The Nice Guy Syndrome: How Self-Betrayal Fuels Neurodegeneration
Episode 266
This episode of Integrative You Radio dives deep into the misunderstood world of neurodegenerative diseases—especially ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis). Dr. Nicole and Dr. Nick unravel the hidden connections between environmental toxins, like cyanide and algae exposure, and the emotional roots of disease, such as self-betrayal and the “Nice Guy Syndrome.” They challenge the conventional view of ALS as just a physical diagnosis, shining a light on how a lack of self-love and unexpressed truth can manifest physically. The Doctors share practical wisdom on breaking free from people-pleasing, the importance of knowing your values, and how real healing starts with radical self-awareness and communication. #ALS #NeurodegenerativeDisease #SelfLove #IntegrativeMedicine #RootCauseHealing #PeoplePleasing #ValuesDriven #FunctionalMedicine #EmotionalHealth #SpeakYourTruth #HolisticHealth #MindBodyConnection #WellnessJourney #DrNicoleRivera #DrNickCarruthers #IntegrativeYou 3 Key Takeaways: ALS and other neurodegenerative diseases may be linked to cyanide exposure—not just from the environment but from internal sources like cyanobacteria (blue-green algae), highlighting the need for deeper diagnostic approaches. Long-term people-pleasing, self-betrayal, and putting yourself last (especially for parents and caregivers) can create profound stress and disconnection from self, which may contribute to disease. True healing begins with radical self-love, clear communication, and living in alignment with your core values—knowing who you are is the foundation for transformation. Quotes: “Every single aspect of disease is literally how far away from love are you? And that will equal the degree of the disease.” – Dr. Nick “If you’re not going to speak up and exercise your truth, or stand for yourself, you’re mentally not speaking up—and that can manifest as a physical disease.” – Dr. Nicole Find Integrative You Radio On: Website Youtube Apple Spotify 2 Doctors Committed to Innovating t
Topics: self, disease, integrative, neurodegenerative, cyanide, betrayal, love, values
Key takeaways from this episode
- ## The Nice Guy Syndrome: How Self-Betrayal Fuels Neurodegeneration
- Neurodegenerative diseases, including ALS, may be connected to internal and external cyanide exposure, necessitating a broader diagnostic approach.
- Chronic self-betrayal and people-pleasing, particularly for those in caregiving roles, can lead to significant stress and disconnection from self, potentially contributing to disease development.
- Authentic healing is rooted in radical self-love, clear communication, and living in alignment with one's fundamental values.
- Neurodegenerative diseases and ALS
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Transcript
**Unknown:** Welcome to Integrative U Radio, hosted by Dr. Nick Carruthers and yours truly, Dr. Nicole Rivera. This is the place where you become limitless.
**Unknown:** We are covering the latest and greatest topics, of course, in a disruptive fashion around integrative medicine, mental health, and human behavior. We are also covering how those topics affect the human and family dynamics. We will be sprinkling in some truth bombs for our healthpreneurs, so they can join us in our mission to evolve healthcare. If you are health curious and growth focused, you are in the right place.
**Unknown:** But buckle up, because this is real, this is raw, and this is disruptive. This is Integrative U Radio. Hello everyone, welcome back to another episode of Integrative U Radio. So Dr.
**Unknown:** Nick and I are doing a really fun collaboration here because he gets to talk about his favorite thing, which is, uh, self-love. But in a really interesting, interesting context today. And this conversation is, uh, stimulated by a couple of clients that we've worked with in the past and essentially some-- As we grew our knowledge base and we started to really, really dive into the depths of the mental, emotional, psychosomatic aspects of disease, uh, there was a light bulb that went off when it came to the condition ALS, uh, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, which is a neurodegenerative disease. So for those of you that are here right now because you're interested in understanding more about neurodegenerative disease, stick around.
