Choose Challenges Wisely: Comfort's Hidden Cost | Webinar

[music] [music] [music] What's up everyone? Dr. Nicole and Dr. What's up everyone? Dr. Nicole and Dr. What's up everyone? Dr. Nicole and Dr. Nick here. This time I had my two solos, Nick here. This time I had my two solos, Nick here. This time I had my two solos, you know, as we've been navigating the you know, as we've been navigating the you know, as we've been navigating the chaos of two children and, uh, chaos of two children and, uh, chaos of two children and, uh, [clears throat] you know, all that fun [clears throat] you know, all that fun [clears throat] you know, all that fun stuff. [snorts] stuff. [snorts] stuff. [snorts] So, uh, we are bringing you a short, So, uh, we are bringing you a short, So, uh, we are bringing you a short, sweet, and heated topic. [laughter] sweet, and heated topic. [laughter] sweet, and heated topic. [laughter] Uh this is actually something that I was Uh this is actually something that I was Uh this is actually something that I was sharing with Dr. Nick this morning sharing with Dr. Nick this morning sharing with Dr. Nick this morning around a conversation had and uh the around a conversation had and uh the around a conversation had and uh the theme is choose your challenge theme is choose your challenge theme is choose your challenge wisely wisely wisely wisely [laughter] wisely [laughter] wisely [laughter] and I'll give you the the backstory and I'll give you the the backstory and I'll give you the the backstory which will you know kind of lead into which will you know kind of lead into which will you know kind of lead into just some of the highlights and and just some of the highlights and and just some of the highlights and and words of wisdom that we have for you but words of wisdom that we have for you but words of wisdom that we have for you but working with a family uh one of the kids working with a family uh one of the kids working with a family uh one of the kids is struggling with pretty significant is struggling with pretty significant is struggling with pretty significant health issues. Um you know based on health issues. Um you know based on health issues. Um you know based on conventional medicine, an incurable conventional medicine, an incurable conventional medicine, an incurable condition and you know the conversation condition and you know the conversation condition and you know the conversation was opened up because this this world of was opened up because this this world of was opened up because this this world of integrative medicine is all very very integrative medicine is all very very integrative medicine is all very very very new to this family. Um they have very new to this family. Um they have very new to this family. Um they have not necessarily embarked on doing any not necessarily embarked on doing any not necessarily embarked on doing any type of um you know detox, healthy type of um you know detox, healthy type of um you know detox, healthy eating, etc. which is not our average eating, etc. which is not our average eating, etc. which is not our average clientele. Usually a lot of our clients clientele. Usually a lot of our clients clientele. Usually a lot of our clients have have have dabbled and now they're looking for a dabbled and now they're looking for a dabbled and now they're looking for a more integrative and comprehensive more integrative and comprehensive more integrative and comprehensive approach. Um so but these people were approach. Um so but these people were approach. Um so but these people were aligned in different ways and we said aligned in different ways and we said aligned in different ways and we said okay let's you know let's see what we okay let's you know let's see what we okay let's you know let's see what we can do. Um so we're very well aware that can do. Um so we're very well aware that can do. Um so we're very well aware that a lot of what we're introducing to them a lot of what we're introducing to them a lot of what we're introducing to them is very foreign and very new but they're is very foreign and very new but they're is very foreign and very new but they're still very open-minded. But the natural still very open-minded. But the natural still very open-minded. But the natural question that happens and this is even question that happens and this is even question that happens and this is even for people that are seasoned in the for people that are seasoned in the for people that are seasoned in the world of functional medicine, world of functional medicine, world of functional medicine, integrative medicine and not is, integrative medicine and not is, integrative medicine and not is, you know, how how long am I going to do you know, how how long am I going to do you know, how how long am I going to do this? Like how long will I, you know, do this? Like how long will I, you know, do this? Like how long will I, you know, do these types of protocols or use certain these types of protocols or use certain these types of protocols or use certain detox therapies or supplements and, you detox therapies or supplements and, you detox therapies or supplements and, you know, will I ever get to a place where I know, will I ever get to a place where I know, will I ever get to a place where I don't need any of it? don't need any of it? don't need any of it? And it it sparked kind of a two-part And it it sparked kind of a two-part And it it sparked kind of a two-part conversation, but the first part of the conversation, but the first part of the conversation, but the first part of the conversation was conversation was conversation was in this current moment, like let's just in this current moment, like let's just in this current moment, like let's just talk about the now. Let's talk about the talk about the now. Let's talk about the talk about the now. Let's talk about the present. Is that you need to choose your present. Is that you need to choose your present. Is that you need to choose your challenge challenge challenge because no matter what you choose, because no matter what you choose, because no matter what you choose, there's challenges. I go, you chose the there's challenges. I go, you chose the there's challenges. I go, you chose the challenge that is going to be more challenge that is going to be more challenge that is going to be more likely to yield a better outcome. You likely to yield a better outcome. You likely to yield a better outcome. You chose to do things that are out of your chose to do things that are out of your chose to do things that are out of your knowledge base and comfort zone from knowledge base and comfort zone from knowledge base and comfort zone from administering different types of red administering different types of red administering different types of red light infrared lymphatic detox