Coaches, Healers & Doctors: The Truth You Aren't Told

everyone's got their own obstacles that everyone's got their own obstacles that everyone's got their own obstacles that they're dealing with their own they're dealing with their own they're dealing with their own challenges their own personal growth on challenges their own personal growth on challenges their own personal growth on their own Journey so stop thinking that their own Journey so stop thinking that their own Journey so stop thinking that someone's coming to save you or someone someone's coming to save you or someone someone's coming to save you or someone is going to care more about you and your is going to care more about you and your is going to care more about you and your outcomes than you should and you should outcomes than you should and you should outcomes than you should and you should also understand that about when you hire also understand that about when you hire also understand that about when you hire a practitioner is that you need to care a practitioner is that you need to care a practitioner is that you need to care more about your outcomes than anyone more about your outcomes than anyone more about your outcomes than anyone else [Music] hello everyone welcome back to another hello everyone welcome back to another hello everyone welcome back to another episode of Integrative you radio you episode of Integrative you radio you episode of Integrative you radio you never know what you're going to get in never know what you're going to get in never know what you're going to get in the beginning of this with with my tone the beginning of this with with my tone the beginning of this with with my tone all right so we are talking about a all right so we are talking about a all right so we are talking about a really interesting topic and I think really interesting topic and I think really interesting topic and I think some of this information is going to some of this information is going to some of this information is going to click and make total sense and some of click and make total sense and some of click and make total sense and some of it is going to be like holy crap I never it is going to be like holy crap I never it is going to be like holy crap I never thought about it that way but you know thought about it that way but you know thought about it that way but you know it definitely makes it definitely makes it definitely makes sense and part of this was stimulated by sense and part of this was stimulated by sense and part of this was stimulated by conversations I was having last week conversations I was having last week conversations I was having last week particularly with the software company particularly with the software company particularly with the software company that we actually use for our virtual that we actually use for our virtual that we actually use for our virtual coner practice and one of the things coner practice and one of the things coner practice and one of the things that I was talking about with their new that I was talking about with their new that I was talking about with their new affiliate director is that a lot of affiliate director is that a lot of affiliate director is that a lot of practitioners don't realize practitioners don't realize practitioners don't realize that a software can make or break your that a software can make or break your that a software can make or break your practice and the software really curates practice and the software really curates practice and the software really curates the experience for the patient for the the experience for the patient for the the experience for the patient for the member we call them members because we member we call them members because we member we call them members because we consider all of our people an extension consider all of our people an extension consider all of our people an extension of family and you call your family a of family and you call your family a of family and you call your family a family member we don't like the word family member we don't like the word family member we don't like the word patient also because patient there is a patient also because patient there is a patient also because patient there is a certain identity of sickness around certain identity of sickness around certain identity of sickness around being a patient and if you identify with being a patient and if you identify with being a patient and if you identify with sickness you will always be sick so sickness you will always be sick so sickness you will always be sick so total derail you know because that's my total derail you know because that's my total derail you know because that's my jam and as I was talking to her I I jam and as I was talking to her I I jam and as I was talking to her I I started thinking about the key things started thinking about the key things started thinking about the key things that play a role in health outcomes and that play a role in health outcomes and that play a role in health outcomes and also personal development outcomes you also personal development outcomes you also personal development outcomes you know a lot of us are seeking out how to know a lot of us are seeking out how to know a lot of us are seeking out how to better ourselves in certain ways and and better ourselves in certain ways and and better ourselves in certain ways and and some of it is because we're experiencing some of it is because we're experiencing some of it is because we're experiencing pain we're experiencing symptoms we're pain we're experiencing symptoms we're pain we're experiencing symptoms we're experiencing life not being what we want experiencing life not being what we want experiencing life not being what we want it to be and so we might be seeking out it to be and so we might be seeking out it to be and so we might be seeking out Psychotherapy we might be seeking out a Psychotherapy we might be seeking out a Psychotherapy we might be seeking out a life coach we might be seeking out a life coach we might be seeking out a life coach we might be seeking out a business coach we might be seeking out a business coach we might be seeking out a business coach we might be seeking out a doctor and this is all to just resolve doctor and this is all to just resolve doctor and this is all to just resolve the symptoms that we have and move our the symptoms that we have and move our the symptoms that we have and move our our life in the direction that we want our life in the direction that we want our life in the direction that we want to go and as I was thinking about this I to go and as I was thinking about this I to go and as I was thinking about this I started thinking about a specific book started thinking about a specific book started thinking about a specific book that I've read by Dr David Hawkins which that I've read by Dr David Hawkins which that I've read by Dr David Hawkins which he talks about the levels of he talks about the levels of he talks about the levels of consciousness and I'm just going to make consciousness and I'm just going to make consciousness and I'm just going to make this really really simple for those of this really really simple for those of this really really simple for those of you that don't know much about this but you that don't know much about this but you that don't know much about this but there you know I think we all can relate there you know I think we all can relate there you know I think we all can relate to the idea that when we are in a to the idea that when we are in a to the idea that when we are in a certain level of Consciousness or we're certain level of Consciousness or we're certain level of Consciousness or we're experiencing certain emotions we feel experiencing certain emotions we feel experiencing certain emotions we feel good if we're in a place of looking good if we're in a place of looking good if we're in a place of looking around and thinking wow life is good and around and thinking wow life is good and around and thinking wow life is good and there's a lot of good things happening I there's a lot of good things happening I there's a lot of good things happening I have so much gratitude for the people in have so much gratitude for the people in have so much gratitude for the people in my life or the new job I just landed or my life or the new job I just landed or my life or the new job I just landed or my better