**Unknown:** So if you are looking just to understand why does the neurological system, the brain degenerate, this could be MS, this could be ALS, this could be Alzheimer's, dementia, the list goes on, um, the-- you're going to gain a lot of insight about the, the general understanding of neurodegenerative disease. But we're going to be talking a little bit heavily on ALS, just because there's some really interesting things that we've seen that in my opinion, no one is talking about, even doctors that are ca-calling themselves the experts of ALS. So we had a couple of clients in the past that the theme that we saw in their testing w-with the diagnosis, they had the diagnosis of ALS, we saw cyanide toxicity. And when you get into researching cyanide toxicity, you know, this is thought to be a pretty rare exposure, a toxic exposure, and, you know, the main way you would get exposed is if you worked in an environment that was producing, handling, uh, cyanide.
**Unknown:** And so of course, the research junkies that we are, uh, one of the main things that contains cyanide is going to be, uh, gunpowder. Uh, so if you were a cop, if you had a hobby of hunting or, uh, going to shooting ranges, you know, these were questions that we would ask to try to decipher, like where the heck does this come from? And there would be some of the clients that would say, "Oh yeah, well, uh, you know, I was a police officer," or, you know, some situation where they're like, maybe it was that. But then there were others that are like, "I don't freaking know." And at that point, we didn't know either, but it was a matter of, let's get the cyanide out of the body.
**Unknown:** But then there was an interesting twist by a company called Fry Labs. They are a lab, they, they, uh, process different types of testing specifically associated with neurodegenerative disease. And in the study that they did many, many years ago, they found that, uh, there was a s- very specific connection to multiple sclerosis and fungus, fungi being in the cerebral spinal fluid. So literally in-- I don't remember exactly what the, the, um, participants, like the amount of participants, but I know that it was over a thousand.
**Unknown:** And they found the fungi in a hundred percent of the MS patients. When it came to ALS, which was the other part of the study, they found algae in the cerebral spinal fluid as what they presumed to be the cause of the neurodegenerative onset. So interesting enough is if you look at the research of the algae, it's a blue-green algae, also known as cyanobacteria. And as the cyanobacteria gets into the body and it starts to mess with your met-metabolic processes, and there's nitrogen and all these amino acids and these different interactions that happen, is it can actually yield cyanide in the body, in the bloodstream, which could then make its way into the brain.
**Unknown:** So there was a very, very big connection to, yes, in some situations, maybe these clients were exposed to cyanide from an environmental exposure, but most of them that had the cyanide in their system, it was actually coming from the algaeThat they were exposed to that was then creating the byproduct of cyanide. So this was definitely just a huge aha moment, and, and in reality conventional medicine stops there of like, "Oh my God," like, "This is revolutionary." But the thing is, is that in our practice not everyone who had ALS got better, and obviously that's heartbreaking for us as, as practitioners because we wanna do our best to eradicate the root cause. We wanna eradicate the, the algae out of the body. We wanna clear the cyanide.
**Unknown:** We wanna get the liver working better. We wanna get the brain regenerating. We, you know, we, we try our best to do these things. And of course in those situations, the type of doctors that we are, we sat back and said, "Shit," like, "What did we miss?" You know, what did we...
**Unknown:** What more could we have done? And it wasn't a quick answer by any means. It, it wasn't like, "Oh yeah, I figured it out." It, it was honestly kind of years down the line and we had this, this light bulb moment of, um... And it was partly, there was another practitioner who yielded some of this information, and then it, it kind of spiraled from our own research, and it was talking about neurodegeneration, ALS in particular, being associated with a lack of, like, self-love.
**Unknown:** A- and essentially it's the nice guy syndrome. Being nice, putting everyone before yourself, which is being... The message being received by the brain, by the mind, is self-betrayal. And so this is why I was very excited to talk about this because, with Dr.
**Unknown:** Nick, because I think Dr. Nick talks about this a lot and I... Honestly for me it was even really hard to click. And he's just like, "At the end of the day all we're trying to do is love ourselves more." And, you know, one, there's, there's the convoluted idea of, of romantic love, and I think a lot of us don't really know what the fuck does that mean.
