there was there like essentially the way that I look at it is like my parents that I look at it is like my parents that I look at it is like my parents were in survival mode. They weren't were in survival mode. They weren't were in survival mode. They weren't necessarily looking at how to be the necessarily looking at how to be the necessarily looking at how to be the best parents possible or how to better best parents possible or how to better best parents possible or how to better themselves to be better parents. And I themselves to be better parents. And I themselves to be better parents. And I think times are different now. And I think times are different now. And I think times are different now. And I think that we, you know, like I joke think that we, you know, like I joke think that we, you know, like I joke that I've spent, you know, threearters that I've spent, you know, threearters that I've spent, you know, threearters of my life trying to heal all the from of my life trying to heal all the from of my life trying to heal all the from my childhood. And and a lot of people my childhood. And and a lot of people my childhood. And and a lot of people that I talk to that are of similar age that I talk to that are of similar age that I talk to that are of similar age are are saying the same thing. And you are are saying the same thing. And you are are saying the same thing. And you know, and we say it with a know, and we say it with a know, and we say it with a light-heartedness, but there are our light-heartedness, but there are our light-heartedness, but there are our days that it's [  ] hard. And you days that it's [  ] hard. And you days that it's [  ] hard. And you know, if we could be more aware as as know, if we could be more aware as as know, if we could be more aware as as parents now and we can not be perfect, parents now and we can not be perfect, parents now and we can not be perfect, it's not even a realistic expectation, it's not even a realistic expectation, it's not even a realistic expectation, but we can sit down and say, "Okay, my but we can sit down and say, "Okay, my but we can sit down and say, "Okay, my kid just experienced his third ear kid just experienced his third ear kid just experienced his third ear infection. Let me go back to that infection. Let me go back to that infection. Let me go back to that podcast and listen to what they said the podcast and listen to what they said the podcast and listen to what they said the cause is and let me think about what the cause is and let me think about what the cause is and let me think about what the [  ] is going on in this household that [  ] is going on in this household that [ __ ] is going on in this household that might be a catalyst to it. Let me ask my might be a catalyst to it. Let me ask my might be a catalyst to it. Let me ask my kid what might be going on at school. kid what might be going on at school. kid what might be going on at school. Let me ask my kid what they're Let me ask my kid what they're Let me ask my kid what they're struggling with. You know, let me struggling with. You know, let me struggling with. You know, let me observe where they're feeling off or observe where they're feeling off or observe where they're feeling off or awkward or sad or anxious. And if we can awkward or sad or anxious. And if we can awkward or sad or anxious. And if we can do this, you know, we can provide a do this, you know, we can provide a do this, you know, we can provide a level of support that maybe you and I level of support that maybe you and I level of support that maybe you and I and our listeners never experienced as and our listeners never experienced as and our listeners never experienced as kids. And so this is really just about kids. And so this is really just about kids. And so this is really just about you thinking outside of the box and you thinking outside of the box and you thinking outside of the box and being able to have some additional tools being able to have some additional tools being able to have some additional tools of how to navigate life and to help your of how to navigate life and to help your of how to navigate life and to help your kids just to enjoy life more is really kids just to enjoy life more is really kids just to enjoy life more is really what it comes down to and not feel like what it comes down to and not feel like what it comes down to and not feel like life is so difficult at times. life is so difficult at times. life is so difficult at times. So this was a serious more serious So this was a serious more serious So this was a serious more serious podcast. The next one is not going to be podcast. The next one is not going to be podcast. The next one is not going to be serious at all. This is going to be the serious at all. This is going to be the serious at all. This is going to be the improv one that I have no idea what he improv one that I have no idea what he improv one that I have no idea what he wants to talk about. So, tune in. All wants to talk about. So, tune in. All wants to talk about. So, tune in. All right, we'll see you on the next one, right, we'll see you on the next one, right, we'll see you on the next one, guys. [music] [music]