health or we're experiencing my better health or we're experiencing my better health or we're experiencing Joy because we're in a new relationship Joy because we're in a new relationship Joy because we're in a new relationship or we have a new best friend and then on or we have a new best friend and then on or we have a new best friend and then on the flip side there are the emotions the flip side there are the emotions the flip side there are the emotions that keep us really disempowered they that keep us really disempowered they that keep us really disempowered they keep us really debilitated and this keep us really debilitated and this keep us really debilitated and this could be fear anger rage grief could be fear anger rage grief could be fear anger rage grief shame and so what David Hawkins did is shame and so what David Hawkins did is shame and so what David Hawkins did is he he created a map literally gave it a he he created a map literally gave it a he he created a map literally gave it a numerical value to say when you are numerical value to say when you are numerical value to say when you are experiencing this emotion or or you are experiencing this emotion or or you are experiencing this emotion or or you are in this level of Consciousness you are in this level of Consciousness you are in this level of Consciousness you are at this number versus this number and so at this number versus this number and so at this number versus this number and so essentially the the dummy version of essentially the the dummy version of essentially the the dummy version of this is 200 is is right in the middle this is 200 is is right in the middle this is 200 is is right in the middle and if you're above 200 you're in higher and if you're above 200 you're in higher and if you're above 200 you're in higher vibration emotions you are experiencing vibration emotions you are experiencing vibration emotions you are experiencing a higher level of Consciousness so this a higher level of Consciousness so this a higher level of Consciousness so this is where joy and happiness and gratitude is where joy and happiness and gratitude is where joy and happiness and gratitude and Enlightenment live and then if and Enlightenment live and then if and Enlightenment live and then if you're below 200 you're living in more you're below 200 you're living in more you're below 200 you're living in more of a state of either fear or grief or of a state of either fear or grief or of a state of either fear or grief or shame or anger rage Etc and what's very shame or anger rage Etc and what's very shame or anger rage Etc and what's very interesting about it is that guilt and interesting about it is that guilt and interesting about it is that guilt and shame are the lowest vibration emotions shame are the lowest vibration emotions shame are the lowest vibration emotions on the entire map and if you think about on the entire map and if you think about on the entire map and if you think about society and even you know aspects of society and even you know aspects of society and even you know aspects of religion sorry to be controversial for religion sorry to be controversial for religion sorry to be controversial for some of you there's a lot of guilt and some of you there's a lot of guilt and some of you there's a lot of guilt and shame there's a lot of guilt and shame shame there's a lot of guilt and shame shame there's a lot of guilt and shame in sexuality there's guilt in shame in sexuality there's guilt in shame in sexuality there's guilt in shame around you know who you marry who you around you know who you marry who you around you know who you marry who you don't the job you get this quote unquote don't the job you get this quote unquote don't the job you get this quote unquote what success should look like there's a what success should look like there's a what success should look like there's a lot of guilt and shaming all around us lot of guilt and shaming all around us lot of guilt and shaming all around us that we are experiencing and observing that we are experiencing and observing that we are experiencing and observing since we were very very little kids but since we were very very little kids but since we were very very little kids but in the work of David Hawkins one of the in the work of David Hawkins one of the in the work of David Hawkins one of the things that he pointed out is that it's things that he pointed out is that it's things that he pointed out is that it's actually been actually been actually been proven through a variety of studies that proven through a variety of studies that proven through a variety of studies that a patient's outcomes is dictated by the a patient's outcomes is dictated by the a patient's outcomes is dictated by the level of consciousness of their doctor level of consciousness of their doctor level of consciousness of their doctor and of course this same exact idea and of course this same exact idea and of course this same exact idea applies to anyone who is service-based applies to anyone who is service-based applies to anyone who is service-based if you are a therapist if you're a if you are a therapist if you're a if you are a therapist if you're a doctor if you're a coach your level of doctor if you're a coach your level of doctor if you're a coach your level of Consciousness as a service provider as a Consciousness as a service provider as a Consciousness as a service provider as a as a coach as a leader as a as a teacher as a coach as a leader as a as a teacher as a coach as a leader as a as a teacher is going to dictate the outcomes of who is going to dictate the outcomes of who is going to dictate the outcomes of who you work with and then obviously if you you work with and then obviously if you you work with and then obviously if you are the receiver if you are the the are the receiver if you are the the are the receiver if you are the the client the member the patient you have client the member the patient you have client the member the patient you have to really think about this because to really think about this because to really think about this because choosing any old person who's in your choosing any old person who's in your choosing any old person who's in your insurance Network choosing any old insurance Network choosing any old insurance Network choosing any old person because it's close to your house person because it's close to your house person because it's close to your house or because it's more convenient or or because it's more convenient or or because it's more convenient or because it's you know it's connected to because it's you know it's connected to because it's you know it's connected to your your corporate office this is not your your corporate office this is not your your corporate office this is not how we should be choosing our service how we should be choosing our service how we should be choosing our service providers we should be vetting these providers we should be vetting these providers we should be vetting these people because essentially they are people because essentially they are people because essentially they are going to be shaping new programs in your going to be shaping new programs in your going to be shaping new programs in your mind they are influencing your belief mind they are influencing your belief mind they are influencing your belief systems they're influencing your systems they're influencing your systems they're influencing your thoughts they're influencing your thoughts they're influencing your thoughts they're influencing your thoughts they're influencing your thoughts they're influencing your thoughts they're influencing your beliefs which is then influencing your beliefs which is then influencing your beliefs which is then influencing your outcomes it's influencing how you look outcomes it's influencing how you look outcomes it's influencing how you look at life it's influencing your at life it's influencing your at life it's influencing your perception and you know I think we need perception and you know I think we need perception and you know I think we need to be very very very careful of who we to be very very very careful of who we to be very very very careful of who we delegate that out to and we also need to delegate that out to and we also need to delegate that out to and we also need to be conscious that this isn't about be conscious that this isn't