**Unknown:** You know, self-love. There's two types of love. Okay. There's, there's the value centered love which is the love when somebody serves what's most important to you, your highest values.
**Unknown:** We perceive that as them showing an act of love. Or when we do something for ourselves that's congruent with our highest values, you know, that's us self-loving through the value centered love. That love is contingent on us perceiving that our highest values are being served. The other type of love is unconditional love.
**Unknown:** That's not contingent. Unconditional love is actually present in every single moment of our lives. Unconditional love is understanding that everything is in a state of balance. And when we perceive everything in a state of balance and we feel that, that's when we feel grateful.
**Unknown:** That's when we feel, you know, have the tears of gratitude. That's when we feel just that pure love that can't be broken. That's unconditional love. And the fun thing about that, I actually just recorded yesterday, um, but there's a scientific process that can get us to experience that unconditional love whenever we want.
**Unknown:** Yeah. Which is pretty amazing. Um- Well, I wanna... I 100% wanna get into that, but what I, I wanna preface with is I wanna preface with, like, what does this look like to not love yourself?
**Unknown:** Because I, I think that this is something that not, not a lot of people understand. And we can only, we can only improve upon things that are in our awareness, and there are not many people that are gonna walk around and be like, "I hate myself." You know? Like, I don't know, maybe, but, you know, some people might say that playfully and say like, "Oh, I hate myself in this moment," or, you know, "I just hate where I'm at in my life." But, you know, they're, they're not necessarily putting two into... Two together how certain ways they show up or don't show up are actually being received by the mind, the body, the brain as, a- as bet- self-betrayal or, or guilt and shame, et cetera.
**Unknown:** And I think the, probably the biggest thing, and I, I wanna hear from you about it too, is this idea of, uh, putting people, people pleasing. You know, there... I understand the analytical reason for people pleasing is we wanna be part of a community. You know, we want to feel like we have that collaboration and comradery.
**Unknown:** So analytically it makes perfect sense why we would wanna people please, but I think at the end of the day if we ever took a step back we'd realize that if you are in a relationship where you need to people please to be liked, it's not a great relationship, number one, and number two is deep down you still feel like shit even though you, quote unquote, "have that community." And then I think the other thing- Yeah ... is the idea of a- and this- Got a long list of questions here, girl. Yeah. But the oth- ...
**Unknown:** the other thing is, is very similar and it, and I think this is a huge, huge topic for, for... I don't wanna say mothers. I, I think the mothers it's a little bit more intense, but parents, it's like putting yourself last. You know how many, how, how many people have come to usAnd they would never invest in their own health, but they will spend so much money on their kids.
**Unknown:** And, you know, a- and at the end of the day, you can spin that however you want. You could just say, "Oh, it's... You know, this is the only amount of money we have," blah, blah, whatever, how you, however you want to justify it. That is being perceived as you're not worth it.
**Unknown:** You're not good enough. It is a, an act against loving yourself enough that you know that you should take care of yourself just as much as your kid. So the point I'm making is that it doesn't look the way we think. Like, this isn't the, the suicidal teenager who says to his friend, "I hate myself," or she says, "I hate myself." This is, this is so many people that are willing to put themselves on the back burner for, for others and even just for success.
**Unknown:** Good luck, Nick. There was like 17 questions mixed with some- Yeah, this is great. I'm so excited right now. This is great.
**Unknown:** So let's start at the very beginning- Okay. ... by letting, you know, rewind 20 minutes ago. Uh, you gave a lot of examples of what it may look like for somebody not to give themselves love.
**Unknown:** You know, I think the question was what does it look like to not give yourself love. Yes. Well, when you think about true optimal health is a state of zero stress. Mm-hmm.
**Unknown:** So there's no stress on the system. And when there's no stress on the system, all there is is love. So what does it look like to not have love? Well, that's when, if you wanna geek out, that's when we actually drop back into the world of duality, and we become split.