therapies light infrared lymphatic detox therapies light infrared lymphatic detox therapies with your child to you know making with your child to you know making with your child to you know making smoothies and putting different smoothies and putting different smoothies and putting different supplementation in there to help with supplementation in there to help with supplementation in there to help with recovery. You know, you're doing mindset recovery. You know, you're doing mindset recovery. You know, you're doing mindset work not only as your child but also the work not only as your child but also the work not only as your child but also the parents are doing mindset work. Like parents are doing mindset work. Like parents are doing mindset work. Like this is all a bit of a challenge. It's this is all a bit of a challenge. It's this is all a bit of a challenge. It's all new. It's outside of the comfort all new. It's outside of the comfort all new. It's outside of the comfort zone and and it was also not something zone and and it was also not something zone and and it was also not something that the parents sought out for that the parents sought out for that the parents sought out for themselves. They're doing it for their themselves. They're doing it for their themselves. They're doing it for their child, which is also a bit of a child, which is also a bit of a child, which is also a bit of a different scenario. different scenario. different scenario. And so I said, I understand that this is And so I said, I understand that this is And so I said, I understand that this is all challenging, but the challenge is to all challenging, but the challenge is to all challenging, but the challenge is to yield the outcomes that you desire, yield the outcomes that you desire, yield the outcomes that you desire, which is having a healthy child and a which is having a healthy child and a which is having a healthy child and a healthy family dynamic. I go, so you healthy family dynamic. I go, so you healthy family dynamic. I go, so you could also choose a different challenge, could also choose a different challenge, could also choose a different challenge, which is rely on medication. But the which is rely on medication. But the which is rely on medication. But the challenge that you might not be thinking challenge that you might not be thinking challenge that you might not be thinking about in in that context is if you just about in in that context is if you just about in in that context is if you just want to band-aid the situation through want to band-aid the situation through want to band-aid the situation through the medications, which will never cure. the medications, which will never cure. the medications, which will never cure. They will only manipulate biochemical They will only manipulate biochemical They will only manipulate biochemical levels, levels, levels, you are now creating the opportunity for you are now creating the opportunity for you are now creating the opportunity for a different challenge. bad behavior, a different challenge. bad behavior, a different challenge. bad behavior, inability to focus, other diseases that inability to focus, other diseases that inability to focus, other diseases that manifest because of the foundational manifest because of the foundational manifest because of the foundational issue continuing to cause more problems. issue continuing to cause more problems. issue continuing to cause more problems. You know, angry child, tantrums due to You know, angry child, tantrums due to You know, angry child, tantrums due to neurological inflammation, coming home, neurological inflammation, coming home, neurological inflammation, coming home, disrupting the family dynamic, maybe disrupting the family dynamic, maybe disrupting the family dynamic, maybe getting pulled out of school because he getting pulled out of school because he getting pulled out of school because he can't operate, concentrate, maybe he can't operate, concentrate, maybe he can't operate, concentrate, maybe he needs to go to a special type of school needs to go to a special type of school needs to go to a special type of school where there he has more assistance. like where there he has more assistance. like where there he has more assistance. like choose your challenge because no matter choose your challenge because no matter choose your challenge because no matter what you choose, there's going to be a what you choose, there's going to be a what you choose, there's going to be a challenge. So, you might as well choose challenge. So, you might as well choose challenge. So, you might as well choose the challenge that's going to lead you the challenge that's going to lead you the challenge that's going to lead you down a path of better outcomes. down a path of better outcomes. down a path of better outcomes. Yeah. I think listening to the the one Yeah. I think listening to the the one Yeah. I think listening to the the one major theme, hence the title, is people major theme, hence the title, is people major theme, hence the title, is people try to live a one-sided life and they try to live a one-sided life and they try to live a one-sided life and they want to live a life of only support, want to live a life of only support, want to live a life of only support, which would be the opposite of which would be the opposite of which would be the opposite of challenge. And if you live a support challenge. And if you live a support challenge. And if you live a support poor life, which you know, a wouldn't poor life, which you know, a wouldn't poor life, which you know, a wouldn't really be fun if that's what we had. Um, really be fun if that's what we had. Um, really be fun if that's what we had. Um, but if you think about it, it's like but if you think about it, it's like but if you think about it, it's like there would be no growth. And if there's there would be no growth. And if there's there would be no growth. And if there's no growth, there's decay. So, [music] so if you have too much support, even so if you have too much support, even so if you have too much support, even though like maybe that's a fantasy we've though like maybe that's a fantasy we've though like maybe that's a fantasy we've been sold through social media, through, been sold through social media, through, been sold through social media, through, you know, etc., you know, etc., you know, etc., is that is that is that life is going to be easy and I'm so life is going to be easy and I'm so life is going to be easy and I'm so [  ] tired and so stressed and I'm [  ] tired and so stressed and I'm [  ] tired and so stressed and I'm burned out and I can't don't It's not burned out and I can't don't It's not burned out and I can't don't It's not that I can't I say I can't but then I that I can't I say I can't but then I that I