about be conscious that this isn't about taking anyone's word as the gold taking anyone's word as the gold taking anyone's word as the gold standard it's about thought-provoking or standard it's about thought-provoking or standard it's about thought-provoking or taking it as thought-provoking we should taking it as thought-provoking we should taking it as thought-provoking we should be using what we get gain from either be using what we get gain from either be using what we get gain from either service providers or our external service providers or our external service providers or our external environment in order to allow us to environment in order to allow us to environment in order to allow us to think bigger and so that's really the think bigger and so that's really the think bigger and so that's really the whole point of of coaching or even a whole point of of coaching or even a whole point of of coaching or even a doctor relationship is that I found doctor relationship is that I found doctor relationship is that I found myself doing so much Consulting like myself doing so much Consulting like myself doing so much Consulting like this is what to do and and that's not this is what to do and and that's not this is what to do and and that's not how it works because every single person how it works because every single person how it works because every single person is different every single person needs is different every single person needs is different every single person needs different things every single person different things every single person different things every single person takes information and and breaks it down takes information and and breaks it down takes information and and breaks it down differently and understands it differently and understands it differently and understands it differently so it's really a matter of differently so it's really a matter of differently so it's really a matter of me as a as a service provider as a me as a as a service provider as a me as a as a service provider as a practitioner to ask better questions to practitioner to ask better questions to practitioner to ask better questions to yield more yield more yield more thought-provoking answers for that thought-provoking answers for that thought-provoking answers for that person to get them to think outside of person to get them to think outside of person to get them to think outside of the box and to come up with what is the box and to come up with what is the box and to come up with what is going to be best for them because what I going to be best for them because what I going to be best for them because what I think is best and what I saw be best for think is best and what I saw be best for think is best and what I saw be best for someone else is not necessarily best for someone else is not necessarily best for someone else is not necessarily best for that person and so this is the big that person and so this is the big that person and so this is the big difference between Consulting and difference between Consulting and difference between Consulting and coaching and there are a lot of people coaching and there are a lot of people coaching and there are a lot of people saying that they're coaches but really saying that they're coaches but really saying that they're coaches but really at the end of the day they're at the end of the day they're at the end of the day they're consultants and they are putting consultants and they are putting consultants and they are putting everyone in a box here's the one way to everyone in a box here's the one way to everyone in a box here's the one way to do it and if you do it this way then do it and if you do it this way then do it and if you do it this way then it'll be great but we all know that's it'll be great but we all know that's it'll be great but we all know that's not really how it works there is no not really how it works there is no not really how it works there is no cookie cutter solution for anything cookie cutter solution for anything cookie cutter solution for anything especially health and especially for especially health and especially for especially health and especially for personal growth and especially even your personal growth and especially even your personal growth and especially even your business you know I I found myself business you know I I found myself business you know I I found myself getting into business coaching with two getting into business coaching with two getting into business coaching with two business business business degrees and I realized that I needed to degrees and I realized that I needed to degrees and I realized that I needed to evolve how I wanted to do it because it evolve how I wanted to do it because it evolve how I wanted to do it because it didn't suit being taking this model and didn't suit being taking this model and didn't suit being taking this model and applying it to people didn't didn't make applying it to people didn't didn't make applying it to people didn't didn't make sense in my mind sense in my mind sense in my mind because every single person is so because every single person is so because every single person is so different and it's really about me being different and it's really about me being different and it's really about me being the facilitator to ask better questions the facilitator to ask better questions the facilitator to ask better questions to be able to give them the tools to to be able to give them the tools to to be able to give them the tools to fuse their personal fuse their personal fuse their personal Vision with their business your business Vision with their business your business Vision with their business your business is only a catalyst to serve your is only a catalyst to serve your is only a catalyst to serve your personal life if your identity is personal life if your identity is personal life if your identity is wrapped up in your business you have a wrapped up in your business you have a wrapped up in your business you have a problem which I did a whole podcast on problem which I did a whole podcast on problem which I did a whole podcast on because that was very much my situation because that was very much my situation because that was very much my situation is my business was is my business was is my business was was an extension of my identity if was an extension of my identity if was an extension of my identity if anything at periods of time it was my anything at periods of time it was my anything at periods of time it was my whole identity and so the moral of the whole identity and so the moral of the whole identity and so the moral of the story is that I'm talking about today is story is that I'm talking about today is story is that I'm talking about today is that in my experience in my gosh I'm that in my experience in my gosh I'm that in my experience in my gosh I'm getting old four decades you guys do the getting old four decades you guys do the getting old four decades you guys do the math I have math I have math I have seen many service providers seen many service providers seen many service providers psychologists doctors psychiatrist life psychologists doctors psychiatrist life psychologists doctors psychiatrist life coaches business coaches I've seen them coaches business coaches I've seen them coaches business coaches I've seen them get into their industry because they had get into their industry because they had get into their industry because they had an issue they had an experience they had an issue they had an experience they had an issue they had an experience they had a trauma and it put them on a path to a trauma and it put them on a path to a trauma and it put them on a path to want to help other people with the same want to help other people with the same want to help other people with the same issue which is great very you know very issue which is great very you know very issue which is great very you know very commendable but the thing is is that if commendable but the thing is is that if commendable but the thing is is that if they haven't done the Deep work and they they haven't done the Deep work and they they haven't done the Deep work and they haven't been committed to the ongoing haven't been committed to the ongoing haven't been committed to the ongoing work to really work to really work to really overcome that experience that obstacle overcome that experience that