**Unknown:** And so what does that split look like? Well, that looks like, you know, holding on to anger and resentment and doing this. You know, every single, um, aspect of disease is literally how far away from love are you, and that will equal the degree of the disease. So how does it look to not have love?
**Unknown:** Well- Oof. That's like a mic drop, dude. Well, that's what it looks like. The, the degree of your sickness is congruent to the degree of lack of love.
**Unknown:** And- And you're saying- If, if- ... lack of love- It's not that that's a bad thing ... not necessarily just for yourself, but just generally. Like, lack of love inward, outward, or bo- like, or one.
**Unknown:** It's, it's actually the exact same. Okay. It's... Yeah.
**Unknown:** The, the lack of love, the lack of love we have outside of us is equal to the degree of lack of love we have inside of us- Inside of us ... and vice versa. Yeah. As above, so below.
**Unknown:** It's the same, same, just expresses itself through different symbols. Uh, so that's my answer to your first question. Second one, people-pleasing, why? Uh, you know, i- initially, honestly, s- looking at it through purely neurologically is that's how we're hardwired.
**Unknown:** Um, y- you know, you stated you wanna have a community and this and that, but we wanna people please so we can be part of the community because how we process is initially through our hindbrain, and our hindbrain wants us to stay alive. You know, we don't... That's not really an issue for us anymore, um- Yeah ... for our quality of living for most of the world, most of the world.
**Unknown:** But we wanted that community because that community is where we did trade, you know? That's, that's where we got things from other people. That's where we got protection. We bartered.
**Unknown:** That's where we had- Yeah ... housing. You know, we didn't all just live by ourselves. So, so if we got kicked out of the community, we lost everything.
**Unknown:** You could die. So, so that's, that's the initial hard programming of our nervous system is to people please. Uh, but then you grow out of that hind brain, the old brain, into our neocortex, where we can start asking better quality questions to have a better quality life. And the next thing is that, you know, we've been programmed, uh, to try to earn love because that's...
**Unknown:** We, we all unconsciously know that that's the best feeling that we've ever experienced in our life is just the feeling of love. It doesn't get any better than that. And we're all trying to recreate that, but nobody has taught us how to recreate it. So we create it by acts of service.
**Unknown:** We create it by being a yes person. "Yes, I'll do this for you. Yes, I'll do this for you. Yes," you know.
**Unknown:** And never creating a scene, thinking that if, you know, even d- doing... I'm laughing. It's not really funny. Um, but working with couples or, you know, individuals with a, a relationship issue, um, it's, "Well, I'm trying to be nice.
**Unknown:** Like, I'm trying to do these things." And it's like, you know, you go to a, a gym and you work out, and you're like, "I'm, I'm gonna be really nice on you, bicep. We're n- actually not gonna do anything to create too much work for you. I don't want you to get too stressed, bicep." Like, the bicep only gets bigger and stronger by ripping the muscle fibers, and then they scar up. You don't get more muscle fibers.
**Unknown:** You rip them apart, and then they scar up, and that's how you get stronger. A fucking relationship is the exact same way. If you never have a fight, if you never have a confrontation, if you don't have a stress response, it's not gonna get stronger. And if something doesn't get stronger- But I think there's a difference between- What's it do?
**Unknown:** It fucking diesLike, we try to live this one-sided world, and that's what's fucking everything up. I, but- That's what's creating the high polarization so that we have these really bad neurodegenerative diseases today. I, I agree. I, I just wanna say this, though, because the, this is not advocating for, um, dead-end fighting or, um, demand relationships as our very good friends Paul and Stacy say, you know, "Do this my way and it'll be better." I- this is about, uh, constructive feedback and communication rhythms that allow you to stay on the same page, but not avoid conflict.