can't I say I can't but then I wake up and I go through it again. So wake up and I go through it again. So wake up and I go through it again. So you can I don't want to do it again like you can I don't want to do it again like you can I don't want to do it again like Groundhog's Day over and over and over Groundhog's Day over and over and over Groundhog's Day over and over and over and it's just like I'm over this and it's just like I'm over this and it's just like I'm over this challenge. challenge. challenge. Well, great. Be over that challenge Well, great. Be over that challenge Well, great. Be over that challenge because that challenge isn't inspiring. because that challenge isn't inspiring. because that challenge isn't inspiring. That challenge is beating you down. That challenge is beating you down. That challenge is beating you down. Yep. Yep. Yep. We live in a world of duality. We're We live in a world of duality. We're We live in a world of duality. We're always going to have support and we're always going to have support and we're always going to have support and we're always going to have challenge. But the always going to have challenge. But the always going to have challenge. But the challenge is perceived greater than the challenge is perceived greater than the challenge is perceived greater than the support when it doesn't serve us. support when it doesn't serve us. support when it doesn't serve us. And that's the wise part of the title. And that's the wise part of the title. And that's the wise part of the title. Choose your challenge wisely. is you Choose your challenge wisely. is you Choose your challenge wisely. is you can't escape challenge. can't escape challenge. can't escape challenge. But and even if it serves you, what's But and even if it serves you, what's But and even if it serves you, what's most important to you, it's connected to most important to you, it's connected to most important to you, it's connected to your top values, it can still be your top values, it can still be your top values, it can still be [clears throat] very challenging. It can [clears throat] very challenging. It can [clears throat] very challenging. It can still be very painful. still be very painful. still be very painful. But as long as that pain and as long as But as long as that pain and as long as But as long as that pain and as long as that challenge is connected to what's that challenge is connected to what's that challenge is connected to what's most important to you, then it's most important to you, then it's most important to you, then it's inspiring. And that takes me, you said inspiring. And that takes me, you said inspiring. And that takes me, you said incurable. incurable. incurable. Incurable. Well, if you break it down, Incurable. Well, if you break it down, Incurable. Well, if you break it down, the cure is within. the cure is within. the cure is within. It's not externally. You're not taking a It's not externally. You're not taking a It's not externally. You're not taking a medicine and you're not doing these medicine and you're not doing these medicine and you're not doing these things. You're not taking I mean, even things. You're not taking I mean, even things. You're not taking I mean, even to get really to the depths of it, it's to get really to the depths of it, it's to get really to the depths of it, it's like supplements, vitamins, herbs, like supplements, vitamins, herbs, like supplements, vitamins, herbs, detox. That's all to support the body, detox. That's all to support the body, detox. That's all to support the body, which is great because, you know, a body which is great because, you know, a body which is great because, you know, a body is a third of what we are, a body, a is a third of what we are, a body, a is a third of what we are, a body, a mind, and a spirit. mind, and a spirit. mind, and a spirit. But those are just tools to serve what But those are just tools to serve what But those are just tools to serve what we truly are a soul. we truly are a soul. we truly are a soul. And we need the challenge and we need And we need the challenge and we need And we need the challenge and we need the support to give us feedback through the support to give us feedback through the support to give us feedback through the body how well it's functioning the body how well it's functioning the body how well it's functioning through the mind how balanced it is through the mind how balanced it is through the mind how balanced it is through the spirit. Are we inspired? Are through the spirit. Are we inspired? Are through the spirit. Are we inspired? Are we like uh feeling gratitude, we like uh feeling gratitude, we like uh feeling gratitude, thankfulness and love for the thankfulness and love for the thankfulness and love for the opportunities through the challenge and opportunities through the challenge and opportunities through the challenge and through the support through the benefits through the support through the benefits through the support through the benefits and through the drawbacks that's given and through the drawbacks that's given and through the drawbacks that's given to us or and this is people get caught to us or and this is people get caught to us or and this is people get caught up to well I'm not motivated anymore. up to well I'm not motivated anymore. up to well I'm not motivated anymore. Well motivated is an external thing Well motivated is an external thing Well motivated is an external thing outside of us as soon as outside of us as soon as outside of us as soon as Yeah. motivated is rooted in I need to I Yeah. motivated is rooted in I need to I Yeah. motivated is rooted in I need to I have to I should. have to I should. have to I should. Yeah. As soon as that pain guess what is Yeah. As soon as that pain guess what is Yeah. As soon as that pain guess what is too big motivation is not strong enough. too big motivation is not strong enough. too big motivation is not strong enough. Yep. which just shows you that the Yep. which just shows you that the Yep. which just shows you that the challenge isn't connected wisely. challenge isn't connected wisely. challenge isn't connected wisely. It's the wrong challenge or It's the wrong challenge or It's the wrong challenge or you haven't connected the dots of how to you haven't connected the dots of how to you haven't connected the dots of how to use this challenge to best serve use this challenge to best serve use this challenge to best serve yourself. Hence your famous quote. It's yourself. Hence your famous quote. It's yourself. Hence your famous quote. It's not what you do, but how you do it is not what you do, but how you do it is not what you do, but how you do it is the most thing most important. the most thing most important. the most thing most important. I want to I want to kind