obstacle overcome that experience that obstacle that challenge and they haven't moved that challenge and they haven't moved that challenge and they haven't moved their Consciousness up the latter you're their Consciousness up the latter you're their Consciousness up the latter you're going to have issues with your outcomes going to have issues with your outcomes going to have issues with your outcomes as a person who is looking to them as a as a person who is looking to them as a as a person who is looking to them as a leader a guide a doctor a mentor a coach leader a guide a doctor a mentor a coach leader a guide a doctor a mentor a coach and this is something that a lot of us and this is something that a lot of us and this is something that a lot of us need to take into need to take into need to take into consideration and this goes for also consideration and this goes for also consideration and this goes for also friends you know we I know that at friends you know we I know that at friends you know we I know that at different phases of Our Lives we tend to different phases of Our Lives we tend to different phases of Our Lives we tend to go to certain friends that we know are go to certain friends that we know are go to certain friends that we know are going to support us but are they going to support us but are they going to support us but are they supporting us by agreeing with us are supporting us by agreeing with us are supporting us by agreeing with us are they supporting us by saying yeah you're they supporting us by saying yeah you're they supporting us by saying yeah you're right you you know this was a bad right you you know this was a bad right you you know this was a bad situation this you are a victim to that situation this you are a victim to that situation this you are a victim to that person's actions or should we be person's actions or should we be person's actions or should we be actually seeking advice from the person actually seeking advice from the person actually seeking advice from the person who's going to challenge the way that who's going to challenge the way that who's going to challenge the way that we're perceiving the situation someone we're perceiving the situation someone we're perceiving the situation someone who's going to open our eyes to the who's going to open our eyes to the who's going to open our eyes to the things that we can't see that's where things that we can't see that's where things that we can't see that's where the growth is the growth is not in the growth is the growth is not in the growth is the growth is not in somebody agreeing with you the growth is somebody agreeing with you the growth is somebody agreeing with you the growth is in someone challenging you and a lot of in someone challenging you and a lot of in someone challenging you and a lot of us are very uncomfortable with that us are very uncomfortable with that us are very uncomfortable with that we're very uncomfortable with the idea we're very uncomfortable with the idea we're very uncomfortable with the idea of being challenged we're very of being challenged we're very of being challenged we're very uncomfortable with the idea that we're uncomfortable with the idea that we're uncomfortable with the idea that we're not right but in your mind you're right not right but in your mind you're right not right but in your mind you're right because it's your perception of the because it's your perception of the because it's your perception of the situation that doesn't mean everybody situation that doesn't mean everybody situation that doesn't mean everybody else thinks you're right that doesn't else thinks you're right that doesn't else thinks you're right that doesn't mean the other person involved thinks mean the other person involved thinks mean the other person involved thinks you're right they think they're right you're right they think they're right you're right they think they're right everybody has a different perception and everybody has a different perception and everybody has a different perception and this is some of the beauty of the Dr D this is some of the beauty of the Dr D this is some of the beauty of the Dr D Martini work is that he is just showing Martini work is that he is just showing Martini work is that he is just showing that your reality is shaped by your that your reality is shaped by your that your reality is shaped by your perceptions it's not really what perceptions it's not really what perceptions it's not really what happened to you it's how you perceive it happened to you it's how you perceive it happened to you it's how you perceive it so some people will lose their job and so some people will lose their job and so some people will lose their job and they'll perceive it as this was so bad they'll perceive it as this was so bad they'll perceive it as this was so bad and this was a really bad thing that and this was a really bad thing that and this was a really bad thing that happened to me and this is going to happened to me and this is going to happened to me and this is going to destroy my family and it's going to destroy my family and it's going to destroy my family and it's going to destroy my financial savings it's going destroy my financial savings it's going destroy my financial savings it's going to be such a detriment to my life and to be such a detriment to my life and to be such a detriment to my life and then there's other people that will look then there's other people that will look then there's other people that will look at it as you know that job really didn't at it as you know that job really didn't at it as you know that job really didn't serve me and I don't know if I would serve me and I don't know if I would serve me and I don't know if I would have quit and I think this happened for have quit and I think this happened for have quit and I think this happened for a reason and I know that there's an a reason and I know that there's an a reason and I know that there's an opportunity coming to me I just need to opportunity coming to me I just need to opportunity coming to me I just need to be hyper aware of of what that be hyper aware of of what that be hyper aware of of what that opportunity is and I also it's time for opportunity is and I also it's time for opportunity is and I also it's time for me to do something that I really want to me to do something that I really want to me to do something that I really want to do and so it could be the same situation do and so it could be the same situation do and so it could be the same situation for two different people but they look for two different people but they look for two different people but they look at it completely different you know and at it completely different you know and at it completely different you know and you can call this oh some people look at you can call this oh some people look at you can call this oh some people look at the glass half full glass half empty the glass half full glass half empty the glass half full glass half empty yeah that's fine but if you want to look yeah that's fine but if you want to look yeah that's fine but if you want to look at the glass have to empty all the time at the glass have to empty all the time at the glass have to empty all the time that's that's okay I think that that is that's that's okay I think that that is that's that's okay I think that that is a it could be a positive response to a it could be a positive response to a it could be a positive response to look at the negative because it's a look at the negative because it's a look at the negative because it's a protective mechanism you learn from it protective mechanism you learn from it protective mechanism you learn from it you learn from I don't want to you learn from I don't want to you learn from I don't want to experience this pain again or I want to experience this pain again or I want to experience this pain again or I want to be more hyper aware of people with these be more hyper aware of people with these be more hyper aware of people with these characteristics and behaviors because characteristics and behaviors because characteristics and behaviors because they're out of alignment with who I am they're out of alignment with who I am they're out of alignment with who I am and my core values that's okay but it and my core values that's okay but it and my core values that's okay but it doesn't mean it's one-sided