**Unknown:** Because as we've said in the past, conflict avoided is conflict multiplied. I think that people understand these principles when it comes to workplace environments. You know, they, they understand, like, if you're the employee, you want feedback. If you, if you like your job, I should say.
**Unknown:** You want feedback, good or bad, because you wanna know, "Should I get the fuck out of here? Am I doing a good job? Like, should I feel, like, can I go home on the weekend and feel good about myself, or is there somewhere I can improve so I can create a better work environment for myself?" But it's like people don't take the same concept at home of, you know, the communication rhythms, c- staying consistent so everybody's on the same page. There's no mysteries, there's no stories being told in each other's head.
**Unknown:** You, you're communicating on a regular basis with a regular cadence. You're, you're providing feedback. And i- in a work environment, too, you're not, like, yelling at your fucking boss, and you're, hopefully your boss is not yelling at you. You're not, like, bringing a shit ton of emotions to the table.
**Unknown:** Like, you, you have to sit there with a poker face and take your feedback or give your feedback. And, like, in, in family dynamics or, or relationship dynamics, like, what, what is it about that? Like, we just are like, "Ah!" Like, it could have nothing to do with the person. So the point is, is that you're 100 million fucking percent right.
**Unknown:** It's just, but you don't fight for the sake of fighting. You don't, like, come and dump your day on your partner. This- No, it's like, but- This is about the, of not avoiding conflict, because the conflict blows the fuck up later. It doesn't matter how good you think you are at hiding it.
**Unknown:** So two things. One, the goal is always to be proactive. So we have a weekly business meeting, but we also have a weekly personal meeting. And, you know, just from what we talked about, like, two questions in that personal meeting is, what did I acknowledge that you did to show me love?
**Unknown:** You know, that way she can actually be aware of what I perceived was her showing me, me love. And then another question is, you know, what can she work on? The, from my perception. So you, you- Yeah, like where could we do better?
**Unknown:** Like, we- Yeah ... and, and we have to answer those questions for ourselves. Like, it's not about me just ridiculing Nick. Like, I, where can I do better?
**Unknown:** Like, where did I, what am I proud of and what am I not? It, it's just, like, you, the, this isn't, you don't just have a meeting and just fucking wing it. Like, this is one of the reasons why, like, we had all these people opt in. By the way, you guys can access our meeting, but everybody opts in for the free meeting, which we give y- to you with all the questions.
**Unknown:** But then I'll have people tell me, like, "Oh, I did it, and this and that happened." And I'm like, "Literally, you need to get the videos." The videos are, like, 20 bucks. Like, get the videos of how to do it, because it's not about what you do, it's about how you do it. Just 'cause you have a meeting on the schedule doesn't mean it's gonna be productive, because there's a strategic way to go into the meeting and bring a level of vulnerability, transparency, and, and master your communication with your partner. You don't become- And halfway through- You don't suck at it and then you become good next week.
**Unknown:** And halfway through, we leg wrestle. So I mean, there's that. I'm just kidding. We, we should start.
**Unknown:** But some meetings are super- Like, some meetings we come to and they're super powerful and, and, you know, I don't wanna say positive. They're just like, th- th- we walk away, like, we're, we're very, uh, grounded and we walk away feeling really good. And then there's some meetings that there's, like, tears and frustration, but at the end, there's, there's a, there's a, a support. Alignment.
**Unknown:** There's a collaboration. There's a, there's a solution. There's an awareness. And I think, like, sometimes w- especially as women, we think that our husband should know what's going on in our head.
**Unknown:** Like, he should know that I'm upset about this, or he should know that I'm having a rough time at work, or he should know. And then if he doesn't know, you're, like, secretly brewing. And then he doesn't fill the dishwasher properly and you fucking lose your shit. So reeling this back in, why we're having this conversation is that this is doing those steps, but it's also part of just the, the ALS Mr.
**Unknown:** Nice Guy. And this isn't just, um, us coming up with this Mr. Nice Guy, uh, idea. Like, there's been multiple different physicians, people doing research, um, that's literally shown this, uh, statistic.