of do I want to I want to I want to kind of do I want to I want to I want to kind of do I want to piggy back off of what you said and then piggy back off of what you said and then piggy back off of what you said and then I also want to give people some really I also want to give people some really I also want to give people some really insightful um things to think about that insightful um things to think about that insightful um things to think about that will help you understand because a lot will help you understand because a lot will help you understand because a lot of times people can listen to this and of times people can listen to this and of times people can listen to this and they're like I don't know what's most they're like I don't know what's most they're like I don't know what's most important to me. I don't know what my important to me. I don't know what my important to me. I don't know what my values are and you know you have to values are and you know you have to values are and you know you have to understand is that if that's your that's understand is that if that's your that's understand is that if that's your that's the situation then one you have not the situation then one you have not the situation then one you have not spent enough time thinking about what spent enough time thinking about what spent enough time thinking about what [  ] matters to you. like you're [  ] matters to you. like you're [  ] matters to you. like you're you're living a life of probably serving you're living a life of probably serving you're living a life of probably serving and pleasing a lot of other people and and pleasing a lot of other people and and pleasing a lot of other people and you're living a life of what you should you're living a life of what you should you're living a life of what you should be and what you should do and what you be and what you should do and what you be and what you should do and what you need to do and what you have to do need to do and what you have to do need to do and what you have to do according to what your parents said, according to what your parents said, according to what your parents said, your professor said, your religion said, your professor said, your religion said, your professor said, your religion said, your society said, your neighbor said, your society said, your neighbor said, your society said, your neighbor said, etc. So, etc. So, etc. So, and and I one more thing because that's and and I one more thing because that's and and I one more thing because that's all true, but we also live in a world all true, but we also live in a world all true, but we also live in a world today where it's just distraction, today where it's just distraction, today where it's just distraction, distraction, distraction. It's like if distraction, distraction. It's like if distraction, distraction. It's like if there's any free moment, you know, now there's any free moment, you know, now there's any free moment, you know, now you're on your phone and you go right to you're on your phone and you go right to you're on your phone and you go right to social media or you're looking at text social media or you're looking at text social media or you're looking at text or you're checking emails or you're like or you're checking emails or you're like or you're checking emails or you're like there's always something realize like there's always something realize like there's always something realize like how this is [  ] us up in such a how this is [  ] us up in such a how this is [  ] us up in such a giant giant capacity and it's like we're giant giant capacity and it's like we're giant giant capacity and it's like we're business owners and we've felt compelled business owners and we've felt compelled business owners and we've felt compelled like you h we have to be on social like you h we have to be on social like you h we have to be on social media, we have to be on every platform, media, we have to be on every platform, media, we have to be on every platform, we have to do this, we have to do that. we have to do this, we have to do that. we have to do this, we have to do that. And it's like you don't have to do [  ] And it's like you don't have to do [  ] And it's like you don't have to do [  ] Um, even if you want to run a business, Um, even if you want to run a business, Um, even if you want to run a business, the most successful businesses are the the most successful businesses are the the most successful businesses are the ones that are built on trust and ones that are built on trust and ones that are built on trust and reputation and it's not built off of reputation and it's not built off of reputation and it's not built off of your social media following. But it's your social media following. But it's your social media following. But it's like we get fed this lie that you have like we get fed this lie that you have like we get fed this lie that you have to be on it, which is in my opinion all to be on it, which is in my opinion all to be on it, which is in my opinion all part of an agenda to keep us super part of an agenda to keep us super part of an agenda to keep us super [  ] distracted. Because if you're [  ] distracted. Because if you're [  ] distracted. Because if you're playing the game of always looking at playing the game of always looking at playing the game of always looking at what's happening around you, what's what's happening around you, what's what's happening around you, what's happening in your industry, what are the happening in your industry, what are the happening in your industry, what are the other families doing, what do they have, other families doing, what do they have, other families doing, what do they have, how do they celebrate their holidays, how do they celebrate their holidays, how do they celebrate their holidays, then you're always you have you're so then you're always you have you're so then you're always you have you're so out of touch with what actually matters out of touch with what actually matters out of touch with what actually matters to you, to your family, to your to you, to your family, to your to you, to your family, to your business, to your mission and purpose in business, to your mission and purpose in business, to your mission and purpose in the world because you're so [  ] the world because you're so [  ] the world because you're so [  ] distracted by what other people are distracted by what other people are distracted by what other people are doing. And it just it doesn't matter. doing. And it just it doesn't matter. doing. And it just it doesn't matter. It's going to keep you so trapped and It's going to keep you so trapped and It's going to keep you so trapped and it's going to keep you out of your it's going to keep you out of your it's going to keep you out of your uniqueness and it's