nothing is doesn't mean it's one-sided nothing is doesn't mean it's one-sided nothing is one-sided there's always another side to one-sided there's always another side to one-sided there's always another side to it but it's a matter of can you see it it but it's a matter of can you see it it but it's a matter of can you see it there's no glass half full and glass there's no glass half full and glass there's no glass half full and glass half empty it's [  ] Bolt if the half empty it's [  ] Bolt if the half empty it's [  ] Bolt if the water is water is water is literally halfway up the glass that literally halfway up the glass that literally halfway up the glass that means it's half full and half empty it's means it's half full and half empty it's means it's half full and half empty it's both so stop looking at one side so that both so stop looking at one side so that both so stop looking at one side so that you know because all you're doing is you know because all you're doing is you know because all you're doing is setting yourself back you know if you setting yourself back you know if you setting yourself back you know if you want to sit there and and wallow in the want to sit there and and wallow in the want to sit there and and wallow in the negative great like who's coming to negative great like who's coming to negative great like who's coming to [  ] save you no one's coming to [  ] save you no one's coming to [  ] save you no one's coming to [  ] save you you got to save [  ] save you you got to save [  ] save you you got to save yourself it's just like that is yourself it's just like that is yourself it's just like that is something that is is a very hard [  ] something that is is a very hard [  ] something that is is a very hard [  ] truth for people it's like nobody cares truth for people it's like nobody cares truth for people it's like nobody cares about you more than you should care about you more than you should care about you more than you should care about you no one's coming to save you about you no one's coming to save you about you no one's coming to save you everyone's got their own [  ] going on everyone's got their own [  ] going on everyone's got their own [  ] going on everyone's got their own obstacles that everyone's got their own obstacles that everyone's got their own obstacles that they're dealing with their own they're dealing with their own they're dealing with their own challenges their own personal growth on challenges their own personal growth on challenges their own personal growth on their own Journey so stop thinking that their own Journey so stop thinking that their own Journey so stop thinking that someone's coming to save you or someone someone's coming to save you or someone someone's coming to save you or someone is going to care more about you and your is going to care more about you and your is going to care more about you and your outcomes than you should and you should outcomes than you should and you should outcomes than you should and you should also understand that about when you hire also understand that about when you hire also understand that about when you hire a practitioner is that you need to care a practitioner is that you need to care a practitioner is that you need to care more about your outcomes than anyone more about your outcomes than anyone more about your outcomes than anyone else I realize this as a practitioner else I realize this as a practitioner else I realize this as a practitioner there were a lot of times that I cared there were a lot of times that I cared there were a lot of times that I cared more about someone's outcomes than they more about someone's outcomes than they more about someone's outcomes than they cared about their outcomes because they cared about their outcomes because they cared about their outcomes because they had a reason to be where they were they had a reason to be where they were they had a reason to be where they were they had a reason why they should stay sick had a reason why they should stay sick had a reason why they should stay sick this is not conscious they're not like this is not conscious they're not like this is not conscious they're not like actively like I should stay sick because actively like I should stay sick because actively like I should stay sick because of this but when you start to ask better of this but when you start to ask better of this but when you start to ask better questions you start to realize why questions you start to realize why questions you start to realize why there's a benefit to the drawback quote there's a benefit to the drawback quote there's a benefit to the drawback quote unquote so there were people people that unquote so there were people people that unquote so there were people people that were sick but if they weren't sick were sick but if they weren't sick were sick but if they weren't sick anymore they were going to lose the anymore they were going to lose the anymore they were going to lose the house they live in because they were house they live in because they were house they live in because they were being taken care of by someone they were being taken care of by someone they were being taken care of by someone they were going to lose the money they were going to lose the money they were going to lose the money they were getting because they were getting money getting because they were getting money getting because they were getting money from external sources Gund Mees Etc from external sources Gund Mees Etc from external sources Gund Mees Etc because they were better because you because they were better because you because they were better because you know who's gonna you don't need to be know who's gonna you don't need to be know who's gonna you don't need to be taken care of anymore you're better now taken care of anymore you're better now taken care of anymore you're better now now you can get up you can go live your now you can get up you can go live your now you can get up you can go live your life you can go get a job Etc like they life you can go get a job Etc like they life you can go get a job Etc like they were going to not get love from certain were going to not get love from certain were going to not get love from certain people love and attention that they were people love and attention that they were people love and attention that they were getting because they were sick you know getting because they were sick you know getting because they were sick you know they they had certain people like at they they had certain people like at they they had certain people like at their beck and call so you always have their beck and call so you always have their beck and call so you always have to look at the bigger picture here so to look at the bigger picture here so to look at the bigger picture here so I'm I'm trying my darn this as a I'm I'm trying my darn this as a I'm I'm trying my darn this as a practitioner to help this person get practitioner to help this person get practitioner to help this person get better but there's actually a better but there's actually a better but there's actually a significant motive as to why they significant motive as to why they significant motive as to why they shouldn't get better because they're shouldn't get better because they're shouldn't get better because they're going to lose either people in their going to lose either people in their going to lose either people in their life they're going to lose money in life they're going to lose money in life they're going to lose money in their life they're going to lose a roof their life they're going to lose a roof their life they're going to lose a roof over over their head they're going to over over their head they're going to over over their head they're going to lose certain things and so you as a lose certain things and so you as a lose certain things and so you as a person you have to think about why are person you have to think about why are person you have to think about why are you holding on to certain things that you holding on to certain things that you holding on to certain things that keep coming back in Cycles why is it keep coming back in Cycles why is it keep coming back in Cycles why is it keep coming up is it because you haven't keep coming up is it because you haven't keep coming up is it because you haven't learned the lesson is it because you learned the lesson is it because