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You'd Never Let Them Talk to You Like That.

The Self-Talk Boundary Guide: five steps to hold the same line with your inner voice that you'd hold with anyone else. Print it, keep it by your bed, fill it in with a pen.

1. 01

   Catch the sentence

   For one day, write down every sentence you say to yourself that you would never let a friend, partner or coworker say to you. Don't fix anything yet. Just collect them.

   The line I heard most today was: ________

2. 02

   Name who it sounds like

   Most harsh self-talk is borrowed: a parent, a coach, a boss, an old version of you who needed to survive. Naming the voice separates it from you.

   This sounds like: ________

3. 03

   Hold the boundary

   Sometimes you want to punch someone for how they speak to you. That anger is information: a boundary was crossed. Say the same thing inward you'd say outward: "No. You don't get to talk to me like that."

   My boundary sentence: ________

4. 04

   Assume the new state

   Neville Goddard taught that you move into the story you keep telling. Replace the old line with the sentence of someone it's already true for, in the present tense, and feel it as done.

   Today I am someone who: ________

5. 05

   Repeat until it's automatic

   The nervous system learns by repetition, not insight. Say the new sentence at three anchors: waking, the 3pm dip, and lying down at night. For 21 days.

   My three anchors: ________

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