going to keep you so uniqueness and it's going to keep you so uniqueness and it's going to keep you so far away from the the impact you can far away from the the impact you can far away from the the impact you can truly make on your family and on the truly make on your family and on the truly make on your family and on the world. When I played that game of oh world. When I played that game of oh world. When I played that game of oh what's my competition doing market what's my competition doing market what's my competition doing market research I wasn't able to be who I am. I research I wasn't able to be who I am. I research I wasn't able to be who I am. I wasn't able to speak my truth. I wasn't wasn't able to speak my truth. I wasn't wasn't able to speak my truth. I wasn't able to cur wasn't able to curate a able to cur wasn't able to curate a able to cur wasn't able to curate a company according to what I wanted it to company according to what I wanted it to company according to what I wanted it to be which actually is different which be which actually is different which be which actually is different which will then stand out amongst others and will then stand out amongst others and will then stand out amongst others and so it's just the distraction is so so it's just the distraction is so so it's just the distraction is so significant and we're we're putting significant and we're we're putting significant and we're we're putting these phones and these tablets and these these phones and these tablets and these these phones and these tablets and these computers in front of kids at such young computers in front of kids at such young computers in front of kids at such young ages and you know for those of you that ages and you know for those of you that ages and you know for those of you that are in your late 30s 40s and and upward are in your late 30s 40s and and upward are in your late 30s 40s and and upward like you remember the days you Remember like you remember the days you Remember like you remember the days you Remember the days when you know you you if you the days when you know you you if you the days when you know you you if you weren't if you didn't if you had one TV weren't if you didn't if you had one TV weren't if you didn't if you had one TV in the house and it was in the living in the house and it was in the living in the house and it was in the living room and mom and dad were using it. room and mom and dad were using it. room and mom and dad were using it. There was nothing to [  ] do. There There was nothing to [  ] do. There There was nothing to [  ] do. There was no distraction of a video game or a was no distraction of a video game or a was no distraction of a video game or a phone or anything. So you went out, you phone or anything. So you went out, you phone or anything. So you went out, you socialized. You connected with people. socialized. You connected with people. socialized. You connected with people. You created [  ] memories. You created [  ] memories. You created [  ] memories. What kid when they're 50 years old is What kid when they're 50 years old is What kid when they're 50 years old is going to be like, "My best memory is going to be like, "My best memory is going to be like, "My best memory is when I played that video game and I when I played that video game and I when I played that video game and I won." Like that's not like that's not won." Like that's not like that's not won." Like that's not like that's not what they're remembering. They're what they're remembering. They're what they're remembering. They're remembering, you know, their friends and remembering, you know, their friends and remembering, you know, their friends and the wild [  ] that they did and when the wild [  ] that they did and when the wild [  ] that they did and when they got in trouble and they're they got in trouble and they're they got in trouble and they're remembering uh, you know, family events remembering uh, you know, family events remembering uh, you know, family events that were awesome. And it doesn't mean that were awesome. And it doesn't mean that were awesome. And it doesn't mean that you have to take your kids on that you have to take your kids on that you have to take your kids on vacations that are multi thousands of vacations that are multi thousands of vacations that are multi thousands of dollars. Some of the best memories can dollars. Some of the best memories can dollars. Some of the best memories can be sitting around a bonfire laughing be sitting around a bonfire laughing be sitting around a bonfire laughing until you pee your pants. until you pee your pants. until you pee your pants. So, listen to my last podcast that I So, listen to my last podcast that I So, listen to my last podcast that I did. Well, last night, you know, the did. Well, last night, you know, the did. Well, last night, you know, the we don't do it every night, but we tried we don't do it every night, but we tried we don't do it every night, but we tried to go through and everybody says what to go through and everybody says what to go through and everybody says what they're grateful for most part of the they're grateful for most part of the they're grateful for most part of the night. night. night. And, you know, I had in mind what I was And, you know, I had in mind what I was And, you know, I had in mind what I was going to say, but then it changed going to say, but then it changed going to say, but then it changed because out of nowhere, you like because out of nowhere, you like because out of nowhere, you like rung the doorbell of Quinton's belly rung the doorbell of Quinton's belly rung the doorbell of Quinton's belly button and his laugh was so hysterical. button and his laugh was so hysterical. button and his laugh was so hysterical. Like, you can't you cannot experience Like, you can't you cannot experience Like, you can't you cannot experience joy in that moment listening to that joy in that moment listening to that joy in that moment listening to that laugh. And that was like, well, that laugh. And that was like, well, that laugh. And that was like, well, that reset my my uh my answer of the best reset my my uh my answer of the best reset my my uh my answer of the best moment of my day. What am I most moment of my day. What am I most moment of my day. What am I most grateful for? It was laughter. grateful for? It was laughter. grateful for? It was laughter. You say this because I think that this You say this because I think that this You say this because I think that this is going to really circle everything is going to really circle everything is going to really circle everything together. So, for those of you that have together. So, for those of you that have together. So, for those of you that have known us for a long time, we had a very known us for a long