you learned the lesson is it because you you're delegating your happiness you're you're delegating your happiness you're you're delegating your happiness you're dedicating your personal growth to dedicating your personal growth to dedicating your personal growth to someone else you think someone's going someone else you think someone's going someone else you think someone's going to save you or you realize that there is to save you or you realize that there is to save you or you realize that there is a drawback to that elevated version of a drawback to that elevated version of a drawback to that elevated version of yourself that you are scared you're yourself that you are scared you're yourself that you are scared you're going to lose something someone and so going to lose something someone and so going to lose something someone and so we need to be really really conscious of we need to be really really conscious of we need to be really really conscious of our participation in our own personal our participation in our own personal our participation in our own personal growth Journey but also secondarily to growth Journey but also secondarily to growth Journey but also secondarily to that is you shouldn't be working with that is you shouldn't be working with that is you shouldn't be working with people that aren't committed to doing people that aren't committed to doing people that aren't committed to doing the work themselves it's the idea of the work themselves it's the idea of the work themselves it's the idea of practice what you preach you're working practice what you preach you're working practice what you preach you're working with someone who you know you're working with someone who you know you're working with someone who you know you're working with a a psychologist or a psychiatrist with a a psychologist or a psychiatrist with a a psychologist or a psychiatrist who's actually highly medicated because who's actually highly medicated because who's actually highly medicated because they're extremely unhappy and they they're extremely unhappy and they they're extremely unhappy and they really struggle with depression because really struggle with depression because really struggle with depression because they haven't necessarily found the tools they haven't necessarily found the tools they haven't necessarily found the tools to overcome their trauma how are they to overcome their trauma how are they to overcome their trauma how are they helping you overcome your trauma if you helping you overcome your trauma if you helping you overcome your trauma if you haven't walked the walk you cannot share haven't walked the walk you cannot share haven't walked the walk you cannot share the wisdom this isn't about knowledge the wisdom this isn't about knowledge the wisdom this isn't about knowledge this is about [  ] Wisdom this is this is about [  ] Wisdom this is this is about [  ] Wisdom this is about the experience this is about about the experience this is about about the experience this is about overcoming hard [  ] in order for you to overcoming hard [  ] in order for you to overcoming hard [  ] in order for you to be able to share the wisdom with others be able to share the wisdom with others be able to share the wisdom with others you know you know how many practitioners you know you know how many practitioners you know you know how many practitioners that I have coached I have spoken to at that I have coached I have spoken to at that I have coached I have spoken to at different seminars that I've held that different seminars that I've held that different seminars that I've held that they are they're they're sick they're they are they're they're sick they're they are they're they're sick they're extremely they're sick they're burn out extremely they're sick they're burn out extremely they're sick they're burn out do you know how many business coaches I do you know how many business coaches I do you know how many business coaches I have spoke to and and worked with or have spoke to and and worked with or have spoke to and and worked with or been in the same room with that are been in the same room with that are been in the same room with that are broke but they're money broke but they're money broke but they're money coaches like I I stopped being part of a coaches like I I stopped being part of a coaches like I I stopped being part of a lot of business coaching programs lot of business coaching programs lot of business coaching programs because there was two things that I saw because there was two things that I saw because there was two things that I saw one is people coaching on [  ] that they one is people coaching on [  ] that they one is people coaching on [  ] that they have not achieved AKA I'm a money coach have not achieved AKA I'm a money coach have not achieved AKA I'm a money coach but they're broke and then two was oh but they're broke and then two was oh but they're broke and then two was oh I'm actually crushing it and my business I'm actually crushing it and my business I'm actually crushing it and my business is doing really well financially but I'm is doing really well financially but I'm is doing really well financially but I'm spiritually broke I'm relationship broke spiritually broke I'm relationship broke spiritually broke I'm relationship broke and I'm Health broke so really at the and I'm Health broke so really at the and I'm Health broke so really at the end of the day we should be interviewing end of the day we should be interviewing end of the day we should be interviewing these people that we asking advice from these people that we asking advice from these people that we asking advice from when you look at someone do they have when you look at someone do they have when you look at someone do they have all the buckets full you know do they all the buckets full you know do they all the buckets full you know do they have the buckets full for for what you have the buckets full for for what you have the buckets full for for what you perceive as a good life you know for me perceive as a good life you know for me perceive as a good life you know for me my my primary goal goal is to be able to my my primary goal goal is to be able to my my primary goal goal is to be able to have quality time and quality have quality time and quality have quality time and quality relationship with my family because that relationship with my family because that relationship with my family because that is foundationally extremely important is foundationally extremely important is foundationally extremely important because if I didn't have that what do I because if I didn't have that what do I because if I didn't have that what do I really have and that's for me I want my really have and that's for me I want my really have and that's for me I want my business to serve my family and create business to serve my family and create business to serve my family and create generational wealth and freedom and I generational wealth and freedom and I generational wealth and freedom and I want a business that allows me to do want a business that allows me to do want a business that allows me to do what I love and doesn't make me feel what I love and doesn't make me feel what I love and doesn't make me feel trapped and doesn't make me feel trapped and doesn't make me feel trapped and doesn't make me feel stressed out and overwhelmed because stressed out and overwhelmed because stressed out and overwhelmed because that takes away from my family and I that takes away from my family and I that takes away from my family and I want to also as a human be a very want to also as a human be a very want to also as a human be a very forward out-of-the-box thinker I want to forward out-of-the-box thinker I want to forward out-of-the-box thinker I want to maintain my personal sovereignty so if maintain my personal sovereignty so if maintain my personal sovereignty so if I'm going to seek out someone to help me I'm going to seek out someone to help me I'm going to seek out someone to help me get to the next level of my life or the get to the next level of my life or the get to the next level of my life or the next level of my health or the next next level of my health or the next next level of my health or the next level of my business or the next level level of my business or the next level level of my business or the next level of my my personal you know