**Unknown:** But when you think about, like, the Nice Guy Syndrome and the psychosomatic connection to it, like, a nice guy is where, what? Everything's calm. They're, in Italian, I say va bene. Um, it's just everything's okay.
**Unknown:** Everything's okay. And they don't allow themselves to have that expression. And- Which- Usually ... the symptom- There's ...
**Unknown:** is loss of voice It's loss of voice, and it's, it's- Because of the paralysis of the muscles of the tongue and throat. And that's interesting. Um, I've just- ... got something else I'll, I'll throw out there.
**Unknown:** But that's... When you... That affects... I mean, you can break it down all of the things, so my brain was just going to too many different places at once.
**Unknown:** But it's like they ha- they, they have trouble grasping. So it's like they're holding onto something that's not allowing them to express themselves. There's, so there's always a counterbalance there. So, like, they're holding onto something.
**Unknown:** Usually they, there's stiffening of the muscles, specifically starting in the legs, so they have, uh, a shuffling gait. Um, so they're not able to walk forward in life. Where are they not stepping forward? What are they holding onto?
**Unknown:** What are they not seeking up? Not stepping into their truth. And, and then you look at, a lot of times when it gets, um, even further along the line, it can have a issue going up affecting the heart, cardiovascular. That's more neurologic actually.
**Unknown:** I mean, you can look at self-love being, going right to the heart, but it's actually going up, uh, affecting more of the vagus nerve, and the vagus nerve is the main cranial nerve that goes in to innervate the heart, and it has a parasympathetic, uh, effect of calming. Um, and you're like, well, the person is calm. Like, no, they, they look calm, but inside it's just like a bomb that wants to go off. Yeah.
**Unknown:** And that's, that's the degree of the imbalance which reaches the degree of the state of the disease. And it's also the, you know, the two, as you mentioned, the, the innervation of, like, the heart and lungs is the, the mortality risk associated with, uh, ALS, but, you know, leading up to that, and this is how they, they rate it progressing, is the, the loss of, uh, motor control of the tongue which is going to affect speech, can also start to affect eating. And then one of the others is, you know, we've, we had a gentleman that had to have a, uh, machine with him because he had no ability to swallow, and there was no control, proper control over the parotid glands, so he would pr- overproduce saliva, and he couldn't swallow it. And so he obviously had a feeding tube.
**Unknown:** He couldn't swallow, um, foods anymore. And so, you know, when you get into the psychosomatics of that, and I, and I'm, I'm keeping this really, really simple for you guys. It's, you know, if you're not going to speak up and exercise your truth or exercise your voice or stand for yourself and stand for your truth, you know, you're, you're mentally not speaking up, and that can manifest as a physical manifestation. If you can't swallow, digest, assimilate your reality, it's gonna manifest physically.
**Unknown:** I do- I know this could be, like, totally crazy for people to think, like, holy shit, is that real? Can that really happen? And the answer is yes. And there's, you know, a quote, unquote, "a right way and a wrong way to do things." It's not about, and we've seen a lot of this since COVID, um, it's not a speaking up that you're right and somebody else is wrong.
**Unknown:** Correct. It's, it's, it's speaking up out of self-love as this is- Humble confidence ... this is who I, this is just who I am. Um, you're not pushing anything on anybody else.
**Unknown:** It's not, it's not, it's not a fight. Um, and I think that's, that's the problem that people think is that, you know, well, what if I disagree, or what if I do these things like I'm fighting? Like, that's not fighting. That's just disagreeing.
**Unknown:** Like, we're, we all have different set of values. We're, we're... Half the world is going to agree, and half the world is not. You know?
**Unknown:** That's why there's always something to gossip about because there's, there's always that other half-truth. Um, so it's not attaching to thinking about speaking up or doing any kind of fight, uh, that's connected with it. Um, that's why there's leg wrestling. But there- ...