time, we had a very known us for a long time, we had a very large brickandmortar business in New large brickandmortar business in New large brickandmortar business in New Jersey, 6,000 square feet. You know, at Jersey, 6,000 square feet. You know, at Jersey, 6,000 square feet. You know, at our peak, we had 25 employees. We had our peak, we had 25 employees. We had our peak, we had 25 employees. We had hundreds of different clients coming hundreds of different clients coming hundreds of different clients coming through our doors. And you know, there's through our doors. And you know, there's through our doors. And you know, there's probably still a lot of you that knew probably still a lot of you that knew probably still a lot of you that knew that version of us that are like, why that version of us that are like, why that version of us that are like, why did they do what they did? Why did they did they do what they did? Why did they did they do what they did? Why did they close the brick and mortar? Why did they close the brick and mortar? Why did they close the brick and mortar? Why did they move to Italy? Why do they have this new move to Italy? Why do they have this new move to Italy? Why do they have this new um, you know, virtual uh, teleaalth, you um, you know, virtual uh, teleaalth, you um, you know, virtual uh, teleaalth, you know, concurge model? Like, and know, concurge model? Like, and know, concurge model? Like, and the catalyst was our son. And the main the catalyst was our son. And the main the catalyst was our son. And the main thing was that I kept thinking about how thing was that I kept thinking about how thing was that I kept thinking about how I didn't want to be the parent that I didn't want to be the parent that I didn't want to be the parent that wasn't present because I was so wasn't present because I was so wasn't present because I was so overwhelmed and distracted by the overwhelmed and distracted by the overwhelmed and distracted by the stressors and the energy demands of the stressors and the energy demands of the stressors and the energy demands of the business because the energy demands of business because the energy demands of business because the energy demands of the business were very big. The energy the business were very big. The energy the business were very big. The energy needed to, you know, be the leader of needed to, you know, be the leader of needed to, you know, be the leader of the company and lead my employees. the the company and lead my employees. the the company and lead my employees. the energy to being the best doctor I could energy to being the best doctor I could energy to being the best doctor I could be to all of my clients. And I gave my be to all of my clients. And I gave my be to all of my clients. And I gave my energy to all of those important things. energy to all of those important things. energy to all of those important things. And then when I started a family, I knew And then when I started a family, I knew And then when I started a family, I knew that I didn't want to not be able to that I didn't want to not be able to that I didn't want to not be able to ding-dong my kids belly button because I ding-dong my kids belly button because I ding-dong my kids belly button because I was so distracted thinking about all the was so distracted thinking about all the was so distracted thinking about all the [  ] that I needed to do. And our [  ] that I needed to do. And our [  ] that I needed to do. And our daughter is awake, so she's going to daughter is awake, so she's going to daughter is awake, so she's going to probably join us. [laughter] probably join us. [laughter] probably join us. [laughter] She's just chilling right now. She's just chilling right now. She's just chilling right now. So, a couple of things that I want you So, a couple of things that I want you So, a couple of things that I want you you guys to really think about is life you guys to really think about is life you guys to really think about is life is not easy, but life is also not hard. is not easy, but life is also not hard. is not easy, but life is also not hard. It doesn't have to be hard. Because It doesn't have to be hard. Because It doesn't have to be hard. Because exactly what we were talking about, and exactly what we were talking about, and exactly what we were talking about, and I think Dr. Nick and I said it in two I think Dr. Nick and I said it in two I think Dr. Nick and I said it in two different ways is that if you're different ways is that if you're different ways is that if you're embarking on hard, but it's for your embarking on hard, but it's for your embarking on hard, but it's for your ideal outcome of what you want your life ideal outcome of what you want your life ideal outcome of what you want your life to look like, then you have the energy to look like, then you have the energy to look like, then you have the energy and the inspiration to keep [  ] and the inspiration to keep [  ] and the inspiration to keep [  ] going. going. going. It's it's worth it. And that sounds It's it's worth it. And that sounds It's it's worth it. And that sounds simple, but like just think about the simple, but like just think about the simple, but like just think about the word worth. Either something has a [  ] word worth. Either something has a [  ] word worth. Either something has a [  ] ton of value to or it doesn't. ton of value to or it doesn't. ton of value to or it doesn't. So if that obstacle, if that challenge, So if that obstacle, if that challenge, So if that obstacle, if that challenge, it has extreme worth, it's your gold, it has extreme worth, it's your gold, it has extreme worth, it's your gold, well guess what? well guess what? well guess what? You're not going to stop because it's You're not going to stop because it's You're not going to stop because it's worth it. worth it. worth it. Yep. Yep. Yep. If if you're going to just sit and If if you're going to just sit and If if you're going to just sit and complain and nag and have a million complain and nag and have a million complain and nag and have a million excuses, well, the challenge actually excuses, well, the challenge actually excuses, well, the challenge actually doesn't have the amount of worth doesn't have the amount of worth doesn't have the amount of worth connected to it. And the fun thing is is connected to it. And the fun thing is is connected to it. And the fun thing is is that on the human behavior side, you can that on the human behavior side, you can that on the human behavior side, you can change the mind's perception to increase change the mind's perception to increase change the mind's perception to increase your relationship with worth with your relationship with worth with your relationship with worth with something's value. something's value. something's