mental of my my personal you know mental of my my personal you know mental development I'm going to look for development I'm going to look for development I'm going to look for someone who's accomplished those things someone who's accomplished those things someone who's accomplished those things they're farther in the Journey than I am they're farther in the Journey than I am they're farther in the Journey than I am they've accomplished a higher level of they've accomplished a higher level of they've accomplished a higher level of Freedom a higher level of wealth a Freedom a higher level of wealth a Freedom a higher level of wealth a higher level of of family Dynamics where higher level of of family Dynamics where higher level of of family Dynamics where they have more time and more freedom and they have more time and more freedom and they have more time and more freedom and they've created massive generational they've created massive generational they've created massive generational wealth like I want to learn from the wealth like I want to learn from the wealth like I want to learn from the someone who from the person who's someone who from the person who's someone who from the person who's achieved what I haven't achieved yet and achieved what I haven't achieved yet and achieved what I haven't achieved yet and so if you think about this from the so if you think about this from the so if you think about this from the perspective of your doctor alone is your perspective of your doctor alone is your perspective of your doctor alone is your doctor is top tip top health but also is doctor is top tip top health but also is doctor is top tip top health but also is your doctor someone who has other your doctor someone who has other your doctor someone who has other buckets of Life balanced it's not just buckets of Life balanced it's not just buckets of Life balanced it's not just they're healthy but they spiritually they're healthy but they spiritually they're healthy but they spiritually broke relationship broke family broke broke relationship broke family broke broke relationship broke family broke because if those things are important to because if those things are important to because if those things are important to you you know think about it this way you you know think about it this way you you know think about it this way okay you want to get healthy you need to okay you want to get healthy you need to okay you want to get healthy you need to work out mult every single day you need work out mult every single day you need work out mult every single day you need to eat this way which requires you to to eat this way which requires you to to eat this way which requires you to meal prep every single day and then you meal prep every single day and then you meal prep every single day and then you also need to do all these different also need to do all these different also need to do all these different therapies you need to come to my office therapies you need to come to my office therapies you need to come to my office and you need to spend you know x amount and you need to spend you know x amount and you need to spend you know x amount of dollars and x amount of time coming of dollars and x amount of time coming of dollars and x amount of time coming from the doctor that has Health but is from the doctor that has Health but is from the doctor that has Health but is broke in all those other areas so broke in all those other areas so broke in all those other areas so they're not looking at you from the they're not looking at you from the they're not looking at you from the perspective of how does this person perspective of how does this person perspective of how does this person maintain family Dynamics relationship maintain family Dynamics relationship maintain family Dynamics relationship Dynamics social dynamics business Dynamics social dynamics business Dynamics social dynamics business Dynamics it's just go balls to the wall Dynamics it's just go balls to the wall Dynamics it's just go balls to the wall and spend almost 247 focusing on your and spend almost 247 focusing on your and spend almost 247 focusing on your health because that's what you need to health because that's what you need to health because that's what you need to do that's not real life and this is do that's not real life and this is do that's not real life and this is something that I didn't really think something that I didn't really think something that I didn't really think about but a lot of my clients have said about but a lot of my clients have said about but a lot of my clients have said to me they're like you know you just to me they're like you know you just to me they're like you know you just make this so digestible accessible and make this so digestible accessible and make this so digestible accessible and easy to implement I was like well that's easy to implement I was like well that's easy to implement I was like well that's great because that's what I'm trying to great because that's what I'm trying to great because that's what I'm trying to do and I realize it's because at the do and I realize it's because at the do and I realize it's because at the foundation is that I don't want to have foundation is that I don't want to have foundation is that I don't want to have my life be like you know I live and my life be like you know I live and my life be like you know I live and breathe health and I'm constantly breathe health and I'm constantly breathe health and I'm constantly thinking about what I'm eating and thinking about what I'm eating and thinking about what I'm eating and exercising and this and that I want to exercising and this and that I want to exercising and this and that I want to make sure that I am spending quality make sure that I am spending quality make sure that I am spending quality time with my family that I have very time with my family that I have very time with my family that I have very healthy relationships I have a healthy healthy relationships I have a healthy healthy relationships I have a healthy social life that I have a business that social life that I have a business that social life that I have a business that allows me to feel on purpose and also allows me to feel on purpose and also allows me to feel on purpose and also allows me to create freedom for myself allows me to create freedom for myself allows me to create freedom for myself and my family and I also want Health but and my family and I also want Health but and my family and I also want Health but I want Health that is all about balance I want Health that is all about balance I want Health that is all about balance I want to be able to go out to eat and I want to be able to go out to eat and I want to be able to go out to eat and not worry about it and have a glass of not worry about it and have a glass of not worry about it and have a glass of wine here or there I'm not going to ex wine here or there I'm not going to ex wine here or there I'm not going to ex exercise every day that's just not what exercise every day that's just not what exercise every day that's just not what I want to do do I want to get out in I want to do do I want to get out in I want to do do I want to get out in nature do I want to go be in the nature do I want to go be in the nature do I want to go be in the sunshine yes I want to do that but am I sunshine yes I want to do that but am I sunshine yes I want to do that but am I going to work out and lift weights for going to work out and lift weights for going to work out and lift weights for two hours a day hell no not for me and I two hours a day hell no not for me and I two hours a day hell no not for me and I don't expect my clients to do that don't expect my clients to do that don't expect my clients to do that either it's all about the balance of either it's all about the balance of either it's all about the balance of life and so I am going to tend to work life and so I am going to tend to work life and so I am going to tend to work with someone and they're going to get a with someone and they're going to get a with someone and they're going to get a lot out of what I do if they value the lot out of what I do if they value the lot out of what I do if they value the same things they're like I want Health same things they're like I want Health same things they're like I want Health to be a piece of my life but I don't to be a piece