**Unknown:** there's the way to, to do it to express, um, that connection with your highest values, what's most important to you. Well, and that's actually one of the things I think it could be really good action item for those of you listening is for those of you that are like, "Wow, this is amazing. This is really inspiring, but holy shit, where do I start?" Uh, your values i- is key because exactly what Nick was just saying is this is not about speaking up in, in an aggressive way, becoming the loudest person in the room, you know, saying, "You should do this. You should do that." This is about what I call humble confidence.
**Unknown:** So being able to speak confidently but in a very compassionate and humble way. So you're not throwing your ego around or throwing around what you think is the right way to live. You just have this humility about you. You know who you are at your core, and you know where to say yes, where to say no in your life.
**Unknown:** You know who you wanna spend more time with, who you don't wanna spend more time with, and it's because you know your values. You know who you are at your, with your, your character, um, from a deep perspective. And so this is one of the reasons why we start with values, uh, discovery in our integrative medicine program. You know, some people don't always understand why is this important, and it's because you need to know who you are as the foundation for the human behavior, mental, emotional work that we're gonna do later.Because now if you know who you are, you already have a level of awareness of where to say yes in your life, where to say no, where to spend more of your time, where to spend less of your time.
**Unknown:** You have a level of awareness of where are you people pleasing, where are you guilt and shaming yourself based off of what other people told you is the right way to live or the right way to be. So this is really, really significant, and if you can get to know this about yourself, there is a level of freedom that it creates that most people have not experienced in their lives and potentially will never experience in their lives. Did I make you emotional? No.
**Unknown:** Oh, you looked a little emotional. I'm always a little emotional. I was like, "Did I get a tear? Come on." So we, we covered a lot of ground here, and I wanna give you guys just, like, a breakdown of, of action items.
**Unknown:** So one, ALS is a complicated condition. Neurodegenerative disease is a complicated condition. And listen, I understand that if we're talking Alzheimer's, dementia, a lot of times these are older individuals. These are older individuals that are very set in their ways.
**Unknown:** So you might be listening as an advocate right now. It's your mom, it's your dad, and you're like, "I want... I want them to try all of this." Uh, y- you have to understand, if they wanted to, they would. And, and usually that's not necessarily limited based off of their mental capacity at this point.
**Unknown:** It's just if people wanted to work on themselves and they wanted to try something different, they would. So please do not, um, get attached to other people's outcomes. It's their journey, not yours. So I, I wanna say that.
**Unknown:** Number two is if you are someone that you feel like there is turmoil, turbulence when it comes to love with yourself and also potentially in your family dynamic or with your partner, the communication rhythms that we were talking about, we literally have this as a free downloadable option. We will put the link in the show notes. Get access to it. You really should get the video so you know how to do it.
**Unknown:** It's not about what you do, it's how you do it. For those of you really resonating with this last piece of, "I don't know what I like. I don't know who I am. I don't know...
**Unknown:** I don't know. I don't know how to start this process," you need to start at the foundation, which is your values, and we have a course on that as well. So please, again, go to the show notes. The links will be there.
**Unknown:** You will have easy access to all of this. For those of you that are just like, "I don't know where to start and I need your help," we got you, because this is what we curate for the people that we work with. And you know, some people are the self-starters. They wanna do things at their own pace.
**Unknown:** You know, they wanna take the bull by the horns. And then some people are like, "Listen, I, I, I just... I wanna have... I wanna have the strategy.
**Unknown:** I wanna do this in the quickest, most efficient way, and I want your help along, along the way." That's what we're here for. So we really hope that you enjoyed this. I hope it shed some light on this condition, uh, and I hope that it gave you hope that this isn't just bad luck, bad genes. It's not...
**Unknown:** If y- if it's in your family, it doesn't mean that this is gonna happen to you. You are in the driver's seat of your outcomes, but it's not necessarily just about the physicality of these types of diseases. It's also about the mental and emotional layers that play into it. All right, guys.
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