value. And or you can decide that's not worth And or you can decide that's not worth And or you can decide that's not worth it and create a new challenge and it and create a new challenge and it and create a new challenge and connect because the pain's going to be connect because the pain's going to be connect because the pain's going to be pain doesn't leave us and connect the pain doesn't leave us and connect the pain doesn't leave us and connect the challenge connect the pain to something challenge connect the pain to something challenge connect the pain to something that actually is worth it. So it's just that actually is worth it. So it's just that actually is worth it. So it's just constantly taking life as a feedback constantly taking life as a feedback constantly taking life as a feedback mechanism. mechanism. mechanism. Yes. Yes. Yes. And re-evaluating it. But that's the not And re-evaluating it. But that's the not And re-evaluating it. But that's the not to cut you off one more time, but but to cut you off one more time, but but to cut you off one more time, but but that's when we have those pauses in life that's when we have those pauses in life that's when we have those pauses in life and the space that's and the space that's and the space that's in history when we have time to reflect. in history when we have time to reflect. in history when we have time to reflect. We have time to think. We have time to think. We have time to think. There's there's no reflection time. There's there's no reflection time. There's there's no reflection time. There's no thinking time anymore. And There's no thinking time anymore. And There's no thinking time anymore. And for most people, it's only when they for most people, it's only when they for most people, it's only when they when they meditate. And meditation's so when they meditate. And meditation's so when they meditate. And meditation's so hard because the brain's not ever hard because the brain's not ever hard because the brain's not ever trained to self-reflect because you're trained to self-reflect because you're trained to self-reflect because you're constantly checking social media and constantly checking social media and constantly checking social media and everything else. everything else. everything else. Yes. And I think that the the biggest Yes. And I think that the the biggest Yes. And I think that the the biggest thing that I've I've learned over my 40 thing that I've I've learned over my 40 thing that I've I've learned over my 40 years is challenge. Life is a series of years is challenge. Life is a series of years is challenge. Life is a series of challenges to learn from and to grow challenges to learn from and to grow challenges to learn from and to grow from. from. from. And exactly what you just said is if you And exactly what you just said is if you And exactly what you just said is if you look at it from the perspective of all look at it from the perspective of all look at it from the perspective of all these things are happening to me. My these things are happening to me. My these things are happening to me. My life is very unfortunate. I have a life is very unfortunate. I have a life is very unfortunate. I have a series of bad luck. It's a it's a series of bad luck. It's a it's a series of bad luck. It's a it's a [  ] lie. That's not that's not [  ] lie. That's not that's not [  ] lie. That's not that's not what's happening. It's a feedback what's happening. It's a feedback what's happening. It's a feedback mechanism to tell you where you need to mechanism to tell you where you need to mechanism to tell you where you need to reroute, where you need to redirect, reroute, where you need to redirect, reroute, where you need to redirect, where you need to realign. And so where you need to realign. And so where you need to realign. And so reacting to your challenges is just reacting to your challenges is just reacting to your challenges is just making the problem so much [  ] making the problem so much [  ] making the problem so much [  ] bigger. and so much [  ] worse. If bigger. and so much [  ] worse. If bigger. and so much [ __ ] worse. If you look at whatever it is as this is you look at whatever it is as this is you look at whatever it is as this is just a simple redirection, this pain just a simple redirection, this pain just a simple redirection, this pain that I'm experiencing is redirecting me that I'm experiencing is redirecting me that I'm experiencing is redirecting me to a different path and you have enough to a different path and you have enough to a different path and you have enough time to really think it through, that's time to really think it through, that's time to really think it through, that's where the magic is going to happen. And where the magic is going to happen. And where the magic is going to happen. And if you want a simple tool is if you if you want a simple tool is if you if you want a simple tool is if you think about the things that you you do think about the things that you you do think about the things that you you do or embark on that give you energy even or embark on that give you energy even or embark on that give you energy even in your most tired moments that and you in your most tired moments that and you in your most tired moments that and you can maybe these are hobbies that you can maybe these are hobbies that you can maybe these are hobbies that you have. Maybe these are creative things have. Maybe these are creative things have. Maybe these are creative things that you have. Maybe you have a that you have. Maybe you have a that you have. Maybe you have a Pinterest board where you go and you Pinterest board where you go and you Pinterest board where you go and you design, you know, your perfect new house design, you know, your perfect new house design, you know, your perfect new house or your perfect new living room or, you or your perfect new living room or, you or your perfect new living room or, you know, these are are little like side know, these are are little like side know, these are are little like side projects that you do, projects that you do, projects that you do, things that you would do for free, aka things that you would do for free, aka things that you would do for free, aka no one would ever have to pay you for no one would ever have to pay you for no one would ever have to pay you for because you just love it. You love it so because you just love it. You love it so because you just love it. You love it so much. And you have to think about those much. And you have to think about those much. And you have to think about those things. Those are the things that are things. Those are the things that are things. Those are the things that are that are are rooted in inspiration for that are are rooted in inspiration for that are are rooted in