of my life but I don't to be a piece of my life but I don't want it to be what my life revolves want it to be what my life revolves want it to be what my life revolves around because I'm trying to gain health around because I'm trying to gain health around because I'm trying to gain health so that it serves the other parts of my so that it serves the other parts of my so that it serves the other parts of my life I have health so that it serves my life I have health so that it serves my life I have health so that it serves my family it serves my freedom it serves my family it serves my freedom it serves my family it serves my freedom it serves my finances it serves my business there's a finances it serves my business there's a finances it serves my business there's a lot of power in that you're going if you lot of power in that you're going if you lot of power in that you're going if you have a vision Beyond The Vision you're have a vision Beyond The Vision you're have a vision Beyond The Vision you're going to achieve your goals so if you going to achieve your goals so if you going to achieve your goals so if you think about that if you say I want think about that if you say I want think about that if you say I want better health because I want less better health because I want less better health because I want less symptoms there's a high probability symptoms there's a high probability symptoms there's a high probability you're not going to achieve that because you're not going to achieve that because you're not going to achieve that because what are you doing with that what are what are you doing with that what are what are you doing with that what are you doing with Better Health what are you doing with Better Health what are you doing with Better Health what are you doing with less symptoms if you're you doing with less symptoms if you're you doing with less symptoms if you're not doing anything with it you're the not doing anything with it you're the not doing anything with it you're the universe isn't giving it to you no one's universe isn't giving it to you no one's universe isn't giving it to you no one's giving it to you what's the vision giving it to you what's the vision giving it to you what's the vision Beyond The Vision this is a question Beyond The Vision this is a question Beyond The Vision this is a question that I asked on our getting acquainted that I asked on our getting acquainted that I asked on our getting acquainted calls is what why do you want better calls is what why do you want better calls is what why do you want better health what are you going to do with it health what are you going to do with it health what are you going to do with it if someone can't answer that question I if someone can't answer that question I if someone can't answer that question I don't work with them because you're not don't work with them because you're not don't work with them because you're not gonna you're not gonna what I want to do gonna you're not gonna what I want to do gonna you're not gonna what I want to do and how I want to serve people is I want and how I want to serve people is I want and how I want to serve people is I want them to use their health as a catalyst them to use their health as a catalyst them to use their health as a catalyst to a better life and if you don't want to a better life and if you don't want to a better life and if you don't want to do that you just want less symptoms to do that you just want less symptoms to do that you just want less symptoms and you want to sit around with less and you want to sit around with less and you want to sit around with less symptoms I'm not interested I don't want symptoms I'm not interested I don't want symptoms I'm not interested I don't want that to sound bad it's just in the phase that to sound bad it's just in the phase that to sound bad it's just in the phase of life that I'm in if I want to be on of life that I'm in if I want to be on of life that I'm in if I want to be on purpose and I want to do the work that purpose and I want to do the work that purpose and I want to do the work that lights me up that is going to allow lights me up that is going to allow lights me up that is going to allow people to get the most out of it because people to get the most out of it because people to get the most out of it because I'm going to be at my my best then it's I'm going to be at my my best then it's I'm going to be at my my best then it's someone who's like I'm having a health someone who's like I'm having a health someone who's like I'm having a health obstacle I want to get through this obstacle I want to get through this obstacle I want to get through this because I want to do X Y and Z I have because I want to do X Y and Z I have because I want to do X Y and Z I have this vision for my life and I want to this vision for my life and I want to this vision for my life and I want to accomplish that vision and health is my accomplish that vision and health is my accomplish that vision and health is my roadblock right now fantastic we are roadblock right now fantastic we are roadblock right now fantastic we are going to be a perfect fit but if you going to be a perfect fit but if you going to be a perfect fit but if you don't know what you want to use better don't know what you want to use better don't know what you want to use better health for then you have you have more health for then you have you have more health for then you have you have more work to do before I would ever be a fit work to do before I would ever be a fit work to do before I would ever be a fit for you and that's just me being for you and that's just me being for you and that's just me being honest so the whole point of this honest so the whole point of this honest so the whole point of this podcast is for you to think about who podcast is for you to think about who podcast is for you to think about who are you hiring to help you who are you are you hiring to help you who are you are you hiring to help you who are you delegating your beliefs and your delegating your beliefs and your delegating your beliefs and your thoughts to are they someone who has thoughts to are they someone who has thoughts to are they someone who has actually achieved the life or the goal actually achieved the life or the goal actually achieved the life or the goal that you are looking to achieve have that you are looking to achieve have that you are looking to achieve have they surpassed you have they achieved a they surpassed you have they achieved a they surpassed you have they achieved a level of Consciousness or a level of level of Consciousness or a level of level of Consciousness or a level of life that you want to achieve and so now life that you want to achieve and so now life that you want to achieve and so now you want to learn from them because you want to learn from them because you want to learn from them because they've already done it they've they've already done it they've they've already done it they've experienced it they've they've overcome experienced it they've they've overcome experienced it they've they've overcome the challenges that you need to overcome the challenges that you need to overcome the challenges that you need to overcome or did you hire someone because they or did you hire someone because they or did you hire someone because they were in network with your insurance and were in network with your insurance and were in network with your insurance and now you think you're not getting results now you think you're not getting results now you think you're not getting results and you think it's just because this and you think it's just because this and you think it's just because this doesn't work I I say it every time I doesn't work I I say it every time I doesn't work I I say it every time I think I should really change my P think I should really change my P think I should really change my P podcast to be the thought-provoking podcast to be the thought-provoking podcast to be the thought-provoking podcast because I'm just going to drop podcast because I'm just going to drop podcast because I'm just going to drop that bomb on you guys and you guys just that bomb on you guys and you guys just that bomb on you guys and you guys just marinate on that thought-provoking all marinate on that thought-provoking all marinate on that thought-provoking all right guys until next time a a a [Music]