inspiration for you. And those are the things that are you. And those are the things that are you. And those are the things that are going to lead you down a path of going to lead you down a path of going to lead you down a path of starting to curate the life that you starting to curate the life that you starting to curate the life that you really really love because you're you're really really love because you're you're really really love because you're you're more in an energy of I'm doing things more in an energy of I'm doing things more in an energy of I'm doing things out of inspiration opposed to doing all out of inspiration opposed to doing all out of inspiration opposed to doing all the things that I need to, should, have the things that I need to, should, have the things that I need to, should, have to, which is all rooted in dis to, which is all rooted in dis to, which is all rooted in dis desperation. So really start to think desperation. So really start to think desperation. So really start to think about those things. And listen, you're about those things. And listen, you're about those things. And listen, you're not going to think about it for 24 hours not going to think about it for 24 hours not going to think about it for 24 hours and then you're going to be like, "Oh my and then you're going to be like, "Oh my and then you're going to be like, "Oh my god, I have my life figured out." We we god, I have my life figured out." We we god, I have my life figured out." We we have this practice that we think about have this practice that we think about have this practice that we think about these things every single day and we've these things every single day and we've these things every single day and we've been doing it for years now and we have been doing it for years now and we have been doing it for years now and we have new insights that help to I don't want new insights that help to I don't want new insights that help to I don't want to say redirect but it helps to shift to say redirect but it helps to shift to say redirect but it helps to shift [snorts] the direction of of where we're [snorts] the direction of of where we're [snorts] the direction of of where we're going. It helps going. It helps going. It helps evolution evolution evolution 100%. And it gives us a little bit more 100%. And it gives us a little bit more 100%. And it gives us a little bit more clarity around what we're working for or clarity around what we're working for or clarity around what we're working for or what we're working towards. And you what we're working towards. And you what we're working towards. And you know, sometimes even our team that we know, sometimes even our team that we know, sometimes even our team that we currently have, they're they know us so currently have, they're they know us so currently have, they're they know us so well now and they know that it's part of well now and they know that it's part of well now and they know that it's part of of the process, but it's like some of the process, but it's like some of the process, but it's like some people are like, "We just want to focus people are like, "We just want to focus people are like, "We just want to focus on one thing and and just go on that." on one thing and and just go on that." on one thing and and just go on that." And I'm like, "But that's not how life And I'm like, "But that's not how life And I'm like, "But that's not how life works. You don't just, you know, right works. You don't just, you know, right works. You don't just, you know, right now say this is my end point and it now say this is my end point and it now say this is my end point and it never shifts again because guess what? never shifts again because guess what? never shifts again because guess what? You shift as a person. the the You shift as a person. the the You shift as a person. the the environment shifts, society shifts, environment shifts, society shifts, environment shifts, society shifts, economy shift, everything shifts. So it economy shift, everything shifts. So it economy shift, everything shifts. So it requires you to also shift and pivot at requires you to also shift and pivot at requires you to also shift and pivot at certain times. So it's it's an an ever certain times. So it's it's an an ever certain times. So it's it's an an ever evolving process. So the biggest evolving process. So the biggest evolving process. So the biggest takeaway is is understand that life is a takeaway is is understand that life is a takeaway is is understand that life is a series of challenges. It's not life is series of challenges. It's not life is series of challenges. It's not life is not meant to just be easy. Life is a not meant to just be easy. Life is a not meant to just be easy. Life is a series of challenges but those series of challenges but those series of challenges but those challenges are there to help you learn, challenges are there to help you learn, challenges are there to help you learn, gain wisdom and grow from it and to gain wisdom and grow from it and to gain wisdom and grow from it and to redirect your life in a life that is le redirect your life in a life that is le redirect your life in a life that is le is more rooted in inspiration instead of is more rooted in inspiration instead of is more rooted in inspiration instead of desperation of all the things you should desperation of all the things you should desperation of all the things you should need to have to. need to have to. need to have to. Amen girl Amen girl Amen girl and I will say that the last podcast and I will say that the last podcast and I will say that the last podcast that I did solo really ties into that I did solo really ties into that I did solo really ties into everything we're talking about. So, if everything we're talking about. So, if everything we're talking about. So, if you really vibe with this one and you you really vibe with this one and you you really vibe with this one and you want a little different perspective or want a little different perspective or want a little different perspective or even more tools, go listen to the even more tools, go listen to the even more tools, go listen to the podcast that we just posted um about why podcast that we just posted um about why podcast that we just posted um about why people actually hit plateaus in their people actually hit plateaus in their people actually hit plateaus in their healing process, even honestly in their healing process, even honestly in their healing process, even honestly in their business process, um and how to overcome business process, um and how to overcome business process, um and how to overcome them. All right, guys. We'll see you on them. All right, guys. We'll see you on them. All right, guys. We'll see you on the next one. the next one. the next one. [music] [music]